DiscussionHow did you discover you were homo/bisexual?

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[–]midnight305 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

After being raped and subconsciously forced to date men because of my family values I discovered I was a lesbian because i never liked male parts.

It's also kept me from getting a partner because so far the only lesbians I've meet online has been gold stars and they dony want a tainted woman sadly.

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 13 insightful - 3 fun13 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

You aren't tainted, do not think like that. Nothing can "taint" woman body. It is very misogynic stereotype about women, and in our lands women were killed or outcasted for "being tainted". If their husband dies - they were outcasted, if they were rape victim or had a lover - they were executed as "tainted" (and there was tradition to cut their hair very short after execution was canceled). So it is wrong to think like that about yourself, because you aren't. And if someone saying about your body being wrong - just say to them to f*ck off.

I hated my body too many years for all the scars, for my red-hair, for my poor health condition. And now I love myself, because it is my body and it is who I am. If someone don't like - it is their problems, not mine.

[–]midnight305 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Thank you . It means a lot to me. It's hard not to think that way growing up hearing it after being raped and then hearing it from women just made it worse.

It means a lot to me to hear you and others say I'm not tainted it gives me hope.

[–]VioletRemiCat, homosexual one 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It is all mostly came from hymen myths and men trying to control women sexuality - so they can have sex with anyone, and then can chose when and what woman can have sex and with whom exactly. So all this "tainted" lie is all about not letting women, and you among us, to live happy life and do with your body whatever you like. So be free, my girl, ignore those who want to control your life, and live happy life like you want it to be!

And before realizing I am lesbian, I was married for 3 years and hard tried to like a man and to enjoy sex with them, but nothing was working. I never had problems with that with lesbians later, and when someone is asking "I will only be in relationship with golden star" - this girl is a douche and not deserving attention anyways.

[–]midnight305 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks that means a lot to me