I can only speak for myself, but I tend to think that in the past, women didn’t care about sharing some spaces with TW. I still don’t personally care about bathrooms being shared with TW, though I understand that some women do care and I feel like it’s better to support females in this issue than TW, simply because my being okay with something doesn’t mean that I should support making other females feel uncomfortable and unsafe in female spaces, if that makes sense.

I think the issue is that it feels like if we compromise on anything, if we extend any kindness, be it pronouns or sharing spaces, then more is demanded of us from TW (obligatory not all). So for me, it’s a combination of not wanting to dismiss concerns of other females and fearing that if I submit to even simple, easy requests, more is going to be taken. We used pronouns and shared bathrooms, and now girls and women can’t even participate in female sports without having to compete against males- so they lose out on winning and on scholarships even, and we get vilified for using accurate language to describe our bodies and ourselves. We get told by males what it means to be female and a woman, like- the rhetoric that is going around today is a huge part of why I personally have issues. If TW could just be TW and respect the differences between us and respect boundaries, I would have no issue

All this to say, I don’t think it’s that we don’t understand, it’s that we can’t afford to let our understanding of your plight matter more than our rights.