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submitted by HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex from (self.GCdebatesQT)

It’s been a week already!

What’s happening with you cats?

I’m telling god awful jokes to the tradies replacing my linoleum floors and attempting to sort through three rooms of sewing stuff.

Doing some renovations got me wondering, what’s your dream house? Modern? Haunted? Huge? Almost hidden by giant gardens? Stark white cube?

Mines enormous, smothered in heavy silk wallpapers and velvet curtains and crammed with fireplaces, bookshelves, and all the collections hubby and I own. So rocks, bones, thimbles, fine China, taxiderms, live cats, and quilts. Crowded grandma maximalism. Also there’s definitely ghosts, there’s definitely old servants hallways and stairs in the walls and hopefully a balcony.

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[–]grixitperson 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

My dream house is smaller than it used to be. When i was in high school, i imagined a place with room for lots and lots of books. And in fact, i have 22 full bookcases crammed into my living room. Those are my father's. He's been gone 20 years, but my siblings don't want any. I will probably give most of them away, after i read them. Same with the 6 bookcases that are mine. My dream house will still have a big kitchen, a tree shaded patio, a cat accessable enclosed yard, and a garden, but the library will be just 4 bookcases and a file server.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah the problem with lots is space is cleaning it. Not a fan of dusting!

Oooh a big old kitchen would be amazing. Six burner gas stove is something g I’d probably die for haha.

I inherited heaps of my grandparents books and giving them away was hard but it’s nice to think someone will enjoy them as much as they did. Same thing for your dads books. Someone out there will get something out of line he did.

[–]grixitperson 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Well one thought i've had is to try to make creative trades. I have a lot of writing projects i want to do, mostly related to gaming. If i can get an audio or video show going, i could reach out to my audience. Like say: I have a 3 volume history of the Plantagenet dynasty here. I'll give them to whoever can think up a good title for a character whose abilities are all about bodily feats like a legendary yogi. Or: Here are 5 paperback mysteries. I'll trade them for a drawing of my detective character peering into a parking garage where a fugitive assassin might be hiding.

As for the kitchen, mine is normal sized for a California housing tract. But i could extend it into the family room if i could clear it out. And by clear it out, i mean move everything that's currently in the family room into the living room-- once i get rid of some of the books.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh that’s a really fun idea! Would totally stitch pics and trade for books, bet heaps of people would dig it!

[–]Greensquidsphone 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

I used to think I wanted a big library, my parents turned a lot of the house space we had into book space, and I loved it, but now that I'm here? It just feels like hoarding... I ended up donating a lot of the books I had lying around without sentimental value, and there are still way too many of them. Maybe like 1 in 20 I'll go back to some day, but that means 19 more are just collecting dust and doing nothing. Idk, there's too much new stuff to read to try and relive the old stuff, and all the new stuff i can get on my phone or tablet so it's not cluttering anything.

[–]worried19 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

My dream house is a cabin in the woods. I want to build it myself. A log cabin. Not too big. 3 bedrooms would be good if my partner and I have some kids. I'm not much of a decorator, but I guess a rustic interior would be nice. Big fireplace, bookshelves, a comfortable main living area. I'd also like a good amount of land around it. I'd like to experiment with off grid life. Grow vegetables, maybe have some livestock like a dairy cow and chickens. And a dog or two. Ideal location would be rural, but not too remote. Within an hour or two of a city or town.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

The mental picture of this is so gorgeous! How satisfying to build a home for yourself and family too!

Can’t recommend growing your own food enough! We’re insanely lucky to be on some land with the inlaws and nothing is better harvesting dinner each afternoon. Smells good, tastes good, looks good, keeps bees happy, and the unused veg goes straight to either animals or compost to grow more stuff.

Dairy cows are such sweet girls ime. I prefer milk goats but that’s only cause I used to milk a herd of 300 odd sweet girls and never want to touch a cow udder again. Ever milked a cow before? It’s so cool but can be tricky to do by hand. Worth it. They’re very friendly when they know you, not much maintenance beyond milking and disinfecting the udder afterwards.

Chooks running around is great. Fewer crickets and grubs around, lawn is chock full of shit and green as can be, and they thoroughly enjoy a good pat and a sit on your lap. Hope you get to give it a go!

[–]worried19 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Nope, never milked a cow. I haven't been around farm animals much. But I like the idea of keeping my own dairy cow and chickens for ethical reasons. Maybe goats, too. I'd like to give them a humane life. I'm not a vegan or even a vegetarian, but I know factory farming is horrible for the animals involved.

I think it would be great to have a small hobby type farm. Would be even better maybe to turn it into a small business. Woodworking, carpentry, selling vegetables, milk, eggs, stuff like that. Or just living off the land away from society is appealing, too. I'm worried for kids in our current climate. It would be hard for me to feel okay about raising them in a city or even a small town, especially if any of them are GNC.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That sounds like the ideal life 👍🏻 I’m only entertaining the idea of kids cause we could raise them on the farm. If we were in a city I’d never even consider it tbh.

Can’t recommend goats or chooks enough. They socialise and bond well, fairly low maintenance, and in return you get eggs, milk or wool, a mown lawn, bugs kept in check, and some wee friends.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

An ex of mine ended up building his own cabin in the woods, and while I love my city life, it charmed the socks off of me to actually want to live there. There's something really special about a home like that, and to have built your own and grow and raise your food like that would seem like you'd always be surrounded by things created and inspired from your very own heart. That's a really beautiful dream to have!

[–]worried19 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Your ex's cabin sounds great. It's definitely my dream for the future. My favorite place on earth is my family's vacation cabin at the lake. I'd love to live someplace like permanently, except even more rustic and rural.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

My dream house is a 2 bedroom apartment within walking distance of anything I need. And with a nice bathtub.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Massive claw foot tub! I’ll soak til I’m soup!!

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It’s just so nice to have a soak after a workout. The one complaint I have about my current place is that it only has a shower.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'm in a bit of a weird slump right now; this week has been marked by dental work and getting back on my feet. Thank god for humor though, I'm sure your jokes are appreciated, Houseplant!

Is anyone's house close to matching their dream vision of it? I adore my little apartment with its hardwood floors and art deco design, including a giant wall-sized window overlooking the street, but I would love living in a little Santa Fe/Taos adobe with maybe two levels with a roof-top balcony. A cozy ambiance with one of those built-in chimineas in the living room, minimalist southwest style, and eclectic décor with a story, artwork from friends, family and other artists galore. Only a couple bedrooms, and perhaps a small studio attached. A safe, warm, cozy, loving place to curl up under a bajillion fluffy blankets with a cup of tea, only lamplight to make the rooms look like they're on fire in the most comforting way.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That sounds magical. I’m way too into blankets lol. Got four on the couch, dogs have three of their own, our bed and guest bed have throw blankets on them, and there’s more being pieced together in the sewing room 😂

I live with my inlaws and it’s surprisingly perfect tbh. Idk how we could be any luckier to have land. Gonna take such care of his folks once they get old, idk how else to thank them.

How good to be able to camp out under more stars than you ever seen before on the rooftop of your own house! Santa Fe sounds like a good place for it but that’s cause I know literally nothing about the place. I imagine somewhat desert?

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I mean, can there really be too many blankets? You're truly living the dream there 😁 That's incredibly sweet of you to thank your in-laws by taking care of them--they took care of you, you take care of them! I love that!

Oh yes, snuggled up with a cowboy on the roof watching shooting stars and eating s'mores is basically how I want to die. Santa Fe is in the high desert country in New Mexico not far from where I live, I just love the warmth and lizards and how sunny it is, plus there is so much artwork there, it's just the best place ever.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Hopefully this is using the "Everything Else" topic correctly, but I was curious and you wonderful people would be great to ask: the GC & trans collaborative group I'm part of are thinking to create shareable media, someone on Ovarit had mentioned that as a good starting point to spreading awareness of our cause and we're trying to run with that. What forms of media do the people here prefer most, like between videos, podcasts and written material? We're planning to make a little bit of everything, but I was just curious to know what you all like!

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Podcast and articles!

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Fantastic, thank you so much!!

[–]anxietyaccount8 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

My off-topic question: some GCs on Twitter are supporting Jordan Peterson, and are apparently fans of evolutionary psychology. I don't understand, why would "trans women have female brains" not be perfectly in line with these views?

Maybe they just joined the GC side because of the locker room and female sports issues?

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Can’t say, never listened to the dude. I think it’s likely that they have become gc leaning without having an understanding of much else of what gc is about.

[–]MarkTwainiac 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Then again, it could be because some of us have been "GC" for many decades and we've always read & listened to people with a wide variety of ideas, and have no problem being friends with or fans or people whose views diverge from our own. I haven't read/heard everything Peterson has produced, and I don't follow the dramas about his personal life, but I've read/heard/viewed a fair amount - and I don't see him as an anathema. Even if Peterson says things I disagree with, I'd still support his right to say them.

Some of the sharpest people I've met, read and heard in my life have had views very different to my own. But by engaging with them, my own thinking has become sharper. And I've made many good friends. Sorta like Ruth Bader Ginsburg and her close pal Antonin Scalia.

[–]HouseplantWomen who disagree with QT are a different sex[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You raise some excellent points as usual Twain!