Riot Police Unsure If Their Tear Gas Worked Since Libs Were Already Crying by sproketboy in funny

[–]MelanieMicrowave 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm mindblown about how you don't care that your facist government cares more about optics and crowd-control than the well-being of it's people.

Riot Police Unsure If Their Tear Gas Worked Since Libs Were Already Crying by sproketboy in funny

[–]MelanieMicrowave 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Which makes America's willingness to supply tear gas over hand soap EVEN MORE EGREGIOUS.

Riot Police Unsure If Their Tear Gas Worked Since Libs Were Already Crying by sproketboy in funny

[–]MelanieMicrowave 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

"Local government in America prioritizes supply chains for tear gas over hand soap for public schools" is not the headline you should be going for bootlicker.

Riot Police Unsure If Their Tear Gas Worked Since Libs Were Already Crying by sproketboy in funny

[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

You don't have any friends :(

Riot Police Unsure If Their Tear Gas Worked Since Libs Were Already Crying by sproketboy in funny

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Sis, it's just you and me. Nobody else replied to your stupid post.

It's cool though. America's fall from grace has been hilarious to the rest of the world.

Riot Police Unsure If Their Tear Gas Worked Since Libs Were Already Crying by sproketboy in funny

[–]MelanieMicrowave 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I love the fact that the American government can afford to keep police stocked with teargas (the use of which is a literal war crime) but can't afford to keep public schools stocked with soap during a pandemic. I think it really shows where American's put their priorities.

If this is "sex positivity," I weep. by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

TLDR: Article 1 is a tiny, unverifiable sample of perverts talking about rape, not BDSM.

Article 2 is circular reasoning: BDSM is violence against women because it reinforces the patriarchy. BDSM reinforces the patriarchy because it is violence against woman. At no point in the article does the author justify the claim that BDSM is harmful to women, and outside of random anecdotes of rapists fails to present evidence that is broadly applicable to the BDSM community.

https://antipornfeminists.wordpress.com/2014/01/22/bdsm-is-abuse-and-rape-culture-the-sixth-siren-joined-fetlife-to-get-proof/

6 random preverts on the internet (without screenshots or links, so we can't check the authencticity of the quotes) doesn't really represent the BDSM community, or even a small fraction. This is the equivilent of saying "all lesbians are abusive" because of the small number of wife beating lesbians in the lesbian community.

https://liberationcollective.wordpress.com/2013/01/27/bdsm-is-violence-against-women/

There's a lot wrong with what she posted. Lets go over a few examples:

BDSM is the legitimization of domestic violence against women

This implies that women and men are unable to set boundaries, and that BDSM in inherently based on male sexual dominant/female sexual submissive, while the actual power dynamic can take many forms, including those seperate from sex entirely.

but Lock was cleared of all abuse charges once he claimed the assault had been “consensual”.

This isn't a problem with BDSM, but a problem where the legal system fails to prosecute male sexual offenders.

BDSM occurs in the context of patriarchal rape culture, where women always “deserve” the rape, violence, abuse and death that men dish out to them, and women who object to this treatment are called names, and dismissed out-of-hand.

Something "occuring in the context of something" is not causality. Literally all sex occurs in the context of "rape culture". Bathing occurs in the context of rape culture.

We are also told that we are “slut shaming” when we object to BDSM, even though we know that no woman is a slut, and no woman is to blame for the ways that men abuse her.

This implies that BDSM is abuse, a fact that has not been established.

We are told that we are “not respecting the agency” of women who “choose” to engage in BDSM when recognize that playing a submissive role in sexual situations is likely born out of Societal Stockholm Syndrome.

No evidence is given for this claim.

A good example of one such man is Snowdrop Explodes who was invited as a “BDSM expert” to talk about BDSM and abuse on the site Womanist Musings. It was revealed that this so-called “expert” had in the past blogged without apology about his plan to rape and murder a woman in his local park. These are the types of men we are “kink shaming”.

Again, individual perverts do no represent the BDSM community, and one can rape women in the park without condoning consensual BDSM.

Women who suffer abuse from BDSM are often blamed for having not “said the safe word” when they express discomfort about the abuse they received, which is clearly a case of blaming the victim.

No evidence of this claim is given.

Radical feminist are infuriated by this normalization of male abuse of women. (Just this morning I saw a copy of 50 Shades of Gray for 30% off at the local grocery store ferchrissakes)

50 shades isn't BDSM, it's abuse.

What about the submissive men in BDSM? They consent to violent beatings and humiliation too, so how can you say BDSM is strictly violence against women?” Firstly I’ll point out the fairly obvious: violence, humiliation, and abuse against any person is dehumanizing and wrong.

Again, this assumes that BDSM is automatically violence or abuse, neither of which has been established.

Leaving this point aside, however, I’ll note that the majority of BDSM occurs in a male-dominant/female submissive context.

There are a LARGE number of male subs, and you can't brusg away this. This is the equivilent of saying "I'm going to ignore all the evidence that disrupts my argument", because the existence f male subs (and the relatively large number of them) suggests that the dynamic is more complex than "man dominates woman.

In preparation for her documentary The Price of Pleasure, Chung Sun studied 50 of the 275 most popular pornographic films as noted by best-selling and most-rented list reported by Adult Video News. In the films, men being spanked constituted less than 3% of the total spankings that occurred onscreen.

This is an argument against porn, rather than an argument against BDSM

Obviously, the small number of male submissives will never be able to “even out” the harms inflicted against women in BDSM. It is never okay for women to be abused by men.

Again, this implies that BDSM is inherently harmful, which she has yet to establish.

In the context of life as a man in the dominator class, a small percentage of men may wish to “try on” what they perceive to be a feminized role during sexual interactions. They may find themselves turned on by imagining what it might be like to be sexually terrorized. They may get a boner from temporarily adopting the submissive—aka feminine—role. These submissive roles are often explicitly feminized, and submissive men are often referenced as “sissies”– a word used to humiliate men by implying that they bear some resemblance to their much-despised counterpart: woman.

Hmm...Interesting. So the claim is that BDSM is violence against women, BUT ALSO when women have power in the situation it's still violence because it's BDSM? That's called circular reasoning.

We know that liberated sexuality does not follow the patriarchal model of dominance and submission, and that BDSM is the normalization of domestic violence.

Again, this claims that BDSM is violence, which the author has not been able to justify.

If this is "sex positivity," I weep. by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So why don't you mind YOUR own business about other people's opinions?

Because some people have stupid/bad opinions that are incorrect and harmful and they should be challenged.

If this is "sex positivity," I weep. by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's fair. If I was trying to defend a position with no rational arguments like you, I would also try to shut down the argument rather than engage in discussion.

BDSM is not abuse of women, and to claim it is is claiming women are unable to make decisions about their own consensual sexual choices. Policing women's sexuality because of percieved incompetence is literally the opposite of feminisim, but go off sis.

''Sorry, gender critical content is too offensive'' Meanwhile Reddit: by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Ironically, if you post porn featuring TIMs to these you also get banned.

Also, all porn is rape porn.

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Radical feminists do not support BDSM

Again, you're incorrect. There are plenty of rad-fems who support BDSM. BDSM is not inherently violence against women, and most of the arguments against BDSM involve women being too stupid to tell the difference between kink and abuse and lacking agency in determining their feelings about different sexual practices.

Creepy male cousin steeling teen's menstrual pads - but get those pronouns right before you dare raise it by Chunkeeguy in GenderCritical

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There can be discharge from his axe-wound.

If this is "sex positivity," I weep. by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Well, one reason could be that women are taught to be submissive by patriarchal norms, so they eroticize that.

I don't think it's specific to "patriarchal norms", as much as it is the existance of power dynamics anywhere in society. If you completely eliminated the patriarchy, there would still be class, race, and power divides present, and you would still see kink/BDSM.

I think a better question would be: Does BDSM/kink reinforece/promote patriarchy? Engaging in Kink/BDSM forces participants to be open about their sexual desires, set limits for what is an is not okay, and explore power boundaries and dynamics. I feel that saying Kink/BSDM is inherently violent toward women and/or promotes the reinforcement of patriarchy is the same as saying "women are too stuipd to explore their own sexual desires without hurting themselves and must be protected".

If this is "sex positivity," I weep. by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Anti-Kink isn't a universally agreed upon aspect of radical feminisim, and again, you are assuming that kink = abuse because women are too stupid to know the difference.

If this is "sex positivity," I weep. by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

[–]MelanieMicrowave 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Because I think trans women are men. Also, I'm allowed to agree with some aspects of rad-feminism and not others.

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Violence against women is violence against women

Kink isn't violence against women.

Women who celebrate men degrading them and performing acts of sexualized violence on their bodies are no friends of feminism.

Believe it or not, I'm not a dumb helpless bimbo. I can tell the difference between kinky sex and abuse, and I'm perfectly able to emerge from a BDSM scene without trauma. Don't tell me how I should feel about sex.

If this is "sex positivity," I weep. by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

[–]MelanieMicrowave 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think most women (not girls, adult women) have enough self awareness and emotional intelligence to decide which consensual sexual activities to engage or not engage in.

Making the argument that "BDSM is violence against women" makes the assumption that women are stupid frail bimbos who can't take care of themselves and need to be protected from spanking and a little spit. Believe it or not, we're not a bunch of dumb bimbos who can't make decisions without getting raped. Women are absolutely capable of navigating BDSM without trauma, and to assume otherwise is infantalization.

If this is "sex positivity," I weep. by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical

[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm human, and I'll reserve whatever judgements I damn well feel like having for risky actions that I don't have a drop of respect for.

Awesome, but that's not feminisim.

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

How often do people crave sex that's that.. adventurous without being exposed to it in some kind of media?

Why is it wrong to crave adventerous sex after being exposed to it in the media? You're making a lot of assumptions here, and I don't know about you, but one of the most important parts of feminisim is listening to women about their own experiences. It is not your job to judge this woman for decisions she made, or to tell her how she SHOULD feel about it or what her experience really was. It's her experience to engage in and process. She didn't do anything illegal, she didn't hurt anyone, and she says that she was glad to have the experience. Anything beyond that is enforcing your personal viewpoint into her experiences and how she processed what happened.

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Why would a woman seek to "push her boundaries" in a sexual situation?

New things are fun. It's like moving on to rollercoasters once you can handle the ferris wheel or the tilt-a-whirl. Novelty isn't inherently bad.

Why would she use porn terminology like "gangbang" when referring to having sex with multiple male partners instead of a foursome?

Because a "gangbang" specifically involves the "bangee" as the submissive partner with the "bangers" as the dominant partners.

Does it benefit her as a woman as part of a class of women to pretend like her sexuality is not influenced by her experiences and the world around her?

Does it matter? Is exploring those feelings inherently wrong?

Can we gain any insight into the way she may view herself and her relationship with her sex when her fantasies include being "shoved to the ground"?

Can you? Do you have access to this woman's internal monolog? Or are you making assumptions about her behavior based on what you THINK she is consiously or unconsiously feeling and experiences she may or may not have had?

Recognizing social influences, norms, expectations, and class-based power structures (especially relating to male dominance and the patriarchy) is essential in radical feminism.

Oh, you can absolutely "recognize" social influences. But what, specifically, makes this woman's sexual experience "wrong" or "bad"?

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hypersexuality is a well documented response to abuse, especially molestation.

People can also just....enjoy sex? Pre-planning a gangbang scene doesn't exactly scream "hypersexuality", and while (what you percieve as) hypersexuality may result from abuse or trauma, it can also just be how this woman is wired.

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've seen the behaviors of women that turn towards hypersexuality for a feeling of self worth or validation after traumatic events in childhood

Is this the case? Or are you just imaging this is what happened because it supports your viewpoint of how the world should work vs how the world actually works?

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

She did not give consent, at the moment where it would have been required.

How are you certain she revoked consent? She is familiar with a gangbang, and she understands what it entails. She wasn't gaged and nobody was ignoring the safe word. This was a rational adult woman who was trying a new sexual experience. Believe it or not, adult women are able to make decisions for themselves.

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You believe girls are born wanting to be dominated and abused

Nope, try again.

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

appropriate vs dangerous/inappropriate sexual activity

She consented and planned to have a gangbang scene. How are you deciding what sexual behavior is appropriate?

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Most men will not want to partner with a woman whose sexual fulfillment is had through gang bangs

Determining acceptable vs unacceptable behavior based on patriarchal standards of value is LITERALLY the opposite of feminism.

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Policing other women's sexuality is super feminist.

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Did you know it's possible to consent to a sexual activity, such as a gangbang scene, before actually engaging in the act, which is why she negoitated with the organizer and participants about how it would happen and planned the scene?

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thats the logical equivilent of "trans women are women because FEELINGS".

Posie Parker Debate on Transwomen being women's restroom (Annoying) by Kai_Decadence in GenderCritical

[–]MelanieMicrowave 18 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

The difference between black women and TIMs is that black women are women, while TIMs are men who are trying to trick or force people into having sex with their penises and/or mutilated bodies. Black women exist because of minor variations in melanin production, while TIMs exist because they fetishize the female body.

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This describes rape

Rape involves the absence of consent and/or agency. A person who plans and organizes their own gangbang isn't being raped unill they revoke consent to the aformentioned gangbang.

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Maybe the reality is that "slut shaming" a woman for seeking her own sexual pleasure is a gross thing to do and you should mind your own business?

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[–]MelanieMicrowave 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Personally, I consider any sex outside of a legally binding marriage for the explicit, consesual purpose of reproduction to be, at least to some degree, an act of sexual violence against women.

Gay men on sexual liberation counters women's sexual liberation. by throwitaway in GenderCritical

[–]MelanieMicrowave 10 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

When it comes to misogyny, Gay men are just straight men who feel they don't need to pretend to respect women to manipulate them into haveing sex. The misogyny you see from gay men is what straight men think, but don't say because they want sex.

Also, the actual number of TIMs harassing women is irrelevant. a SINGLE instance of TIM on woman harassment is infinitely too many, and TIMs should be excluded from female spaces regardless of the statistics TRAs manipulate.

What will life be like for young girls once the OnlyFans craze is over? by rudeboy96 in GenderCritical

[–]MelanieMicrowave 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

But at the same time, folks like doctors, nurses, social workers, mental healthcare providers, and others are exposed to deadly diseases and pathogens from their patients and risk violence, especially from their homeless and mentally ill patients. There are steps they can take to protect themselves, and regulations that govern workplace safety, but fundementally all careers come with some level of risk.

that to me makes prostitution more distasteful as a career than ringing up a cash register.

If you're a cashier selling produced produced with sweatshop labor or slave labor, is there really any dignity in that when you are complicit and profiting off of human exploitation?

Woman "Doesn't Exist"; is a "Fake, Made Up Gender Concept," Says Transgender Social Media Personality | Women Are Human by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]MelanieMicrowave 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Probably for access to their functional non-mutilated sexual organs.