Kink from a mans perspective

submitted by ReignOnYou from (self.RadicalFeminism_ppf)

Just saw this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uhT1eGB0m4g where a guy talks about his relationship with kink and porn and I feel like every woman on earth needs to hear it. Especially the libfems. I think most of us here know that BDSM, kink and porn acceptance is stupid and dangerous for women, but hearing a guy straight up admit his (and most men's) porn-fuelled hatred of women and desire to degrade, abuse and rape them just hit different. It's a difficult listen.

I transcribed a little bit:

"Men hurting women [is mainstream]. People who enjoy beating women are emotionally unstable. People who hurt women for pleasure and fun are not healthy people. The society that creates these people is sick. And these men are most of the men having sex. And if they're not doing it, they want to do it, because they're watching it in porn. The majority of porn has this, the majority of porn has women being spat on, the majority of porn has forceful deepthroat, the majority of porn has anal. It's not empowering, its not liberating, if you are a woman who thinks that the majority of guys watching this stuff are coming out of it with healthy attitudes towards women you're an idiot. If you are a women who thinks that being choked and slapped and spat is good then you are wrong. If you think that the guy who calls you a cunt as he ejaculates respects women once the sex is over then you are mistaken.

When I had abusive sex with women it was not a joke, it was not a game. if you are calling a woman a worthless slut who was less than as you fuck her in the ass with spit on her face then it is a manifestation that doesn't go away once the sex is over. The hatred of women stays there, because it is a hatred that you learn to feel from society and you learn to express through porn and then you put it into practice through women who think that sexual boundaries are oppressive, and that being choked is empowering."

Thought Id share this post I found on FemaleDatingStrategy on reddit.

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I find males sickeningly gross, when they assume that a woman is supposed to have a submissive role, whether sexually or socially, especially without even asking her. They're repulsive. I don't know what else to say about it right now.

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And the part where he said people think feminism is about choice. I thought more about that idea in general (not specific to bdsm):

I think what's toxic about considering feminism to be about choice, is that the narrative has become that it's only about choice and nothing else. Like feminism has become limited to what shade of lipstick you want to wear, and that's expected to be the end of it.

Maybe the idea should be, that we do need choice, but that's only one aspect. We need a lot more than just that. We need safety. And we need the same amount of resources as males have, opportunities and education, rights, and to not be degraded. And other things.