Redditor Gets HPV From Cheating - Debating Whether to Hide it From Spouse or not

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[–]Greykittymomma 8 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 4 fun -  (5 children)

What a dirty whore 😂 hope her husband finds out and kicks her ass to the curb.

[–]Musky 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Didn't think you'd approve, but it's not totally cut and dry.

I (41F) have asked my husband(42) of 22 years to explore open marriage. We are each other’s first and only. I want to explore and experience something/someone new. This might be a mono/ poly thing as my husband is less interested in being with another woman as I am in being with another man. I have already started talking to a guy. I need some sex advice. I have only been with one man and I know what he likes. I don’t want to embarrass myself with this new guy. I would appreciate a guy’s perspective

The SO agreed to an open marriage, but she didn't stop after he revoked his consent.

Originally we ( I am 40F and SO is 42M) agreed to try an open marriage. It was agreed that I would be the only one engaging and playing, as my SO was not interested in anyone else. I met someone(MM43) and hit it off, had sex. It was great. Now SO is telling me it can only be a one time thing. I can't see him anymore, and wants to close up. So now I'm debating do I continue with this guy and cheat or try to convince SO to stay open and find someone too.

She says she's just staying for the kids cause she doesn't love her SO anymore.

Went grocery shopping with SO today. As I looked around the store at all the couples and families I wonder how many of them are in similar situations. I have come to realize I’m not in love with SO, I care about him but don’t love him. I know I really shouldn’t complain. We have a good life. But I’m stuck with him

[–]Greykittymomma 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

One word: Divorce.

Fuck her she OBVIOUSLY pressured him into it because she isn't into him anymore.

Dumb bitch needs to be honest with HERSELF FIRST.

[–]Musky 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I think he should just take his wife up on her offer to help get him someone. He revoked his consent to her extramarital activities and her not honoring it ain't great, but think if the context was anything else. Say the husband agreed the wife could go to some expensive class she was interested in, she really enjoyed it, and then the husband said no more after the first time. I think in that case people would tell the husband to go take a hike.

She might not particularly enjoy being on the other end of it, they fight, understanding ensues, the marriage is rekindled. Or it messes things up even more, but if you're planning on ending things anyways, why not try something different.

People throw away people they claim they love far too readily.

[–]Greykittymomma 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

LOL taking a class and "getting ass" isn't even remotely the same. Hard pass...

Usually one partner wants this shit and the other goes along to please them until they realize how selfish and fucked up it actually is when it happens.

Dude is an idiot for agreeing but clearly she needs more dick and if he didn't jump at the chance for a side piece right away he clearly isn't interested.

[–]Musky 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

LOL taking a class and "getting ass" isn't even remotely the same

That's the point of that particular thought experiment. Nobody would think anything about her going against his revoked consent in most cases, except for it being another dude in this circumstance. Regardless of what it is, giving up something you found you enjoyed is difficult, and in most cases people wouldn't even expect her to.

Dude is an idiot for agreeing

Probably. Although not agreeing to let his wife sleep around wouldn't have fixed the issue that she wanted to in the first place.