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[–]SailorMoon2020 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

It's only self center because I'm dominant. If I were submissive or a bottom like OP, y'all would be saying what y'all are saying, "it's not you...it's her". It's sexism. Even in the lesbian community, people don't like to think a woman could be dominant and desire to be pleased versus doing the pleasing.

[–]Elvira95 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

No, I genuinely think that caring about your own pleasure more than your partner, it's pretty self-centered, because it is. OP still isn't self-cented,cause she's is more passive, but still care about the partner pleasure, not just her orgasm

[–]SailorMoon2020 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

You're right. I care for my own pleasure than the womens' I am with pleasure. It's quite sad though so many women enjoy women such as I, not really. Maybe if I wasn't entertained so easily, I'd put more thought in changing my ways. Some, maybe, a lot of women like self center women who care for their own pleasure. It's quite arousing for many women to be used sexualy. It's a mind fuck for many since women are said to be the complete opposite: caring, nurturing, submissive, passive, giving and not caring to recieve...so when comes along that is the complete opposite, plenty of women are aroused by such traits.

I suppose...there's a reason why the rape fantasy among women regardless of orientation is so popular...

[–]Jillyjanejan 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I suppose...there's a reason why the rape fantasy among women regardless of orientation is so popular...

Is that true? Or are you just making it up? I've always thought rape fantasies are popular among men. Women, not so much.

[–]SailorMoon2020 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

It's true...studies were done a few years ago. However, I haven't looked it up in a while so maybe fantasies have changed....I doubt it.

[–]VioletRemi 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

That sounds pretty unrealistic and very disturbing. I wonder if it was men's research, lol. Many women I know survived rape and would never ever dream about one, memories of those are ruining their lifes till this day.

[–]SailorMoon2020 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I do not know the sex of the testers. I do know in the BDSM community, the women and men who have been raped, find comfort and new built confidence in engaging in consensual non consent activities.