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My opinion is be up front with her about this. Be really specific about what your concerns are and what you want out of this relationships. You want her to feel comfortable and satisfied with you, you want her to be proud of being with you like you are of her. As your girlfriend she really does owe it to you to be sensitive about lesbian specific issues. Let her in on what the struggles are about being lesbian. Make sure she understands why the lesbian community is skeptical of bisexual women. (It’s not that we hate them, clearly we often love them, it’s what they do to us inadvertently)

Try to be honest with yourself about your own triggers. Is your reaction justified by the situation? Or is it’s intensity out of proportion? That is a sign that what is really going on is an imprint is being triggered. In any case, it’s still important to be honest with yourself first and foremost, and also with her.

Only you can say the answer here because only you have the full context.