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[–]FlatAFCactus 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

If she's out but only shows the men she dates then that doesn't look great tbh. Regardless of whether she just values men/het relationships more, if she's really struggling with internalized homophobia, or if she's hiding from very homophobic relatives it's a yellow flag at best. Especially considering that since she's bi she's can just leave and have a happy life with a man instead of fighting against homophobia and her own issues.

It'd be different if it was a female ex, but it still wouldn't be great. She could just not be that into you too and is using that as an excuse.

[–]TalerTest 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

OP said she's openly and proudly bisexual so I'm guessing that she's out to her friends and family. That makes her hiding even more suspicious imo

[–]VioletRemi 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There is still difference between "I like men, but I also like women" and "Hello, it is my girlfriend, we live and have sex together".

However, it is still very weird. I saw few times people doing similar when they were wanting "to have some temporary fun" with someone, but were not thinking about any serious relationships. Even in heterosexual relationships I saw similar things - like my sister's previous bf - it was like "I am dating with you until I found someone better, so I don't want people to think I am not open". So can be this too. Or just internalized homophobia.