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[–]Lizzythelezzo 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I think there is something to this, because I've never had a serious crush on someone who wasn't also interested in me. Of course I've swiped right on women on dating apps who didn't swipe right on me, but I've never had a serious crush who didn't return my feelings. That's not to say these women were always emotionally available, compatible, etc. But the feelings always seem to be mutual, so I think we both pick up on it. I've even had this happen through online groups where I barely interacted with the person, which is interesting.

[Edit] By the way, when I am saying women return my interest, I mean they actually take initiative to flirt, ask me out, tell me they like me, etc. I'm not reading into random glances across a room.

[–]Spiritual_ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yes!! like you're intuitive to how it could turn into something like an actual crush? When you pick up on such feelings and interest, do you sometimes initiate things as well? Or wait for the other person to do it?

[–]Lizzythelezzo 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

Usually I've waited for the other person to initiate first, or until circumstances brought us together unexpectedly. I'd like to start being a bit more confident and take more initiative in future, though.

[–]Spiritual_ 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's awesome that you have them coming to you though, hahaha that is a dream. And same, I'd like to just go for it but unfortunately overthinking ruins it for me. Trying to be more mindful.