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[–]welp 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

This is why I stay away from commenting in lesbian spaces. I was married to two different men. I spent 24 years making myself attractive to men. When I was 15 or 16 I told my mom I thought I might be a lesbian and she said that's just a phase everyone goes through so I ignored it, pushed it down, and tried to build the life I was supposed to have. 50 years ago I probably would have managed to stay married to a man until my death and never realize I was missing something, cause I didn't understand what it was possible to feel. I know now because of lived experience that men are not for me. If this makes me not a lesbian, I will refrain from infringing on lesbian spaces.

[–]TalerTest 27 insightful - 1 fun27 insightful - 0 fun28 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

A lesbian is a woman who is exclusively sexually attracted to women. If you fit that description then you are a lesbian. The thing is, I see many bi/straight women who claim that they are lesbians and CompHet forced them to be sexually attracted to men. That's not how it works... CompHet can force a lesbian into situations like getting married to a man, or sleeping with a man or whatever but it's not going to make you feel sexually attracted to them.

[–]Rao 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

What do you think of OP here; she said because she was sexually abused as a child she has sexual attraction to men if the context is non consensual.

https://www.reddit.com/r/febfems/comments/i9sf5i/how_did_you_know_you_were_febfem/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share

[–]TalerTest 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

I don't know why she's trying so hard to complicate things for herself. She's bisexual and she clearly knows that, despite her rambling.

And this person needs therapy/to work on herself and shouldn't be worrying about having sex or relationships of any kind. She sounds like she's carrying around a lot of baggage. People like that should be single.