Is the "RudeFem" Stereotype Desirable to GC or Is It An Unfortunate Association?

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[–]DistantGlimmer 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Honesty and refusal to back down gets read as "rudeness" and "transphobia". "Just be kind" actually means "don't say those things that hurt male feelings!" I certainly can't speak for women on this but I feel like it is an unfair stereotype. Maybe some will be more actually "rude" talking among themselves in GC spaces but I haven't seen a lot of interaction where GC go out of their way to be rude, insulting or mean with trans people. Usually, it is the other way around.

[–]LemurLemur[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I see. So for you, there is no truth to "rudeness" being associated with GC at all, and it's entirely one-sided antagonism. That makes sense.

[–]DistantGlimmer 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I mean I'm sure the odd GC person has lost their temper and said something they probably regretted later but I have yet to see a TRA equivalent to: https://terfisaslur.com/

Which really goes quite far beyond "rudeness".

[–]adungitit 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Are people who don't believe in God rude? Is it rude to speak of evolution? Is it rude to deny God's existence? The answer is both yes and no. But the real important answer is that this is irrelevant because, at least in theory, we shouldn't base our discussion on kindergarten logic of "you're right/wrong based on how nicely you can say something".