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[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Obligatory, not QT but trans. I feel like a lot of transwomen are really self-absorbed. Many of them really feel like being a TW is the worst and more persecuted minority you can possibly be. They even believe TM have it easier than them because at least they are transitioning to be the privileged gender. I remember listening to some of them in trans groups and rolling my eyes because many of them were paying for transition with the all money from careers or degrees they got as man that somehow they never thought of that as a privileged. I could really go off about this lol, but I’ll stop. If you really believe you have it the hardest of any women, maybe you don’t care about the “minor struggles” that women more privileged than you have faced. I don’t think they would ever say that, but I think that’s what they believe. They look at “cis” women with an idealized view of having that body must be like (male gaze) and imagine it must be the best thing ever and no struggles you have could possible compare to the burden they have to bare. I used to get it too to some extend where they would tell me how lucky I was just because I was young and passing, even though I was nearly homeless at the time. It’s so insane!

[–]VioletRemihomosexual female (aka - lesbian) 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don’t think they would ever say that, but I think that’s what they believe.

I know few TW in real life and few through internet.

Most of them believing that women are overprivileged over men. Some of them believed that they are "the best woman", because they are like "smart like man, sexy like woman, and can't get pregnant, so only positives".

And there a lot of insulting views they have. That is not specific to them, thought - I met many regular men in internet who think like that. There even whole "Gynosphere Theory" I recently saw in /s/LGBDropTheT, where men (and some women) are theorising that whole world for last 500 years are centered on women and women are really rulling the world. And arguments there are such absurd, one I saw was "In arabian countries and in medieval ages, men are fighting to death to get a woman, so men's life means nothing, but women's life is super valued and focused on" - ignoring that woman in this part has no say, she is just commodity for which few men are fighting and then father of that woman is gifting woman to one who shown to be the best in eyes of father, or ignoring that in medieval age it happened only to the richest women and men, while for 99.999% men and women reality was different. And so on, such a twisted perception - they see that "OnlyFans" and "prostitution" are huge privileges of women, because "men can't so easily get money".

[–]adungitit 6 insightful - 5 fun6 insightful - 4 fun7 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Some of them believed that they are "the best woman", because they are like "smart like man, sexy like woman, and can't get pregnant, so only positives".

I've seen it too and it makes me livid. The notion that women are privileged for something we have literally been owned as sex slaves for.

"In arabian countries and in medieval ages, men are fighting to death to get a woman, so men's life means nothing, but women's life is super valued and focused on"

This is a common argument even among self-proclaimed progressive men who ofc always need to reframe any feminist ideals as being all about making men's dicks feel better for them to care. So the notion that women have been pitting men to fight against each other for their benefit remains popular.