GC: Is sexual attraction only based on genitals, or is there more to sexual attraction (e.g. attraction to secondary sexual characteristics, "femininity", "masculinity", etc)?

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[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Maybe. I’m not going to try to convince him though, lol. I don’t think in a million years he could have been with a TW with a penis, so I feel like that gives him some straight points at least. I don’t go out of my way to remind him I am male though or anything like that and he doesn’t think of me that way.

[–]Not_a_celebrity[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

So you're helping deceiving him that he's with a woman? I think he's homophobic. It's like Blaire White's husband. He thinks he's with a "woman", but he's with a man. He just doesn't want to accept he's not "straight". Blaire White doesn't remind him he's in a gay relationship either, he thinks he's a "woman" in a "straight relationships". Your husband too doesn't think of you that way, which means he's deceiving himself. He doesn't want to accept he's with a man. A man that has no penis. A man without a penis is still a man. And a man that is in a relationship with a man without a penis isn't more "straight" or less "gay" just because his partner doesn't have a penis 🤔

I think it's best to remind him, and burst that bubble. It's worse to help lie to him and make him go to that grave all the while thinking he's "straight" just because his male partner removed his penis, wears dresses, etc.

[–]peakingatthemomentTranssexual (natal male), HSTS 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I mean, I don’t think I’m deceiving him. He knows about my history. He can ask me anything and I will tell him. He even knows the name my parents gave me as baby. He doesn’t really like talking about that stuff though and I don’t really either. I wouldn’t want him to see me as a man and it’s not how I usually think of myself or how people see me in the world. I could understand why some people might be upset about it though or feel like it’s not honest. It’s complicated. I just feel like sometimes labels can get confusing.

[–]Not_a_celebrity[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Why are you here when you believe in the "gender identity" ideology? You think you're a woman, but then you know you're a man, but then you don't want people to think of you as the man you are, so you don't say anything to your husband about you being a man, and you let people assume you are a woman eventhough you are not. That is dishonest, it is deception. If I met you, couldn't tell you're a man, used "she", and you didn't correct me that you're a man, I'd feel deceived. But whatever. I don't think labels are confusing. You TQs always make them seem confusing. A man is in a relationship with a man? He's either gay or bi, doesn't matter if the guy has a penis or not, or thinks he's a woman. It's really simple.