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I haven't visited this space in so long! It's comforting to see some people are still here haha

Well, I guess I just felt like saying that I was glad to have this 3 years ago when I was still feeling alone and hadn't found my own GC support network yet. Now I have found "my people" so to speak, and I'm even in a relationship!

So, thank you mods and everyone else for giving past-me a place to vent and feel less crazy, it was important to me. I hope you are all doing well!

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What a sad state of affairs

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I'm always ready to show restraint in my judging, but then I see comments of them say stuff like "I love surprising guys with my tits", and "I give no warnings" and how they love seeing the "surprise" on their face, and this is the sole reason she'll miss her breasts and then how the op says "that's the best way to do it"

and it's really hard not to immediately go "okay: sadistic rapist, derives joy from 'tricking' people and worsening uncomfortable situations"

I'll instead assume all those guys were straight or bi or other trans guys and happy to see her breasts.

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Yeah, what are transmen if not females who think it possible to identify out of oppression? It's telling I think, positive thinking taken to its delusional extreme. They have to rewrite the bad parts and put a positive spin on it, like it was actually a good thing

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"it makes you smell, it makes you horny, you grow a tiny dick and get facial hair" Dreamy. Why do they still argue that 'iF iT's AbOuT gEnItAlS tHeN wHy Do YoU rEjEcT tRaNs MeN tOo?!' Because of this. Also because those are women who hate themselves and I wouldn't date them any more than I would a drug addict or a self-harmer

Anyway, this post's title made me laugh a lot before I got to reading the text 😆

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So much of this is heartbreaking, to be honest. The typical "pre-teen me didn't want breasts" interview, the weirdo "I was so euphoric I took selfies and sent them to all of my friends" and the "safe practices" list at the end.

I didn't know, but when you bind, don't exercise, apparently. Don't sweat. Or drink more. And then there are tips for a flat chest if you don't have a binder. I have a naturally flat chest, and I've always felt really glad for this, but I can't help but imagine what it must be like for girls with obvious curves and all. The desperation is real. What is this world doing to girls, seriously.

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Just saying hello again 👋

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13 year-old, I'm pretty sure. Cannot be an adult

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Ah, the French election was last Sunday, and I have kept thinking about this. The two political parties that used to be the expected ones to make it are now gathering at max... 4.8% of votes. Lol. And that was the right, the "republicans". The left, the "socialists", got 1%. What is popular now are : Macron's "no labels" politics, the far right, the far left, in order. In short: politics that are ever-changing depending on where the wind is blowing. Literal family of ex-nazi sympathiser. And anti-capitalism idealism which is tempting no doubt, but in reality fails at acknowledging our resources and capabilities (reality), so of course, yes, ultra woke, too.

I did vote far left five years ago, because I honestly think that would have been the right time for a change of the system, and cancel-culture etc hadn't made it to France yet. Now, though. I don't think anyone other than Macron can handle the huge crisis we've got coming, so I'm glad it's him again, even if he's... Macron. Lol. Seeing how the last five years went, he has experience handling crises, and we're going to need this more than someone who wants to change everything.

I don't tell many people my vote went to him lmao. Shameful 😒. I despair when I see the choices we had. I am not the one voting for extremists here... Only pragmatically.

So yes, "polical moderate" fits me, and it blows my mind to see people calling the extremists the "right" and the "left" now. No, that's the FAR right and the FAR left. Moderate right and left have left the game. Only Macron remains, reigning supreme. Which was his goal five years ago lol. Good job Manu. I gotta say his speech was pretty good though. And then some guys in the crowd shouted "get naked Macron" and "break my ass Manu" and I am still laughing. Yes, yes, everyone is saying he will fuck us over once again. (Retirement will now be at 65 years old 💀)

Well, that's life, no regrets though.

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Lmao, I hope this is a fake story. Adoption is not that easy is it?

Seriously though... "it". Only English can do this thank god lol

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This reads like a made-up situation shared for earning pity points.

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Lol I just have to say, this is worded perfectly and I wholly agree this is what's going on

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Same. Zero effort goes into dating lately

But anytime I've tried, I've only approached the clearly 'gender critical' women. No way I'm dealing with the stress of 'will she leave me or vilainize me if I say one wrong thing'

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QuEeR mEaNs "AsK mE mOrE qUeStIoNs If YoU'rE cUrIoUs"

In other words: I'm an attention seeker.

Edited just to laugh at how I just realised this literally means "I know no one knows what I mean by this word and it's the point actually" 😂

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Hahahaha I used to feel creepy but now I accept I'm a lesbian hahaha so gayyyyy yeah I'm here and I'm queer yes we're all gayyyyy here gay gay gay that's so gay y'all

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Crazy how they all sound like bots when trying to argue. And when the programming runs out of lines, retreat and silence.

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I want my dad to be disappointed that he'll never get a daughter-in-law. I want my mom to judge how long my hair is.

Lol. Good luck with that.

And also the part about "the token gay friend" and how her gay friend doesn't talk about guys and exes to her. I WONDER WHY lmao

So is she a lesbian, a straight girl, or bisexual and totally confused? I also used to feel very uncomfortable when confronted with lesbian romance, back when I was in so much denial I couldn't even tell left from right. Ah, this is so sad to see. (But also very funny.)

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Oh, reminds of that one comment I saw on reddit, made by a transwoman that went something like: the Matrix is about a transwoman slowly accepting herself and being loved by a lesbian. 😂

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Merry Christmas to you all! :)

Nothing notable to say on the topic. Every year it's the same struggle to pick clothes and try not to look like my everyday jeans-and-sweatshirt self. I rate my success on my stepmother's reaction.

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Lol. Do they ever think before they speak? The fact homosexuality cannot result in reproduction is the very reason it's been so vilified over the years. No, we can't have bio kids with the person we love. Yes, it's "unpractical" or whatever else. No, we won't date trans people for bio children. No, we cannot fall in love and have sexual desire for people of the opposite sex. And no, most of us won't sacrifice a chance to feel love just for bio kids.

Oh my god I am so tired of LGBTQIAetc "issues" being in the spotlight, witnessing people who know nothing of homosexuality run their mouth like they're an expert and our spokesperson. Shut up and leave us alone...

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Lol, for a moment I forgot straight women existed and I was thinking "why the hell would any woman want to be in a space full of men"

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Lesbian is allowed but not gay? Lmao what is this joke...

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Men and hommes

But why? I'm triggered.

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I don't like how "coming out" is used about everything nowadays. There is a difference between having a controversial opinion and being homo/bi-sexual. Being shamed for your values is nothing like being shamed for what you are, so I think the distinction should remain. We're losing enough of our words and culture as it is.

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Oh you could have continued. There is this gem later on, about the acceptance of trans people:

One major part is that we’re actually more visible in gay porn these days and I think that has helped a lot

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