I think the 'Roast Beef' meme is a calculated attempt by men to make women feel self-conscious about their genitals the way small-dicked men do

wicklesnarf · 2020-08-20T14:49:10+00:00

some ~corrective surgeries~.

I've been noticing this spread over the course of my life, of more and more territory of women's bodies being claimed by men and it becoming more mainstream (and over time maybe expected) for the average woman to participate. The full shave/brazilian wax, lightening creams for labia and nipples, bleaching your asshole because we apparently have to worry about our literal assholes being pretty now. I've heard guys talking about anal sex and casually saying shit like, she just needs to fast/eat this particular diet for an entire day and then give herself an enema--So that her actual guts are attractive enough for him to put his penis in. And I'd bet any amount of money their girlfriends aren't the ones asking for anal. Where will the line be drawn? Stay the fuck out of my digestive system.

wicklesnarf · 2020-08-09T04:02:56+00:00

I'm not who you asked but I have a theory socially awkward men are into anime because the girls tend to be very sweet, innocent, simple and "docile". They can't imagine girls like that being mean or rejecting them. Real women with autonomy and complexities intimidate or frustrate them. I'd rather they jerk off to hentai and cuddle with their waifu pillows than bring a gun to campus so thanks anime <3

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-30T16:49:25+00:00

Oh God this is my grandmother exactly. She's extremely type A, stereotypical 60s housewife. When my mom was a kid they went to Disneyland, she rolled her ankle getting out of the RV, then walked on it all day until she had to go to the hospital. Didn't want to ruin the kids' vacation, of course! Same thing a few years ago, she had APPENDICITIS and didn't mention she was in excruciating pain until it burst and she almost died. Didn't want to inconvenience anyone with her sepsis, of course! Her pain tolerance must be insane, she should've been a Marine instead of a SAHM.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-30T03:10:10+00:00

With the pandemic, it's more important than ever that we advocate for our health and the health of women in our care. Every one of us is valuable and entitled to professional treatment from our doctors.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-30T00:56:07+00:00

There is a complete difference between "78% of slave-owners were Jews" and "78% of Jews were slave-owners". I'm not sure what you mean.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-29T18:49:43+00:00

Those ski slopes across the pelvis are great

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-29T00:09:40+00:00

There are so many ulterior motives coming from people who don't sincerely care about these kids at all. Pharmaceutical industry making their money. Trans adults wanting validation. Predators targeting women who want to reinforce the "from birth" narrative, instead of the "calculated move to hide their wolf behavior in a sheep's clothing" reality. Activists wanting to essentially breed a new generation to swell their ranks. And a metric fuckton of basic bitches/bros who just want to pat themselves on the back for being so progressive and leaving "you go girl" comments on these kids' pics. Not to mention the obscure crap like nuttily religious parents who encourage it as a solution to their son being gay or even just liking dolls and dresses.

One of the most frustrating things about TRAs to me is how they claim everything trans-related is so simple and straightforward. It isn't simple to sort which kids are "really trans" from the kids being influenced or manipulated. Or to alter their body's development without negative consequences. There is no nuance in their arguments.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-26T16:32:00+00:00

I'm not seeing it...The title says 78% of slave ships were Jewish-owned, one of his screenshots claims 78% of slave-owners were Jewish, and the webpage the other guy who replied to you just says over 75% of Jewish families in three large southern cities owned slaves, which is obviously completely different.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-26T16:22:13+00:00

I like to counter with "assigned [sex] at conception". You're right it's super weird to put it on doctors instead of the sperm cell

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-26T01:59:00+00:00

The hijab is tough. In Western countries, what can you do? In France they've tried to (sometimes physically) force them off of women which is incredibly horrible. That doesn't even help the women who don't want to wear them, they still have whatever pressures (from their family or husband most likely) so it just makes them feel like they can't go out.

It seems the only way for women forced into it to be "liberated" is if they're able and choose to break free of their families, friends, religious communities. I think we can do some things to help with the "able to" but "choose to" will always be on them and that's an almost impossible choice to make.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-25T23:07:09+00:00

Are they making you go back to school already where you live? Around here it's still remote learning

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-25T15:56:53+00:00

I find it impossible to believe that any of these Harry Potter-associated people who've made statements actually care about trans people in any way. I'd disagree with them that what JK said was transphobic but I'd at least have a little respect if they were sincerely expressing their feelings or opinions. But I don't think they are or have given trans-related issues more than a passing thought. They just have everyone asking for a response from them and they don't want the backlash and cancel crowd coming after them so they say what the angry mob wants to hear.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-25T14:42:59+00:00

Looks like those comments have been removed by the mods now. The ones complaining about transphobia or praising the Inclusive Language are still up but most are heavily down-voted though...

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-25T14:39:04+00:00

I'm a lady and I have a bin in the bathroom for guests, but I never use it. I just take floss, tissues, cotton balls, empty soap bottles, used products out with me and throw them in my main trashcan. I don't like the idea of dirty stuff just sitting in my bathroom, the main garbage has a lid and gets taken out every day or two.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-23T05:14:08+00:00

I've noticed this conflation of porn and masturbation, I hear men say masturbation is normal and healthy to defend what they're watching. Like watching violent dehumanizing gangbangs or tentacle rape is necessary in order to jerk off. Masturbation/self exploration may be healthy but training yourself to be aroused by characters from The Simpsons engaging in incest is NOT. I worry a lot about the people (girls too) growing up with this stuff.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-21T18:35:59+00:00

I sympathize but maybe a better solution is for you to make posts about those topics then, instead of trying to control what other people post

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-20T18:01:05+00:00

He was mediocre at best in a lower level men's league, transitions and starts to dominate

Huh, funny how that seems to be a trend. Just a coincidence, I'm sure...

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-20T14:24:56+00:00

Comments from the thread on r/transgender. They're claiming this is anti-science.

Also, last time I checked, the 'latest science' was very much on the side of trans inclusion and how someone identifies, not on biological sex.

It sounds like junk science dressed up as science. We can call it the science of convenience.

Surprise, Guardian at it again with rubbing their quack science bollocks in our faces. It's all out bigotry.

Yeah that sounds like some serious junk science... is it peer reviewed? What’s their methodology?

On why someone asking about skeletal structure is being downvoted:

skeletal structure has long been used to support bogus and transphobic claims.

Also, anthropology has actually changed a lot and now anthropologists say that they can't tell the difference between men and women skeletons anymore

There are no transwomen with a skeletal structure that cannot be found in a cis woman (somewhere)

It's cracking me up they're using the fact that they as individuals are out of shape to say transwomen are more delicate than women:

my stepdaughter is 6 inches shorter, weighs 30 pounds less, but is stronger than I am

I need scissors to open packages I used to be able to tear open. I've struggled opening jars.

Meanwhile here I am never having been able to do a single pull-up in my life.

There's also a lot of personal anecdotes and some studies posted about decreased performance after transitioning...and they're all about running speed.

They compare transwomen's natural advantages to the natural athletic advantages of black people (?) to try to poke holes:

By these standards we should also ban black people from sports.

Pretty sure anyone playing against Shaq had a 20-30% higher risk of injury. We should have banned Shaq. His genes were unfair.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-20T07:29:01+00:00

That's the only part I could relate to tbh

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-20T07:23:37+00:00

All the mixing and matching really emphasizes how much they are two separate things

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-20T06:56:51+00:00

I think about a million of those connection attempts were me. It just kept giving me endless bicycle captchas and wouldn't let me in. I thought maybe I was banished forever

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-20T06:54:25+00:00

What?? Is that why people are always on s/bigchungus but no one is posting or dropping comments? It's just bots...and me :(

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-18T03:37:06+00:00

There is an awful lot of ejaculation in the Sherlock Holmes books as well ;)

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-17T18:16:29+00:00

I'm a woman and I got called an incel by a fifteen year old boy for saying it's lazy content when girls stream on Twitch just reacting to Youtube videos in lowcut tops :/

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-17T14:44:14+00:00

"Mumsnet have ordered a swarm" is killing me. It makes them sound so militant, like they sit around sipping tea and comparing diaper bags until an alarm goes off and they slap their helmets on and run into the streets, sprinting straight to Guardian HQ

Mumsnet, what an intimidating nemesis to have

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-17T14:34:33+00:00

I've see so many responses where they say someone's words, argument (whether a comment on reddit or JK Rowling's statements) is "literally violent" against them, or is "literally killing transpersons!" They do it because they want to be taken super seriously but the irony is it's impossible to take them seriously when they're being so overdramatic

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-16T22:26:06+00:00

It's the new "incel". Everybody and their mother was apparently an incel earlier this year or so, a while back everyone was a nazi. They undermine themselves by watering down the terms till they're meaningless. I hope the next accusatory, dismissive label that gets hurled around is something fun, like "hedonist" or "libertine"

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-16T22:18:27+00:00

You're not being too sensitive. It's a very ugly word. It's a very useful word too though--It tells an awful lot about the person saying it.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-16T22:14:35+00:00

I recognize that "troller of terfs" flair. And I've noticed in so many of those threads, the bulk of insane replies are one or two people just making a shit ton of comments. It's a small comfort, but it's a little heartening to see evidence it's a (very) vocal minority

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-16T22:07:35+00:00

A wolf trying to hide in sheep's clothing. People are more trusting of women with their children because men are way more likely to be like this. And he's exploiting that.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-16T18:25:26+00:00

"Freedom of speech doesn't mean freedom from consequences!" -Mob trying to suppress free speech

You're absolutely right that there is a fear now, even the "right" people are nervous about saying the wrong thing so opt to say nothing at all. I see SJWs cannibalizing and policing each other's speech/thoughts all the time. There is no winning, there will always be someone more offended than you.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-14T17:23:54+00:00

my mother used to make her own MC Hammer style pants

Your mom sounds amazing (even if they didn't turn out as imagined) :)

I'm in the same boat as you, giving up trying to understand. I did try for a long time, I try my best to accommodate others' feelings, but there's just so many contradictions and inconsistencies and it seems to change month to month. It feels like something out of Alice in Wonderland, just riddles and MC Escher staircases

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-14T04:38:21+00:00

It really makes me so curious what the author of the books, Ann M Martin, thinks about all this. She's a lesbian and doesn't seem to fit into the stereotypical mold of femininity. The group of girls in the series has a diverse spectrum of personalities, interests, styles. Surely she thinks defining boys and girls based on whether they like princesses or wear blue vs pink is offensive?

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-13T18:37:05+00:00

Seems like there are a lot of options:

Concerned when Hermione sleeps late, Harry decides to check on her and climbs the Gryffindor Girls' Stairs. This begins a journey of self-exploration and transition for Harry as she blossoms into her true self.

Harry always knew that there was something unique about him. In a way, the arrival of the Hogwarts acceptance letters was almost expected... except, why are they all addressed to 'Harriet Potter?

Peeves, though he was nasty about everything else--ickle firsties and orphan girls--got it immediately. For all six years of Harry's Hogwarts tenure, he dropped water balloons on the heads of anyone who misgendered her. Professor Binns never quite figured it out, but he didn't know any student's name. Nearly Headless Nick gallantly and somewhat awkwardly called her lady and tried to hold open doors for her, despite the fact that he couldn't open them. Snape called Harry "Mr. Potter" for all seven years that he was in Harry's life. Around year three, Ron stopped counting the detentions he got for his increasingly sarcastic responses to this.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-13T18:26:15+00:00

It's downright dangerous. This person is 6'2 and 220 lbs. The women around him are tough but the size difference is undeniable. One of them could get seriously injured.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-13T18:21:04+00:00

A couple different people saying this stuff:

Vaginas are male-like genitalia because there are men who have them. Stop supporting transphobic bigotry.

if a trans girl has "male-like genitalia", literally everyone has "male-like genitalia", and implying that trans women are "male-like" is pretty shitty.

the rule actually excludes literally all possible genitalia, not just dicks.

Calling it "male like genitalia" explicitly implies that pre-op trans women are somehow more male than post op trans women.

And one of them keeps insisting this:

literally every lesbian i've ever met is attracted to trans women

every lesbian i've ever met was either actually already dating a trans woman at the time or at least enthusiastically expressed their attraction for trans women unprompted. because lesbians generally like trans women, actually.

Also lol:

Calling cis normal (and therefor trans as something abnormal) is transphobic but ok.

Genuine question, how old do you think these people are? Are these teenagers? I'm kind of getting that vibe.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-12T18:48:58+00:00

You're so right. Even the most natural medicines. A friend of mine was trying to eat healthier and started making fresh smoothies every morning for breakfast. She ended up having horrible light-headedness/dizziness, eventually one day fainted and slammed her head into her bathroom counter on the way down. Lots of tests trying to figure out why her blood pressure was so low. It turned out to be the GINGER she was putting in her breakfast smoothies. She was just buying ginger root from the produce section of her grocery store, along with her fruits and veggies. It never crossed her mind it could hurt her, it even took her doctors weeks to consider it could be the cause.

How can anyone think these powerful drugs aren't having serious effects on their kids' bodies? It feels like the over-prescription of psych meds like Ritalin 10-20 years ago, over again. All to line the pockets of the pharmaceutical industry.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-12T18:27:54+00:00

I agree. Quality over quantity. 90% of Reddit is people saying nothing.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-10T17:35:06+00:00

Same! Counting the days till my account's two weeks old so I can help build over here.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-09T23:44:05+00:00

Credit: dakrpheonix (not a typo, it's dakrpheonix)

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-07T17:08:06+00:00

I just don't understand why all the fuss in that sub. I know it originally came to a head because of a post specifically about a woman asking about the hormones they take while transitioning and if those might be helpful in mitigating PCOS symptoms/side effects, but it's turned into this policing of language, wanting everything non-gendered. It's so weird this isn't an issue on r/breastcancer. Biological men who have it post there and are treated with warmth and respect, and none of them are going around chewing out women for addressing each other or the sub as a whole as women, or trying to tear down charities and campaigns because they're so female-centric.

The people doing this aren't just punishing the "naughty girls", they're punishing the entire community, themselves included, by pushing out their support and making a lot of the people trying to conform so uncomfortable they're too nervous to participate. So many comments on that thread and in the PCOS-Folks sub talking about how confused and unsure they are about what words are okay instead of getting support for their condition. Everyone's walking on eggshells.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-06T16:33:10+00:00

They don't seem fussy about replacing mods even for no real reason at all. This happened on r/panelshow. There was one mod, the founder, who ran it by herself for years, quietly deleting spam and off topic posts. Then this narcissistic guy who posts under his full legal name comes in and decides he wants to be added as a mod. She ignores his messages, so he goes to the admins and says she's inactive. They add him as a mod, she doesn't know what's going on, removes him, so he threw a fit and had the admins reinstate him and boot her.

He's completely taken over the sub the last couple years. He posts repetitive long essays about his modding and stickies them, deletes any comments even slightly critical of him and threatens to ban people left and right. He banned one woman, one of the most active members of the sub, who was almost annoyingly inoffensive, for asking him why he posted a screenshot to show someone a report making fun of them in a really hurtful way (he constantly posts screenshots of reports so he can respond to them with sassy comebacks), then quietly reversed the ban after being called out by multiple people. He even created a completely new subreddit to post about his modding of this one small subreddit. He inserts himself everywhere and then takes it personally when people criticize the way the sub is run. It took over a year of begging to get him to finally add a couple other people as mods to keep him in check and he of course only accepted people who are completely obedient to him.

It's quieted down a bit the last few months since most of the people who pipe up have been banned or left for a competing sub, but it was one of the most mundanely strange power trips I've seen. It's so odd and such a random subreddit to take over and cause so much drama.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-06T15:21:37+00:00

being poor makes divorce far more difficult

This is the first thing I thought of when I saw the title. Divorce can be expensive and being divorced is expensive--My parents were poor and having two separate rent payments after their divorce was really tough and affected spending everywhere else (like groceries). Especially if you have a lack of job security, it's scary and sometimes unrealistic to be out there on your own. Staying married can be a practical decision for either/both people.

Money buys you a lot of freedom, and choices. People shouldn't blindly romanticize couples who've had modest weddings when so many aren't a choice but because that's all they can afford. There are lots and lots of loveless or even toxic marriages that aren't any more a "successful" marriage than one that ends in divorce.

wicklesnarf · 2020-07-06T14:58:16+00:00

This is the worst thing. Not engaging with her points, just telling her to shut her mouth. Juno Birch, in particular--A biological man telling her she needs to "be quiet immediately". It makes me furious.

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