Discord for the lost lesbians of the queer generation by HelloMomo in Lesbians
[–]throwaway080808 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I'm also interested :)
How do you tell if someone is truly attracted to women? by ravenflies in Lesbians
[–]throwaway080808 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
100% sure this happens
Why is it so hard for people to realize how harmful they are to us? by throwaway080808 in Lesbians
[–]throwaway080808[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
are you okay?? send me a DM if you wanna talk, us dykes gotta support one another
[–]throwaway080808[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Thank you so much :) hehe I'm glad this discussion is also helpful to you!
[–]throwaway080808[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Oh no that's just super sad
[–]throwaway080808[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
It's pathetic, really. Sometimes I wish I was a straight man because straight men seem to be immune from everything lol. I hope you'll end up being the proudest lesbian ever, take care of yourself.
Why is it so hard for people to realize how harmful they are to us?
3 years ago * by throwaway080808 to /s/Lesbians from self.Lesbians
[–]throwaway080808[S] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
My lesbian cousin actually told me the same thing about questioning whether or not she was a trans man because people at her university told her it was transphobic to like only one sex, as a lesbian. I really feel like people expect women to accept everyone and everything way more than they do men.
I feel exactly the same. In the end, I feel like the LGBT community has made me hate myself as much as (if not more) the homophobes have. What a sad commentary. I hope you're doing fine, if you need to talk send me a DM.
[–]throwaway080808[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Tbh I've seen some bad shit in real life too but as you said, these people are ... something else, to say the least.
I absolutely agree with you, it really makes you wonder why these people identify out of their gender/sex (not talking about people who really do experience severe dysphoria tho). What are they trying to escape from? Are they trying to escape from themselves? Are they trying to literally become someone else?
It's obviously not the same thing as identifying as literally the opposite sex but I find it sad that the general public doesn't seem to question why some young people want to identify as anything else but men or women. Some of them obviously just wanna be interesting but I'm afraid that others may just want to find a way to escape from themselves for different reasons and unfortunately, the LGBT community is almost encouraging this self-hatred. New gender-identities like non-binary etc have nothing to do with us and if anything, the LGBT community is NOT helping these people.
I feel like now the LGBT community has become the perfect place for people who might feel alienated from their peers or different from the norm, who don't have friends and would do anything to be a part of a community. That's we have so many frankly unecessary, irrelevant and useless labels, it's because some people just want to find a community even if it's not meant for people like themselves.
And then of course, I could also talk about the fact that most transgender people now are FTM which certainly is not a coincidence.
I don't know how or when this madness will stop but hopefully all the damages done will be fixed. I can't wait for some celebrity or some band to bring the androgyny from the 80's back. I know this will happen, history always repeats itself!
[–]throwaway080808[S] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
The other day, someone on twitter argued that TERFs were recruiting lesbians who feel alienated from the LGBT community to push their agenda. I thought to myself: but maybe those people should wonder why some lesbians feel alienated from their community in the first place, no?
I hope more people will peak and I hope you're doing fine. Thanks for your message.
[–]throwaway080808[S] 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Yeah, that's how I feel to some extent too. I find it so ironic that feminists came and said 'GENDER IS A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT, WE NEED TO ABOLISH IT' and some bored teenagers on tumblr were like 'omg I love this concept, let's create hundreds of them'. The worst part about it is that some feminists do support them because they don't want to offend anyone. At this point, I feel like only radical feminists make sense. I hope things will get better soon. Thanks for your message.
[–]throwaway080808[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Yeah you're right, I'll try to do that! Honestly the reason why it's so hard for me to just get over it is because I feel like many other lesbians are in this same situation but I can't help them and it burns me up. It's like I know people are suffering and I could do something but I don't know what to do. Anyways, this might be that I'm too empathetic.
Thanks for your message.
Bass is awesome, rock on!
I don't know if this message was directed at SillyGoose or me but I really appreciated it, thanks a lot! It gives me perspective.
[–]throwaway080808[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Thanks for your message, I needed to hear that.
Aw thanks I haven't thought about that! This is a great idea.
[–]throwaway080808[S] 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
honestly at this point, straight people >>>> gay people lol
[–]throwaway080808[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
It was like my first time engaging that kind of conversation with someone on twitter and it will definitely be the last time lol I'm too sensitive for that kind of thing
[–]throwaway080808[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Glad to know you can relate. This is all great advice that I definitely need to apply to my life right now but it seems to take awhile to be like 'Ok, now I focus on myself only, I do me'. Still haven't taken this step but it will eventually happen for sure. At the moment, I'm practicing for the driving theory test in order to get my driving license in the future and I have many other projects so that's some great baby steps!
You're totally right and I know exactly where I want to be when I'm 30 so I should keep my energy to achieve my goals. Off-topic but I also appreciated that you said you're easily affected by negativity around you too because sometimes I feel like I'm exaggerating but I simply don't know how to stop being so sensitive. Anyways, thanks for your message!
You're right! Can you suggest to me any lesbian-centered documentary that you liked?
Yeah I feel the same, honestly I got very emotional yesterday but reading all your comments has helped me a lot and I feel much more reassured and calm now. Someone commented that no matter what, lesbians will always exist and this comment really stuck with me. In the end, I think that's all I need to remember. Thanks for your time, now I feel like the only way I can ensure a brighter future for all of us and especially the younger ones is by first working on myself to make sure I will be strong enough to help and protect others the day they need it. I need to strenghten my spirit so thanks for the strenght you give me!
Wow, you may be easily affected by negativity but you sure know how to bring positivity back! Thanks a lot for your kind message and your time, that's very sweet of you. I wish more people were as compassionate as you are, you're amazing. And I agree with you on everything, I actually had the same kind of reflection but you know, it's different when you hear it from somebody else? I feel like I'm talking to myself. Thanks again, you're probably the nicest person I've ever encountered on the Internet. Much love
I think there are more of us too and I can't help but feel concerned about them because of how I personally deal with this whole situation.
I'd love to talk a bit with you, I'm gonna send you a DM.
Thanks for your kind message ♥
Yeah, that's the reason why I created a twitter account in the first place. I've found some lesbians there which is great and a few days ago I finally found a lesbian who speaks my native language and contacted her, which is even better. I'll take a look at Spinster, thanks for your suggestion and your message.
I absolutely agree with you! I'm seriously getting tired of the inclusivity thing.
Not at all, I don't even have people my age to talk to about this. But I'll try to get in touch with some people from here and distance myself from social media a bit. Thanks for your message.
you're awesome ♥
yay 19 yo twin
How are you dealing with all of this?
You're absolutely right, I'll try to remember that. Thanks!
Edit: Can I send you a DM to talk about that? I'd interested to know what you have to say.
Wow, I feel you. I hope you're doing better now and yes I'd love to talk with you so I'll probably send you a DM!