Where is everyone? by [deleted] in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Ovarit, Club Monocle, a few discord servers. I pop by here from time to time. Otherwise just busy with life.
Lurkers, I see you 👀 by TalerTest in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
I've been here for a while and used to comment more, but lately it feels kind of dead. There were also a few posters whose posts and comments I really enjoyed who seem to have left.
Can't explain the silent new people though.
I'm tired of not having any lesbian friends and I'm tired of my generation by cinnamonstick in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Same but no girlfriend. I'm thinking about moving to a different country partly because the dating scene here is so bad. Everyone is all about the pronouns and/or have boyfriends but want to be special. Where are the normal lesbians?
What's the most lesbian thing you did as a kid? by onetwothree123 in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 8 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 4 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Planned to live with a friend on a farm together and we'd both never get married because "who needs boys?"
Does your family know you're gay? How did they take it when they found out? How do they feel about it now? by piylot in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
[–]plotbunny 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Canadian, 21. I wasn't planning to come out until I was in a serious relationship. My parents found out a few months ago (currently living at home) after finding a copy of LC. It was awkward for a few days but otherwise we don't discuss it and it's mostly fine.
I think everyone suspected when I got a really short (and terrible) haircut at 15 and started wearing flannel. Ironically, I hadn't figured it out at that point and was confused by the reactions (and hurt, bc some people got really weird about it).
Now, the extended family? That's a whole other thing that I'm not looking forward to dealing with when the time comes.
what's your favorite podcast? by lmaonope333 in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun - 2 years ago (0 children)
Business of Fashion is good. Joe Rogan has interesting guests but not my favourite podcast host.
I wish I could find a good comedy podcast.
What Were Your Best/Worst Subjects at School? by CJLez in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Good: all language courses. A random assortment of other classes (sciences, music, etc) if the teacher was good.
Bad: Math and art. I've grown to like linear algebra though.
What are you good at and what are you not good at? by [deleted] in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I'm good at making rational decisions but bad about wayyy overthinking things
My lesbian ex just came out as queer and nonbinary. by sickofit in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Here the word dyke is used by everyone except lesbians. The dyke and trans marches have a lot of overlap.
Discord for the lost lesbians of the queer generation by HelloMomo in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Students: How are you doing? by [deleted] in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I'm lucky and the only change has been having all classes online for the year, which isn't great but could be worse.
It's disappointing because a lot of my courses have labs or group work, and it's usually easier to meet new people in those classes. I miss the daily social interactions. I'm doing my thesis this year so that's a bit stressful, but the format lends itself well to being done online (no fieldwork needed, etc).
My biggest concern is outbreaks off campus. A lot of students moved back even though school is online, and there will be parties. Hoping we don't have a lockdown.
Cross-post from a topic I made on o/Lesbians, for those without membership who'd find it interesting by [deleted] in Lesbians
Assertive is what aggressive fails to be, if that makes sense.
Assertive is what aggressive fails to be, if that makes sense.
This is a really good way to put it
Favourite hot beverage? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians
A ridiculous amount of coffee, ideally with oat milk.
Biggest turn off? by ColdSoup in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 20 insightful - 2 fun20 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 2 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Someone without a backbone and self-confidence and who acts like a doormat. Differences of opinion make life interesting. I can't stand when someone agrees with everybody and has no strong convictions about anything.
Are you child-free? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 15 insightful - 4 fun15 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 4 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
No kids. I'll be happy to be the cool lesbian aunt.
Who did you get crushes on as a child? by Depressed in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Never had a crush on a boy. I had really intense friendships with girls and many extremely embarrassing teacher crushes.
Do you come out to acquaintances/friends or just let them assume you're straight unless there's a good reason to correct them? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I also do the 'assumed straight' thing. I'm not sure there's a good answer. Sometimes I wish I was more openly out, but I don't want to make that my only personality trait. The downside is it's really easy to just not tell people because most won't ask.
A lot of my friends are bi so acceptance hasn't been a big issue. People do treat you differently, but I'm also a lot more relaxed around people who know so that may be why.
Exclusively homosexual animals? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 10 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 3 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Ooh I can sort of answer this!
So first up: homosexual behaviour is the only thing that can technically be measured, since asking animals about their sexual attraction doesn't usually work very well.
It gets harder when species are more similar between the sexes and less obviously dimorphic (eg roosters vs chickens, etc) because then seeing if a mate is male or female is less obvious, and nobody really wants to supervise that closely.
Also in lab conditions behaviours can change vs wild conditions and may not be considered 'normal'.
It's also usually explained as confusion on the animal's part, or a lack of choice if sex ratios are skewed, or as a non-sexual behaviour altogether (some males use it as a dominance thing). Also, science seems to not like the idea very much (but that's just my interpretation).
All that to say that I don't personally know of any exclusively homosexual animals and it would also be hard for a species to survive if they truly were exclusively homosexual (unless only some individuals of that species were, like humans- but again, hard to measure).
This was super long, apologies for that. Check out Laysan albatrosses, they're pretty cool (or just google lesbian albatrosses, same result).
Women are just objectively more aesthetically pleasing than men by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 21 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 2 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I mean, we're all probably a bit biased here ;)
But yeah, never understood what made a guy hot. It was like a guessing game.
What are your demographics? Race, ethnicity, nationality, etc. by IamWomanHearMeRoar in Lesbians
Canadian, early 20s, background is Eastern European (Jewish) and British.
Ladies, what is your favourite hair length on a woman? by Ricky_Ticky in Lesbians
Anything except super long. It ends up everywhere.
How do you stay active/exercise? by Vernalmuffins in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Running! And sometimes biking.
What's your favorite biome? by reluctant_commenter in Lesbians
No, I haven't. I'll check it out!
Deserts! I find them beautiful to look at, and the ways in which life can be sustained is so cool. Some plants and animals have certain adaptations in order to survive in the climate and it's fascinating. Also, I can't stand cold weather.
How the hell do you find likeminded lesbians in left-wing places? by ohbarnacles in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Left-wingers tend to be pretty vocal about their political standpoints. Might have better luck with lesbians who don't shout about it from the rooftops.
Also, if they're rational people, having different opinions and perspectives is respected. But that's not always the case.
Languages you speak/are learning? by Vernalmuffins in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I know French but haven't used it for a while so it's slowly slipping away. Also did a few years of Latin which is useful approximately never, and I took a year of Italian so have some basics but it's very shaky.
Currently working on Hebrew since I've been to Israel and have plans to go back hopefully soon. It's going ok, but definitely the hardest language to pick up so far.
Femme, butch or something else? by [deleted] in Lesbians
I don't really identify as anything, but others would consider me femme. Nobody thinks I'm a lesbian, but there are some 'tells' if you know what to look for.
It's so frustrating because I can feel how differently I'm treated if I wear makeup, heels, dresses, etc. People are nicer and more helpful but men are also so much creepier. Back when I had my hair really short people were more passive aggressive if not outright rude.
Discord Servers by SplendidTwenties in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Definitely interested in an invite if you do set up a discord!
What are your future goals? by IamWomanHearMeRoar in Lesbians
Ultramarathon! It's any distance over a marathon. Hoping to start with a 50k and go from there
Where’s everyone from? by IamWomanHearMeRoar in Lesbians
Canadian checking in!
Anyone else have trouble finding decent people? by peaked in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I've actually had better luck meeting people irl, but most were total flukes so that doesn't really help. Apps suck and it always ends up being the same people. If nobody wants to make an effort to meet up after chatting then it usually fizzles out (and if you don't live in the same city, well, good luck).
There was a thread on TrueLesbians like a year ago, basically seeing if anyone was in the same city. Might be time to start another one?
Does anyone else here can't relate to men? by oofreesouloo in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 30 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 0 fun31 insightful - 0 fun31 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I find men easier to get along with on a superficial level, but I've only ever had deeper emotional connections with women. I also find 'bro culture' really off-putting.
How to meet fellow lesbians - volunteer / do community work by Innisfree in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
That's evil 🤣
[–]plotbunny 9 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 5 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Lol yes. This. I rode for a while and the level of crazy among equestrians in general seems to be a bit higher ime. I can only imagine what a group of lesbian equestrians would be like.
What are the most lesbian friendly cities? by [deleted] in Lesbians
Yeah, the timing isn't great unfortunately. We'll definitely check out the village!
Any recommendations for places to go? A friend and I are planning a trip
What is Your Personal Style? by CJLez in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
I'm a student, so it's mostly jeans and converse for everyday, and neutral colours. Heels occasionally, makeup if I feel like it. I do love a well-fitted jacket or blazer.
Were you the weird kid? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians
Yeah, I was one of the weird ones. It's tough because I've always been a bit reserved and quiet around people I don't know well. I've usually ended up finding the other weird ones and they've mostly been really good friends. Usually it just boils down to different/less common interests (and a lot were also LGB).
What are you looking for in a woman/relationship? by [deleted] in Lesbians
Someone extroverted who is open to trying new things, but doesn't take herself too seriously.
Likes to keep active. Has some direction in life. Less feminine than me. High sex drive and a good sense of humour would be cool.
When love hits like lightning by Ricky_Ticky in Lesbians
Give her space, don't hang around waiting for her to change her mind
Lesbian podcasts? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians
Pants is good! Even without watching the l word it's still fun to listen to.
If you want to help fellow Truelesbians keep reading by Anniesworld in Lesbians
I know the chat for the sub is still active and the link to Saidit has been posted in it a few times, but there aren't that many users in the chat. Still, it's a start.
Favorite features on women by [deleted] in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Dark hair, a bit of a deeper/lower voice, and confidence.
Best arguments against sexual fluidity amongst lesbians? by [deleted] in Lesbians
[–]plotbunny 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
There's also a type of albatross that sees a lot of female pair bonds and even raising young together. To be fair it's thought to mainly occur due to a skewed sex ratio, but it's still pretty cool.
What book changed your life? by southpaw in Lesbians
Le Comte de Monte-Cristo. As to why, I'm not sure. It's always kind of stuck with me.
Did anyone else believe you were asexual for a considerable amount of time? by [deleted] in Lesbians
Yeah, I had a few years as a teen where I used asexual to describe myself. I had a lot of internalized homophobia and it was easier to say I didn't like anyone. Didn't really help that nobody I knew ID'd as a lesbian and a few of my crushes transitioned- had me questioning for a while where I fit in. Went through a bunch of identities while trying to ignore the obvious.
Now it's better and worse in that a bunch of people came out right after high school, but they're all woke. The few lesbians I have met have been pretty cool, and it feels so good to no longer be hiding part of myself. But it took a while to get here.
Let's Reintroduce Ourselves by [deleted] in Lesbians
I've been on a bit of a St. Vincent kick lately, and I've been trying to find a Tracy Chapman record for a while but no luck yet (Fast Car is sooo good!). Also hoping to add some Ramones albums at some point.
What are you listening to? It's fun to go hunt for vinyl, never know what you might find!
Fellow lesbians, describe your religious backgrounds and beliefs by lmaonope333 in Lesbians
Grew up with both Jewish and Christian holidays, technically fully Jewish but definitely not religious. Still celebrate some holidays but it's more a chance to see family.
[–]plotbunny 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun - 3 years ago (0 children)
Hey! I mostly lurked on TL but going to try to be more active here. Loved having a community, especially since the scene in my city is not great.
I'm a femme lesbian in my early twenties and like running, biking, and music- working on building my record collection.