Where is everyone?

plotbunny · 2021-11-09T20:57:06+00:00

Ovarit, Club Monocle, a few discord servers. I pop by here from time to time. Otherwise just busy with life.

plotbunny · 2021-02-20T21:48:22+00:00

I've been here for a while and used to comment more, but lately it feels kind of dead. There were also a few posters whose posts and comments I really enjoyed who seem to have left.

Can't explain the silent new people though.

plotbunny · 2020-11-29T18:52:28+00:00

Same but no girlfriend. I'm thinking about moving to a different country partly because the dating scene here is so bad. Everyone is all about the pronouns and/or have boyfriends but want to be special. Where are the normal lesbians?

plotbunny · 2020-11-25T14:02:32+00:00

Planned to live with a friend on a farm together and we'd both never get married because "who needs boys?"

plotbunny · 2020-11-22T16:09:56+00:00

Lesbian Connection

plotbunny · 2020-11-22T03:23:58+00:00

Canadian, 21. I wasn't planning to come out until I was in a serious relationship. My parents found out a few months ago (currently living at home) after finding a copy of LC. It was awkward for a few days but otherwise we don't discuss it and it's mostly fine.

I think everyone suspected when I got a really short (and terrible) haircut at 15 and started wearing flannel. Ironically, I hadn't figured it out at that point and was confused by the reactions (and hurt, bc some people got really weird about it).

Now, the extended family? That's a whole other thing that I'm not looking forward to dealing with when the time comes.

plotbunny · 2020-10-22T13:55:37+00:00

Business of Fashion is good. Joe Rogan has interesting guests but not my favourite podcast host.

I wish I could find a good comedy podcast.

plotbunny · 2020-09-25T00:22:04+00:00

Good: all language courses. A random assortment of other classes (sciences, music, etc) if the teacher was good.

Bad: Math and art. I've grown to like linear algebra though.

plotbunny · 2020-09-22T00:43:34+00:00

I'm good at making rational decisions but bad about wayyy overthinking things

plotbunny · 2020-09-17T01:40:16+00:00

Here the word dyke is used by everyone except lesbians. The dyke and trans marches have a lot of overlap.

plotbunny · 2020-09-15T01:38:30+00:00

I'm interested!

plotbunny · 2020-09-10T00:41:41+00:00

I'm lucky and the only change has been having all classes online for the year, which isn't great but could be worse.

It's disappointing because a lot of my courses have labs or group work, and it's usually easier to meet new people in those classes. I miss the daily social interactions. I'm doing my thesis this year so that's a bit stressful, but the format lends itself well to being done online (no fieldwork needed, etc).

My biggest concern is outbreaks off campus. A lot of students moved back even though school is online, and there will be parties. Hoping we don't have a lockdown.

plotbunny · 2020-09-07T00:03:16+00:00

Assertive is what aggressive fails to be, if that makes sense.

This is a really good way to put it

plotbunny · 2020-09-05T13:46:46+00:00

A ridiculous amount of coffee, ideally with oat milk.

plotbunny · 2020-09-05T13:42:02+00:00

Someone without a backbone and self-confidence and who acts like a doormat. Differences of opinion make life interesting. I can't stand when someone agrees with everybody and has no strong convictions about anything.

plotbunny · 2020-09-02T14:40:32+00:00

No kids. I'll be happy to be the cool lesbian aunt.

plotbunny · 2020-09-02T02:45:03+00:00

Never had a crush on a boy. I had really intense friendships with girls and many extremely embarrassing teacher crushes.

plotbunny · 2020-09-01T14:25:19+00:00

I also do the 'assumed straight' thing. I'm not sure there's a good answer. Sometimes I wish I was more openly out, but I don't want to make that my only personality trait. The downside is it's really easy to just not tell people because most won't ask.

A lot of my friends are bi so acceptance hasn't been a big issue. People do treat you differently, but I'm also a lot more relaxed around people who know so that may be why.

plotbunny · 2020-08-22T15:09:45+00:00

Ooh I can sort of answer this!

So first up: homosexual behaviour is the only thing that can technically be measured, since asking animals about their sexual attraction doesn't usually work very well.

It gets harder when species are more similar between the sexes and less obviously dimorphic (eg roosters vs chickens, etc) because then seeing if a mate is male or female is less obvious, and nobody really wants to supervise that closely.

Also in lab conditions behaviours can change vs wild conditions and may not be considered 'normal'.

It's also usually explained as confusion on the animal's part, or a lack of choice if sex ratios are skewed, or as a non-sexual behaviour altogether (some males use it as a dominance thing). Also, science seems to not like the idea very much (but that's just my interpretation).

All that to say that I don't personally know of any exclusively homosexual animals and it would also be hard for a species to survive if they truly were exclusively homosexual (unless only some individuals of that species were, like humans- but again, hard to measure).

This was super long, apologies for that. Check out Laysan albatrosses, they're pretty cool (or just google lesbian albatrosses, same result).

plotbunny · 2020-08-20T21:15:31+00:00

I mean, we're all probably a bit biased here ;)

But yeah, never understood what made a guy hot. It was like a guessing game.

plotbunny · 2020-08-17T01:30:31+00:00

Canadian, early 20s, background is Eastern European (Jewish) and British.

plotbunny · 2020-08-15T02:00:38+00:00

Anything except super long. It ends up everywhere.

plotbunny · 2020-08-13T02:57:39+00:00

Running! And sometimes biking.

plotbunny · 2020-08-13T02:19:07+00:00

No, I haven't. I'll check it out!

plotbunny · 2020-08-13T00:46:31+00:00

Deserts! I find them beautiful to look at, and the ways in which life can be sustained is so cool. Some plants and animals have certain adaptations in order to survive in the climate and it's fascinating. Also, I can't stand cold weather.

plotbunny · 2020-08-10T01:05:11+00:00

Left-wingers tend to be pretty vocal about their political standpoints. Might have better luck with lesbians who don't shout about it from the rooftops.

Also, if they're rational people, having different opinions and perspectives is respected. But that's not always the case.

plotbunny · 2020-08-09T00:17:37+00:00

I know French but haven't used it for a while so it's slowly slipping away. Also did a few years of Latin which is useful approximately never, and I took a year of Italian so have some basics but it's very shaky.

Currently working on Hebrew since I've been to Israel and have plans to go back hopefully soon. It's going ok, but definitely the hardest language to pick up so far.

plotbunny · 2020-08-05T14:28:31+00:00

I don't really identify as anything, but others would consider me femme. Nobody thinks I'm a lesbian, but there are some 'tells' if you know what to look for.

It's so frustrating because I can feel how differently I'm treated if I wear makeup, heels, dresses, etc. People are nicer and more helpful but men are also so much creepier. Back when I had my hair really short people were more passive aggressive if not outright rude.

plotbunny · 2020-08-04T14:18:21+00:00

Definitely interested in an invite if you do set up a discord!

plotbunny · 2020-08-04T14:07:43+00:00

Ultramarathon! It's any distance over a marathon. Hoping to start with a 50k and go from there

plotbunny · 2020-08-04T02:50:15+00:00

get into grad school
move to a city I want to live in
actually be in a relationship
(less important) run my first ultra

plotbunny · 2020-08-01T19:00:16+00:00

Canadian checking in!

plotbunny · 2020-07-31T02:33:15+00:00

I've actually had better luck meeting people irl, but most were total flukes so that doesn't really help. Apps suck and it always ends up being the same people. If nobody wants to make an effort to meet up after chatting then it usually fizzles out (and if you don't live in the same city, well, good luck).

There was a thread on TrueLesbians like a year ago, basically seeing if anyone was in the same city. Might be time to start another one?

plotbunny · 2020-07-30T18:50:36+00:00

I find men easier to get along with on a superficial level, but I've only ever had deeper emotional connections with women. I also find 'bro culture' really off-putting.

plotbunny · 2020-07-30T03:04:18+00:00

That's evil 🤣

plotbunny · 2020-07-30T02:42:17+00:00

Lol yes. This. I rode for a while and the level of crazy among equestrians in general seems to be a bit higher ime. I can only imagine what a group of lesbian equestrians would be like.

plotbunny · 2020-07-29T23:28:36+00:00

Yeah, the timing isn't great unfortunately. We'll definitely check out the village!

plotbunny · 2020-07-29T01:22:19+00:00

Any recommendations for places to go? A friend and I are planning a trip

plotbunny · 2020-07-28T18:55:30+00:00

I'm a student, so it's mostly jeans and converse for everyday, and neutral colours. Heels occasionally, makeup if I feel like it. I do love a well-fitted jacket or blazer.

plotbunny · 2020-07-27T21:03:23+00:00

Yeah, I was one of the weird ones. It's tough because I've always been a bit reserved and quiet around people I don't know well. I've usually ended up finding the other weird ones and they've mostly been really good friends. Usually it just boils down to different/less common interests (and a lot were also LGB).

plotbunny · 2020-07-25T06:10:56+00:00

Someone extroverted who is open to trying new things, but doesn't take herself too seriously.

Likes to keep active. Has some direction in life. Less feminine than me. High sex drive and a good sense of humour would be cool.

plotbunny · 2020-07-24T16:59:28+00:00

Give her space, don't hang around waiting for her to change her mind

plotbunny · 2020-07-24T04:01:33+00:00

Pants is good! Even without watching the l word it's still fun to listen to.

plotbunny · 2020-07-22T13:43:33+00:00

I know the chat for the sub is still active and the link to Saidit has been posted in it a few times, but there aren't that many users in the chat. Still, it's a start.

plotbunny · 2020-07-21T00:01:03+00:00

Dark hair, a bit of a deeper/lower voice, and confidence.

plotbunny · 2020-07-19T17:34:50+00:00

There's also a type of albatross that sees a lot of female pair bonds and even raising young together. To be fair it's thought to mainly occur due to a skewed sex ratio, but it's still pretty cool.

plotbunny · 2020-07-15T04:07:48+00:00

Le Comte de Monte-Cristo. As to why, I'm not sure. It's always kind of stuck with me.

plotbunny · 2020-07-15T03:57:21+00:00

Yeah, I had a few years as a teen where I used asexual to describe myself. I had a lot of internalized homophobia and it was easier to say I didn't like anyone. Didn't really help that nobody I knew ID'd as a lesbian and a few of my crushes transitioned- had me questioning for a while where I fit in. Went through a bunch of identities while trying to ignore the obvious.

Now it's better and worse in that a bunch of people came out right after high school, but they're all woke. The few lesbians I have met have been pretty cool, and it feels so good to no longer be hiding part of myself. But it took a while to get here.

plotbunny · 2020-07-12T02:36:11+00:00

I've been on a bit of a St. Vincent kick lately, and I've been trying to find a Tracy Chapman record for a while but no luck yet (Fast Car is sooo good!). Also hoping to add some Ramones albums at some point.

What are you listening to? It's fun to go hunt for vinyl, never know what you might find!

plotbunny · 2020-07-11T20:24:33+00:00

Grew up with both Jewish and Christian holidays, technically fully Jewish but definitely not religious. Still celebrate some holidays but it's more a chance to see family.

plotbunny · 2020-07-11T02:38:20+00:00

Hey! I mostly lurked on TL but going to try to be more active here. Loved having a community, especially since the scene in my city is not great. I'm a femme lesbian in my early twenties and like running, biking, and music- working on building my record collection.

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