loveSloane

Okay…

You’re gonna be waiting forever. They’d have to pretty much rearrange you’re entire skeleton to not have any give always that you’re male. Until they can do a full body/brain transplant you’re going to be male.

Even if you don’t pass, you could go outside because most people aren’t think in about you or worried about you. We truly don’t care. Granted some people may- but that’s true for females and poc and lgb etc, most people don’t care when they see us… some do.

No part of your body is meant to have the hormone levels you have. You want them and think you need them because of dysphoria. Dysphoria doesn’t change what your body needs and how it’s supposed to function. If your dysphoria were being treated more effectively you’d understand this.

The only way you’d understand womanhood/being a female is by being a female. There’s nothing you can do.

Waking up in a different body is not the same as waking up in the body you’ve always had and wishing you woke up with a different body

You can say you know it in your core- you don’t. You have never existed in a female body to know what that is like. Even today any experience you may have is that of a male who (as you say) is perceived as female. It’s still a male perspective.

Again- that’s narcissism. Getting to do what you want to your body and with your life and leaving everyone else out of it is not enough. The whole world has to bend for you? And you think that’s reasonable?

You want to be stealth, meaning mislead and lie to people for the rest of your life? So… you want to be dishonest with every relationship or friendship you have and yet I assume would want those people to love you for you and be able to trust you as you actively continue to withhold information that could matter deeply to them so you can have the life you want? And that’s morally sound to you? And it wouldn’t bother you that you’d never know if they’d accept you for all of you?

I know we are different people. We are also different sexes. And the term you are using, the term you’re tying to claim is some sort of identity, is the only word in the world that is meant solely to distinguish between me and you and acknowledge the differences between us. You seek to erase that by altering the word to suit you. I get you feel how you do about your body- but why take from women in order to alleviate your distress? Even if it’s just the language meant to describe and define women, why take that from them?

It’s not me who offers no recourse for your pain, it’s life. It’s biology. It’s fact. It’s your own body. Once again, Idgaf if you accept reality or not. Reality exists regardless of your acceptance. What I want is to not have my spaces or rights or language corrupted for your benefit.

If there were alternative treatments you very well could still be alive without transition. We won’t ever know. But my point was just that bodies are not unhealthy just because the mind rejects them. It wasn’t about your feelings, I was responding to discussing whether or not your body was objectively healthy or not pre transition and it was.

Calling someone mentally ill is meant to try to explain that the issue is with the brain not the body. It was stated because this whole time I’ve been saying that you can’t fix the mental by altering the physical. Even now with you having transitioned you’re talking about putting your brain in a computer, hiding because a fucking stranger may notice that youre male, wanting to kill yourself rather than live i. Your body as it would naturally look- that’s mental illness. Stating it doesn’t take the mental illness away, but it still needs to be acknowledged that this is severe mental illness on display.

The people who try to “cure” you may actually be able to. Maybe not you specifically, but many dysphoric people. Which is why in my first comment I said if a therapist/psychologist has attempted other forms of treatment and the patient is no better then I would understand then recommending transition as a last resort. Something tells me you’d be one of those patients anyway.

And many patients have to have their autonomy “removed” because they aren’t of sound mind. I’m not saying you’re one of those people, to be clear, but you act as if it’s never okay for doctors or whomever to intervene and make choices for their patients but it happens all the time when necessary. If you were suicidal you’d be put on watch and possibly medicated and hospitalized- you don’t want that, you want to die. Is the doctor wrong for keeping you alive against your will?

Trying other forms of treatment before resorting to the most drastic treatment possible is reasonable. It just doesn’t automatically give any dysphoric person what they want and that is what seems to be the problem. If you’re willing to literally surgically alter every part of your skeleton to appear female, what is the issue in waiting until you’ve exhausted all other alternatives to do something that extreme?

I know it’s a mental illness because it’s not normal for a brain to reject one’s sexed body lol

Trans people’s (or rather dysphoric people’s) brains are wired differently. As are bipolar people and schizophrenic people and pretty much any one else with a mental disorder/illness. You not what’s not wired differently? Their bodies. They still have a sex just like the bipolar person or schizophrenic person. So why should we treat this one disorder by indulging their symptoms when we wouldn’t do that for anyone else?

You’re always going to be seen as your sex by society. Maybe some will pretend that’s not the case, but there will always be a need or reason for distinguishing between the sex you wish you were and the sex you are. So even if we all pretended we thought TW were women, there’d still be people putting qualifiers and limits on that. And there’d still be discussions about whether this type of woman should be eligible for this scholarship or grant, if this type of woman should job that was designated for a woman, this sport meant to provide equality for females, or even just wanting to date or be friends with you. Sex matters and becomes relevant in the day to day for a multitude of reasons. Most people aren’t willing to pretend it doesn’t so a small portion of the population can feel validated in their sense of self. And they shouldn’t have to.