what is this bullshit

knownasness · 2020-10-17T19:09:05+00:00

literally everything. no idea why women bother with men other than money. it's so much better on this side.

knownasness · 2020-08-08T15:56:32+00:00

boobs are weak. the butt is where its at. (i think i'm biased because i have huge boobs and am tired of them)

knownasness · 2020-08-06T02:48:18+00:00

and of course the L is last. i'm over this shit "community"

knownasness · 2021-01-22T21:21:49+00:00

if this ONE issue would make you vote for trump after everything he has put EVERYONE through, then something is wrong with you. it doesn't even directly effect you. posts like these make question being apart of this group and others like it. yall really might be crazy. i don't agree that trans folks should be apart of the gay community, i don't want "transbians" to be a thing, and i really hate that they've overtaken the "movement", but that doesn't mean i don't want them to have rights. if they wanna "fight" for this dumb ass country, then go right on ahead. when it comes to lesbian and women erasure, that's what i have an issue with. letting them in the military doesn't do that. get a grip.

knownasness · 2020-09-04T17:13:04+00:00

i have no opinion on this topic, i just want to reiterate that bisexual lesbians aren't a thing.

knownasness · 2021-02-05T17:59:43+00:00

how is it improper when they're both lesbians? them being lesbians is proper representation because it's what they are. that'd be like someone telling me i misrepresent black people because i'm light skinned or that i misrepresent americans because i'm not dumb as fuck. it makes no sense. you can't misrepresent something when you ARE what you are. people come in all different kinds of styles, you can't write them off simply because they don't look like what you believe they should look like. you aren't less of a woman or a lesbian because you dress in mens clothing. do you also have a problem with effeminate gay men? or androgynous(not butch) men/women? how are you different yourself and think like this? WHY do you think like this?

knownasness · 2021-02-05T03:07:56+00:00

the fact it was active unlike here. not having the sub be 90% memes. general woman camaraderie. and also it seemed to be a bit older than AL and all the other lesbian subs(outside of late bloomers..which..no thanks). i have no interest in hearing about teenagers and mentally ill men talk about first dates, how much they miss a girl they went on a single date with and the 289587945 memes about useless lesbianism.

knownasness · 2020-12-28T22:14:48+00:00

i have literally never felt the slightest attraction to a boy, man, or anyone that presents masculine. ever. it's just never been a thing in my brain. idk. it's not much of an experience as it is just.. a non issue? like, men don't exist to me in that way and they never have. i don't even dream about them romantically, sexually, etc. it's not something i ever think about until people start talking about gold stars. then i go, huh, i guess i am one of those.

knownasness · 2020-12-07T03:38:28+00:00

i'm built like a linebacker with huge boobs. it's annoying. i hate it. but others like it. whatever. i don't have a type, as long they have a nice butt i'm with it.

knownasness · 2020-10-23T05:04:44+00:00

seems like a good idea but i am not doing all that shit to get verified hahah. but good luck.

knownasness · 2020-09-05T18:57:17+00:00

is that what your part of the internet is saying? mine is saying filth is ok because its a sign of a depression and you cant help being depressed. it's a shit part of the internet.

knownasness · 2020-09-05T02:28:53+00:00

it appears so :)

knownasness · 2020-08-23T20:48:08+00:00

i pretty much stay away from dairy because it makes me fart so much and they stink so bad haha and i stay away from pasta or anything with lots of sauce because even though i'm not a particularly messy eater, i always end up with sauce on some part of me when i eat it. everything else is fair game tho.

knownasness · 2020-08-23T06:52:20+00:00

i feel like there's little 'good' you can do with such power 😂😂

knownasness · 2020-08-15T05:27:06+00:00

any sport video game. connect 4. uno. sudoku. i really want to play a huge game of tag but with corona, i doubt that'll happen soon..

knownasness · 2020-08-05T01:48:14+00:00

yeah and that's why i don't really come here too often. that's the rough part about being exiled, you're stuck with all the people that are actually fucking crazy and terrible.

knownasness · 2020-08-04T01:54:26+00:00

we are hiding. don't wanna be cancelled yanno

knownasness · 2021-01-25T18:01:35+00:00

um lol we were teenagers and we lived in different states. it went as badly as you'd think it'd go. it was a lot like how i imagine kids relationships are these days. we texted all day except in class and spent most of our alone time infront of her parents. it ended because entirely too many people were invested in our relationship and one of them was one of her friends that had a crush on her. said friend told her that i cheated on her. she believed them. that was that. we're cool now because she eventually found out that i wasn't and the friend was simply trying to "take my place". hahah dumb kid shit. i WANT to say it taught me to not let the whole damn world in my relationship. but like 7 years later i did it again and again it went badly hahahahha i learned nothing

knownasness · 2021-01-05T16:59:55+00:00

i want to say i'm all for people not being made to be uncomfortable and i suppose these questions help do that for the "others" but jesus christ. it's all so unnecessary. if i went to my gyno and had to deal with this i'd be pissed off.

knownasness · 2020-12-14T22:12:25+00:00

ha, love it

knownasness · 2020-12-12T20:43:35+00:00

it's so frustrating. there's nothing wrong with being a woman. i have always preferred "boys" clothes and most of my interests are stereotypically "male" ones but i have never been or felt like anything other than a woman. i wish more women were secure in their womanhood so we wouldn't have to keep making threads like this. you don't have to question who and what you are because the world is telling you that the things you like and do aren't for women. it's all nonsense. you define what being a woman is because you were born one.

knownasness · 2020-11-06T18:30:24+00:00

that's the thing though. i don't think they will change anything. they do not learn from their mistakes, if they had, bernie would've been the nominee this time around. they refuse to play dirty like the republicans even though it's clear that's the only damn way. they're going to forever to take the "bigger person" approach as though it will help them gain voters and that will NEVER BE THE CASE. the only reason biden is going to win is because of the handful of people who are starving and about to become homeless due to trump. if it weren't for the pandemic, he'd easily be handed a second term. this country is shit.

knownasness · 2020-11-06T09:36:40+00:00

voted for the very first time because even though my state is blue.. i figured the more votes, the less chance there is that he fights the results. i just knew it'd be a landslide after the year we've had and yet!!!! america does nothing but disappoint me. this thread is mostly disappointing. we do not deserve good things, as a species.

knownasness · 2020-10-26T04:50:33+00:00

there really aren't any hahhah it's nasty out here

knownasness · 2020-10-18T19:42:18+00:00

i'm black so there's nothing in any of this for me. regardless of who's running the gov't, we're never going to get what we're owed from this country, we're never going to be properly protected or cared for and we're never going to be equals so i really don't care to align myself with any particular party or ideology. that being said, i'm voting for the first time this year, and i'm voting blue. i can't really fuck with anyone that won't do the same. like, i saw someone in this very thread mention how dems are the reason the trans thing blew up and i mean, ok, i guess.. but, so? there are far more pressing issues than the transgender bullshit right now.. like, the whole pandemic thing we're still very much so in the midst of, for one. also, the same way they don't fuck with transgender folk is the same way they don't fuck with rest of this community. if Ts lose their rights, we're gonna be next. don't know how you could support that. politics is dumb man. i wish it were less about sticking it to certain groups and more about HELPING EACH OTHER.

knownasness · 2020-09-25T19:02:36+00:00

honestly i want the world to burn. it's so bad. humans are awful. we've ruined the earth and each other.. i feel like that's all we do. it's hard for me to think about the future knowing that for 90% of the world, it's going to be full of unnecessary struggle. i feel we have the means to make sure that all 7 billion of us don't have to go without shelter, food, healthcare, etc.. and yet, so many of us do. that's frustrating. we don't deserve to continue as a species.

on a lighter, superficial note, i hope to finally see France. visit all the many museums. hang out in the gardens of Versailles. see the lavender fields. walk along the seine. catch a PSG match. lay on a saint tropez beach. stuff my face with authentic french cuisine. yanno.. all the good shit.

knownasness · 2020-09-17T00:43:48+00:00

i legit bought like 20 hoodies in the first 2 months of quarantine so yeah, that hahaha.

knownasness · 2020-09-05T17:01:51+00:00

tardiness. i can understand if you're late once or twice, but it shouldn't be a habit. i need you to respect my time like i respect yours. there was one woman that i liked in almost every way but she was constantly tardy so i had to let her go. literally begged me to hang out all the time, but whenever we made plans, she was always late. not 5 or 10 mins, like.. an hour. i can't get down with that. we lasted 2 dates/3 hang outs before i said i'm good. it sucks cause she was dope and i was excited to get to know her more.. but if you can't manage your time properly then we will never work. i'm always at least 15 mins early anywhere.

knownasness · 2020-08-27T15:17:55+00:00

no pics of themselves. i understand privacy issues and maybe not wanting to out yourself but i personally don't want to be involved with someone that can't post a single picture of themselves. they usually don't put a real name either. what if you end up talking to your cousin or something? hahah. also, people that list their moon and sun rising signs. not into that astrology nonsense so once i see any mention of it, i'm out. same goes for myers briggs. have no interest in someone who lets a personality test or the stars speak for them. let YOU speak for you.

knownasness · 2020-08-25T21:41:19+00:00

sorry you're going thru this.

knownasness · 2020-08-15T15:34:50+00:00

i don't understand the big deal about doxxing, personally. when i was a kid, i saw the internet as 'not real' and i treated people in such a way. it completely backfired on me(as it should've), because of course.. people are real. they have real thoughts, feelings, etc. everyone on the internet should act in a way that shows this, but they don't. we've tricked ourselves into thinking being on the internet means we have the right to anonymity and it doesn't. it shouldn't. everyone everywhere should be held accountable for their actions and words, especially if it's directly harmful to people and groups.

back on topic though, fuck bardfinn.

knownasness · 2020-08-13T16:48:06+00:00

i mean.. i can't call it. i've never known someone to name potatoes on their own without also including at least 2 of the other ways potatoes can be prepared. but then again, some just like regular old potatoes. they were my favorite thing when i was a youngin. idk man.

knownasness · 2020-08-12T15:34:22+00:00

jigsaw puzzles and sneakers. i'm a woman of simple tastes.

knownasness · 2020-08-09T20:24:12+00:00

i love a big ol dork. they're the best. extra points if they snort when they laugh.

knownasness · 2020-08-08T16:07:21+00:00

downelink. it was like the gay myspace in the mid 2000s.

knownasness · 2020-08-02T05:37:36+00:00

nyc. it's the best. i wish i could go outside and do shit tho.

knownasness · 2020-07-21T01:07:08+00:00

softness. full lips. wide smiles but also cute grins. ah, women. so good, so good.

knownasness · 2021-02-21T20:28:18+00:00

literally all the women i've dated have been bisexual.. but they started out as super duper lesbians. i don't care about dating right now, but if that ever changes i'd be open to it, mostly because i don't think i can escape it.

knownasness · 2021-02-05T19:13:27+00:00

i mentioned this in another thread, it's the downside to sharing views with legit crazy people. when you have "extreme" views, you're bound to get stuck with extremists.

knownasness · 2021-02-05T19:07:55+00:00

why do you think like this?

knownasness · 2021-01-24T21:19:53+00:00

smh. the one thing i respect about the hasbians i've dated is that once they realized men weren't as off limits as they should be given they were supposed to be lesbians, they immediately stopped calling themselves lesbians. i don't know what's wrong with this new generation. i don't get why women(and men) that aren't lesbians want to be one so bad. be who the fuck you are dude.

knownasness · 2021-01-21T23:28:45+00:00

i'm 32. i've been mutually involved with 5 women. there was one that lasted over a decade, but it was on and off and we were never together for longer than 2.5 consecutive years at a time. the others ranged from 9M to 2Y. i don't date because i no longer believe that the person i "need" or want exists. i thought that the most recent reconciliation with my long time love would be it for me(and us) since we had both gotten "better" during our last break and things were finally perfect. i was wrong. she straight up told me MULTIPLE times that she loved me because of x and y things and the final time she said it is when i realized that she wasn't in it for the same reasons i was. when i thought about why i loved her(or anyone), it didn't come back to this or that thing they do, it was because of who they were. that's how i thought she loved me. that's how i love people. that's how i want to be loved. having that realization(and subsequent breakdown hahah) made me look at all other relationships in my life and saw that it was pretty much the case across the board outside of my current best friend, my nephews and my mom. i don't like that. you shouldn't care less about someone when they aren't useful to you in some form.

knownasness · 2021-01-21T17:44:46+00:00

i learned that i am better off alone. i am not someone that will ever be loved for who i am, only what i do and provide others. i didn't mind it for a long time because i like to help people, i like to get shit done, but it becomes exhausting very quickly. and also, frankly, i deserve better. i learned that people are absolutely more selfish than i ever thought they could be. i learned that relationships aren't meant to last forever. not the romantic ones, not the platonic ones, not even the familial ones. we are constantly growing and changing and as we do, so do our connections to others. it's probably the hardest thing i've had to come to terms with. i'm not someone that "opens" up to many people because i'm not someone that opens up period.. so when i do, and then i "lose" that connection because their priorities change or our shared interests change or we straight up don't like each other anymore, that's hard for me. i invest a lot into my relationships with everyone. but that's life yanno?

knownasness · 2021-01-10T05:13:34+00:00

honestly, i have no idea. a large part of me wants to say nothing. the women i've dated have all loved my writing but i don't do that anymore really. i'm thoughtful and dependable and while i believe they make me a good partner, they aren't interesting or particularly attractive things to most people. i got nothing. sucks lol

knownasness · 2021-01-06T12:02:12+00:00

dude hell yeah. i like long bios and profiles that actually kinda give me a glimpse into the person because a picture does nothing for me by itself.. but every single page i come across that has more than 2 sentences all have a version of this. it's super annoying.

knownasness · 2020-12-02T22:12:48+00:00

and theyre not even 25 yet. fucking crazy.

knownasness · 2020-12-01T19:19:30+00:00

I've never liked her...them. he. whatever. I was just talking to my brother about how much i hate their umbrella academy character because i just finished binge watching the second season and love it, aside from their scenes and the fact they are a central point in the story. Literally nearly fucks up the whole show for me. I wish they would replace them.

knownasness · 2020-11-22T04:21:57+00:00

i have no interest in dating so. yeah. i finally went back to work in october but it appears as though i will be back home late january, and maybe for good. i really like my job and it's taken me a very long time to find a job that i like with people that i like that also know how to do their jobs so.. bummer. i've gone back to school so that i have something to "fall back on" if i do indeed permanently lose my job. i can live on my savings/current earnings for another year or so, maybe more if we're given a stimulus package or 2 next year, but it'll take me 2 more years to graduate/learn anything usable in my current field so that kinda sucks. i am not looking forward to another shutdown but i'm certain it will happen. i'm just.. super bummed. i was so close to having everything(excluding the dating thing) figured out and in place.. and now, nothing. i know i'm not the only one, and i'm fortunate that i only have myself to worry about and not children or other family, but man.. not in a good place right now. i'm just glad i'm not sick.

knownasness · 2020-11-12T23:06:26+00:00

you aren't black, are you?

knownasness · 2020-11-10T00:50:49+00:00

a funny reference. a quirky photo. a nice smile.

knownasness · 2020-11-10T00:47:41+00:00

no. literally every time black people are in the spotlight for anything positive, a POC tries to piggy back off of it. it's so fucking annoying. it's like we can't be celebrated by others or celebrate amongst ourselves without someone latin or asian having a damn fit and saying "well, what about us?". we do not do this to anyone. we go to bat for literally everybody but when it's our turn, people just co-opt our movement[s] and complain about how they're always excluded. it's corny. it's even worse when white people do it because they have nothing to complain about. so tired of humanity man.

knownasness · 2020-11-08T19:26:46+00:00

they are definitely trying to weed out "terfs". i personally wouldn't say anything as someone like that is a waste of my time. on to the next one..

knownasness · 2020-11-08T18:22:55+00:00

now is not the time for this. there was one choice to make. thankfully, the country made the right one. we can get into the dems and their shitty politics AFTER we're out of the mess that trump put is in. right now, it's just not the damned time.

knownasness · 2020-11-04T03:38:51+00:00

also HP. anything relating to astrology as well.

knownasness · 2020-10-21T23:39:33+00:00

tried it twice because THEY wanted to and it was fine until they developed feelings. i'm not too pressed for sex or companionship in any form so i won't ever bother with it again. just like any relationship, i'd advise people to make sure it's what they both want and to communicate when and if that changes.

knownasness · 2020-10-17T18:52:34+00:00

sport dykes unite. i also fall under power and butch. but sports are love, sports are life so yea.. yanno. i've only dated lipstick and hasbians(ugh) but i wouldn't say that's what i'm most attracted to. i'm definitely not into the activist and other butches tho. idk. anyone mostly femme and not awful is what i'm attracted to.

knownasness · 2020-10-06T16:44:10+00:00

it was fun. i goofed off way too much though. it was the early 2000s. there were a dozen or so of us(out of nearly 400) that were out. we didn't wear rainbow gear or have a coalition or club(but we all did play on 1 or more of the same sports teams), it was just another thing we had in common. some of us were involved(not with each other) but we didn't date inside the school. it was normal to us back then but now i'm wondering if it was a gay thing? like maybe subconsciously we didn't want that on display for whatever reason? idk. but yeah. it was a super 'normal' hs experience, i even joined in with the straight girls when they talked about the cute boys in the school. one of said boys had a crush on ME for one year. which was weird. cause i'm masculine. but i mean. whatever. hahah. hs was dope man. if i could do it all over, i def would, but i would hate to have to do it during THIS time. not the virtual learning part, but the TRA taking over everything part. i was able to have a normal hs experience because i didnt center my entire personality around being gay and neither did anyone else. i cannot say that that would be the case if i were in hs today and that sucks. sorry you didnt get to be your truest self at such a critical age <3

knownasness · 2020-10-01T13:27:31+00:00

i never cared for it until i was maybe 20? i used to wear euphoria by calvin klein because that's what my brother bought me for christmas every year and then i switched to i forget the name but it was something by christian dior and now i wear far away by avon because it was my moms scent and she gave it to me. i love slightly fruity scents. i don't think they're necessary but it's never a bad thing to smell extra good. the people who smell like they took a bath in it are the worst though. my ex hated when i wore anything because she's a hippie and prefers that i smell like me, which isn't bad, but i prefer to have a lil extra razzle dazzle.

knownasness · 2020-09-30T23:37:40+00:00

dude you just gotta convince yourself to go for it, regardless of what could happen. i mean, while keeping your safety in mind, of course. maybe to weed out the catfish and possibly dangerous people next time, suggest taking a walk to get coffee or something first, then cuddles?

knownasness · 2020-09-30T13:15:15+00:00

i'm pretty much the same way i am with my friends, except i don't kiss my friends. lots of random touching, hugging, general closeness.

knownasness · 2020-09-29T23:07:28+00:00

i haven't celebrated halloween in so long. i've never been big on dressing up but i love carving pumpkins, decorating and giving out candy.. but it's been years. this year i was gonna go out and party as either miles morales or the black power ranger and while i'm sure people will still have parties, i'm not comfortable going to them soo.. no halloween for me. for the past 4 years i've been bringing candy to work but i'm not sure i'll be back at work by halloween.. and from what i've heard from those who are back, we can't even share food anymore so i don't think it'd be allowed anyway. this year sucks so bad.

knownasness · 2020-09-27T03:07:47+00:00

either there's some other reason and she doesn't want to tell you it, she think you guys aren't serious enough or she's just selfish. dude honestly, i don't mean to judge or come off as a dick, but from your other posts, i don't know why you're still with her(them?). if it were me i would've been gone. i get that we have a smaller dating pool than our straight and bi counterparts so it may be harder to find someone to vibe with but fuck that.

knownasness · 2020-09-25T00:24:35+00:00

i didn't have a 'worst' subject, school is easy. i definitely didn't care for history class though. stem courses have always been my fave, but i performed best in maths. and i'm a jock so PE was also a fav.

knownasness · 2020-09-23T21:03:42+00:00

we can't joke about anything that's uniquely lesbian OR uniquely tied to womanhood. both sides of the trans coin are ridiculous. i have a condition that only women can have and there are very little spaces where women with said condition can talk about it.. lately i've noticed more and more threads get deleted or completely derailed when one talks broadly(vs talking about their own self) about any issues that we may or may not face. it's so damn annoying. you wanna walk around with a dick on and grow hair on your face, that's fine.. but it does not change what's going on inside of you. it isn't something that can go away with a surgery or with hormone injections. you can't change biological realities. so ridiculous.

knownasness · 2020-09-23T17:02:49+00:00

i've always been scared of large bodies of water. like the thought of just being in the middle of the ocean terrifies me. i could probably calm myself down if i end up in a wide river or smallish lake. but if i were dropped in or floated out to a body of water big enough that i couldn't see any kind of land near me.. i'd lose my shit immediately. luckily, it hasn't happened. but i've dreamt about it happening and i always wake up from those dreams with my heart pounding out of damn chest. so yeah. fuck that. also, snakes. but that's recent. a neighbor's boa tried to eat me when i was like 10 and i haven't fucked with snakes since. can't even look at pictures of them without freaking out.

knownasness · 2020-09-22T05:54:01+00:00

i'm good at things that require thought and logic. i'm who people go to to make sense of things or to fix things. i'm not good at being a human hahah i don't like small talk and superficial conversations or feelings. i don't care about money or career advancement. i don't care about maintaining relationships. i don't care about all of the things that the world tell you you need to care about to live your best life. but life is going pretty alright so i don't intend on changing that..

knownasness · 2020-09-22T05:48:20+00:00

hell yeah man. it's rare that i even meet other cool masc lesbians these days.. but the few dope ones i have 'vibed' with are all 'theys' now. it's weak. it's really not that bad being a woman i promise. so weird.

knownasness · 2020-09-19T19:41:09+00:00

eh, i get it, but i don't hate it. people don't consider anything they do to be representative of actual women. even their particular brand of outrageousness is exclusive to them. no one else acts the way they do. i will say that i don't understand why we call them 'shes' tho. regardless of what they're wearing, they're still men.. makes no sense. they have always been a thing in our community and all the ones i've known have been lovely gentlemen. i think if rupaul and his show hadn't made a bigger spectacle of them, it wouldn't be as bad as it is currently.

knownasness · 2020-09-16T06:44:04+00:00

i hate my name, but not because it's feminine.. it's just wack to me haha. i go by a shortened, less wack version of it. i wouldn't bother legally changing it to that version though. but, i am not you. if your name bothers you and you have the means and time to change it then you should.

knownasness · 2020-09-13T18:27:51+00:00

yea. 7th grade. we were like 2 months into the semester, and she was the new kid. we were a small school, roughly 80-100 students per grade, and most of us had gone to elementary together so everyone knew and was cool with everyone. new kids weren't really a thing for us. i remember the class freaking out when our teacher said the principal was coming to our room, because such an occurrence was usually followed by bad news. but not this time..

she had the most beautiful brown eyes. and her laugh was greatest thing i had ever heard.

we clicked instantly. turns out she had problems at home, so her parents sent her to live with her grandmother, who lived not too far from where i did. i walked her home everyday. there was one particular incident during one of our walks that i'll never forget..

so, i'm a 'butch', 'stud', etc. i've been dressing 'like a boy' from the wee old age of 5. that's when i built up the courage to tell my mother 'no more dresses' (outside of my brothers wedding, i haven't been in one since). it wasn't really that big of a deal when i was a kid because i hadn't grown breasts so everyone thought i was a boy, but baby listen!? once i did!? it was all everyone talked about. (to be fair, they're huge and always have been. what 11 year old just grows DDs overnight?) anyway, me and my love were walking home, we past a group of men(not boys, MEN) and them being the disgusting men they were, decide to throw a whole bunch of bullshit our way, mostly aimed at me, my chest, how "weird" i am, etc. i've never been someone that paid strangers any mind. but her, she's completely different. she's a firecracker. she defended the hell out of me in a way that no one ever has(like, to this day, 20 years later, no one has). i already had a huge crush on her, but that moment changed everything. for the first time ever, i felt like i mattered.. ACTUALLY mattered to someone that wasn't my parents or older brothers(who i felt HAD to care about me). which was weird cause i had a ton of friends and extended family. none of them ever stood up for me. i felt loved. i felt safe. it was amazing.

i was broken when she had to go back to her parents house 2 years later. they lived too far, there's no way she would stay at our school. i had a cell phone and the internet back then but she didn't, so unless she made the long trip to my hood, there was no way we would ever talk or see each other again. it was hard. is it pure coincidence that i struggled in school going forward? probably not.

luckily, we reconnected in our 20s, but.. she had a whole family by then. the dream was dead hahah

but that's my baby still. forever.

knownasness · 2020-09-12T02:22:24+00:00

very much so. also very frustrating because i'm certain a good deal of them have only done so due to society. there's no possible way that 'living in your truth' for so many women means being a man. that's insanity. there's nothing wrong with being a masculine woman. there's nothing wrong with loving masculine women. there's nothing wrong with loving women period. the fact that so many women seem to think they cannot live happy lives while being a woman or being with a woman is troubling.

knownasness · 2020-09-12T00:42:40+00:00

yeah man. it was the mid 2000s, i was fresh outta high school living in a super gay city with an abundance of free time and money. i will never be that social again i'll say that much hahah i probably have like 7 actual friends now, the rest are exes and former classmates and coworkers.

knownasness · 2020-09-11T15:32:30+00:00

man, i want to say i miss downelink and myspace for this very reason. i've never felt more in tune with this community than when those networks were at their peaks. but then i think about the fact that every single 'lesbian' friend(except one) i made on those sites, and it has to be close to 200 people, are now dating/married to a man or are a man themselves. unfortunately it appears that our slice of the gay community will be always be the breeding ground for "others", whether we know it or not.

knownasness · 2020-09-10T18:31:32+00:00

you can say you aren't close to them anymore. i wouldn't ask about family on the first date but if it came up and someone were to say that, i wouldn't pry further, not until we were more familiar with each other.

knownasness · 2020-09-10T04:07:27+00:00

i want the opposite. all the books i've come across(not read.. just.. come across(i work with books)) have been fantasy books or YA and while i like some YA books, i'm tired of it. i want a regular ass book. some regular fiction. a romcom. a coming of age. an action thriller. something not "weird". and i don't want them to always be white damnit.

knownasness · 2020-09-06T17:21:35+00:00

definitely get a deep freezer, it helps! i go to costco every 3 or 4 months and stock up on meat. it's not feasible for everyone but you can get a ton of chicken for like $60(also the cost of membership) and produce is never too expensive regardless where you go. i can't eat starchy foods, but if i could i would load up on rice, potatoes, beans and pastas too. all super cheap wherever you go. if you don't like to cook every night you can make it all at once and throw it in the freezer, just hit up the dollar store and load up on containers and get to work! yummly.com is my go to for recipes. you can filter it so that it includes ingredients you have or don't have.

knownasness · 2020-09-05T18:58:01+00:00

hell yeah! i love silence. sometimes you just need to shut the fuck up. i don't get why so many people have a problem with that. silence is never awkward to me.

knownasness · 2020-09-05T02:14:43+00:00

i wanna say no.. but looking at my exes.. big foreheads and big lips seem to be a thing for me.. hahah

knownasness · 2020-09-04T17:33:03+00:00

are we counting women that aren't necessarily closeted, but feel they have no other choice but to date/marry men? (for societal, financial, religious, etc reasons) i know more than a few of those. it sucks that there are so many factors which keep women from being their true selves but this is the world we live in..

knownasness · 2020-09-03T06:48:04+00:00

it worked for me because the love of my life and i both are.. well, were people that prefer space. unfortunately, we broke up for other reasons. but there was lots of falling asleep on the phone, facetiming, virtual lunch and dinner dates, care packages, movie nights, random flowers, love letters, gifts, etc. it was fun. the time we were together was even better but we just weren't the kind of people that liked to be with anyone everyday. i'd do it again if i found someone that i actually liked and was fine with not [physically] seeing me regularly. i have no interest in being easily accessible, even to people i care about. of course i don't want to be apart forever because that's a waste of money honestly, but it definitely would have to be a thing for a good deal of time. i'm on the opposite end of the uhaul spectrum ahhaha

knownasness · 2020-09-02T18:42:56+00:00

yea everyone looks and dresses the same. it's annoying. but what can ya do

knownasness · 2020-09-02T18:37:29+00:00

no. if there was a way that i could know my kid would be JUST like me, then i'd reconsider it, but there isn't.. so no. i wouldn't be able to tolerate a child that isn't independent and quiet like i was/am. i would resent them and that's super shitty, because of course, they did not ask to be born. it sucks though because i love 'family' things.. amusement parks, board games, animated movies, etc.. my brother does a decent job of including me and i'm grateful but sometimes i wish i had my own family to do these things with, yanno?

knownasness · 2020-09-01T14:36:14+00:00

i prefer an actual woman that actually cares for me. orientation is low on my list of dating priorities.

knownasness · 2020-08-30T19:14:07+00:00

i know you can't and don't own people, but i don't share. it's exhausting enough getting to know, learning and making time for one person, never mind two or more.. i just don't have the patience for it. and group sex straight up has never been appealing to me. people can do whatever they want as long as they don't include me in their nonsense.

knownasness · 2020-08-30T19:01:20+00:00

hate to be that person but, sense of humor. i feel nothing for women that i can't laugh with regardless of how their face or body looks. i've never 'crushed' on anyone based on their looks so i don't even know how to answer this any other way. hahah. also, all of my exes are super pretty with amazing bodies so????? funny how life works.

knownasness · 2020-08-29T05:52:54+00:00

i'm 5 7 and only have dated women within 1 or 2 inches of my height but i kinda want a 6 footer to climb yanno. it doesn't matter but i think it'd be fun haha

knownasness · 2020-08-28T06:59:18+00:00

for my entire life i have been the giver, the provider, the muscle, the backbone, the everything. and honestly.. i'm tired of it. i don't like dependency because everyone has let me down when i have depended on them. after nearly 2 decades though, man, i'm exhausted. i want to be apart of a team now. i don't know the exact details of what i want, i just know that i don't want to do everything. i don't want to be the only responsible one. i want to be apart of something. i want to be able to take a day, night, week off because i trust that whoever won't fuck everything up. i don't mind being the one that does or gives more, i just don't want to be the ONLY one that does or gives anything, period.

knownasness · 2020-08-28T06:50:51+00:00

it's not suspicious but it is a bit strange.

knownasness · 2020-08-26T18:07:38+00:00

i havent gotten a haircut at all in 2020 so it looks like a mess hahah i have a medium tapered curly fro

knownasness · 2020-08-23T01:40:55+00:00

fortunate enough to have a job that has no dress code so my wardrobe is 60% joggers and pop culture t shirts. 30% hoodies. the rest is more casual, dress shirts, polos, slacks. i only wear sneakers. i have boots and dress shoes but only pull them out when necessary. i used to wear baseball hats a lot but now i mostly go hat less tho i have an assortment of beanies for when it's super cold.

decided to go back to school so i'm sure at some point i'll have to get a lot more business casual and i am dreading it.

knownasness · 2020-08-20T04:48:55+00:00

YAY. he's so cute. good job!

knownasness · 2020-08-19T15:05:49+00:00

this is essentially what i came to post. i gave up half way through since they used 'terf'. it told me everything i needed to know about why the thread was actually made.

knownasness · 2020-08-19T00:10:48+00:00

it's very hard to mess up chocolate chip cookies so i'm gonna roll with that. i've had questionable ice cream, brownies and cake but i have never met a chocolate chip cookie that i didn't like.

knownasness · 2020-08-18T14:42:54+00:00

when we were younger, we valued feelings, connections, experiences, but now she only values things and keeping up appearances. as we got older, it became less about me, the person, and more about what i could and could not do for her. she always talked about being a reality tv star so i probably should've known it was going to happen at some point, but ah, love is blinding.

knownasness · 2020-08-17T01:50:30+00:00

considering the fact they are removing said sub because of a shitton of complaints from a user about that sub, i definitely think it'd be in our best interests to have yet another back up plan. we all know just how obsessed with quieting us "those people" are.

knownasness · 2020-08-16T20:16:45+00:00

i have a 6 toed brown tabby cat named Trouble/Izzy (but only actually responds to "kitty"). i have a furry nephew that i call Ghostface, but his name is Casper and he's a 3 year old maltese. i have another furry nephew that i call Link but his name is Jameson and he's a 1 year old german shepherd. when this is all over and i move, i'm going to get a pitbull and probably name it something equally funky as the others.

knownasness · 2020-08-16T20:11:29+00:00

black(whassup Trinidad!) 32 next saturday nyc

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