JK Rowling claims society is on brink of 'medical scandal' over transgender issues

just_lesbian_things · 2020-07-27T20:03:32+00:00

nobody currently cheering this movement on will be able to credibly claim ‘we couldn’t have known

I hope so. I want heads to roll, medical licenses to be revoked. I want violent dudes called out for what they are, and I want the right-side-of-history handmaidens defending them right now to acknowledge it.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-10T16:52:00+00:00

I'm obviously of the belief that people should be able to date whoever the want without discrimination as long as it doesn't disempower the label they are associating themselves with

I'm not going to tell lesbians they can't date men. I'm going to tell women who want to date men that they can't be lesbians. I'm not policing attraction, I'm policing labels.

Male trans people are men and female trans people are women. Pretending otherwise is what got us into this mess in the first place.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-19T02:30:25+00:00

Gender is bullshit. It doesn't mean anything. You're not a "guy" and you'll never be a "guy".

Why don't you do something meaningful with your life instead of agonizing over which "gender" you're "supposed to be"? I worked, studied, read, and volunteered when I was sixteen. I visited the college I would later attend, I read books that drastically changed my worldview. Do something with your time besides idiotic shit like drinking your own blood. Libraries are free, and a lot of them offer e-books now if you can't go there due to the pandemic. Learn new computer skills on YouTube (also free). Stop wasting your time interacting with ridiculous people online and offline. Don't ask strangers like me on the internet for advice. Don't tell strangers on the internet personal information about yourself like your age and sex. (do parents and teachers not teach online stranger danger anymore!?)

cried and had panic attacks when I would shave /down there/

So... don't?

just_lesbian_things · 2020-07-19T20:33:26+00:00

I felt worse for the gay men, tbh. Maybe that's because I've been on the receiving end of this behavior from male trans people. Hets need to fuck off from homosexual spaces.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-27T20:16:08+00:00

She's a female porn star. Of course she gets way more dick than the average person. What's there to be jealous of? Is anyone actually bothered by it? Don't wanna be that guy, but the result speaks for itself- there are plenty of men out there who will fuck anything. Dick is free.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-09-02T22:01:07+00:00

I can't relate to the mentality either. Even if it was "bigotry", so what? If I was head over heels for a woman who didn't want to date me because she sees me as less than human, I wouldn't beg her for a chance. I would be concerned with how I fell for someone like that in the first place.

Their mentality is one of entitlement and male socialization, especially in a heterosexual context. They view women as coveted objects, prizes to earn. They're angry because they think they've been denied the fair shot they feel entitled to. It's the incel/nice guy "why won't these uppity bitches give me a chance" mentality.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-12T18:12:15+00:00

Because they're shit at actual organization and activism. It's an entire movement of takers and perpetual victims.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-29T03:24:23+00:00

Well you asked for honesty so I'm going to try to give you that.

Full disclosure, I am a lesbian, I am probably younger than you (in my 20s), have never been with a man and I am not a parent. Also, I think men like your SO is incredibly pathetic. I say this to acknowledge my biases and ignorance.

You say your SO is "a great dad". My previous experiences with bihet mothers is that the bar for "a great dad" is incredibly low. It takes almost nothing for a man to be considered "a great dad". I think you need to take a long, objective look at who he is and what he's bringing to the table. How much childcare duties does he take on? How much household chores does he do? Think about these things and remember them. I ask this because transgenderism is not only inherently rooted in sexism, it is rooted in ignorance. It is a collective of men who have some of the most ignorant and ridiculous idea of what it means to be a woman getting together to roleplay. It is quite literally the opposite of progress and "woke", and if he has no idea what it means to be a woman, then he likely has no idea how much work you take on. He wants to experiment with gender roles- does that include doing the majority of domestic and childcare duties? Does he take on the brunt of emotional labor the way women do in a lot of relationships?

I don't want to attribute bad intentions because I don't know him, and I have zero experience with heterosexual relationships, but it seems like a lot of men are incredibly self-centered and cannot handle not being the center of attention when their SOs get pregnant or have a new baby. In a lot of these cases, men resort to abusive behaviors, or in the case of male trans people, transitioning and seeking attention elsewhere. There are also more nefarious interpretations like men "trapping" women in relationships by getting them pregnant before showing their true colors, but I won't go into that. I just think it's incredibly selfish and irresponsible of him to do all of this when he is a father and should be putting the needs of his children first. If he cannot handle this, he has had years to get out of your relationship or put off having children to figure himself out. He also went behind your back to take hormones from the sound of it, which I think is selfish and dishonest.

I understand that relationships are about unconditional love and dedication. And maybe it's because I am a lesbian and I have no love for men, but at the end of the day, there's a balance sheet; and on average, in hetero relationships, men are takers and women are givers. Studies have shown that (hetero) marriages allow men to accumulate more wealth and maintain better health- men who have been married do better than men who haven't. Marriage has the opposite effect on women- women who have been married live shorter, poorer, more miserable lives than women who have never married. Women take on more unpaid domestic labor even when both partners have equal earning. Women are less likely to leave a terminally ill spouse. Heterosexual marriages was, for a long time, a model of male ownership of women and the only model of hetero relationships. Even though we technically don't do that anymore in most parts of the world, it's easy for to fall into old patterns. I say all of this because I see a lot of bihet women getting milked dry by the men in their relationships. I think you should take an objective look at your relationship and decide what you're getting out of it and whether it's worth staying in.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-29T07:15:23+00:00

No. Lesbians are women who are sexually attracted to women exclusively. Lesbian isn't an umbrella term. Homosexual is not an umbrella term any more than woman is. Lesbians are homosexual women. Bisexual women are not lesbians.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-07-22T03:33:08+00:00

She's not wrong. I would rather die than (sexually) touch a man.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-17T19:28:00+00:00

Eh, lesbians 5-10 year back didn't identify as lesbians either. It hasn't been a popular word for a while now. The sexuality in itself has never been popular, I don't think. I think a lot of lesbians went underground. I know myself and a bunch of my friends all did. We've mostly stopped participating in "LGBT" spaces. I think a lot of people got tired of the constant harassment from male trans people and all their allies. Most of the lesbians I've met in the last few years have been through other lesbians. Progress is going in reverse: lesbians aren't as open about their sexuality anymore because of all the craziness and harassment and demands. Lesbian spaces and events have gone back to invite-only.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-27T05:06:24+00:00

Do men participate in this type of behavior in a different way than women?

Yes. And you likely don't see it, or don't acknowledge it to be a different manifestation of the same intentions.

In my experience, women rebel in different ways. Men are more destructive and imo, definitely more extreme. The rioters, the shooters are almost always men. Women will do social ostracism and other social stuff, but they usually won't do crazy violent shit. You don't see women killing people because they can't get a date, you don't see women beheading anyone or hijacking planes in the name of their religion. If you focus on the SJW emails, women seem extreme, but so much of male bullshit is just accepted as the statue quo. When was the last time a woman threatened to rape someone who disagreed with her?

Women will generally try to appeal to reason. They'll demand rapists and sex abusers be fired from positions of power. They'll also send shitty emails. Men are way more violent. They riot, start wars, and make violent threats.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-30T02:43:12+00:00

God forbid a man ever feels excluded from anywhere.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-28T07:27:44+00:00

Lol yeah, watch out gay dudes, bardfinn is going to brigade AGB with all the CP and gore he's saved on his computer.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-25T19:41:38+00:00

Her parents died and now she has to live with her creepy cousin. What a fucking nightmare.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-07-17T20:48:19+00:00

GenCyn looks lost without the GC sub to stalk

Lool, I know right? That was the first thing that came to mind. Who will they stalk now? Women (and lesbians in the LGBT community) used to be a buffer between the crazy trans community and everyone else. Without us scapegoats and punching bags, the rest of them are going to be feeling the full heat of it now. I suppose there are upsides to being banned.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-30T13:35:50+00:00

"what is superstraight supposed to mean?"

It means no trans.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-14T00:47:43+00:00

There's nothing stopping "cis" men from being bisexual, pansexual or polysexual.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-09-13T09:34:30+00:00

Considering how many male trans people are ex Christians, they might even be the same person lol

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-16T08:15:06+00:00

Pretty much. Lesbians have always been considered man-haters for not wanting to have sex with men.

You know what happens when a woman I have a huge crush on doesn't like me back? I go home, curl up in bed, maybe cry a little, then I move on like a normal person.

These men, trans-identified or otherwise, don't even like me. But the moment I say no to their (feminine) penis, all hell breaks loose. They're frothing at the mouth, accusing me of misandry or transphobia or generally being a bitter, angry, hateful person. All for someone they wouldn't otherwise give two fucks about.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-22T17:52:45+00:00

The last one is the worst. The ones I see are the untagged ones that get past the filter. The characters are never canonically trans. I've dropped every work on the spot. Fuck that noise. Some authors have it as their "headcannon" and consider themselves above tagging. Those authors are blacklisted for me. If I ever get in a fandom again, I'm going to start leaving scathing reviews.

Another one I see is the super heavy handed monologue where a character suddenly starts giving a lecture on some social justice topic, like sexual consent, or slut shaming, or racism. I don't have to disagree with it to find it ridiculously over the top, ham-fisted, and out of character. If they can't handle these topics properly, I wish they don't touch it at all.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-29T08:14:31+00:00

I wouldn't. In fact, I also have friends who are "neutral/undecided" who "don't want to hear about it" because just hearing about the reality of the situation I'm in makes them feel conflicted and uncomfortable. They don't want to know how shitty the trans community is to me because it makes it harder for them to retweet those shitty woke hashtags. I'm dropping them too. If you can't count on your friends to stand by you through thick and thin, or at the very least, to hear out your woes, what good are they, really? Some people are low quality.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-09-23T20:27:51+00:00

Lol brick and mortar bookstores are not carrying her books as protest?? Can they afford to? Who the fuck goes to bookstores anymore? They need to get their heads out of their asses.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-28T13:50:10+00:00

Most people who support transgender ideology are well-meaning, caring people

Lol, is that so? Cuz they don't seem to give a fuck about the rest of us. Not seeing the "caring" here. I hope the cult chews them up and spits them back out, which is no worse than what they've wished on me.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-04T23:26:37+00:00

I used to watch anime and the majority of my lesbian friends and acquaintances watch anime. None of them are into yaoi. The only people into yaoi/"boy's love" I know are bisexual and heterosexual women. Never say never, I guess, but it's weird. I don't know what they would get out of it.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-07-20T21:55:14+00:00

Aw man, that really sucks. I've been on the receiving end of it and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. On the other hand, it's kind of a relief to not be the only target anymore. I hope you guys put up a better fight than we did.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-06T04:15:57+00:00

This is because there's a difference between how gay men and lesbian women are treated. And that's because there's a difference in how men and women are treated. All of this is caused by sexism and the subjugation of women under patriarchy.

Without getting too much into it, the main problem society has with gay men is because of their attraction to other men. The main problem society has with lesbians is their refusal to have sex with men. Obviously, the reverse is true to an extent, but look at the main criticism being leveled at lesbians: man-hater, because we don't want to fuck men. Lesbians are far more likely than gay men to be correctively raped as a form of conversion therapy.

Gay men get along much better with women because there hasn't been numerous instances of women correctively raping gay men to cure them of their homosexuality. Yeah, straight women can be really disrespectful in gay men's spaces. But from what I can tell, women are still way more respectful of gay men's boundaries than men are of mine. Pretty much every lesbian I know have had instances of men trying to fuck them despite being told no, men treating their sexuality like a fetish. I've personally had a man expose his penis to me after sneaking into a lesbian-only space.

The thing that a lot of non-lesbians don't really understand is that lesbians need to be able to say no. No as in never. There's been awful histories with bihet women trying to sneak their boyfriends into lesbian spaces, force their boyfriends onto lesbian women. Sometimes it's the woman's personal fantasy, usually it's as a "special treat" to their man or a hail mary to save their shitty relationship. I'm sure there has been instances of bihet men sneaking their girlfriends into gay spaces and trying to force their girlfriends on gay men, but I've never heard it with any sort of frequency. Usually, the man is going behind their gf/wives' back to cheat. By and large, men's boundaries are far more respected than women's. By and large, society cares more about men's pleasure than women's.

Lesbians aren't "defending" the lesbian label because it is "cool". That's a common mistake non-lesbians make because non-lesbians don't see it from our perspective and they don't care to. Bihet women especially view it as a form of "stinginess" or "gatekeeping". We "defend" it because it's part of saying no. It means no men. Not now, not ever. Bihet women who call themselves lesbians are undermining that.

Also, "straight" transwomen who try funny shit usually gets murdered. Not so much for agp trash.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-04T23:15:48+00:00

Shipping isn't an inherently sexual activity, it just means you think two characters are good together.

I see it as a sport. You know, some people have a favorite sports team, they get the jersey and merchandise, talk about the games "their" team plays, get very invested with "their" team's performance, occasionally get too upset when "their" team loses. That's shipping for me. It's about as silly a pastime as watching football or soccer.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-02T00:29:25+00:00

Hot response: this isn't an unpopular opinion. This is one of the few things both third wave feminists and their critics (including second wave/radfems) agree on: that third wave feminism paved the road for trans activism.

the need of young men to attain a sense of masculine self-worth

Nah, I think the problem is that young men have too high a sense of self worth. There are young (and old) men out there who think their feelings = reality. If that's not a symptom of ego overinflation, I don't know what is. Men need to get the fuck over themselves.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-04T15:06:47+00:00

Don't you just hate it when your queerness starts slipping away?

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-17T09:40:52+00:00

It's easier said than done, but is it possible for you to find better friends? There doesn't even have to be a falling out, you can slowly move to greener pastures over time. Do you have any hobbies you would like to cultivate? You're influenced by the people around you, and quite frankly, I think you can find better influences than a bunch of ridiculous women who waste their time LARPing and obsessing over identity politics. There are women out there with more substance to their character, I promise.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-15T11:01:56+00:00

Being "fLeEWWIDdd" does not make you interesting as a person

It makes them fickle and volatile, by definition. They can't say "I don't know what I will be in a year" AND "I am capable of being in a dedicated, long-term relationship". It's either or. There's a price to that level of "freedom". If you want to roleplay changing your sex or you don't think you'll be attracted to a certain sex in the future, then it stands to reason that you would be incompatible with someone who isn't going to change themselves to accommodate you. They can't reserve the right to completely re-invent themselves sexually and then get mad when people rule them out as potential partners for stable, long term relationships. That's the problem I have with fluid BTQ communities complaining about how nobody wants to be in a relationship with them.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-10-21T04:59:48+00:00

They do, I think. But they will enjoy bullying on the side when they can get away with it. What's a better time than ganging up on an acceptable target? All of the endorphin rush that comes with in-group loyalty with double dose of moral superiority on top.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-29T07:21:43+00:00

You think? i don't know.

Then listen to someone who knows. Words have meaning. Lesbian means homosexual woman- it's not an umbrella term any more than "woman is". If that does not describe you, then you are not a lesbian. It's not rocket science.

But you let me know how you'd like me to express myself so that it makes you comfortable and I'll see what i can do.

It has nothing to do with my comfort and everything to do with accuracy and proper word use. Mentally ill men misusing words to make themselves feel better is how we got into this mess in the first place.

clearly any woman who was, say, married to a guy for 10 years must be bi and not a lesbian right?

You're projecting your own issues. I've defined the word lesbian for you; in fact, it is easily searchable on the internet. You decide if that word applies to you or not. If it does not, then you are not a lesbian. You have people inventing hundreds of sexualities these days, you're free to peruse the different labels to decide which best fit you, or make up one on your own. But lesbian already has a meaning, and that meaning is mutually exclusive with bisexual. Pick one or pick neither, not both.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-16T04:16:29+00:00

Pedos hate women but they also want to see the family unit destroyed so the men aren't around.

The fuck is a family unit and what does men have to do with anything.

Most victims of childhood sexual abuse (CSA) are abused by male relatives or acquaintances. If we're talking about preventing CSA, I'd say it's in the children's best interest if men weren't around, statistically speaking.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-25T10:07:28+00:00

Spoiler alert, you're still living as a man, just a more disgusting and predatory one.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-13T02:49:05+00:00

He. Don't entertain delusions. It's how we got here in the first place. Men can't be women. Blaire is a man. I don't dislike him; acknowledging reality is not a form of personal attack.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-05T21:39:29+00:00

Who says two gay men can't be lesbians?

I honestly prefer two gay men pretending to be lesbians than bihet women married to men pretending to be lesbians.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-09-19T05:37:28+00:00

My bihet friends think I'm a prude who doesn't want to talk or hear about sex. The truth is, I don't wanna hear about men having sex.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-17T19:05:29+00:00

Because radfems have gone to bat for lesbians way more than gay men have. The radfem sub got banned along side the lesbian sub on Reddit. Gay subs barely said anything about it besides worry over how the new policies will affect them.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-07-19T20:46:29+00:00

They have as much of a luxury as the rest of us; so they can suck it up. Half the dating profiles I see are men or het couples despite me putting down women only. Het men don't deal with jack shit.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-06T07:03:10+00:00

And it's a dating app. The interaction is one-on-one. When would you use third person pronouns?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-18T21:41:41+00:00

What straight person has to go through half of the profiles to find someone that corresponds to their sexual orientation?

Straight men occasionally murders male people who tries to proposition them for sex. If half the profile they see on a dating app is male, they're going to lose their shit. It's why male trans people are way more disrespectful with women than they are with men. Men wouldn't put up with that shit.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-15T22:16:10+00:00

They're almost always Anglophones too. I spent a lot of time and money learning English. So funny that when I make a grammar error or mispronounce something, I'm "wrong" while when these guys do it, they are evolving English or whatever. I have friends who have had to change their careers simply because their English isn't good enough. Why aren't these genderspecials cancelling TOEFL exams?

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-06T22:57:02+00:00

But none of the lesbian Youtubers that I know of have transbians in their social circle. Nor have any of them dated a trans MtF person.

It's this.

First of all, female trans people don't harass gay men as much as male trans people harass lesbians.

Secondly, the gay male trans person is still mostly the face of the trans movement.

Most mainstream lesbian, the WeHo, London, glamourous upper crust types interact mainly with gay men. Even when it comes to male trans people, they interact with the gay male trans people. Creepy AGPs prey on people on the bottom, people like you and me. They harass older radfems and prey on internet teens. They're cowards. They talk about tRaNs WoMeN oF cOlOr dying but they'll never confront violent straight men who are the actual cause of it. Even when they harass lesbians, they're going to go for the unpopular, the vulnerable, the lonely, and the voiceless. They're trash through and through.

I reiterate my desire to see AOC, or any of these "celesbians" share a fucking changeroom with Jonathan Yaniv or Chris-chan. Fuck these fake libfems selling the rest of us out for power and money.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-07-13T04:48:49+00:00

There was also quite a bit of messaging regarding that sexuality can take some years to settle itself down. (Basically, teenage hormones can overcome a lot of obstacles -- don't assume from a single event, or even a couple of events that your sexuality is one thing or another.)

Ugh, I remember that too. I don't think it's a bad idea in and of itself, but combined with the homophobia and the lesbianism is a phase nonsense, it kept me closeted for close to a decade while I waited to turn heterosexual. I think there's a healthier medium between that and taking your gay child to pride, though. I wish everyone would calm down. Pride is sexual and political and I don't think children should have a place in that. I wasn't trying to make a statement or have sex as a 12 year old lesbian; I was trying to get a seat next to the girl I had a crush on in math class and work up the courage to talk in front of her. Children shouldn't be involved in activism, imo. There's time for that when they're older.

While I can't speak for everyone, and would never try, since then I've noticed that many butches exhibit behavior that is hyper-masc, or even neckbeard-y.

Take it with a grain of salt because this is my own experience and my own theory, but I've seen that behavior all around, not only from butches, and usually in lesbians around my age (20s). I think there's a lack of guidance for lesbians on how to approach other women. Nobody ever taught me, and nobody ever taught any of my lesbian friends. Lesbian relationships aren't often shown in the media. Maybe back before all the lesbian bars got shut down, we would've learned from older lesbians, but most of us came of age during that decline. We're sort of left to our own devices and I think it's tempting to try and learn the toxic, hyper-masc behavior simply due to a lack of alternatives. I also think lesbians are subjected to hypersexualization from society at large. When I was a teenager, googling "lesbian" got me several pages of porn before I could find a forum, and all the lesbian forums were filled with heterosexual couples seeking a threesome using fairly graphic language. I don't know how to flirt, and I don't think I've ever met a lesbian my age who knew how to flirt (well, truth be told, I would probably not recognize it as flirting anyhow). The lesbians I know alternate between completely friendly discussion and extremely explicit language. I don't know if that's how it always was with lesbians, but I've had heterosexual friends of both sexes express alarm, so I don't think that's how it is for straight people.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-09-09T03:59:18+00:00

10% is a significant difference in size. Point is, it will show up on a brain scan.

Men are taller than women on average, but it doesn't mean everyone under 6 ft is a woman. Men have larger feet but there isn't a given "male foot". I'm sure if I showed you a severed foot, you would struggle to identify the sex of the owner just by looking at it.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-07-13T04:03:28+00:00

It's crazy the amount of vitriol lesbians get considering that we're the most tolerant demographic out of all the ones listed by a significant margin.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-29T06:32:35+00:00

At least these people won't be having children.

Oh they are. Nothing can stop them, tbh. All these pregnant "dads" and men who discovered after fathering 6 children that they're women deep down. A lot of them are even freezing their sperm/egg before transitioning.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-28T06:42:58+00:00

Every time they say dna they mean fertile sperm.

He. Don't indulge in his delusions. This is why he won't say sperm when he means sperm.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-01T21:23:33+00:00

Young GNC lesbians never had anyone to look up to. Nothing's changed.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-09-29T17:32:34+00:00

He's not a woman. Never was, still isn't. He figured out the hard way that (elective) surgeries, messing with your endocrinology system, and permanent live action role-playing is exhausting and detrimental to your general well-being.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-29T02:25:43+00:00

a VERY gnc/lesbian/bi one

Lesbian or bi? You can't be both lol, they're mutually exclusive.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-01T18:16:34+00:00

Do you think women deserve to have their own spaces away from men like you? Answer the question.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-23T05:48:33+00:00

I'm in my 30's and will never marry any dude whatsoever. And I don't need to. I've got my future planned out, regardless of whether a female partner is in the picture or not.

Yeah, I've been planning my life since my pre-teens and it's never involved a man. I've made space for a woman, but if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. I'll take my savings and go find something else to do. In no situation am I going to start dating or marrying a man. My entire childhood has been building myself up to be self-sufficient enough to make the choices I want to make.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-28T14:13:51+00:00

It's not an "acceptance" thing, it's just that women don't tend to behave violently. Even if straight women don't "accept" lesbians, it rarely results in physical violence. Homophobic women stick to avoiding lesbians or social manipulation/shaming (see: none of the complaints about "Karens" involve physical violence). Most of the pressing problems lesbians face comes from straight men too, but usually that shows up as sexual harassment or rape.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-09T19:27:37+00:00

I don't mind engaging in conversation or debate with people regardless of how old they are, but too many of these twitter teens hide behind their age. Either you're mature enough to have an opinion and be criticized for it, or you're tOo YoUnG for negative feedback and should shut the fuck up. Can't have it both ways. I was online as a kid, and I took responsibility for my online actions, good or bad. If the adults around me were doing things that made me uncomfortable, I do as I do now and I close the window. Most of my friends grew up online too, and while we're not the most well-adjusted bunch, I think that's more of a cause of our online presence than an effect of it. We behaved and were treated as if we were any other adult, and we certainly didn't demand to be coddled by everyone we came in contact with. There are no children on the internet, if you want to be here, you accept the same responsibility as everyone else, regardless of your age. The internet isn't free baby sitting for neglectful parents.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-18T14:52:46+00:00

Just wait till they go back to dating men. Then it'll be all "lesbians forced me to erase my sexual history".

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-12T14:56:48+00:00

Sometimes when we argue or have a different opinion she says things as ‘women are difficult’, ‘I don’t understand women.’

Ask her if she's tried not being a dumb bitch.

Definitely not the most mature or productive course of action, but misogynistic masc of center women will never stop being uniquely hilarious to me.

I don't know why you let her treat you like this. Drinking and driving is dangerous too, not only for you and her, but other people on the road. Tell her to stop being a stupid cunt (maybe phrase more nicely) or dump her.

If I were you, I would've dumped her already. Or she would've dumped me over the amount of sexist, derogatory comments I throw back at her. Different paths, same destination.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-11T19:24:51+00:00

On r/LBL, vulnerable, lonely, ignorant, and/or personality-disordered straight and bisexual women are being duped into believing they are lesbians

I seriously don't understand your need to sympathize with/pathologize their behavior. I can say they're dumb, uninspiring women stuck in lame, unsatisfying relationships looking for an excuse to make themselves feel special without putting in any effort or bearing any risks and I'd be no closer to the truth than you.

They're no more lonely or vulnerable than you or I. If anything, they're less so because they don't put themselves out there like we do, and they're usually in romantic relationships.

Why not call a spade a spade and acknowledge them as the stupid, pathetic assholes that they are? Neither of us are mental health professionals and even if we were, we can't diagnose people over the internet. Imo all this mental health "awareness" has unleashed some bullshit.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-11T19:15:06+00:00

I don't understand why they don't just stop fucking men. Like if you don't like it, just stop. You don't have to be a lesbian either. But hearing about how they don't enjoy fucking men is so tiring. I don't know what that's like and frankly, I don't care to know.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-10-14T19:07:48+00:00

transwoman who was just a clueless teenage boy

Some of them are. There's lily whatever in UK politics, for a high profile example. I've definitely met (female attracted) male trans people in their 20s. I think the ratio is skewed by the lack of manipulative older women preying on young gay men.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-09-19T08:50:05+00:00

Responding to the article:

Why? Because biological sex is far more complicated than XX or XY (or XXY, or just X). XX individuals could present with male gonads. XY individuals can have ovaries. How? Through a set of complex genetic signals that, in the course of a human’s development, begins with a small group of cells called the bipotential primordium and a gene called SRY.

I'm not fond of dragging intersex individuals into discussions about dyadic male people who want to pretend to be female, but since the author went there, I will give my hot take and I will try to be as sensitive and inoffensive as possible. Individuals with extraordinary sexual development and chromosome make up, the exception, should not make the rule. Some people were born without legs, yet human beings are still bipedal. Some people were born with more than 23 pairs of chromosomes, but human beings are defined by 23 chromosome pairs. The existence of people with unique circumstances does not mean that sex is not dimorphic or binary.

Secondary sex characteristics—penis, vagina, appearance, behavior—arise later, from hormones, environment, experience, and genes interacting. To explore this, we move from the body to the brain, where biology becomes behavior[...] When the biology gets too complicated, some point to differences between brains of males and females as proof of the sexual binary.

I don't understand this shift. The brain isn't a secondary sex characteristic. Also, it is the trans and patriarchal side that pushes brain sex. GC and "TERFs" are against brain sex. I agree with his point on "brain sex"; that it doesn't exist, but I don't see how it is relevant.

But like all things biology, hormones cannot be limited to the pubescent idea of “estrogen = female and testosterone = male.”

Again, it's mostly trans people pushing the "I have female hormones through hrt and therefore I'm female" narrative. I'm of the opinion that consenting adults should be allowed to fuck up their endocrinology system however they want, but that doesn't change their sex.

For one thing, all humans possess levels of estrogen, progesterone and testosterone with sex differences not as prominent as is popularly thought. During infancy and prepubescence, these hormones sit in a bipotential range, with no marked sex differences.

Mostly true. Healthy boys receive a spike of testosterone during infancy (0-6 months) that develops their genitalia. Then there's no major difference until puberty.

But in developed adults, estrogen and progesterone levels are on average similar between males and nonpregnant females. And while testosterone exhibits the largest difference between adult males and females, heritability studies have found that genetics (X vs. Y) only explains about 56 percent of an individual’s testosterone, suggesting many other influences on hormones. Furthermore, measurements of sex hormones levels in any one individual wildly vary across the range of “average” values regardless of how close or spread apart you take the measurements.

What a funny paragraph. OK. It is true that estrogen and progesterone are on average similar between adult males and nonpregnant females. Then the author takes this HUGE FUCKING SWERVE to avoid talking about the MASSIVE DIFFERENCE IN TESTOSTERONE LEVELS BETWEEN ADULT MALES AND ADULT FEMALES. He's going on about heritability of testosterone levels?? The variance of sex hormone levels in an individual?? What??? He FINALLY gets to it halfway through the next paragraph:

Though testosterone levels are different between males and females on average, many external factors can change these levels, such as whether or not a person is raising a child.

Nuh uh, it's not just different "on average". The truth of the matter is that there is NO OVER LAP. The healthy testosterone range for a post-pubescent male is 240-950 ng/dL while the healthy testosterone range for a post-pubescent female is 8-60 ng/dL. This means that in healthy adults, the man with the LOWEST T levels have FOUR TIMES the testosterone concentration of the woman with the HIGHEST T levels (I've seen sources that claim it's actually a minimum of three times, but go do your own fact checking; don't blindly trust the word of some stranger on the internet).

While this is a small overview, the science is clear and conclusive: sex is not binary, transgender people are real. It is time that we acknowledge this. Defining a person’s sex identity using decontextualized “facts” is unscientific and dehumanizing.

What an incredibly disingenuous article. I've said enough about sex being binary. Nobody says trans people aren't real; the question is whether or not we should all be required to play along with whatever they want. And the fuck is a sex "identity"?

just_lesbian_things · 2020-09-12T10:37:06+00:00

anime icon

Cartoon, actually, this time. It's a new Disney cartoon making waves due to having canonically lesbian and bisexual characters. It's geared towards preteen/teenagers, though, so I'm guessing the OP is probably in that demographic.

Social media platforms really should offer some sort of way to filter out minors so you wouldn't have to interact with them. It would get rid of 80% of this type of nonsense, and the rest of the 20% will lose steam when the 14 year olds aren't around to like and retweet.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-31T14:32:00+00:00

Nah, truscums are the not-like-the-other-girls of the trans world. They are worse than the average trans person imo because they're so spiteful of their own community. Why would I want to be in the same group as someone who looks down on his own community? They're all ~identity~ types, whether they like it or not. Truscums only dislike the rest because they feel themselves deserving of special treatment. They're even more narcissistic.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-29T11:03:14+00:00

Nope. Wasn't there that guy who wanted to be a five year old girl after fathering like 7 children and abandoning his 7 children to live out his fetish full-time.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-01T21:23:04+00:00

If people being stupid makes you want to do stupid things to get attention, then you're well beyond salvation anyway. Plenty of people grew up without good role models.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-23T23:38:29+00:00

its a weird “lesbians are trying to erase bi women’s existence” when lesbians are frequently trying to tell bisexual women to not call themselves lesbians when they are bi, or telling other people that a woman who enjoys fucking men isn’t a lesbian but at least bi or straight

Seriously. Every lesbian I know want the distinction between bi and lesbian to be crystal clear. Everytime there's someone who likes the ambiguity and refuse to clarify or purposefully mislead it turns out to be a bi woman. They're always the ones using terms like "lesbian " on themselves too. I never see full on lesbians call themselves bisexual as an "umbrella term".

just_lesbian_things · 2020-10-26T02:28:15+00:00

It’s literally about black men being fetishized by white women.

It happens in real life, but I doubt it happens as much as the other way around, simply because men tend to have more fetishes. I occasionally get fetishized by women too; I just imply no and she backs off. She's not going to rape me, she's not going to attack me, she isn't physically intimidating, and she doesn't exhibit the entitlement to my body a lot of men have. It never feels great to be reduced to a stereotype, but she doesn't have any power over me. Maybe it's different with heterosexual women.

I don’t get how you can acknowledge that white women are getting treated significantly better and then dismiss that truth?

Because they aren't. Interracial porn isn't really done for women, it's done for men. Most porn is done for men.

The porn industry doesn't suck in men the way it does women. Men who are in that position aren't typically there by accident- it takes a lot of effort on their part. The industry isn't really out there recruiting vulnerable young men the way it is vulnerable young women. Last I checked, women aren't going around en mass tricking/pressuring black (or any race of) teenage boys into doing porn through drug addiction or abusive relationships. I don't sympathize with men in the porn industry, regardless of race.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-20T00:47:05+00:00

Well, there is this guy, who identifies as a checks notes (white-passing) Chinese (trans) lesbian, woman of color, and a member of the Chinese diaspora, wrote a book about it and everything. His grandmother was Chinese, apparently. Bet my bottom dollar he changed a totally Anglo name to the "ethnic" one he has right now.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-19T03:28:48+00:00

OP doesn't want advice, OP wants sympathy and free therapy.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-16T07:29:38+00:00

Nah, women don't need men to "protect" them from other men, children don't need men to "protect" them from other men. Everyone -men, women, and children- needs men to clean up their shit and stop being violent, rapey lil fuckers. Saying that women and children need men to keep them safe from other men is nothing short of a protection racket. I don't need a man's protection any more than a baker needs the mafia's protection. Men being "protectors" is some next level gender bullshit being spread to keep women in line and stroke the male ego.

The way I see it, we're being charitable towards men by giving them the benefit of the doubt. we're giving men a chance. A chance to sort their shit out, work out their personal problems. Because we believe in the humanity of men. We believe that, deep down, they are good. I think there are a lot more extreme methods we can take if we didn't hold such beliefs.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-16T05:29:54+00:00

pedophiles have said themselves they generally prefer to target children without fathers.

Source?

benefits the pedophile stranger and the voyeurs who want to upload more porn

AKA men.

Men turning against women, shamed in communities for defending women (MRA clubs)...so women go unprotected and left alone to fend for themselves. They target easier "prey" and single moms are easier to groom too.

I think instead of "defending" or "protecting" women, men should work on calling out the rapists and pedophiles from within their midst. Men should work on holding abusive men accountable. Abuse happen because of the abusers, not the victims.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-02T06:25:25+00:00

The solution to that is something that Peterson talks about quite a bit, socializing boys properly. They need proper outlets to vent and learn how to deal with their aggression, they need rough and tumble play.

Boys have had rough and tumble play for almost all of human history. Violent crime is at an all time low since we turned that down. I think evidence is against rough and tumble play.

I have gotten the feeling talking to all my kids teachers that the ideal little boy in elementary school would basically be a sterotypical girl

I'm personally of the opinion that most girls were beaten into silence and passivity from a young age. I was just as bored as the boys in class, but I didn't act out because my parents taught me better; with words, rulers, and the back of their hands when they needed a little more oomph. But maybe that's what modern society needs: people who can sit quietly and solve problems. Keep up or get left behind, right?

There are also numerous accidents that men get into that look suspiciously like suicide

And plenty of women "disappear". Back when I was planning to kill myself, I wanted to disappear so as to spare my family the funeral expenses and the trauma of finding me. There will always be an element of error in statistics.

I more so wanted to point out that a few men's behavior is not indicative of all men

I'm more specifically talking about trans-identified men according to the context of this thread. But sure, #notallmen.

And I also don't think the solution to men or societies problem is to have men behave more like women

Hey, if you got a better solution, like I said, I'm all ears. I don't even like dealing with men, but if they're going to negatively affect me, I'm going to have to do something about it. And if you don't like my methods, then you should come up with your own. I'm not going to sit around and put up with crazy, entitled male behavior while you brainstorm. Let's be proactive, right?

liberate both genders

I don't support gender. There are two sexes. Gender is a bullshit, outdated social construct.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-01T19:21:45+00:00

My preference

That doesn't answer the question. Yes or no.

Men hurt other men all the time. It's possibly one of the most common form of violent crime. That's not what we're discussing here. Why should a discussion about women have to center men?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-02T19:15:18+00:00

He's fully aware that he will never be male and he knows that biologically speaking he's still a lesbian but for now living as a trans man is the only thing that alleviates his dysphoria.

Yeah, that sounds like a problem for her mental health team. I'm done with people expecting me to front the cost of their mental issues. She's just not as deluded as other female trans people, and that's not exactly a high bar to cross. None of them care about being "nice" to women; I don't owe them anything. Unlike them, I'm not supporting sex stereotypes and hiding behind "mental health issues" to avoid criticism for my behavior, so you can say I'm already going above what they're offering. Yeah I am bitter. Who would've known that when you treat someone like shit, they wouldn't have the fondest opinion of you.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-18T17:28:32+00:00

Lol, nothing to kill the buzz like an English teacher. I need to learn this skill to get rid of all the gross men trying to get off in lesbian spaces. If only these men were as reluctant to call themselves girl-words.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-14T00:49:00+00:00

Did he identify as straight? It just says he identifies as cis.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-07T17:07:27+00:00

Probably bisexual if he's willing to have sex with female people, and most of these types of people are.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-07T21:48:44+00:00

I don't have to do anything. If it were up to me, I wouldn't say anything, because I don't think it has anything to do with me and it is not my place. I'm not going to "save" anyone, but if there happens to be something you would prefer I say/don't say or approach you'd prefer I take/don't take, I would do so, not on behalf of anyone but myself. Obviously, I'm not asking for a coherent, official response from all gay men either, I'm just polling to see if there would be a consensus or a commonality.

I think male trans people's take over of lesbian spaces is more aggressive than what you've described of female trans people. It isn't possible to just ignore male trans people in female spaces. Their behavior, especially the female attracted male trans people, are quite aggressive and predatory. They don't just want attention, they get off on sexually violating women and they don't back down. I appreciate your advise and perspective but I don't think it translates very well to my own situation.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-01T23:40:15+00:00

Nobody seems to be able to explain how Ellen Page is "gender non-conforming". That's why I ask.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-23T13:24:59+00:00

go to certain forums to voice support

Why? I rather you didn't. It's annoying and disruptive to be on those forums and constantly see "I'm a MAN and I'm on YOUR SIDE!!"/"I have a DICK and I AGREE WITH YOU!!" posts from men with nothing else to add. Most of it comes across as compliment hunting and preaching to the choir because a bunch of women will undoubtedly show up and congratulate the man.

If it matters to you, stay on your current forum and voice support. We've seen that men take less heat in general than women do for the same opinion. You should reach out to the het men who don't know and help them help themselves, because you're certainly not telling the women on these forums anything they don't already know.

Again, I get it, but when you see stories of men standing up to transwomen in particular & the comments are "Good, let them rape each other." Or "Men are so stupid, they'll bang anything, I'm surprised they can tell the difference."

I haven't said the former, but I've said the latter in the context of male trans people claiming that straight men love them and would definitely have sex with them. I'm not a straight man, nor do I have sex with straight men, so I have less authority on this matter and I would defer to the male trans person who has presumably at least fucked a man. My conclusion would be that "straight men fuck men becauss they can't tell it's a man", as that is the most reasonable explanation for a demographic that claims to only be attracted to women while also fucking men. If you don't think that's an accurate conclusion, feel free to contest next time the male trans person shows up claiming to have fucked lots of straight men. Lesbians dispute these claims (any woman who knowingly and consensually fucks a man is bi or het) you should too.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-20T11:31:16+00:00

Because you're responsible for trans people's mental health and feelings. If you don't use the word they have told you to use and they kill themselves as a result, it will be all your fault.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-10-25T20:05:46+00:00

Because all you are doing is pretending out of respect for them.

Also, how much are you entitled to other people's effort? I don't put effort into pretending it's the 1950s for patients of dementia in my everyday life. Those people are given custom care at specialized locations by people trained and prepared for it. I don't have to do that for a coworker. There isn't a blanket ban on fireworks because it triggers some people's PTSD or aggravates some people's sensory disorders. Those people are taught skills that helps them deal with their problems. It's not up to everyone else to manage someone's mental health disorder. I'm not a therapist.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-16T04:10:23+00:00

If you're not gender critical, you're not my ally. Sex is an irrefutable part of reality and human biology. Gender is an oppressive social construct that subjugates and oppresses women. If you think there's more to being a woman than basic biology; if you believe in gender roles or other ridiculous gender propaganda then you're no different than the crazy trans males you claim to be against.

If there's any justice in this world, male people on either side of the debate would take their differences directly to the source instead of punching down and using women as a pawn, but we both know better, right?

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-13T22:17:00+00:00

Lmao she might as well pretend she wasn't raped, save us all the trouble, everybody can go home.

She's fucking delusional, and I don't care if she wants to fuck herself over, but she's not going to impose her and her husband's delusion on the rest of us. That's a fucking man.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-04T02:28:37+00:00

I'd feel bad for the girlfriend tbh. Why can't gross men like this fuck off with all the other gross men and leave women alone? I don't even care if they dress up and play pretend while they do it, as long as they stay the fuck away and I never have to interact with them.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-02T03:24:37+00:00

Women are more likely to attempt suicide than men, but men are more likely to succeed. Men succeed more because they choose more violent methods. Male violence is a problem for both men and women, as both sexes end up victims to it. I'd say maybe masculinity and its ties to violence and the "boys will be boys" attitude regarding violent behavior is the source of the problem, but if you've got a better explanation, I'm all ears.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-07-19T11:30:10+00:00

Talk about cultural and gender appropriation

Yeah, it's super weird seeing white people turn it into some sort of bee urself message. When I heard it growing up, it was always about filial piety and making sacrifices for your parents (that also happens to be the moral of 70% of the stories I heard growing up. It's a little weird in retrospect). TRAs see and hear what they want to hear, I guess. It feels like a perversion, to be honest, because mainstream trans stuff pretty much go completely against everything I've been taught growing up. Trans people put themselves before their parents: they put themselves before everyone.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-09T03:49:50+00:00

I'm just along for a laugh. It's no different than Graham Linehan dressing up like a male trans person or that time somebody claimed to be a trans woman trapped in a cis woman's body. It's just a joke to me, and of all the ones being made about this situation, it probably wouldn't even make my top 5. You're giving it too much credit.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-07T17:17:04+00:00

Because you have to be masculine if you want to be a builder, a firefighter, a police officer or a soldier.

It's a cultural thing within those industries but you don't need to be masculine to drive a fire truck, issue a speeding ticket or apply caulk. Also:

independent, strong, capable of cooperating with members of the community

Those aren't inherently masculine features. Plenty of people who would be categorized as feminine are all of the above. If we're playing the gender game, cooperation is by far much more attributed to femininity than masculinity.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-05T02:30:43+00:00

Twitter is an outrage machine, and most of those people are looking for something to be upset about. They just like complaining and harassing people.

If I don't like a piece of media, I'll just not watch it. I don't know why these people don't just not watch things they don't enjoy. You can tell the ethnicity of the main cast right from the start, so it's not like it was up in the air.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-23T13:33:46+00:00

these men who have issues with their sexualities & lying about being heterosexual. These men are attracted & have a fetish for men who "appear" as women, but lie to themselves that they're "straight".

You should confront and correct those men. Most lesbians confronted and corrected bihet women like that (until we got banned for it).

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-11T06:19:47+00:00

Never underestimate his supporters' level of delusion.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-11-07T04:58:51+00:00

What I hear most these days is race is a social construct and is not real because we share all of our genes with each other, or at least 80%-90% of our genes with each other, that's at least, it can be more than 90%

Just look at this equation

We share at least 80%-90% of our genes with each other ---> race is a social construct and is not real

No, that's not why race is not real. The difference between gender and sex is like the difference between race and ethnicity. Ethnicity is real and biological. For example, you can find your ethnicity through a DNA test. There are higher intra-ethnic match rates for certain organ donation. Certain ethnicities are more prone to specific ailments as a result of their DNA (e.g. East Asians experience higher instances of alcohol intolerance). Ethnicity is why it's stupid when that one white guy say shit like "I don't see color", because I bet he puts on a ton of sunscreen before going to the beach.

Race socially constructed. Who is what race changes and shifts along with society. What is considered white in Hitler's Germany, vs. South Africa's Apartheid, vs. Trump's America is not exactly the same. It's only loosely based on ethnicity and is mostly used for political ends.

Tldr; race is to ethnicity as gender is to sex. Race and gender aren't real.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-25T06:29:58+00:00

Nah mate, you're projecting. Most men can kill me with their bare hands. You're all the same to me; it doesn't matter what God you believe in.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-19T22:04:20+00:00

Double Trouble sounds like a stereotypical sassy gay dude. As in, his voice. He talks like one of those gay guys in the gay guy make over shows. I wouldn't have known he was supposed to be non-binary if my friend hadn't pointed it out (I think she found out from twitter). Funny how I can tell the sex of the VA without ever seeing him and none of this identity shit even matters.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-17T19:02:44+00:00

I'm probably one of the "all men attitude" types, but I don't think gay men are whores. See, when some ass comes to GC and shill family values and other sexist, homophobic, victim blaming, white supremacy dog whistle shit and nobody wants to call it out, then I'm going to. But you know, if you're not into that stuff either, feel free to step in at any time. Basically, if you don't want to take out the trash, then I will do it, but you don't get to complain about how I do it.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-08-16T10:32:38+00:00

Incels, Predators and Paedos are all bullies.

They're all men.

Why? Single moms are being targeted. Why so defensive? This is good information for single mothers since these predators are being told by PUA's to prey on single moms and child molestors.

Because "single moms" shouldn't be dealing with sex-crazed men in the first place. Nobody is really a "single" mom- she didn't asexually reproduce or clone herself. It's men's job to step the fuck up and do their part in childcare and child-rearing (without sexually abusing their child). It's basic human decency to not be a child predator. Men aren't """protecting""" anyone when they do their fucking share of the work and act like normal human beings. They're supposed to be doing all of these things in the first place.

Instead of putting the responsibility of dealing with sex-crazed child predators on "single" mom's, the pressure should be on PUA shits and deadbeat fathers to not be terrible people. It's not "the marxists" (or "the feminists") who "destroyed the family unit". These men chose to fuck off and not do their part.

If anything, I say we should impose a tax on the entire male sex. Maybe 0.5% of the income of every male person over the age of majority. Money that will go towards supporting "single" moms. We could adjust the percentage; maybe have it go up or down as need be. That will really go about rectifying the "tough situation", what do you think? My back up proposal is we castrate deadbeat fathers and the child molesting creeps, but I think that's a more extreme alternative.

There was a time before the internet when men would stand up for women more.

No there wasn't. Men have never stood up for women.

men are becoming diffused and shamed if they even verbally defend women

Oh my god, won't somebody think about the poor men. I don't need some dude to be a white knight on the internet. If he wants to do something, he should go talk the creepy PUA fucks down from molesting more children. No, it's not supposed to be a good time.

just_lesbian_things