The backbone of the gay community

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-07T16:46:57+00:00

We ARE all colors you just got done telling me you can't tell what someone is by looking at them

Gotta work on that reading comprehension, buddy. I said you can tell someone is not white by looking, and you might as well fucking own up to it instead of skirting around the topic by calling people "Mexican" and "Spanish speaking".

Saying "we are all colors!" is the race equivalent of spewing "gender is a spectrum!". It's not. It's a hierarchy, with men at the top and women at the bottom. We are not "all colors"; there's a hierarchy of treatment with people being treated better near the top and worse near the bottom. This is exactly the sort of stupid, vapid soundbite liberals get off on. Refusing to acknowledge this societal injustice doesn't make it go away any more than a male trans can end sexism by identifying as a woman and claiming to have never experienced it.

I said I get the distinction between people of color and colored people so

"Noooo, I was just pretending to be a dumb cunt".

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-07T16:43:53+00:00

We ARE all colors you just got done telling me you can't tell what someone is by looking at them

Gotta work on that reading comprehension, buddy. I said you can tell someone is not white by looking, and you might as well fucking own up to it instead of skirting around the topic by calling people "Mexican" and "Spanish speaking".

Saying "we are all colors!" is the race equivalent of spewing "gender is a spectrum!". It's not. It's a hierarchy, with men at the top and women at the bottom. We are not "all colors"; there's a hierarchy of treatment with people being treated better near the top and worse near the bottom. This is exactly the sort of stupid, vapid soundbite liberals get off on. Refusing to acknowledge this societal injustice doesn't make it go away any more than a TiM can end sexism by identifying as a woman and claiming to have never experienced it.

I said I get the distinction between people of color and colored people so

"Noooo, I was just pretending to be a dumb cunt".

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-06T01:31:20+00:00

You're the only one policing here. You got something actually meaningful to add besides the fact that you don't like my opinion?

How about this, I'll respond to your comment too.

9/10 that color is brown and yet call someone colored...oh no he didn't.

First of all, words have meaning and connotations. In spanish "negro" is just a color, in english it's not. You can describe someone as "a person of color", you can even describe them as brown or black but "colored" has a negative historical connotation and so we don't use it. It's really not rocket science.

There's nothing wrong with describing someone as non-white. In this case /u/book_hoarder does it anyway in a stupid, round-a-bout way despite not actually knowing the ethnic background of any of the people at the wedding in question. It would honestly be less idiotic if she just said they were "people of color" instead of trying to allude to it by describing them as "Mexicans" or "spanish speakers".

You can point out someone is not white, it's not racist. You can't call someone "colored" because it has racist undertones due to its historical connotations. Are you following so far?

we are all colors if you want to get right down to it.

We are not "all colors if you get right down to it". Racism is real and being cOloRbLInD isn't an adequate response to it. Grow the fuck up and stop pussy footing around the issue. White supremacy is real, and it isn't any less real just because you're afraid to address it. Spending your time making sure everyone knows how not racist you are isn't going to make racism go away. And no, pointing out/acknowledging racism doesn't make me "the real racist".

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-05T14:40:29+00:00

you can't tell someone's ethnic background just by looking at them

But you totally can and you totally do. It's how you know people are the wedding weren't white mexicans, despite none of them telling you about their background. Stop playing dumb and own up.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-04T15:06:47+00:00

Don't you just hate it when your queerness starts slipping away?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-04T22:40:43+00:00

What would you prefer I say instead?

Mestizo? Does she even consider herself to be non-white? Why are you trotting her out as an example of an exotic ethnicity if you don't know what her background is?

Does that clear it up for you?

No, I'm wondering why you're skirting around this topic using weird euphemisms and shit.

I was able to gather from these subtle clues that

What did you think she was before? Lmao. Were you able to gather "subtle clues" about her other half? Or does it remain a total mystery to this day?

Because you are being unnecessarily pedantic and nitpicking at my language

Why are you skirting around topics?

What point are you trying to make exactly?

You're treating whiteness as a default and exotifying and othering non-whiteness. If you really saw everyone the same way, why do you have foreign references ("Spanish speaking", "Mexican", "Korean") for non-whiteness while you have no problem describing "red hair, blue eyes, and freckles", "white as the driven snow" on a white kid? What's your wife's other 7/8? If it's ALL THE SAME to you, why do you only point out 1/8 and get offended when I ask about the rest?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-04T19:45:35+00:00

No shit.

Then why bring up their nationality in a conversation about race?

no shit

Then why bring up the language they speak in a conversation about race?

I don't know.

But you know the Korean half?

None of your business?

Lol is it white? You can say white, you know? If you can say Korean, Mexican, and Blackfoot, you can say European white. Your defensiveness is not very in-line with your assertion that you "really don't give a shit". Why are you so pissed if it doesn't matter?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-04T15:34:44+00:00

My brother's wife literally immigrated to the US from Mexico as a young child.

There are white people in Mexico

Half the people at their wedding didn't speak any English.

Speaking English doesn't have anything to do with race.

My sister's best friend is half Korean

What's the other half?

My wife is 1/8th Blackfoot

What's the other 7/8?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-01T18:16:34+00:00

Do you think women deserve to have their own spaces away from men like you? Answer the question.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-01T19:21:45+00:00

My preference

That doesn't answer the question. Yes or no.

Men hurt other men all the time. It's possibly one of the most common form of violent crime. That's not what we're discussing here. Why should a discussion about women have to center men?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-01T18:13:01+00:00

Have fun being in a world where you’ll get fired for expressing your bigotry in public and your friends and family consider you an embarrassment at dinner parties.

Sounds word for word what homophobes, racists, and misogynists have said to me to try and shame/intimiate me into falling in line with the status quo.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-01T19:22:44+00:00

More like rules for none of us.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-04-01T18:18:34+00:00

There is no shame in being a man. Stop being delusional and leave women alone.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-30T13:35:50+00:00

"what is superstraight supposed to mean?"

It means no trans.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-28T07:27:44+00:00

Lol yeah, watch out gay dudes, bardfinn is going to brigade AGB with all the CP and gore he's saved on his computer.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-25T10:07:28+00:00

Spoiler alert, you're still living as a man, just a more disgusting and predatory one.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-25T10:11:48+00:00

No, but they definitely recognize that he is male. Reddit bros are never this respectful of women when scandals break out, even when the woman in question was not at fault. This guy is a total piece of shit and there isn't a single rape threat or even a sexist comment in sight.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-25T10:30:54+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVzE6ulTtck

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-25T10:06:02+00:00

"I declare war on enemy users"

Lol, sounds just like that deer TiM on twitch. Why are they always like this?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-25T09:55:37+00:00

you would expect their offspring to be of similarly above-average intelligence

Are you referring to the fact that second generation immigrants are not as successful as their first generation counterparts despite being the offspring of first gen immigrants? I think there's a correlation between success and intelligence, but I don't think it's a guarantee; lots of "intelligent" people are not successful and not all successful people are "intelligent". Also, human offsprings are a mix of their parents. Things like crossing over during meiosis create new gene combinations. Basically, there's an element of randomness and smart parents don't always have smart kids (and vice versa). I would further argue that one of the bigger aspects of success (financial/career) is determination and the will to succeed. So while intelligence is somewhat hereditary and success is loosely correlated with intelligence, it's not going to be as direct as if you picked out and interviewed the people yourself from a pool of eager applicants.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-21T19:48:50+00:00

What's the point of having a block button if I can't block delusional males with it?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-21T19:46:08+00:00

The racism by proxy argument is dumb as shit, but you are a moron too. First generation immigrants are forced through an application/selection process to gain entry into the country. Babies, on the other hand, enter the country via birth. Obviously, people who were selected by a government for good behavior, good intention, and financial/academic/occupational success and skills as per deemed necessary by a country are going to "outperform" the general population who were created via egg meet sperm and have not been selected for anything.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-17T00:43:49+00:00

So there isn't a "block user" under every post and every comment, just most of them.

Is it possible for admins to post non-announcement posts and comments on a separate, non-admin account so regular users are not required to read their personal shit?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-16T08:24:53+00:00

Why can't I block you or the TiM mod?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-16T02:26:55+00:00

she

What's with TiMs and moderating positions? Is that part of the pathology or what?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-15T12:16:54+00:00

I doubt their producers would ever willingly get involved in the shit fight that's American identity politics, but they probably are. Most people aren't interested in mixed sex characteristics, and South Korea is a fairly conservative country with heavy Christian influences.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-14T00:56:10+00:00

Lol yeah, uh, can we leave too?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-13T02:49:05+00:00

He. Don't entertain delusions. It's how we got here in the first place. Men can't be women. Blaire is a man. I don't dislike him; acknowledging reality is not a form of personal attack.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-09T03:49:50+00:00

I'm just along for a laugh. It's no different than Graham Linehan dressing up like a male trans person or that time somebody claimed to be a trans woman trapped in a cis woman's body. It's just a joke to me, and of all the ones being made about this situation, it probably wouldn't even make my top 5. You're giving it too much credit.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-06T07:03:10+00:00

And it's a dating app. The interaction is one-on-one. When would you use third person pronouns?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-05T23:28:49+00:00

We had an afternoon workshop with a tax form. But what is there to know about personal finance? All the information is available online. The most complicated concept is exponential growth in terms of investments and compound interests and maybe percentages in terms of inflation and tax. The most immediate stuff is just addition and subtraction. The rest is self control. People can't do that, won't look up basic information, and then complain about not getting hand held and spoon-fed. If you can't think for yourself, you're going to get fucked over, because nobody else is going to be looking out for your best interest.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-06T02:51:42+00:00

I have a friend who is an accountant and she reads financial statements like the Nebuchadnezzar crew reads code in The Matrix.

You don't have to be that good to do basic budgeting and not overspend. I don't even look at my financial statements unless there's a problem. I know the general ballpark of how much I spend per month and make sure to keep it below my paycheck, keep an emergency fund, and send the surplus to my investment portfolio at the end of the month. Is there really all that much more to do?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-04T01:09:12+00:00

But do you think that they experience the exact same stuff women experience when they pass as men?

Do women all have the exact same experiences? I bet I have more common experiences with my brother than with you, but that doesn't make me a man. You don't become a woman through experience, it's the other way around. She's a woman so her experiences are the experiences of a woman.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-04T00:49:22+00:00

One of the things that became evident early on is that there are many, many drawbacks to housing a whole bunch of people with mental health issues, particularly males, in the same premises

I mean, they're homeless for a reason. People aren't refusing to rent to them for fun. Most people also have social networks like friends and family to fall back on (couch surf, basement, guest room, etc). Of course, one could exacerbate the other. The point is, most people don't want these guys around, and there's usually a reason behind it. I had a former roommate, a young woman, who volunteered for a homeless shelter and she was required to stay within sight of her supervisor at all times because there's been instances of sexual assault on the volunteers in the shelter. Obviously, it's probably a worse idea to let these people roam the streets but some people are seriously ungrateful.

From what I can tell, this shelter has individual rooms, which lowers its capacity, but hopefully it will reduce the instances of sexual assault, because a lot of male trans people can be really predatory towards female and male people.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-02T19:15:18+00:00

He's fully aware that he will never be male and he knows that biologically speaking he's still a lesbian but for now living as a trans man is the only thing that alleviates his dysphoria.

Yeah, that sounds like a problem for her mental health team. I'm done with people expecting me to front the cost of their mental issues. She's just not as deluded as other female trans people, and that's not exactly a high bar to cross. None of them care about being "nice" to women; I don't owe them anything. Unlike them, I'm not supporting sex stereotypes and hiding behind "mental health issues" to avoid criticism for my behavior, so you can say I'm already going above what they're offering. Yeah I am bitter. Who would've known that when you treat someone like shit, they wouldn't have the fondest opinion of you.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-03-02T19:26:42+00:00

No. I'm not even going to date detrans women. Too much bad shit has happened with the way the trans movement treated women in general and lesbians in particular. It doesn't matter if she was oNlY a cHilD, or if she thinks she was brainwashed, or she was "the biggest victim" of her own choices. Actions have consequences. I can't look past the way I've been treated enough to start an intimate relationship. The trust isn't going to be there. We could be cordial acquaintances at most.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-27T22:18:57+00:00

I'll just take each race on a case-by-case basis

As you should.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-25T06:27:44+00:00

I'd be a bit nervous. I would be keeping an eye out for her being one of the queer and/or trans activist types. My worry would keep me at a distance. I don't want to get to know someone just to have them throw me out for being a transphobic. I also don't want to end up listening to a bunch of queer theory nonsense.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-24T07:18:41+00:00

A lot of lesbians were roughly in your position at one point or another. When I was a preteen/teenaged lesbian, I was very afraid of adult lesbians because in those days, lesbian children were unheard of and homosexual adults were portrayed as drug addicted sex predators. So in some ways, you're already way ahead of the game.

In general, I'd say it wouldn't hurt to take a look at what other women are doing. People don't always give good advice, so it's better to take things into your own hands. If you see someone who is doing something you want to do or is somewhere you want to be (a job you want, a lifestyle you want), it's a good idea to find out the steps they took to get there and tailor them to your own situation. There's a lot more option for women these days, but you should still play your hand carefully and weigh your benefits. Try to put yourself into a position where you can make choices. I see a lot of lesbian (and bihet) women get stuck in the home-maker role when they had other aspirations because they can't get over their mindset (see: real late bloomer lesbians). Be realistic, but also check your mindset to make sure you're not limiting yourself.

It is not usual for your parents to want the best life for you, even if they're initially disappointed and find the truth hard to swallow. The trans fad will probably blow over in another 5-10 years.

Personally, I wouldn't worry too much about not connecting with anyone in high school. I'm not in touch with any of my high school classmates. Unless you go to an extraordinary high school, it's going to be a small pond, and the rest of the world is always going to be a lot bigger. It's not to say that you'll definitely make meaningful connections outside of highschool, but not having that in high school isn't necessarily indicative of a deeper problem.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-23T05:48:33+00:00

I'm in my 30's and will never marry any dude whatsoever. And I don't need to. I've got my future planned out, regardless of whether a female partner is in the picture or not.

Yeah, I've been planning my life since my pre-teens and it's never involved a man. I've made space for a woman, but if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. I'll take my savings and go find something else to do. In no situation am I going to start dating or marrying a man. My entire childhood has been building myself up to be self-sufficient enough to make the choices I want to make.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-23T17:43:33+00:00

I think it's the level of hate/dislike. I don't like alcohol because I think it tastes bad. That dislike is different from someone who hates alcohol because they had a long battle with alcoholism and feel that alcohol ruined their life. For the most part, extreme misandry is of the spurned lover/fury the likes of which hell hath no type, and those tend to come from bihet women.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-22T17:52:45+00:00

The last one is the worst. The ones I see are the untagged ones that get past the filter. The characters are never canonically trans. I've dropped every work on the spot. Fuck that noise. Some authors have it as their "headcannon" and consider themselves above tagging. Those authors are blacklisted for me. If I ever get in a fandom again, I'm going to start leaving scathing reviews.

Another one I see is the super heavy handed monologue where a character suddenly starts giving a lecture on some social justice topic, like sexual consent, or slut shaming, or racism. I don't have to disagree with it to find it ridiculously over the top, ham-fisted, and out of character. If they can't handle these topics properly, I wish they don't touch it at all.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-23T08:15:08+00:00

Touching boobs is sex

Lol I once asked a male trans person if holding hands could be considered sex and he couldn't say no. He was all "well if the participants consider it sex..."

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-22T22:44:27+00:00

I don't understand how he gets away with this stuff. Drawn by the smell of perfume, I had a look inside my mother's make up drawer when I was around 6 years old. I didn't put anything on, but I did play with the brushes. I got in trouble for going through her things. I can't imagine going around grabbing other people's make up to use for myself. Boundaries.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-21T22:15:51+00:00

If it were true that they were cremating people in bulk they would need to have cremation furnaces that were much larger than the ones they had.

No, it just needs to be big enough for a body, which it looks to be, according to the photographs. Remains have been found in mass graves, with pieces of bones found within the ashes, as you say, they do not burn. Much less care is given to these bodies than modern day crematoriums, where the process involves handling the bodies respectfully, collecting the ashes carefully, and grinding the bones. That's going to take longer. Also, present day crematoriums are designed to handle the usual death rate of a population, so it's not hard to overwhelm them in the case of a pandemic where a lot more people have died in a short amount of time.

Is there anything that could convince you of it? Clearly not books, photographs, or first person accounts. What sort of evidence of the existence of the Holocaust would you accept, just out of curiosity?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-22T00:52:24+00:00

Do you even understand what is being said? A furnace that burns more than one body needs to be big enough to burn more than one body. What part of that don't you get?

A bunch of 1 body furnaces that runs for hours straight without stopping, with the door periodically being opened to unceremoniously insert another body, with the ashes being scraped out while the furnaces run is going to require less time per body than a furnace that is powered on and off, with the bodies in caskets and ashes and bones carefully collected and cooled afterwards for the mourning families. (Also, average person today is probably heavier than someone who has been starving in a concentration camp).

We literally know exactly how many furnaces they had

And how many is that?

They did not have enough furnaces to burn 6 million bodies

But do they have enough to burn 95,000 bodies over the course of 12 months (not accounting for the ones who were not cremated but buried, and the fact that the death toll was not consistent but came in waves)? Because that's the amount it took to overwhelm the Italian crematoriums. The Occam's razor explanation is that Italian crematoriums simply aren't designed with the intention of cremating this many bodies in such a short period of time, not that it is impossible to cremate this many bodies within this timeframe. I don't need to collect 6 million set of bones to point out that this argument is bullshit.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-21T18:52:48+00:00

Cremating corpses individually, which is the norm as families want to keep the ashes, is going to take a lot more time than if you were to burn in bulk with no regard for the remains. Also, I daresay modern standards for burning anything is stricter due to climate concerns.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-22T02:40:24+00:00

I know you know what the royal we is and what it means

Uh, either you're using it as the royal we and you really mean "I", or you are referencing a collective of which you are a part. Which is it?

You are bullshitting like a typical Jew

Your bullshit meter is broken then, along with your everything else.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-22T02:37:57+00:00

I have a thing against only one group of people in the world being allowed to have one

They're not the only group of people in the world allowed to have an ethnostate. Jewish people are not a monolith, I guess some of them are pro-ethnostate and some of them aren't.

but currently no western nations that possess them are ethnostates, and in fact no western nations at all are ethnostates, so again were back to the hypocrisy

What hypocrisy? Is there a particular rule against ethnostates having nuclear weapons?

Israel stands out in that unlike the US and other western nations that stockpiled nukes during an arms race with an ideological enemy that did the same in the name of nuclear deterrence. Israel stockpiles nukes despite its enemies not having any themselves, which means their stockpiling is done solely in an attempt to blackmail and intimidate its enemies. Its done for military supremacy, but that isnt the worst of it.

US and western nations developed nuclear weapons to attack enemies who did not have any. And they were developed with and on the scientific efforts of many Jewish scientists. You can argue that it's disproportionate force, but US and European history of the last few centuries has been one of flexing disproportionate military might against "ideological enemies" who were significantly weaker. If you're confused, I'm talking about colonialism and bringing "freedom" and "civilization" to "savages".

There is something known as the Samson doctrine, which states that should the Israeli regime ever be on the verge of being overun, they would unleash nuclear weapons on both middle Eastern capitals and in some versions of it European capitals(they are believed to possess over 400 nukes, way more than would be needed to level middle eastern capitals)

You can criticize that without claiming historians are fabricating lies about the Holocaust. I don't understand why the discussion is centred on historical details when it seems like your main complaints are about other things.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-22T02:04:37+00:00

That is not what I said.

It literally is. Lmao. Go check your own comment:

We literally know exactly how many furnaces they had.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-22T01:44:53+00:00

They had enough

How many? You "literally know exactly how many". Share it with us.

200k over the course of the 6 years of WW2 is 33k per year, way smaller number than the current Italian crematorium capacity.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-22T01:39:51+00:00

But people arent ostracized, attacked, imprisoned and censored for expressing different views on the number of people killed in Hiroshima, or the Armenian genocide for that matter

Some of them are.

support for a nuclear armed ethnostate

Do you actually have a thing against an ethnostate? Lots of places are ethnostates, are you against them too? Are you super pro-immigration or something? If you're against nuclear weapons, you can be against nuclear weapons without claiming that historians lied about stuff. Just be against nuclear weapons like the rest of us. But reminder that if you're currently living in a country with nuclear weapons, it might look very hypocritical if you want to ban them for other people. You can recognize that you're here to support your and only your interests and that other people are here to do the same without suspecting there to be foul play or conspiracies against you.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-22T01:19:15+00:00

Do you have some source that accounts for all of this and explains why the 6 million number is still unquestionable?

No? I also don't remember how many people were killed on the D-Day attack, nor how many civilians died as a result of Nagasaki and Hiroshima bombings, nor the complete death toll of the Armenian genocide. I think it's ridiculous to go around claiming that historians are lying to you about this number in particular to support some sort of conspiracy against white people. I think it's idiotic to claim that Italian crematoriums not being able to keep up with this pandemic is a sign in favour of this particular conspiracy as opposed to the simpler explanation that the crematoriums were simply not designed for such a heavy death toll in such a short amount of time.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-18T17:28:32+00:00

Lol, nothing to kill the buzz like an English teacher. I need to learn this skill to get rid of all the gross men trying to get off in lesbian spaces. If only these men were as reluctant to call themselves girl-words.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-17T19:28:00+00:00

Eh, lesbians 5-10 year back didn't identify as lesbians either. It hasn't been a popular word for a while now. The sexuality in itself has never been popular, I don't think. I think a lot of lesbians went underground. I know myself and a bunch of my friends all did. We've mostly stopped participating in "LGBT" spaces. I think a lot of people got tired of the constant harassment from male trans people and all their allies. Most of the lesbians I've met in the last few years have been through other lesbians. Progress is going in reverse: lesbians aren't as open about their sexuality anymore because of all the craziness and harassment and demands. Lesbian spaces and events have gone back to invite-only.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-12T18:12:15+00:00

Because they're shit at actual organization and activism. It's an entire movement of takers and perpetual victims.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-02-08T16:33:48+00:00

She'd look okay without the ugly hormone stache imo. Her delusions are super off-putting, though. And she's probably not having the effect she wants as a "gay transmasc" if I'm finding her attractive.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-31T14:32:00+00:00

Nah, truscums are the not-like-the-other-girls of the trans world. They are worse than the average trans person imo because they're so spiteful of their own community. Why would I want to be in the same group as someone who looks down on his own community? They're all ~identity~ types, whether they like it or not. Truscums only dislike the rest because they feel themselves deserving of special treatment. They're even more narcissistic.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-28T13:50:10+00:00

Most people who support transgender ideology are well-meaning, caring people

Lol, is that so? Cuz they don't seem to give a fuck about the rest of us. Not seeing the "caring" here. I hope the cult chews them up and spits them back out, which is no worse than what they've wished on me.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-28T14:13:51+00:00

It's not an "acceptance" thing, it's just that women don't tend to behave violently. Even if straight women don't "accept" lesbians, it rarely results in physical violence. Homophobic women stick to avoiding lesbians or social manipulation/shaming (see: none of the complaints about "Karens" involve physical violence). Most of the pressing problems lesbians face comes from straight men too, but usually that shows up as sexual harassment or rape.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-25T17:21:18+00:00

I'd argue that lots of people go great lengths to be remembered, and that it's generally considered a great honor if people are telling stories about you long after your death, even if they're taking some liberties with the details.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-23T16:51:14+00:00

If you're going to make shit up about your historical figure anyway, why bother?

Historical figure probably captured someone's imagination? Historical drama has been a staple of human story telling since there were stories. The Iliad, Antony and Cleopatra, Three Kingdoms, all contain re-imagination of historical figures. Hollywood regularly churn out hits based on real people- The Social Network, Twelve Years a Slave, American Sniper, Imitation Game. Do you hate all works of fiction based on real people? Or do you only take issue with this example as you find it egregious and distasteful? Because I'd like to remind you that Xuanzang the monk was given a magical monkey sidekick in Journey to the West, King Odysseus got raped by a magical nymph in the Odyssey, and King Richard III ordered his nephews' assassination in Richard III.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-23T10:21:56+00:00

The most respectful way is not to make shit up at all.

Are you against all historical fiction? Are there no respectful ways of portraying a historical or contemporary figure in film? This isn't a documentary. The filmmaker is going to take some liberties.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-22T09:05:41+00:00

Why the fuck is gay god doing shit for straight people?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-18T21:41:41+00:00

What straight person has to go through half of the profiles to find someone that corresponds to their sexual orientation?

Straight men occasionally murders male people who tries to proposition them for sex. If half the profile they see on a dating app is male, they're going to lose their shit. It's why male trans people are way more disrespectful with women than they are with men. Men wouldn't put up with that shit.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-15T22:16:10+00:00

They're almost always Anglophones too. I spent a lot of time and money learning English. So funny that when I make a grammar error or mispronounce something, I'm "wrong" while when these guys do it, they are evolving English or whatever. I have friends who have had to change their careers simply because their English isn't good enough. Why aren't these genderspecials cancelling TOEFL exams?

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-15T22:06:02+00:00

I thought the example was referring to the son as a they, since we're talking about referring to definitively known people as ambiguous they.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-14T00:47:43+00:00

There's nothing stopping "cis" men from being bisexual, pansexual or polysexual.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-14T00:49:00+00:00

Did he identify as straight? It just says he identifies as cis.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-13T21:44:30+00:00

I strive to be as memorable as your stupid friends. People go to university with a variety of educational and career backgrounds, if it's review for you, enjoy it as the GPA booster that it is. That's how I viewed my mandatory English credits.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-13T19:05:16+00:00

I'm doing an English degree, not building a house. Why do I need to take algebra?

Presumably because he might still want to buy a house at some point? Lol this is such a dumb argument. Understanding basic algebra is not a huge ask. Mortgages, taxes, bills, budgeting, understanding news statistics like the spread of a pandemic, the rate of climate change and whether, or not someone has committed voter fraud; these are all things that a basic, voting citizen needs to know. I want to build houses and I still needed to take English because there's more to life than building houses.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-07T17:07:27+00:00

Probably bisexual if he's willing to have sex with female people, and most of these types of people are.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-07T17:34:13+00:00

Are you talking about the transbians? I don't think most of them are strictly homosexual, but if you want, please please please take them away.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-07T17:17:04+00:00

Because you have to be masculine if you want to be a builder, a firefighter, a police officer or a soldier.

It's a cultural thing within those industries but you don't need to be masculine to drive a fire truck, issue a speeding ticket or apply caulk. Also:

independent, strong, capable of cooperating with members of the community

Those aren't inherently masculine features. Plenty of people who would be categorized as feminine are all of the above. If we're playing the gender game, cooperation is by far much more attributed to femininity than masculinity.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-07T17:31:47+00:00

Have definitely seen some act like this online

Yeah, sometimes I see butches do that, but usually it's a weird mix of "gender" roles. For example, a lot of butches I know of were raised in fairly strictly gender regulated households so they're really good at cooking/cleaning/childcare simply because those things were forced on them growing up. E.g. the bald woman dressed like a lumberjack will coo over babies like a soccer mom.

Also, I've almost never seen butches complain about not getting dates or anything like that, despite seeing a lot of fem4fem stuff.

just_lesbian_things · 2021-01-05T14:43:47+00:00

You forgot the part where they spew stereotypes about the people they're trying to co-opt.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-29T11:03:14+00:00

Nope. Wasn't there that guy who wanted to be a five year old girl after fathering like 7 children and abandoning his 7 children to live out his fetish full-time.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-29T06:32:35+00:00

At least these people won't be having children.

Oh they are. Nothing can stop them, tbh. All these pregnant "dads" and men who discovered after fathering 6 children that they're women deep down. A lot of them are even freezing their sperm/egg before transitioning.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-28T06:42:58+00:00

Every time they say dna they mean fertile sperm.

He. Don't indulge in his delusions. This is why he won't say sperm when he means sperm.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-28T17:27:23+00:00

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His videos probably get demonetized right out of the gate like most gay YouTubers anyway.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-27T05:06:24+00:00

Do men participate in this type of behavior in a different way than women?

Yes. And you likely don't see it, or don't acknowledge it to be a different manifestation of the same intentions.

In my experience, women rebel in different ways. Men are more destructive and imo, definitely more extreme. The rioters, the shooters are almost always men. Women will do social ostracism and other social stuff, but they usually won't do crazy violent shit. You don't see women killing people because they can't get a date, you don't see women beheading anyone or hijacking planes in the name of their religion. If you focus on the SJW emails, women seem extreme, but so much of male bullshit is just accepted as the statue quo. When was the last time a woman threatened to rape someone who disagreed with her?

Women will generally try to appeal to reason. They'll demand rapists and sex abusers be fired from positions of power. They'll also send shitty emails. Men are way more violent. They riot, start wars, and make violent threats.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-27T07:48:57+00:00

lol butthurt man who's never had to care for a baby before loses his mind over basic science. Empathy is learned, angry man, babies at that age have no concept of it. Babies at that age hasn't even developed object permanence yet. Try taking care of a baby sometime, if someone is willing to trust your creepy ass with one. And remember to stay salty, angry man.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-27T05:10:00+00:00

Babies are the most selfish people out there. Babies literally have no concept of other people. Babies haven't learned empathy yet.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-27T10:58:07+00:00

Not all that unusual for angry white american men to be complaining about some foreigner or other for their misfortunes, tbh. They'd fit right in with the most vitriolic trump supporters.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-17T20:08:45+00:00

I'm in my 20s in a liberal city too, and I found most of my friends online. It's not easy and it's not going to get any easier. Good friends and compatible people are never easy to find. Look into cultivating your hobbies first. Find People who have more meaningful things to say besides what "gender" they currently feel like or what dumb shit they're parroting off social media. Or be okay with being alone. Otherwise, your actions will be dictated by other people always.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-17T09:40:52+00:00

It's easier said than done, but is it possible for you to find better friends? There doesn't even have to be a falling out, you can slowly move to greener pastures over time. Do you have any hobbies you would like to cultivate? You're influenced by the people around you, and quite frankly, I think you can find better influences than a bunch of ridiculous women who waste their time LARPing and obsessing over identity politics. There are women out there with more substance to their character, I promise.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-17T20:05:23+00:00

Lol find new friends. Really. Maybe ones who read.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-17T09:56:12+00:00

He's probably getting off on the pictures and the whole scenario. The idea of being where he isn't allowed and where women don't want him.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-17T20:09:55+00:00

Toronto is in Canada, right? Maybe San Francisco, NYC, Seattle or Portland?

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-16T16:31:56+00:00

There might be if it worked like that. I'm sure there are women who would really like to extend their fertility period, especially nowadays.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-15T19:29:10+00:00

You don't have to reply on others mental illness and using those as an insult.

But they're the ones falling back on their mental illness as the cause and excuse for their behavior. According to Alice, everyone needs to pretend Alice is a woman or he will kill himself because of his mental illness. Alice cites modern therapy; which allegedly claims that his brand of mental illness demands everyone keep up this pretense. If that's what the mentally ill and the mental health experts that treat them say, who am I to say otherwise? All I can say is fuck him and fuck his mental illness, I'm not going to compromise my autonomy even if it means he kills himself over his inability to force me to do things.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-09T19:27:37+00:00

I don't mind engaging in conversation or debate with people regardless of how old they are, but too many of these twitter teens hide behind their age. Either you're mature enough to have an opinion and be criticized for it, or you're tOo YoUnG for negative feedback and should shut the fuck up. Can't have it both ways. I was online as a kid, and I took responsibility for my online actions, good or bad. If the adults around me were doing things that made me uncomfortable, I do as I do now and I close the window. Most of my friends grew up online too, and while we're not the most well-adjusted bunch, I think that's more of a cause of our online presence than an effect of it. We behaved and were treated as if we were any other adult, and we certainly didn't demand to be coddled by everyone we came in contact with. There are no children on the internet, if you want to be here, you accept the same responsibility as everyone else, regardless of your age. The internet isn't free baby sitting for neglectful parents.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-07T21:48:44+00:00

I don't have to do anything. If it were up to me, I wouldn't say anything, because I don't think it has anything to do with me and it is not my place. I'm not going to "save" anyone, but if there happens to be something you would prefer I say/don't say or approach you'd prefer I take/don't take, I would do so, not on behalf of anyone but myself. Obviously, I'm not asking for a coherent, official response from all gay men either, I'm just polling to see if there would be a consensus or a commonality.

I think male trans people's take over of lesbian spaces is more aggressive than what you've described of female trans people. It isn't possible to just ignore male trans people in female spaces. Their behavior, especially the female attracted male trans people, are quite aggressive and predatory. They don't just want attention, they get off on sexually violating women and they don't back down. I appreciate your advise and perspective but I don't think it translates very well to my own situation.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-07T22:51:03+00:00

The only one in my social circle is a friend of an acquaintance. He's neck deep in TRA stuff, knows I am not, and probably does not have the highest opinion of me right now. The last time I saw him, he was crying about it. I haven't been to a lot of LGBT spaces because I never made it in on account of the T*RF thing.

Generally I steer clear of gay men spaces out of respect, and I don't meet any "in the wild".

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-07T21:54:24+00:00

I can't say I'm well versed in how heterosexual women or gay men see themselves, but I can certainly strive to be more diplomatic. Thank you for your input, I will definitely keep that in mind.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-07T23:31:32+00:00

I agree. This was more pertaining to any details I should keep in mind or faux pas I should watch out for if I were to speak to any women who are identifying as gay men.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-07T14:44:10+00:00

If it bothers you, say something. If you're leaving the server anyway, why does it matter if they think you're a transphobe or not? I and most lesbian/women like me have been getting continuously kicked out of lesbian and feminist spaces for the past few years for speaking up for ourselves. Some women go back under new accounts to keep spreading their message.

You call yourself an ally, you say you're embarrassed ("of [your] generation"). Well if I were you, I would be too. You saw something you disagree with, ran away without saying anything, then you came here to complain to us about it. You won't even speak up in a discord server while you're on your way out. Not for yourself, definitely not for us.

How are you an ally, exactly? Are you here to help us or are we your shoulder to cry on? What are we supposed to be getting out of this "alliance"? We have so many "allies" who stand around complaining while doing absolutely nothing.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-07T02:59:58+00:00

Yeah see, this is why you'll never be brave and stunning.

just_lesbian_things · 2020-12-06T20:10:39+00:00

I'd try out my female relatives dresses when I was home alone.

Did you jerk off in them? Cuz I've heard the same story from AGPs and they jerk off (or got aroused) in clothes they "borrowed" from their mothers/sisters. Maybe that's the difference.

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