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Funnily enough, I had peaks one after another during an attempt to support my long-time friend who at the time just came out as MTF. Beforehand I was of the mindless school of thought that 'transwomen are women' and didn't think much of it when he came out to me. I had gone to r/egg_irl (subreddit that convinced him originally) to try to empathize with him and educate myself, and came out all sorts of confused at the backwards-ass logic being applied, which only got worse the more trans-related subreddits I/he visited. At first he didn't make much of a big deal about it, but after he became more involved in the community, he became way more sensitive and I found myself walking on eggshells whenever we would talk about anything gender or even sexuality related.

During that year or so I realized the guy has so many red flags (BPD, autism, trauma, has self-loathing that you would NOT believe) that it should be plainly obvious to anybody looking on that transitioning would not suddenly fix all the problems that he's retroactively made into signs of gender dysphoria. He fits so many online transwoman stereotypes that it's kind of frightening: cute anime girl fixation, furry, tech nerd, even the stupid 'programmer socks' and degenerate fetishes, the whole nine yards. It's abhorrent to me that TRA and the trans community can see his situation and still parade around the idea that living as a 'woman'/hormones will magically improve his life with no downsides, when realistically there are many. He's built like a brick shithouse, and while maybe he can attempt to pass online, there's not a chance in hell he can pass in real life. He has never once thought about anything from a woman's perspective; if I talk about something relating to lesbians/women, he will shoot back with something about gay men/men in general. If you look at it honestly, he's just a gay guy with deep-seated issues who likes to wear feminine clothing and more likely than not has AGP tendencies.

We are still friends (as much as it pains me to admit that), but I'm not sure how much longer for. I'm a people pleaser type who avoids most conflict, so I haven't made it known just how I feel about the whole situation, even though it goes against pretty much all of my values... The more he talks about how TERFs should be killed or how J.K Rowling is an awful person, the more I think/know I should cut him loose, for his sake and my own.