Cis gay men: don't forget the condoms so you don't get your partner pregnant on the off chance "he" likes vaginal by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I was told i’m autistic this year and according to the internets that makes me ‘neurodivergent’. I was like shit no another woke rabbit hole. As if that is something I would a) want everyone to know about b)use it to define me c)use it to feel better about myself

Cis gay men: don't forget the condoms so you don't get your partner pregnant on the off chance "he" likes vaginal by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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To me it’s always a red flag when someone is that quick to tell you they are ‘disabled’. Not that actual people with disabilities should hide it and be ashamed, of course not, but most people don’t think it defines them enough to be something you put on your bio or repeat every time you get a chance

How to make peace with being a lesbian as a 16yo with no lesbian friends by QueenOfTheNorth in Lesbians

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I know exactly how you feel, that was me 9 years ago. It might sound cliche but it does get better. The world might seem crazy right now but I can guarantee that you will meet amazing people in your life, both friends and partners. And you will redefine (not in the nonsense way the queer bunch does, in a real way) what it means to be a woman to you. It’s a process, a tiring, painful, and confusing one at times but still a beautiful process. I’m still not finished and that’s part of the charm! You’ll find like minded people, role models, anti role models... take your time and look inside! Being a lesbian is a beautiful thing. Coming out to parents is always difficult, more so if you can tell they will have a hard time, but there’s no rush, you are young, and you’ll see that many things that seem impossible now or at least highly unlikely, tend to work out in the end. Online communities were crucial to me growing up as a way to ‘make up’ for the lack or irl support I had, so it makes me sad that mainstream social media is in such a state at the moment.. i feel for teenagers. There are still good corners on the internet though, this being one of them, and as of the rest i’d say take anything good they have to offer and ignore the rest as well as you can

Why can’t lesbian just be female homosexual? by CuntWorshiper in Lesbians

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I’m not sure what I think about this post but I can 100% relate to “ I don't trust anyone who says they're a lesbian anymore because 9/10 they're not actually homosexual”

Is anyone else seeing a crazy amount of long time lesbians dating men all of a sudden? What the F is going on? by berlin13 in Lesbians

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What i’m seeing is on one side, a lot more girls dating girls, or experimenting, or whatever while I also see these “long term lesbians” who i would have thought had their sexuality already figured out, going to men, or back to men. I don’t care as much about the second group, it’s just surprising, but I try to not be judgemental (not sure if I always succeed. That’s human nature though isn’t it? It’s refreshing to say “i might be wrong thinking this” without the backlash). I’m more observing of the second group. But I was just making an observation

Is anyone else seeing a crazy amount of long time lesbians dating men all of a sudden? What the F is going on? by berlin13 in Lesbians

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Thank you for your imput, it might be just a coincidence on my part but it was weirding me out and this is literally the only place were I can vent/rant about these things without being called b1ph0b1c or whatever

on dating bi women/ ‘new lesbians’ by berlin13 in Lesbians

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Thank you! I might actually drop you a message!!

Racist conspiracies abound! Newly created LGB Alliance India is fake because their English is too good. by MarkJefferson in LGBDropTheT

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They are very US or UK centered too. Someone on reddit called me a trump boot licker the other day and I was like.... boy..... i’m not even american you are not the center of the universe

Lesbian women talk about meeting ‘transbians’ on women-only dating sites by WildwoodFlower in Lesbians

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Yeah I also noticed that this particular article has more views. I’ve read them all and they are all terribly interesting, but i’m guessing this one is an easier read and the article makes you wanna click

Lesbian women talk about meeting ‘transbians’ on women-only dating sites by WildwoodFlower in Lesbians

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The Lesbian and Gay News site is new, launched this week I think. It’s refreshing to see. Some tides might be changing after all

on dating bi women/ ‘new lesbians’ by berlin13 in Lesbians

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Thank you, i’ll definitely check that out!

on dating bi women/ ‘new lesbians’ by berlin13 in Lesbians

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Thank you, that’s lovely of you. The one sided sex thing that you mention, it’s really like that... it’s just another reason why lesbian only spaces like this are necessary in my opinion. I can’t imagine the types of responses I would get if I had posted this in a ‘lesbian’ subreddit. Last year i had a date with a girl (lesbian) that I knew. It was consensual, as in me and my gf had an open relationship for a while (she didn’t put it into practice though, didn’t meet anybody or anything). I didn’t have full on sex with my date, but there was some couch action sort to speak, and the contrast was insane. I felt like that girl actually liked me, and wanted my body in a different way that I hadn’t felt in forever. I’m sure that there are bisexual girls that really like women like I do, and hell, maybe my gf has a problem with me, i dont want to judge her same sex attraction based just on this.... but idk, if i end up being single again i will stick to lesbians

on dating bi women/ ‘new lesbians’ by berlin13 in Lesbians

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Yeah... i think that we are headed to that. It’s just hard and painful, and made me realize many things about my sex life which is never easy either

on dating bi women/ ‘new lesbians’ by berlin13 in Lesbians

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Yes, i’m pretty sure now that we are heading for a break up. I guess I still have some hope left, and it’s very painful because other aspects of our relationship aren’t bad at all. I don’t think she is aware that she isn’t sexually attracted to me. What makes this 10x harder is the fact that I can’t talk about this with anyone. Imagine how insane it sounds to say that you dont think your partner of 3 years likes you. I’ve met plenty of girls that think they like women, and how could they not? When “lesbian sex” for them is another girl making sure they have a good time, with no reciprocation whatsoever. This issue i’m having made me realize that most of my sexual experiences have been exactly that, me being a pleaser, and that’s it, usually nothing in return. And that might be fun sometimes, but I’m tired of feeling like i’m not desired, even by girls that “like me”. I want to feel like my body is beautiful too, and all that jazz. It’s funny because now that i’m an adult it feels like I’ve gone full circle and feel just as lonely and as weird as i did back when i was a teen, wondering if I would ever find love. Sorry if this is tmi! I had all this bottled up, and thanks again for your kind words

on dating bi women/ ‘new lesbians’ by berlin13 in Lesbians

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Thank you for your words! I agree that the most concerning thing is her unwillingness to do something about the issue. We have talked about it countless times, and it gets more frustrating as time passes.She has told me that she feels pressured (not by me, by the situation) because she knows that there’s a problem, and that that pressure has made things even worse, and now every time something is about to happen, the problem pops into her head, making it more difficult. I understand that, and I too feel more pressured everytime something seems to be starting in bed. At first I would try a lot more, but I’m starting to give up. I worry I won’t even want to be intimate with her anymore, because having her reject my advances is too hurtful, and i’m tired. I would never judge her or anyone who is having self issues or issues with sex, i’m sure most of us deal or have dealt with that at some point. But if that is the case, if she believes she is attracted to me like she tells me, and that this will pass, i would like to see her doing something about it you know? Every time we talk about this she reassures me that she likes me, but then nothing changes. She has even told me that she is afraid of doing things wrong, and doesn’t know how to please me (i’ve told her many times about what i prefer/like, she doesn’t seem to listen). It might not be ok to judge someone else’s attraction or sexuality, but she doesn’t seem to like women.When we first met, we hit it off because we had lots of chemistry and we were both very open about sex, it started as a hook up type of deal. Then after a couple of months it became romantic and here we are. I know that she had lots of sexual partners in the past (mostly men) and I liked that about her, i liked that she lived her sexuality like that. But then it just stopped? Again, i know couples go through dry spells, but our entire relationship has been a dry spell. It gets tiring hearing about her past sexcapades with men, while going through this