r/actuallesbians are super paranoid right now about making sure "No terfs get in here." It's kind of funny by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]bellatrixbells 30 insightful - 15 fun30 insightful - 14 fun31 insightful - 15 fun -  (0 children)

Me too HAHAHAH

Fujoshi girl wonders why gay sex party isn't as inclusive as her college "queer" group. by artetolife in LGBDropTheT

[–]bellatrixbells 13 insightful - 8 fun13 insightful - 7 fun14 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

"Dickless" ? Hahahha I hope this pun was intended !

To all of you trans ladies out there by AdmiralPangolin in GenderCritical

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I think it's unfair to call them men. They are males, and therefore not women, that is something I'll get behind, but I think calling them trans women instead is a very fair compromise. I mean, given that they go through everyday life as women and are treated as such by most of the people they encounter, they are in fact somewhere in between. They should not take our place, and neither of them wants to, but I think it's kind of in bad faith to just call them men.

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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Someone on the old peak thread had called him a "huge sentient Adam's apple" once and I'm still not over it 😂😂😂😂😂

He honestly just wants somewhere to pee safely by Chunkeeguy in GenderCritical

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Go home Kyle, you're drunk.

To all of you trans ladies out there by AdmiralPangolin in GenderCritical

[–]bellatrixbells 5 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

pun intended ? hahaha

Sharing our peak trans experiences by zerosis in LGBDropTheT

[–]bellatrixbells 9 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

I think yours is my favourite username on here so far.

Ok so my crush tells me about this fun sub, I went to check it out. First rule. (He didn't know what it means) by bellatrixbells in GenderCritical

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I thought saying my crush meant you were speaking about the person you are crushing on ? It's not ?

HEE HEE totally normal right gals? Note the wall of anime children by [deleted] in itsafetish

[–]bellatrixbells 4 insightful - 4 fun4 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

UwU

Meanwhile transbians continue to take over reddit. Now they're starting to talk about their girlcocks on r/AreTheStraightsOK , despite nobody bringing them into the conversation. by throwaway_6969420420 in itsafetish

[–]bellatrixbells 14 insightful - 4 fun14 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I like that the person who took the screenshot was also downvoting the whole misogynistic/homophobic crap hahahaha

I still can't understand how Rowling is getting absolutely slammed over reasonable, empathetic and what should be non-controversial statements. I feel like I'm going crazy here. by zerosis in LGBDropTheT

[–]bellatrixbells 24 insightful - 4 fun24 insightful - 3 fun25 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Also I like that some people are like "I'm nOt BuYiNg AnYtHiNg FroM hEr BeCaUsE i DoN't wAnT tO SuPpOrT HeR".
And I'm like... you DO know this woman has lost her billionaire status because she gave away too much money to charity... ?

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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Sexual orientation called a genital preference in 2017 ? Sounds like "Riley" hahaha

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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Also I think Dennis single handedly peaked half of the people on here hahahah

Wow, they're trying their damndest to appropriate our communities and erase feminine gender-nonconforming gay/bi men from our own history by KrunchKangaroo in LGBDropTheT

[–]bellatrixbells 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

That person's username is "blacklivesmatteracab".
This is most likely a straight white dude who channels his frustrations through "militantims" but he doesn't even know what he's talking about, he just wants to get into fights.

On r/actuallesbians, penises make lesbian sex easier. How convenient! by fuckupaddams in LGBDropTheT

[–]bellatrixbells 20 insightful - 3 fun20 insightful - 2 fun21 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Well I'm het so maybe this is a tone deaf question but what kind of a lesbian goes on a sub to find good porno ? Seems kind of... Not very likely.

Ok so my crush tells me about this fun sub, I went to check it out. First rule. (He didn't know what it means) by bellatrixbells in GenderCritical

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He basically explained to me that it was probably because this sub wasn't supposed to be political, but for one it kind of is and second... If that is so, why is being a "terf" not okay but being a TRA is not explicitly prohibited ?

Far from being cancelled. 'Harry Potter' still gets new toy releases. And Japan doesn't care for your hurt feelings, no matter how much anime you consume. You're still a sick weirdo in the eyes of Japanese otaku. Stay mad, TRAs. by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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I'm really sorry hahaha when I read it I was like wtf that sounds so ominous. I even thought I had been responding to the wrong person hahaha don't worry that's not my style :)

TERFs, I see TERFs everywhere... by Lyssa in GenderCritical

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It's not ;) but it is dumb and no problem hehe ;)

TERFs, I see TERFs everywhere... by Lyssa in GenderCritical

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It's pretty straightforward ;) iel reads "yel" or "yelle" :)

It's possibly a Montreal thing though. I'm supposed to be on the left, but like in many other places the liberal left is going overboard with PC.

"As a trans girl with a breeding kink..." by Radfem_the_Hun in itsafetish

[–]bellatrixbells 11 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

MTF : gets smelly discharge from neovag

Also MTF : OmG gEtTiNg My PeRiOd fOr ThE FiRsT TiMe sO eXciTeD FeLLoW SLuTs

Handmaidens : Good for you !! UwU

Me : Errr....

Meanwhile transbians continue to take over reddit. Now they're starting to talk about their girlcocks on r/AreTheStraightsOK , despite nobody bringing them into the conversation. by throwaway_6969420420 in itsafetish

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Well if the lie is big enough and you keep repeating it, eventually people will believe it.

I know that line was misattributed, but I though we were supposed to be the Nazis here ? o)

r/GenderCynical doing what it can to get rid of gay people on Reddit by Cacator in GenderCritical

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Someone in this thread is saying they have never heard of anyone getting death threats for being transphobic but that she keeps seeing people getting death threats for being trans allies.
Are we not living on the same planet ?

Canadian Transgender Sex Offender Released Into The Community by Susiesmum in GenderCritical

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Rose of Dawn recently referred to my country as "Tranada". And I'm not even sure I'm offended. sighs holy whatever.

I still can't understand how Rowling is getting absolutely slammed over reasonable, empathetic and what should be non-controversial statements. I feel like I'm going crazy here. by zerosis in LGBDropTheT

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Yup. Let's all go down the rabbit hole. I mean, we're all mad here. <3

Sharing our peak trans experiences by zerosis in LGBDropTheT

[–]bellatrixbells 14 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

"I am a non binary trans man" is one of the most nonsensical claims a person can make. Like, if you're non-binary, how do you at the same identify WITHIN THAT BINARY ??? Also is it just me or are there way more women identifying as NB than men, who just go full "i'M a WoMaN jUsT LiKe yOu TeRf, now tell me how to make fake menstrual blood so that I can validate myself".

TRAs know Rowling has researched both sides extensively and wonder why she is still gender critical by RoundFrog in GenderCritical

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Also "educate yourself" usually means "read what trans organizations want you to say and how they want to behave and drink it like a nice big glass of Kool Aid and we'll stop insulting you.
Uh uh yeah right no sorry I have a mind of my own. You wanna convince me that who I am isn't worth squat, you're gonna have to bring strong arguments to the table.

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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Excuse me but your comment makes it sound like most people with cluster B personality disorders turn out to be predatory and even rapists and that is both totally incorrect and wildly offensive. As someone with a diagnosed cluster B personality disorder, I've attended therapy for several years and I can assure you that I have never met anyone who was predatory, and certainly no rapists. Antisocial and, to a given extent, narcissistic personality disorders can definitely cause people to be "creeps" but if your point was right then probably a quarter of the people on this planet would be a predator or rapist. Also given that most people with BPD and HPD are women, that would mean most of those predators would be females. That's not right at all.

So it's come to this. by gparmesan in GenderCritical

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oH bUt /r/femalehuman wAs So TrAnSpHoBiC BeCaUsE iT PrEvEnTed MaLeS fRom SpEakinG fOr WoMeN !!!

... >:-(

Looking for r/truscum user who was looking for an exchange on offmychest by bellatrixbells in GCdebatesQT

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At least dinosaurs are extinct so it's not like they care much about their existence being erased 😂😂

Actually, good point Rose... by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Rose is such an amazingly intelligent person. I just keep watching her videos and every time I'm like wow

Why Do You Want To "Drop The T"? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Wait did some TRAs actually go out and claim that we masturbate in public toilets ? Cause I can't be sure but I really am sure that it would never cross the mind of any woman I know, like, ever... No offense to guys but masturbating in public is pretty much a male kick, usually.

LBGDropTheT crosspost: Disturbing misogynoir among trans women and their allies by marmorsymphata in GenderCritical

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The "Chad" one is basically Incels defining what a "good" woman is, obviously according to misogynistic stereotypes, and therefore "proving" that transwomen are somehow better women than women... because they comply to gender stereotypes and do what patriarchy says women should do. Says a lot about incels.

In blatant display of misogyny, mod of /r/blatantmisogyny says you must be pro-trans, pro-sex work and pro-kink or else you are a misogynist by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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"We do not support regressive notions of gender" ...but if you're a male with fake boobs wearing stilettos it means you're a woman.

fatal system error

He honestly just wants somewhere to pee safely by Chunkeeguy in GenderCritical

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Or someone needs to grab that leash and hold it tighter

I've written an article which I'm considering sending as an open letter to Pride MTL after finding out their Festival this year was trans-centered. I'd like some input. by bellatrixbells in LGBDropTheT

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Hahah oh no ! I'll try to Sum it up in one sentence like "trans are taking over pride, Do something !"

Coming out vs "passing" by notdelusional in LGBDropTheT

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That's one of the cringiest things I've ever read.

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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Well I think I like you.

Ok so my crush tells me about this fun sub, I went to check it out. First rule. (He didn't know what it means) by bellatrixbells in GenderCritical

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So basically it's been taken over like half of Reddit.
Thing is though given how small the trans community really is it sounds as though about 19 people are runnit the whole of Reddit hahahah

JK Rowling book sales unaffected by transgender views row by RadioSilence in GenderCritical

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That was genuinely interesting, but for the record I was joking. I was trying to parody the eagerness of TRAs to find ways to make everything ever a hidden message about trans !

JK Rowling book sales unaffected by transgender views row by RadioSilence in GenderCritical

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So Jurassic Park is in fact a hidden message aimed at the trans community : sex change is possible, y'all !!

😂😂😂

Ok so my crush tells me about this fun sub, I went to check it out. First rule. (He didn't know what it means) by bellatrixbells in GenderCritical

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I think it's supposed to be a joke rule

To all of you trans ladies out there by AdmiralPangolin in GenderCritical

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Socially there is. That's what I meant and I don't see how it's a slippery slope.

To all of you trans ladies out there by AdmiralPangolin in GenderCritical

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I understand what you're saying. I know this isn't a popular opinion on here, but I do believe that reasonable TIMs could get the courtesy of being referred to as "trans women", since they're not being dicks (pun intended) about it. The reason I'm definitely less inclined to do this is all the other TIMs, but then that's why I'm saying it sucks that those who are actually dysphoric and are just trying to get by are suffering consequences. I don't know if I'm making sense, regardless of whether you agree with me or not.

To all of you trans ladies out there by AdmiralPangolin in GenderCritical

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I know this is gonna be a very unpopular opinion but come on. There are genuine nice people among their ranks who are also getting slammed for not toeing the Orwellian line, and they do not deserve to be slammed by us as well.
I get where you're coming from, I know you're probably just venting about the Twitter BS, but this is not useful. It's just nasty and it sends the wrong message to outsiders.
Plus like I said before it also ends up targeting the part of the MTF community that is not hostile to us.

What is a woman? They stopped responding after I inquired further. by 11mile_house in GenderCritical

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You could've drunk the Kool-Aid, but no. You're so close-minded. Besides, I don't have to justify my existence to you, you're just a stupid female.

/S

Fan artist whose entire corpus is built around Rowling's work releases comic depicting her as an annoying hag who gets "what's coming to her", ie assault and it's supposedly funny (translation in comments) by bellatrixbells in GenderCritical

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Short text just before : "Last week a fan asked me what my opinion was about JK Rowling given that I am such a huge fan of HP. I thought I might aswell make that clear : I do NOT support those opinions. The goal of feminism should not be to oppress trans people. I am against her statements, but I do not wanna let her ruin all the joy that HP has brought me and still brings me in my life. Trans women are women, Joanne, get over it.
And now the comic. I'm not sure if this isn't gonna be lost in translation, so I'll just specify that Rowling's tone in this is supposed to be whiny and stubborn.
Square 1 : Yeah, well, this is 2020 ! It's not too much that mentalities are evolving. The [missing word, I think she mentioned in the comments it was supposed to say "persons"] of the LGBTQ+ communities, for me, have — Square 2 : JK, screeching over fence : HEY !! Listen to my opinion on the subject !! Person 1 : FFS Joanne give us a fucking break ! Person 2 : Oh no, not Rowling again ! Person 3 : Don't rich ladies have anything to do at all ?

Square 3 : JK : You have no right to ignore me ! I signed a petition !! Boy : Get the hose.

This person describes themselves as a feminist, and I know she is also a woman.
For some reason, though, when a woman says something about women's rights that doesn't cater to demands of TRAs, she finds it acceptable to depict that woman in a stereotypical, hysterical woman who won't shut up while everyone else is being reasonable and happy... And the punchline is she gets what she deserves, that is she gets assaulted, and spraying her with a hose like a dog is funny. 2020.

TERFs, I see TERFs everywhere... by Lyssa in GenderCritical

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Il assure you those idiotic pronouns are a thing in France and Quebec. Especially "iel" which is a combination of il and elle (he/she) and it's just retarded. I know people who use them and I think the main liberal university here actually encourages/forces teachers to use them if a student demands it.

"As a trans girl with a breeding kink..." by Radfem_the_Hun in itsafetish

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Not being able to do something extremely intimate and difficult that involves another human being, a fucking child, even though it makes you sexually aroused is being oppressed ?

Okay ?

Summation of recent jewish controversy on Saidit. by kokolokoNightcrawler in memes

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To quote The Dark Knight : "Friends ? Have you not met this guy ?"

HAHAHA

Hello everyone. I'm a pro-white pro-trans anti-female anarchist. by serously_chill_guy in Introductions

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You could have made this much shorter by saying :

"Hello, I am troll. "

Being a member of the GC community might have saved me from sexual violence today by bellatrixbells in GenderCritical

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No, he was from an old workplace. Otherwise I would have reported him to our bosses.

Fell Down The Twitter Shit Hole Again by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Well we have waited for the next Farinelli for almost three centuries !

Fell Down The Twitter Shit Hole Again by [deleted] in GenderCritical

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Cue meme of confused woman with mathematical formulas.

Positioning marriage as a desire for women rather than a necessity for men was a brilliant move by the patriarchy by WhyDoesHeDoThat in GenderCritical

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I see your point, but it can be a trap. I mean, you're still taking up a legal contract that can make you liable for a lot and might prevent you from ever being able to dissociate completely from the other party if they decide to be a jerk five years from now... and we've all seen our shares of ugly divorces too. It can be a moneyhole.

They just keep getting more and more honest. by AntiPorn in GenderCritical

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Too much.

r/itsafetish anyone? Wife scared to leave her TIM husband over the fear of transphobia by RedditHatesLesbians in GenderCritical

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Has anyone referred this person to trans widows ? Cause I'll do it unless someone on here gives me reason not to.

Transgender cyclist Rachel McKinnon dominates as competitors cry foul by Susiesmum in DownTheMemoryHole

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Cue Karen font : "Excuse me but I find your biological observations relative to the athletic character of those cyclists' legs to be extremely offensive, and it seems like you should review your stereotypical criteria which define what an "athlete" is in your mind. Just because an athlete is overweight and has little muscle mass dos not mean they are not valid.
If McKinnon identifies as an athlete, he should be seen as one. Refusing to grant him this is bigotry and might drive him to suicide. Is that what you want ?? "

I think I'm getting the hang of this.

Transwoman Hannah Mouncey Denied Access to Women's Locker Room by Susiesmum in DownTheMemoryHole

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"I might identify as a child, but that doesn’t mean I should be allowed in the ball pen."

And that is impossibly sad. I miss ballpens !

Rowling stands up for Detransitioners on Twitter by RadioSilence in GenderCritical

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I actually feel pretty bad for those genuine (lack of a better word) trans women. Seems like their identity is being attacked and appropriated too. I gather many of them, however we may feel about them or think of their reasons, were actually just people trying to live their best life. Some of them seem pretty appalled by the current situation. It's a sad time we're living in.

TRAs know Rowling has researched both sides extensively and wonder why she is still gender critical by RoundFrog in GenderCritical

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One of them told me that the other day. He repeatedly refused to explain to me what a woman was, alleging that he didn't have to justify his existence to me.
Then explained that he was assigned male but that he was in fact female and therefore a woman (because he knew it).
At that point I just quit before I got banned from Reddit. Seems like it never crossed his mind that his reducing our whole biological existence and social experience as a result of this biological reality to some all-inclusive concept was insulting as fuck to us.
What's even weirder is he was post-op... So if you're a female why did you need surgery to become a woman ? How do you become a female if you always were one ? None of this makes sense. All they care about is themselves and their own comfort, they have zero concern nor respect towards us. Sometimes it seems like they're the ones not recognizing our existence. It sounds like we don't have feelings and fears too. This movement is completely dehumanizing woman.
Sorry I went off topic. Hahah

TRAs know Rowling has researched both sides extensively and wonder why she is still gender critical by RoundFrog in GenderCritical

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Their whole ideology is made around hate and violence. Their sense of worth seems to come almost only from putting others down, either for not being woke enough or for imagined transphobia. Even among themselves there doesn't seem to be a positive climate at all. It's always about being nasty and mean. Seems exhausting.

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

[–]bellatrixbells 28 insightful - 2 fun28 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I hate it when they go "I pass". No, honey, people are being polite. Everyone can tell. But since everyone around call them ma'am and lady and she/her they think they have everyone fooled.
Like, what, no !

Both: What do you make of this study on mothers of children with gender identity disorder? by worried19 in GCdebatesQT

[–]bellatrixbells 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I apologize. I misunderstood the topic it seems :)

Any mods feel free to delete :)

Both: What do you make of this study on mothers of children with gender identity disorder? by worried19 in GCdebatesQT

[–]bellatrixbells 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

As others have pointed out, it is actually unfair to put all of the "blame" on the mother and the father's attitude and own problems should definitely be taken into consideration ... however it is well known that psychotherapy is rooted in blaming the mother.

BUT. I was raised by a mother with BPD and boy, has it taken a toll on me and caused confusion regarding my identity and confusion regarding myself and my relation to the world. Whatever that's worth.

Looking for r/truscum user who was looking for an exchange on offmychest by bellatrixbells in GCdebatesQT

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So you are suggesting having a discussion about how we should change legal/public language in a way that is acceptable to both women/feminists and trans people ? If that is what you are suggesting, either start a thread and tag me if you want me to participate, or I can do it. Check me as present !

All: clearing up confusion over identification by FlanJam in GCdebatesQT

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Equally glad ! Looking forward to other exchanges, and will definitely recognize your username on o/ !

All: clearing up confusion over identification by FlanJam in GCdebatesQT

[–]bellatrixbells 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I wish you would stop apologizing so much, lol. Again, if you're being genuine, it doesn't sound like you're really that much a part of the problem.

You know, one problem I have personally with my struggles against transactivism is that there are individuals like yourself who seem to be genuinely suffering and these individuals get caught in the crossfire between women and feminists like myself, and TRAs, whether well-meaning or just plain misogynistic assholes. What I get from it is that you suffered greatly, and through a complex set of events, misconceptions and probably self-defense mechanisms, ended up forging up the conclusion in your mind that the solution, or at least part of the solution, was to effectively "become female". I do kind of resent you for that as it means (at least in the past, I can't tell for now) that you view womanhood, meaning my very existence, as somewhat of a concept that you can just opt in. BUT. The thing is I don't resent or hate you personally so much as I resent and hate the social system which has led/encouraged you to believe that this was legitimate and that becoming a woman was one of your options. If we didn't have a system that enforces gendered stereotypes so much and depicted women as a concept or a performance so much, chances are not only that you would have never attempted to transition because there would be no affirmation, but that you would not have suffered like you did over your sex. I suspect that for many (especially self-ID'd and young) trans women it must be extremely frustrating to be told "yeah, you can totally be a woman and it will solve all your issues" (very roughly) only to have the "mean" women and/or feminists say "er, no, feck off" must be incredibly frustrating. Same actually applies to trans men, or non binary females mostly. (A charlatan promises you a magic pill and your mean mum tells you it's actually poison, and you're a teen !?!?? We all know who's evil here !)

I don't wish to make you feel like sh!t personally : you seem pretty understanding already, what's done is done, you seem to have done what had to be done in order for yourself to survive with the options that were presented to you. As far as I've gone down the radfem rabbit hole, one thing has always remained in me and that is the belief that it will serve me no purpose to club down an opponent who not only understands my stance but doesn't actively fight against it. As far as I'm aware, you're not out there demanding women with PTSD get around their trauma to accommodate your sexual desires nor claiming the presidency of a woman's federation.

For the sake of discussion, however, I think it's interesting to point out that you've said "I'd never thought about it" more than once when referring to how your stance about being a woman is actually offensive. Thing is even as a radfem I personally find it difficult to blame individual males, especially ones who experience crippling distress, for not considering offense when noone is confronting them. It is quite telling that you appear to be about my age (late twenties), probably described your GD to many people so far, and no one has ever drawn your attention to how (at least some of) your indicators that you were in fact a girl were not only grounded into sexist stereotypes, but that those would actually be offensive to women. It sounds like (and again, if you feel guilty about it that's on you but I don't personally blame you individually for it) you never considered women's feelings in all of this.. and that says something about how much we are disregarded in that society. This is something I often see in trans identified males : it seems most of them, while some are pretty keen on lecturing us about what womanhood is and means to them, have never actually bothered to sit down and discuss with women to find out what it is and means to us. Rather, it seems many take for granted that the idea of a woman that has been created by and for men throughout history is the right one. But is that really surprising, given the world we live in ? I do appreciate that you don't come off as obnoxious or arrogant about it. I might be frustrated at what you represent politically, but individually I think it's important to recognize that while you have wronged us in some way, your constant apologizing suggests that the wronging came from ignorance rather than blatant disregard : now, SRS and HRT are behind you and all the better if outwardly living as a woman makes you happy. Again, as long as you're not campaigning to reduce our political representation or infringe on our boundaries, attempting to make you feel bad over it isn't gonna help anyone. You may have seen the o/ thread when I got in a row with a black woman who was frustrated about individuals of my community doing "blackface" because they were dressing up as various public personalities, one of which happened to be black. The organizers did not know what blackface was, or that it was wrong. My stance was that, while we can say "er, no, that's offensive, don't do that again", it's hard to blame someone for doing something offensive when they didn't know it was offensive in the first place. The other poster accused me of downplaying racism to defend my community. Think what you will of it, but I think the same basic principle can apply to many male transsexuals : if noone ever tells you that what you are doing is offensive or co-opting, how can you know ? And once it's done and you can prove that you didn't know at the time, what does it serve to just bash on your head when there are actual KKK members and incels around ?

About the online posing, I appreciate that you hear me when I say it's offensive, but I can also understand when you say that being a man provided no relief. Whatever my thoughts on transitioning and social conditioning are, I have definitely heard testimonies from people with crippling GD and can understand the catch 22 quality of the situation. Don't be sorry about comparing experiences. That was your point of view and experience and they were true at the time for you. That matters to your life experience. Plus, there is no way to tell how our experiences are either similar or not without comparing. This is actually useful in trying to get a clearer picture of what's going on. I often come across young trans identifying males on Twitter who are basically begging for simps, that suggests a reason why aside from AGP. Plus you're actually providing us with more proof that women (or at least individuals with a feminine profile) get targeted by older men. That's useful to both our "camps". I also think it's actually wholesome that you would say our experiences are not as comparable "as much as [you] would have liked to believe". That's an expression of honesty which, as someone who underwent a lot of group therapy, suggests a path to finding peace with yourself. (Cheesy, I know)

It's interesting that SRS has made you able to address your issues. I'm definitely putting that in my internal book and it's gonna be on my mind as I keep learning about those issues. Looking forward to your answer or further discussions ! Take Care till then ! They accuse us t*rfs of wanting trans people dead, but we don't. I do care !

All: clearing up confusion over identification by FlanJam in GCdebatesQT

[–]bellatrixbells 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I must say, although I fond MarkTwainiac's answer a bit harsh and disagree with their interpretation of certain things (I don't really feel like breaking down a three pages long comment, though, but generally I find there is a lack of nuance in the psychological analysis...), it has brought a couple of things t the top of my mind.

Namely, I did feel somewhat insulted/annoyed when you referenced wearing dresses and looking pretty. I understand where you're coming from, but this is so tiring. So many of us hated it and it was forced upon us ; I felt distress for so long because I craved looking all girly and pretty like others and I, just, couldn't. So many of us feel unworthy because of that... Stating that the will to wear dresses and makeup is somehow an indicator of a female gender identity is more or less saying that we are unworthy, or not real girls.

The idea of having older men after you. I get what you're saying about power, and that's part of the pro OnlyFans, etc., rhetoric. The idea that being preyed upon by older men is somehow empowering. I fell for it too at some point in my life. The truth, however, is that it's kind of insulting for many reasons. It's insulting because you are finding power in something that is actually a loss of power for us, something that is often a burden and a source of distress because, and that is the second insulting thing, unlike you, we never have the option that you always had, at least before, which is to take off the dress and the female username and become a man...these sorts of things can hardly become empowering unless you are in a situation of privilege, in that case being male and having the choice. It's also difficult not to notice how you mention being abused by relatives to be molded into a surrogate wife. I don't want you to get into anything too personal on here, but it's difficult not to at least suspect that there is a correlation between severe GD and parental abuse. (BTW I hope you are seeking help for this, sounds like serious shit)

Again, I do have empathy for what you're going through, and you seem like a cool person. But I'm sure you can understand how your history (and pain) clashes with ours.

All: clearing up confusion over identification by FlanJam in GCdebatesQT

[–]bellatrixbells 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Don't apologize, that was genuinely insightful. The format made it more impersonal and allowed some distance. That sounds pretty much like textbook GD/HSTS to me. I kind of get that. If you're being genuine, you'd probably be the kind of person we can work with. It's actually refreshing.

Looking for r/truscum user who was looking for an exchange on offmychest by bellatrixbells in GCdebatesQT

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Hey, I'm frankly sorry for the delay. I have my own issues and sometimes just flat out forget that I've engaged in debates... Which is pretty much what happened this week.

I do apologize if there has been a mix-up regarding your identity. I think I remember someone else saying they had looked you up and that you had linked to one of our threads more than once on Reddit. I understood you were one of these MTFs that we see sometimes who want all female only spaces shut down, but it's basically because they're frustrated at not being included. Keep in mind though that O is a radfem space where we—at least I—are pretty much free to speak without filter and we'll naturally have common inside references. I was speaking "about you" in that comment because you were the one being referenced, but I was talking about a type of poster (rage lurker type ?) more than you personally. I don't know if that's clear.

What do you mean, inclusive language ?

All: clearing up confusion over identification by FlanJam in GCdebatesQT

[–]bellatrixbells 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've been reading your other thread enquiring about alternative options to alleviate GD, and for what it's worth coming from me, I do feel a lot of empathy towards the suffering you describe.

Let me ask you this though, since I understand you're a TW : if "identifying as a woman" does not describe you... Then what does ? Cause claiming to actually be a woman pretty much takes us back to loveSloane's point above, meaning how does one know that what they feel is indeed what a female feels, no ?

GC: Are there specific alternative treatments to SRS and HRT that have proven effective for successfully treating the most severe forms of gender dysphoria or transsexualism? by [deleted] in GCdebatesQT

[–]bellatrixbells 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I believe you misunderstood that quote, unless I did. I think what it means is if you make it immoral to point out a given problem, then it disappears. Of course, it hasn't disappeared at all, but that's the entire reason why we criticize that entire ideology where asking questions is deemed immoral.

Why do TRA's continually deny that they are homophobic when they describe our orientations as 'genital preferences'? by Smolders1 in LGBDropTheT

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I don't mean to derail with "but heterosexuals too 😭😭 include us !!!! 😭" but I guess I will to an extent and add that what you just said about not being interested in an amalgamation of mixed-sex characteristics pretty much applies to most people regardless of which side of the fence they find themselves on and which way they look.

I got into an argument with a trans man on Twitter who was giving lesbians crap for not being interested in trans women. After telling me he was into girls he got annoyed when I said to him that to me his being female would be a dealbreaker in my case.

Truth is, as interested as I may be in a trans man who passes, I'm simply not attracted to females. But neother would I be interested in a male who has altered his appearance drastically in order to appear female... It seems logical to me that most people are attracted to a combination of primary and secondary sex characteristics... Doesn't that make sense ?

Elle Barbara states that "the T should come first" and renames it TGBLQ during interview at PrideMTL by bellatrixbells in LGBDropTheT

[–]bellatrixbells[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't believe so.

Elle Barbara states that "the T should come first" and renames it TGBLQ during interview at PrideMTL by bellatrixbells in LGBDropTheT

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I guess it's in a Cersei Lannister kind of way, when you somehow use your sexuality as trade for... Something ? But that's very much an exceptional circumstance in my mind.

Elle Barbara states that "the T should come first" and renames it TGBLQ during interview at PrideMTL by bellatrixbells in LGBDropTheT

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To be fair the context was Afropride so race is a factor but it was weird how she complained about black men being sexualized but not women... Like wtf ?

Understanding Cisgender. No, really. by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]bellatrixbells 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Technically also if you apply that reasoning cis women are also doing it to affirm their gender ince it's about appearing more attractive, usually more feminine ?

Understanding Cisgender. No, really. by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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"Usually got a vagina/penis" how tf can you be a ciswoman if you don't have a vagina !?!?!?!?

Edit : okay it was a joke ! Phew !

Does anyone know of a great summary to how the T took upon the community ? by bellatrixbells in LGBDropTheT

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Wow ! Thank you !

Does anyone know of a great summary to how the T took upon the community ? by bellatrixbells in LGBDropTheT

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Seems like a good author to read from, thank you !

Does anyone know of a great summary to how the T took upon the community ? by bellatrixbells in LGBDropTheT

[–]bellatrixbells[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Are you referring to Selina Todd ?

https://www.bbc.com/news/education-51248684 ?

Does anyone know of a great summary to how the T took upon the community ? by bellatrixbells in LGBDropTheT

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Very interesting, and this ending isn't surprising at all. Thank you !

LBGDropTheT crosspost: Disturbing misogynoir among trans women and their allies by marmorsymphata in GenderCritical

[–]bellatrixbells 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

nah, they're saying "black trans lives matter", so basically black MEN's lives matter. They don't give squat about trans black men.

LBGDropTheT crosspost: Disturbing misogynoir among trans women and their allies by marmorsymphata in GenderCritical

[–]bellatrixbells 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Maybe that's just my cis white privilege speaking, but I come from a very diverse background and have changed in locker rooms where Black women would walk around butt naked. Never felt threatened. White transwomen, however, can't say I felt at ease.

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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Nahhh ignorance is strength ;)

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

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And this is one of the best pieces I've seen on here so far. Very well put.

I've written an article which I'm considering sending as an open letter to Pride MTL after finding out their Festival this year was trans-centered. I'd like some input. by bellatrixbells in LGBDropTheT

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Why thank you ! I must say I obviously have an interest in doing it as a woman even though I'm not LGB... Through threatening you LGB guys, they're also threatening us (which includes you anyways it seems) and taking our place. But it still seems unfair and it pisses me off. I remember being a teen and having lesbian and also gay friends who struggled. I hate that their struggle is being shut down over imagined bigotry. I hate what the T are doing.

I've written an article which I'm considering sending as an open letter to Pride MTL after finding out their Festival this year was trans-centered. I'd like some input. by bellatrixbells in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you so much for giving me this input ! I'm a literary student and aspiring author, so the tendency to go overboard is definitely sort of a "flaw" of mine in a get to the point context. That was definitely useful and I will work on it keeping those things in mind when doing so. Thank you very much again ! ❤️

To all of you trans ladies out there by AdmiralPangolin in GenderCritical

[–]bellatrixbells 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And pointless too when the other person is just doing their best.