How did we get here you ask... by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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How to introduce yourself in the 21st century: first, list who you fuck, second, list all your mental illnesses.

Yes, everything is okay with the society. Why would you even ask?

TRAs, allies and lgbTTTT press FAIL to damage JKR's sales. Let the triggering commence! by Uranian in LGBDropTheT

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The backlash against JK Rowling’s views on transgender law reform has failed to dent the popularity of the Harry Potter author’s books, with publisher Bloomsbury saying they have proved a lockdown hit, pushing revenues at the group’s children’s division up more than a quarter.

It's almost like nobody gives a shit about the trans dogmas and rightthink, except for 5 people on Twitter.

Every. Single. Time. by TarshishJupiter in LGBDropTheT

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There are lots of women out there who have dicks

Meanwhile the actual amount of women with dicks: 0.

Canceling Lesbos: The State of Lesbian Online Communities: Benjamin speaks to the mod of the now canceled r/truelesbians by xandit in LGBDropTheT

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The only reason why places like ''actuallesbians'' can exist and create an illusion that transsexuals and ''nonbinaries'' are just as homosexual as actual homosexual women (or men) is the fact that these are online communities, nobody ever sees anyone else and does not need to come in contact with the reality of their beliefs. This could never happen otherwise. If two lesbian groups existed IRL, one consisting of a large proportion of males, and the other of 100% females, it would only be a matter of time before almost all women from the first group would have migrated to the second. And something very similar was already happening on Reddit with AL and TL. At this point AL is just a circlejerk about how much you like ~tiddies*~ and hate terfs. It's a very juvenile and thirsty-teenage-male typical approach to sexuality that you don't see on any other lesbian subreddits.

Actually, good point Rose... by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I say - the sooner the better. Gays and lesbians are gaining literally nothing from being associated with the insufferable TQ crowd.

The amount of ass-kissing on AL is not good enough for a transwoman who’s suffering from disapproval of actual lesbians on the sub by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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If you're woman that loves women, you're a lesbian, and no one can tell you otherwise. Do not let TERF's, or other negative people, affect the life you're trying to live.

Just remember, guys. Biologists will never study males when researching female homosexuality. Neuroscientists will never study males when researching female homosexuality. Sexologists will never study males when researching female homosexuality. And so on. This should tell you something. uwu <3 <3

Like straight couples? Might be trans (r/actuallesbians) by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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What she feels is completely normal for a homosexual of her age

Not that the transbians would know.

Like straight couples? Might be trans (r/actuallesbians) by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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This is why we can't have T in LGB spaces. They're trying to push EVERYONE into transitioning.

"If lesbians can learn to accept trans women, why are gay men being so shitty to trans men?" by lazy-summer-god in LGBDropTheT

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a trans woman can resemble a cis woman in every way

Show me one. Just one.

Yes, this is how normal lesbians dress, sure. We fought for years to be taken seriously as normal people and yet here we are... (Comments full of hugboxing and uwu-ness). Can we PLEASE drop the damn T!! by hatsofpotato in LGBDropTheT

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I looked at some of the profiles who wrote top comments and they are all either from bisexual women or transbians. Except that one lesbian who wrote that she, too, feels invisible. Didn't look further than her profile. So... yeah...Good luck roleplaying a porn ''lesbian'' I guess.

R/LGBT cannot stand askgaybros user’s appreciation of men by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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The comments these dudes were writing were hilarious, “trans men aren’t men”, sir it’s trans MEN, it literally says we’re men

Truly infallible reasoning.

So many of the same "would you rather date a cis-man or a trans-man?" rigged polls

Yeah. ''Rigged'' :D

They're so stupid I'm already bored after reading 2 comments.

Trans woman claims that she was discriminated against in a Women's only bar. In Tokyo, Japan. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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''But why would anyone not be pro-trans? It literally doesn't affect you in any way :(((( "

Selfless bi woman advises lesbians to be nice to MTFs who surprise them with pulling out a dick before sex, because ''frustration is guaranteed'' when you have sex with men, lol by a_blue_bird in LGBDropTheT

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Sometimes I am still surprised by their lack of self awareness. (this from r/AL of course)

"You wouldn't even know the difference!" (More unscientific nonsense aimed at lesbians in order to coerce them into sleeping with trans women) by TarshishJupiter in LGBDropTheT

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I think that many of the very young transitioners are pretty, but I have not seen a single one who doesn't have the typical male shoulder-waist-hips proportions, male chicken legs (sorry guys, not all of you have them obviously, but MTFs mostly do), and frequently flamboyant gay male mannerisms. And yeah, getting butt implants only makes it worse, not better. Not even going to speak about the genitals. Whoever believes that ''you can't even tell'' is welcome to do a bit of research on pornhub. As a wise man on reddit once said - there is a reason why in a world with porn of everything there is almost no porn of post-op MTFs.

"Sexuality is fluid" - the root of all evil by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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you are "close-minded" and you should really "experiment" more. How did we fucking end up here?

Porn, probably. Having regular sex with a few regular people is considered ''boring'' now, compared to everything that people are seeing in porn.

NOT ALL GAY MEN ARE GAY! by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Not all gay men are obsessed with penis.

Sorry guys, but your pathetic little ''genital preference'' has gone too far and is now an ''obsession'' :) Why can't you learn from trans people, who are well known for looking past such irrelevancies as physical appearance and anatomy?

They're targeting Gaybros today by JulienMayfair in LGBDropTheT

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Further proof that T and LGB cannot coexist.

Is this forum dead? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

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I think that most don't want to leave Reddit. That is why websites like Youtube, Twitter and Reddit of course can freely ban and censor people - the majority of userbase will stay loyal whatever happens. The websites are just too convenient. Although I wouldn't call this place ''dead'' - we still have more discussions a day than most lesbian subs on Reddit.

Am I transphobic if I don’t want to have sex with trans women? The answer is "complex" and somewhat rapey. by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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You also identify as someone who loves women, and I imagine that you love more than their genitalia and their outward appearance. So what does this mean for your assertion that you are not attracted to trans women?

They're always using the definition of political lesbianism to define lesbians. Guys, please look at the actual definition of homosexuality. It's not about ''loving'' a certain ''gender identity''. It is sexual attraction to your own sex.

Weird experience dating a bisexual woman by itsmehere in Lesbians

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Glad to hear you aren't trying to ''make this work''. If she considers women as potential partners only because something bad happened to her with men/she hates men now - nothing good will come out of it. She needs to sort out her issues.

TIF whining because gay men behave like gay men by weirdthorn in GenderCritical

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How does one get to that point, though?

She probably spent her whole life on Tumblr and Twitter.

Weird feeling about marriage equality by Lesbianese in LGBDropTheT

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The Western marriage tradition is a mix of the Roman, Christian and Germanic marriage traditions. It does have ties to Christianity, but as long as you're not getting married in a church, it isn't really ''a Christian marriage''.

"You wouldn't even know the difference!" (More unscientific nonsense aimed at lesbians in order to coerce them into sleeping with trans women) by TarshishJupiter in LGBDropTheT

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All their arguments fall into two categories:
(1) applicable to all humans universally (if you're gay, don't dismiss the opposite sex, because there are just sooo many things you can do in bed! Also, they have hands and mouth, duh. If you're straight don't dismiss the same sex...)
(2) if something is important to you, but you would have never found out/guessed/or otherwise that I lied to you about it without me telling you, then it is not deception

What's wrong with being a gold star lesbian? by Gynephile in Lesbians

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I checked that sub out. It's just bisexual women who are fishing for male attention by pretending to be lesbians (as per usual). Literally the first post I read was from ''a lesbian'' who in other subs admitted to ''regularly wonder if she is bi'' and is going on dates with a guy. Sometimes I really have to wonder about these hetero games that women play with men. Is it really that hard to find a boyfriend by just being normal?

Edit: lol, ok, nvm, it seems to be just a sub where regular ''lesbians'' advertise their onlyfans where you can view them trying d ''for the first time'' one million times, for a very small fee :D

Married straight man puts on lipstick, dress, and fake boobs and tries to get his wife to have "lesbian sex" with him. Fetish gradually consumes his life, and she's horrified. by gendercritfem in itsafetish

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I need help having lesbian sex with my husband.

LOL. I mean, this has to be a troll post, right?

Also, about the commenters who write

OP is straight. She and her SO need to accept this and try to move on from each other.

Do they actually imagine that she is not attracted to her husband in a wig because she is ''straight''? And a gay woman would be into that? Come on. The relationship is failing because he has a fetish, and to a regular person this type of a fetish is very hard to deal with.

How a straight woman discovered she's a gay man but disapproves of anyone else's "genital preferences" by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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How are they gonna already have feelings about a body part they've never seen?

Millions of years of evolution.

Ideas kill people. We're all pansexual. Attraction to random people on the street is the proof in your sexual pudding. You don't know their gender. They could be nonbinary demifemmebutchelf. Think, you phobic phobes. THINK! by fijupanda in LGBDropTheT

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These ideas are what keeps trans women away

I will no longer call myself a lesbian

So... mission accomplished?

Besides random shit people are saying on the internet, what has happened or been said to you IRL that makes you want to drop the T? by fuckupaddams in LGBDropTheT

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You know all the online stories about someone lying about being cis, purposely hiding things from you to have (awkward) sex, harassing you and calling you a bigot for caring about anatomy instead of ''the soul'' of the person, claiming to be an enlightened bisexual themselves, despite having never shown any interest in the same sex etc.? Yeah, all of that.

A lesbian couple in a lesbian subreddit, 2020 by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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LOL. And just to think that some lesbians on r/AL are so brainwashed that they would never date a ''TERF'' lesbian because she doesn't accept that these two men are either ''women'' or ''lesbians''.

Straight girl needs help overcoming her compulsory heterosexuality in order to make her heterosexual sex with a trans-identified male "queer." by yousaythosethings in LGBDropTheT

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Personally, I feel like my body is so wired to satisfy male partners that I automatically start acting like a male would expect me to, regardless of context. Same thing on her end : she constantly feels pressured to use her penis or to make me orgasm, even when we both agreed not to. Is this normal ?

A heterosexual woman is asking if her wanting to have typical hetero sex with a male, and a male wanting typical hetero sex with her, is ''normal''. LOL. Every day they're getting crazier and crazier.

Gulags were 'compassionate', 'educational' institutions, say trans rights campaigners by turtleduck23 in LGBDropTheT

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Those are the people who Yuri Bezmenov was referring to when he spoke of ''useful idiots'' (useful to the Soviet Union and still to Russia today) who can be presented with all the facts imaginable, but they will never believe in the brutality of Gulags (and the Soviet regime in general) until they end up there themselves.

the longest sentence was 10 years

25 years. But you could go to a Gulag as many times as the authorities wanted, for whatever reason.

The aim was to correct and change the ways of criminals.”

Funny they call them criminals, considering that most of the imprisoned had not commited any real crimes, but were either political opponents, people who refused to collaborate, intelligentsia, people who had more property than was acceptable, entire families of the previous four groups etc. Just pretty regular people, many (perhaps most) of whom were imprisioned without ever being brought to a court.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

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it seems that many people are constantly preaching the idea that a lesbian is a lesbian because of bad experiences with men and center lesbianism around men all the time

You can thank the political lesbians for that. They were the ones who proudly announced to the world that because men have been so horrible to them, they have now become lesbians. This is the image that they created for lesbians.

The sexist pseudoscience of ‘gender identity’ - LGBT groups backflip in the UK by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Susie Green herself explains that she initially thought she “had a very sensitive, quite effeminate little boy who was probably gay” but instead argues Jackie’s preference for dolls and dresses was evidence of transgenderism.

Fcking hell.

Susie Green herself claims “I have my daughter, whole and alive, but if I had refused to listen then it’s very likely that I would have a dead son.”

To listen to him... playing with dolls? Which is a clear indication not only of him being a girl, but also of him being on the road to suicide? Those people are completely deluded.

It's a good article tho.

Who are these “cis lesbians” in relationships with transbians, you ask? Befuddled straight women who have been indoctrinated into believing they’re overcoming CompHet. by yousaythosethings in LGBDropTheT

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I read her other threads and feel quite sorry for her. She's absolutely miserable. Women like her are (part of) the reason why lesbians are constantly harassed by MTFs, to a greater extent than gay men. They're bending backwards to please men and TRAs, regardless the cost to themselves. In another thread she wrote about not being attracted to his genitals, but

I just can't really imagine a world where I'm as turned on by her P as I am by a V. It's just that I find it really tricky to differentiate this idea of a penis I've had all my life, and my fear of them, and then the ultimate discovery that I'm a lesbian and am with a transfem partner, and needing to like literally adjust my entire world view of what a woman's body can look like AND feel equal attraction to her. My mind is pretty there but it's like my body can't catch up. I sometimes accidentally fantasise about her having a V in sexy time and then I feel like shit and then I start thinking about transphobia (and transbianphobia) and it ruins any sexy mood I was in. I'm a fierce advocate for 'there is no one way a woman's body looks, anybody who feels they are a woman is a woman and so lesbians can love woman regardless of their parts' but like what about the socialisation part? How can I train myself to find her as sexy as I would a cis woman and not wish she had different parts? I realise this is horrible to say and that it shouldn't matter. It's like I hate this transphobic world and all of the conditioning I have which is causing this problem. How can I change it?

A woman who - as she herself wrote - was so susceptible to social pressures that only dated men despite being gay (and I'm sure she's not even from a very homophobic place), is now once again suppressing her own identity to live according to another ideology. Why are women like that? I don't get it. Why can't she have at least a bit of respect for what she feels and herself as a person? What matters to her now is adapting some ''lesbian fashion'' and ''looking like a lesbian couple''. She doesn't live in the real word, does she? She even wrote that her bf ''ponders'' that he ''might'' be trans, and doesn't even id as a woman himself. It's all in her head, she's all about creating some image of herself for the society to look at, regardless how much of her actual feelings she has to deny to create this image that in [insert current year] she has found to be ''the most desirable'' to have.

Wearing pants makes you a man, duh by RedditHatesLesbians in LGBDropTheT

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Interesting. Someone told her that she looked cute in skirts, so for years she only wore skirts to please them? And then when one time she wore pants, and one person asked her a weird question, she had to lie about liking pants and went back to skirts? Yeah, this is a normal person who can handle the real world, absolutely.

TRAs are going full science denial now. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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It's not just ''genital'' preferences though. Even the best looking and best passing MTFs don't look like regular women. There's always something uncanny about their faces, their body shapes, their voices etc. Let's stop pretending that it's just about the genitals. It's about the whole body.

According to the TRAs “lesbian culture comes directly from trans lesbians” by bastetkat in LGBDropTheT

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What is he referring to? The ''I want tiddy'' and ''lesbians love girldick'' memes on r/actuallesbians? It's the antithesis of culture. We could say that transwomen have contributed to the degradation of lesbian culture, but that's about it.

Is your Pride event inclusive of everyone within LGBTQ+? A survey focusing on the inclusion of Pups, Furries & Kinksters... by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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It used to be called gay pride and it was clear what it was about. Now it is ''pride'' of what? Anyone knows?

Historical use of the word "lesbian" by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

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Given that the concept of sexual orientation is relatively new, I doubt that ''lesbian'' was originally meant to refer to homosexual women exclusively. It was probably used to describe any woman who had been seriously involved with other women. But I think that this has changed completely. We could make a survey in random cities, asking people if ''bisexual woman'' means the same as ''a lesbian'' and I grant you that 99% would say no, it means different things. Queers just want to melt everything together in their melting pot. The rest of society likes to have different words for different things, so that communication is possible. Ironic how queers claim that ''language evolves'', but refuse to respect the fact of the language changing when it does not suit them.

The harmful impact of 'trans lesbians' is becoming apparent. by fuck_reddit in LGBDropTheT

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Could it be that being lesbian or gay is not quite as absolute or fixed as gender theorists want us to believe?

Someone should tell this guy that the gender theorists claim no such thing, and are actually on the same page as him.

One reason why I don't take such data very seriously is that at that age many people don't know what their sexuality is. Many L&Gs probably ended up in the ''straight'' category. And how many non-LG's are identifying as LG's at that age? Since the number of LG's is very small, it is easy for a small number of misidentified people to distort the data. Forcing a 9th grader to choose a sexulity could very well be a significant factor in obtaining bizarre data.

First, we must ask what’s going in the emotional lives of these individuals that has them behaving in such a hyper-sexualized manner? What emptiness are they seeking to fill?

Also a possibility, as sexuality and gender labels are increasingly often used as a substitute for an actual, well-rounded identity.

This fluidity is particularly true for women, making the L of LGBT a dramatically different animal at its very core than the G.

A round of applause for all the political lesbians, "men are trash I'm a lesbian now", ''my bf grew his hair out, so I am a lesbian now!!", "all lesbians have exceptions, right???" and all the other women who aren't homosexual but claim to be ''lesbians'' for popularity, fashionability, political correctness and whatever other stupid reason.

A young woman recently told me that she is a lesbian, but her sexual attraction is to men. Apparently she’s not an outlier. .... Lesbianism and gayness are more different than they are similar in very fundamental ways. The gay male is more likely to stay in one lane for life

Again female homosexuality is judged based on what all the male-attracted ''lesbians'' behave like. Sorry but you'll have to find and study actual homosexuals to come to any worthwhile conclusions about homosexuality.

Best arguments against sexual fluidity amongst lesbians? by [deleted] in Lesbians

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You don't need to argue with random people about your sexual orientation. Especially someone who won't accept even just the existance of homosexuality without scientific proof that homosexuality fulfills some biological function.

What peak-transed you? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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(1) was a pro-tra libfem (not an activist, online or off, but I did believe most of it)
(2) dated an MTF
(3) realized that the current pro-trans discourse is pure bs and gaslighting (peak 1)
(4) posted about my experiences on (liberal) feminist subreddit, was downvoted and dismissed as a troll, because ''this never happens'' (peak 2)
(5) joined groups like r/itsafetish, started reading trans subs to find material for that sub (peak 3)
(6) found out about all the censorship in science, academia, journalism etc. etc. that the TRAs are pushing (peak 4)
(7) saw what impact admitting MTFs in lesbian spaces has on that space (peak 5, referring to r/AL obviously)

It's one of many reasons why I believe that internet is one of the main drivers of the spread of irrational ideas like these. If every day you see 10 people who constantly repeat x, y, z (transwomen are just like women, there is no difference, etc. etc.), but you never encounter this phenomenon in the real life (I did not know any trans people IRL), then you begin to believe those statements. And when you encounter the real thing, you begin explaining away all the incongruences, because you ''already know'' how it is ''supposed'' to be, and also you don't want to be a ''bigot'' by seeing the biological reality if your political ideology demands seeing something else. But I can only lie to myself for so long.

I did some data analysis on the AL demographics survey. Any requests? by reluctant_commenter in Lesbians

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I have to laugh at lesbians being a minority in a sub titled ''ACTUAL lesbians''. It's just another queer melting pot, where the non-gay majority is ''educating'' actual homosexuals on what is the only acceptable way how they should lead their lives.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

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They were centring women and women’s issues politically.

Absolutely, lol. When Sheila Jeffreys writes ''sexuality is not fixed, it is an old fashioned 19th century sexological belief that lesbianism is innate'' she actually means ''you should shop in women owned stores and vote for abortion rights!'' Wow, how did I not connect the dots myself??

We all had to choose to explore and people like Sheila Jeffreys said it was okay

No, people like Sheila said that sexuality is a social construct, and it is anti-feminist to still choose to fuck men when you can socialize yourself into lesbianism. She constantly uses the word sexuality for a reason. It is about sex.

To put it simply - you're in massive denial about political lesbianism.

Unbelievably stupid list from latebloomerlesbians: signs that you are a late bloomer by Astrid2448 in Lesbians

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I find posts like this and the comphet doc so weird. It's actually very simple. Are you sexually attracted to women? If yes, you are at least bisexual. Are you sexually attracted to men? If yes, you are bisexual, if no, you are a lesbian. That's literally all there is to it, period. If you need to grasp at straws like listed here - because you don't experience the sexual attraction and need to find other 'proofs' - you're most likely not gay.

My male partner doesn't like me dressing slightly masculine. Yet again we see this theme. "My boyfriend sucks! I'm going gay!"

No, no, you misunderstand. She means - ''I wear sneakers sometimes, so I can't be straight, right?? Or wait, maybe I'm straight just not a woman? Wow, life is so magical!''

biologically speaking, the impulse to, well, breed like rabbits, affects all genders and sexual orientations.

Does it though? My impression is that gay men and women don't really have much of an impulse to ''breed'', especially not like rabbits. Might be wrong though.

Influx of trans butch women? by Fuckyoucensorship in Lesbians

[–]a_blue_bird 18 insightful - 4 fun18 insightful - 3 fun19 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

It's also weird to see femme lesbians put trans butch women on a pedastal of what "butch womanhood" is.

A woman who sees a male as the ideal version of a woman is nowhere close to being gay. Every other woman claims to be a lesbian these days, and her husband is ''just that one exception, like every lesbian has, am I right girls??''. Just ignore all the fakes and wannabes.

That was quick by FineIWillDoItMyself in Lesbians

[–]a_blue_bird 17 insightful - 12 fun17 insightful - 11 fun18 insightful - 12 fun -  (0 children)

I don't see what is the connection between lesbianism and pussy?

(an approximate quote of what I not long ago read on r/AL)

Has anyone here EVER thought this? by artetolife in LGBDropTheT

[–]a_blue_bird 17 insightful - 3 fun17 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

It's just people whose whole and only identity is their sexual orientation.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

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My actual point is that your claim ''Women that were not attracted to other women were not cosplaying lesbians in the 60s and 70s, for Christ’s sake'' is simply false. Not only did they do it then, but they are still doing it now. And they're not even hiding any of their views on sexuality being a social construct, as opposed to a fixed, innate trait.

Most women who end up lesbian think they are heterosexual

True if you take into account all the political lesbians.

Edit: do you support women who have slept with men never coming out?

I support women who say ''I used to be heterosexual once'' never coming out as lesbians.

Political Lesbianism is not forced lesbianism/fake lesbianism. by [deleted] in Lesbians

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Some quotes from a recent (2018) article by Sheila Jeffreys, on political lesbianism in the 70s-90s UK and on a book she wrote about it:

Lesbianism and heterosexuality were seen as socially constructed, not innate [by lesbian feminists]. So, hundreds of thousands of women internationally who might not have considered it before and been shaped by all the social pressures to be heterosexual, chose to become lesbians. This mass creation of lesbians was crucial to our politics and to everything we achieved. Now, unfortunately, the idea that lesbianism and heterosexuality, as well as masculinity and femininity are innate and cannot be changed, is fashionable even amongst many younger lesbians who see themselves as feminists. I was involved in lesbian feminism in this period. I made the choice to become a lesbian because of my politics [.......] Most were ‘political lesbians’, in the sense that they became lesbians as a result of their involvement in the WLM and exposure to lesbian feminists and lesbian feminist ideas. This practice of feminists choosing lesbianism as a form of resistance to male supremacy may seem foreign to common notions about lesbianism today, even within feminist circles, which are that lesbianism is something essential, not something that can be chosen [.....] Another chapter of the book is devoted to the crucial critique of heterosexuality which lesbian feminists created, showing that heterosexuality is not an unfortunate effect of nature, but a social construction. [....] Girls are made sexually heterosexual through the sexual attention of boys and men throughout their lives as well as the world of propaganda they are surrounded by, the porn and girls’ and women’s magazines about how to please men in bed and explaining how to do anal sex without too much pain and how to lie on a bed to enable the penis to go right down the throat. Heterosexuality is created by a culture in which all the novels in the airport bookstore are about hets, in which all the movies, plays, poetry, are still overwhelmingly het. And so on. [....] The theorising of sexuality and heterosexuality was the greatest theoretical achievement of lesbian feminism. And a most important aspect of this was the creation of political lesbianism, the idea that women could make a political choice to be lesbians.

Jeffreys is famous for claiming that she ''was once heterosexual, but then chose to be a lesbian''. And she means ''lesbian'' as in homosexual, not celibate. Her view, and as she describes it - the view of the majority of the political lesbians - was and still is that sexuality is a social construct, created through social practices and pressures, and can be changed through the same route.

Edit: Look, I found an ever better quote from her book (parts of it are readable on Google):

Today .. there is much opposition in the online lesbian community to the idea that a woman who has been heterosexual can or should become a lesbian at all. There is a resurgence of the nineteenth-century sexological idea that lesbianism is an innate condition. The understanding that sexuality is not fixed enabled thousands of women to leave heterosexuality at the time of the WLM and become lesbians. As feminist social constructionist influence waned, the biological determinism that was always more favoured by gay men came to prominence again.

Who's a basic bitch now?

I feel like our community has gotten right back on its feet. by 11mile_house in Lesbians

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Yeah. I just want more regular, everyday topics here, not just politics :)

Man on r/acutallesbians wants to know if he's a lesbian, apparently he is by turtleduck23 in LGBDropTheT

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Those people are completely brainwashed.

Anyone else get really sick of heterosexual culture sometimes? by Depressed in Lesbians

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Am I tired of heterosexuality - no. Oversexualization of literally everything - yes.

I'm lost by badatnicknames in LGBDropTheT

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Not only, you're also supposed to pretend that women who give him awards and upvotes are ''lesbians''.

What is Your Ideal Date? by CJLez in Lesbians

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Not ''the ideal'', but right now it would be great to grab some food and drinks, and eat it at a lake, and then go for a swim. Preferably at night.

"Is it okay for me to be a lesbian and not like penises" (Actuallesbians) by oofreesouloo in LGBDropTheT

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Honestly, I can't be bothered with those people any longer. If you have such a low sense of self worth that you feel you must go online and ask strangers whether you need to start sucking dicks for them to like you, then it's a lost cause and that's the end of it.

Stonewall UK gets more and more... interesting by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I doubt they'd take Asians either. They're ''overrepresented'' in many fields too, although maybe not this one. But obviously they can't write ''no Asians'' :D

Thoughts on the current climate on social media for young lesbians by Innisfree in Lesbians

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I would imagine young lesbians have to be good at navigating that to not find themselves excluded. At an age when the need to belong is strongest, the uncertain ground of online discourse must be at best alienating to them and at worst downright harmful.

It's always been like this and worse, and much worse. I don't think that a minority of 2-3% of the population should realistically expect being fully accepted and understood by the rest of the people. Especially now that being LGBT is fashionable and a lifestyle, and the overwhelming majority of the LGBT, by whom the rest of us are also judged, aren't even homosexual. You should expect to be on your own, unable to fully relate to the mainstream society, and also unable to fully relate to the ''queers''. It's great if you find a group to belong to, but I don't think that's very likely. It's just the reality of being a small minority. If you feel like you ''must'' belong to something, then focus on hobbies, get into art, literature, history, philosophy, and literally anything other than the average social media group centered around your sexuality. Life is much bigger than that.

Why are lesbians more compliant with TRA than gay men? by rouge_tropical in LGBDropTheT

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First (as many already wrote): women are more compliant than men in general.
Second: men don't pressure other men to agree with TWAW/TMAM like women pressure other women. I think this is due to men being more disagreeable and handling disagreements with others better than women do.
Third: women care much more about what others think of them, so many feel the need to virtue signal, i.e., show to everyone how progressive and morally superior they are; or to change their opinions to appear progressive.

Do you think this is the end for TL? by a_blue_bird in Lesbians

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Why do you think it isn't user friendly? So far it looks like an exact copy of Reddit to me.

I'd just like to remind y'all that lesbians can still get pregnant! by RedditHatesLesbians in LGBDropTheT

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Because all encounters with the reality makes them feel immediate threat to their sand castle of ''I've been into men my whole life, but I'm a cute uwu lesbian!''

Unnecessary post removal of content that doesn't break any rules by [deleted] in Lesbians

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What should I say then? Once I made post asking if people were going to the gym, even that was removed.

What is/was your profession? Did you ever think you’d end up in the profession, and if you had the freedom/financial stability what would be your chosen profession? by IamWomanHearMeRoar in Lesbians

[–]a_blue_bird 13 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 3 fun14 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

I'm a software dev. If I had the freedom, I'd probably quit my job and work on improving my web design skills, then open my own web design company. As it is, I work on back end 90% of the time. Which I like a lot, but since we're speaking of very idealized scenarios here...

Initially I wanted to work in academia, but after I saw what state it is in I changed my mind.

Show with a well written lesbian plot? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

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You're asking for too much.

Why is female sexuality so easily dismissed? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

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I think it has to do more with women's own actions than with misogyny. Who argues that sexuality is fluid? Mostly women. Who are ''homosexuals with an exception''? Mostly women. Who won't date bisexual women due to a fear that they won't be committed to your sex like they would be to the opposite? Mostly women. I've yet to see a single straight man who re-identifies as a gay man because his girlfriend of one year decided that she is actually a man.

Wikipedia's brain is running on coal guys. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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I think it is time to stop giving a shit about the academia.

I am so fucking sick of bisexual women doing this shit by peaked2020 in Lesbians

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What is so great about being a lesbian? People .. try to force men on you like you're some kind of breathing sex toy.

And that's exactly what some women want.

on transwoman dating eachother and calling themselves "lesbians" by verystablegenius in LGBDropTheT

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This reminded me about a girl named Gypsy Rose Blanchard. I used to not believe in much of psychology, especially things like munchausen by proxy seemed very far fetched to me. Her story really changed my opinion (it's all over Youtube for anyone interested). Apparently her mother was lying to everyone that she has cancer, asthma, muscular dystrophy and numerous other diseases. Obviously, she had to make it believable. So for almost 2 decades she was shaving her daughter's hair (for her to look like a cancer patient), forcing her to use a wheelchair, pretend to be unable to walk in front of cameras, pretend that she cannot speak normally etc. It ended tragically, because eventually the girl convinced some guy to kill her mother, and now is in prison. I'm pretty sure that many trans kids are being manipulated and used by their parents in similar ways (not as extreme obviously).

So, by Mermaids's spectrum scale, are you a Barbie or G.I Joe? by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

[–]a_blue_bird 12 insightful - 8 fun12 insightful - 7 fun13 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

Lol. Imagine being a grown man and having some blue haired SJW explain to you that your ''gender identity'' is somewhere between a barbie doll and an action figure. Did they also have to sing a song about gender while clapping hands? Such a disgrace.

Who are these “cis lesbians” in relationships with transbians, you ask? Befuddled straight women who have been indoctrinated into believing they’re overcoming CompHet. by yousaythosethings in LGBDropTheT

[–]a_blue_bird 12 insightful - 9 fun12 insightful - 8 fun13 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

You're joking, but she actually wrote exactly that.

Who are these “cis lesbians” in relationships with transbians, you ask? Befuddled straight women who have been indoctrinated into believing they’re overcoming CompHet. by yousaythosethings in LGBDropTheT

[–]a_blue_bird 12 insightful - 5 fun12 insightful - 4 fun13 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

she also made another thread where she's scolding bisexual women for saying "I am so gay!"

Yeah, and that thread was closed and removed for

violating the following rule and/or policy: Labels and Sexual Orientation Policy

Typical AL.

"We just want a safe place to pee tho" by SolRosenberg in LGBDropTheT

[–]a_blue_bird 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

From your link:

Overall, Gay Male porn is still the second most popular category among women, but for those over the age of 45 it surpasses “Lesbian” to become the #1 most viewed category.

So ''lesbian'' is the first most popular category among women, and "gay men" the second? What? Really? Why are women watching so much of same sex porn?

Sucks to be a lesbian sometimes by coliemelan in Lesbians

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I legit believe that the number of het/bi women calling themselves lesbians outnumber actual lesbians.

Add men who call themselves lesbians and I agree - the actual lesbians are a minority among those who call themselves ''lesbians''.

RESEARCH STUDY -- 1/2 of Kids with SERIOUS Gender Dysphoria used to grow out of it; not now because of early hormone-blocker use. by GayNotQueer in LGBDropTheT

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Affirmation model advocates, such as Diane Ehrensaft (2018) and Kristina Olson (2015), indicate they believe trans children who say they are the opposite sex in childhood are in fact trans, as they appear to be just like natal girls and boys in behavior and interests.

How did we get from feminism to this? Why are feminists their most aggressive supporters? Are they admitting now that both sexes are born different, and those who are atypical must therefore be the opposite sex? Then why not transition all children who are atypical? And if it only matters that the child says ''I am akchyually the opposite sex'', then why even mention if they are or aren't atypical?

It's not ok to make trans "lesbians" sad by pointing out that men often say "You haven't tried a good dick yet" by TarshishJupiter in LGBDropTheT

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A creepy straight guy: Listen up, lesbians! My dick is different and so much better than all other dicks!
An MTF: how disgusting! Lesbians, it is actually my dick that is different and so much better than all other dicks!
A TRA: just like I told you, ~transgirls~ are nothing like your average guy! They literally think and feel like women! They have the female brain!!

Does anyone else here can't relate to men? by oofreesouloo in Lesbians

[–]a_blue_bird 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I was wondering if anyone else here feels the same way (or even the opposite way, aka has a hard time relating to 'regular' women)

90% of the time I relate to men, and struggle to find anything in common with other women, regular or not. Men are much easier to get along with.

Sort of an introduction I guess by reluctant_commenter in Lesbians

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I'm worried about being kicked out of a community before I even join it.

There is no point in joining any ''LGBT communities'' now. They're all about gender, transitioning and validating transsexuals. Which isn't a bad thing per se, just know that as a lesbian you won't find anything for yourself there. LG and B are largely moving on from these spaces, so it seems.

Is anybody else just so tired? by [deleted] in Lesbians

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That's the issue with being a minority. Everyone else will be ''educating'' you on what you ''really'' are, how you should ''really'' live your life (hint - just like them), etc. I don't think there is any real solution for this. Find one woman to have a life with, and ignore all this drama.

Why do some women want to be lesbian so bad? by peaked2020 in Lesbians

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It seems that according to that sub you measure your lesbianism by how much you love dick.

So I forgot about Saidit and haven't been on in awhile. Have I missed out on anything here in s/Lesbians? Or just same old? by Jaded in Lesbians

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nobody liked you

Lol. Except 99% of population, that thinks the same thing that we do. Not TRAs and Reddit mods obviously. The situation you're in is really quite pathetic. K, gotta go check out what your sweetheart Yaniv is up to today ;)

You can't make this crap up. It's now "problematic" to say that just because a kid is gender non conforming, it doesn't mean their trans by Willpoll in LGBDropTheT

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Oh come on, we don't actually need to define or understand things before teaching them to kids as the ultimate truth.

'The Straightest Straight who Ever Straighted' by CJLez in LGBDropTheT

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Ah, yes. The infamous "lesbian" who has never been attracted to a female, but liked it when her n-th boyfriend grew his hair out. I've seen them around.

Have any of you ever given up hope on finding love? by [deleted] in Lesbians

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Yes. I'm not bitter about it, but it would be nice if things were different. In all fairness, I have never really done very much to find ''the one'', so partly it is my own fault. I have a job, have hobbies, have moved from country to country for almost a decade, and never really had much free time for dating.

Online Lesbians and Sex-work by IamWomanHearMeRoar in Lesbians

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Really? I've never met a single one. Maybe it's your area/trolls?

What is up with "lesbians" who meet their exception? by Astrid2448 in Lesbians

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What do they think they are going to gain from calling themselves lesbians?

Their complaint is that lesbians won't date bisexuals, so they can't call themselves bi.

TL is No More by [deleted] in Lesbians

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In the first ban wave they banned 50% of subs I read. Now the other 50% are gone, too. Time to leave Reddit for good. They are digging their own grave.

But it's nice to have simply ''lesbians'' as our group name :D

Askgaybros Uwu acceptance post #267488 by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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There's just nothing more manly than going to an all male space and begging for them to accept you. Especially because someone online wrote a mean thing to you ;_; Lol.

Nothing but facts 💜 by SausageFanatic in LGBDropTheT

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Translation: "Hahahaha, I don't get biology, come on guys, tell me you don't get it either lol lol lol"

The harmful impact of 'trans lesbians' is becoming apparent. by fuck_reddit in LGBDropTheT

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Are they really bisexual? I can imagine a few reasons why women in their early 20s would claim to be into other women when they actually aren't.

Straight people made up the largest group and showed the least change in sexual preferences over time. Interestingly, men were more likely than women to be straight - almost nine out of 10 men, compared to less than three-quarters of women.

Do you believe that more than 1/3 of women are either bisexual or homosexual? Because I don't.

I got banned from r/Arethestraightsokay for saying that lesbians dont like dick by lmaonope333 in censorship

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Aren't strap ons really popular?

And you think that because... porn?

ACB: "Sexual Preference"; TRA: "Genital Preference" by fr_bandersnatch in LGBDropTheT

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the gaslighting and invalidation will be that much more recognizable to a much wider audience

It could just as well go the opposite direction. LBG gets conflated with T all the time. Transsexuals are frequently seen as just gay. So if they call sexuality a preference, it could be seen by many as LGB admitting that homosexuality really is just a preference.

Unbelievably stupid list from latebloomerlesbians: signs that you are a late bloomer by Astrid2448 in Lesbians

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For me this one wins the award: "Birthdays, Christmases, holidays, families: I feel as if my life would be less complicated with a woman.". Yeah. Sure. So much less complicated.

But what does that even mean? Is she saying that a woman would be remembering birthdays, cooking Christmas meals etc., so she'd have less work to do, and so it proves she's a lesbian?

Why is female sexuality so easily dismissed? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

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Like men make a lot of the money, they are socialized take charge romantically and sexually, they have most of the power, they have social acceptance on their side .. if gay men were in this situation, we’d see a lot more “fluidity” with them

Aside from social acceptance, these are things that women value in partners. Men are usually more than fine (and may even prefer) with ''marrying down'' - having a wife who earns less, has an occupation where she holds no power, and doesn't take charge in the relationship. Men value different things, like youth and beauty. I'm pretty sure this also holds for gay men, who have a beauty cult - unlike lesbians. Yet we don't see straight men ''go gay'' or ''make an exception'' for good looking young guys, or gay guys do something similar for hot young women. Why don't middle aged gay men go for youth, beauty, social acceptance and a family with biological children by marrying a considerably younger woman? Not even MGTOWs or incels go for men. Yet we all know of ''political lesbians'', ''lesbians with an exception'', ''my ex-bf was horrible so I'm a lesbian now'', ''my bf goes by Jessica now, so I'm a lesbian'' and what not. It seems that for a lot of women it takes very little to ''change'' their sexuality.

I agree that various things like money or wanting to appear ''exotic'' play a role in women's sexual behavior, but I don't really see much of that affecting men's sexual behavior. So it seems to largely boil down to the biology of the sexes.

Berlin Police: 210 Rapes From March To July With Half Involving Migrants by scrubking in politics

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That article is a pretty wild ride

A migrant suspected of raping and sexually abusing a much younger girl ... It is alleged she was forced to have sex with the supposedly 17-year-old migrant ... the migrant reportedly admitted that he had sex with the young girl but said that it had not been a crime and was just something that “happened between two children.” ... The representative argued that the court should not proceed with a prosecution, claiming that the young man had been doing well in school and that his school progress would be harmed if he were to be prosecuted. ... Investigators revealed suspicions that the teen may actually be over 20-years-old.