youtube claims speaking out against TW in women's prisons offends gay men -- what? by our_team_is_winning in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Why is it nonsense? What is the issue or concern you have with what the user said? Engage in dialogue please.

Why are there over 2,000 subscribers but posts get very little engagement? by 7874 in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The amount of activity we get with 2K subscribers is pretty darn good, and it's nearly always regular and committed users/subs who engage. We get multiple posts a day, and every single post has a couple responses, if not many more. This website as a whole is small, and we're one of the most active communities, despite not being on s/all.

As for inactive users, there are a couple things we've observed (speaking as a mod here):

1) Many users joined SaidIt for subs that were banned from Reddit in June/July 2020. After a few weeks or months, they found the rest of the site lacking for their interests, and didn't stick around even for our sub.

2) There is a troll/astroturf problem on SaidIt as a whole - unrelated to us - and we have a resident troll/astroturf problem in our sub specifically. User inactivity could be due to banning.

3) The mobile app was removed from the Google Play store (presumably due to lack of updates), and can only be found by searching SaidIt directly. Which most people using phones won't do. Download page: https://f-droid.org/en/packages/org.saiditnet.redreader

Why Do You Want To "Drop The T"? by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[S,M] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Of course it was you! How could any of us have forgotten, you're the bestest!

Making lists like these and gathering information together is SUPER helpful for us all, and you're not overstepping with your posts and/or gathering and sharing information.

Would you be willing to update our Wiki page of LGB Resources as you come across more? Us mods would very much appreciate help, and can give you permissions to edit that page.

No pressure to accept, and no hard feelings, if you don't want to. We do accept "no" as a complete answer :)

Why Do You Want To "Drop The T"? by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[S,M] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Done, added the bullet point and it will be included on future updates. Thank you for the feedback/suggestion!

r/askgaybros - I’d like an open dialogue in good faith (but you must agree that transmen are men and "cis" gays are bigots for not dating them) by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 14 insightful - 8 fun14 insightful - 7 fun15 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

I’d like an open dialogue in good faith

I highly doubt it. In all the decades I've been on the internet, I don't think I've ever seen a single post that was "good faith" which said the words.

Regarding the recent post asking about a trans man having sex with a cis gay man, I don’t understand how it’s considered conversion therapy.

Of course you don't, you didn't actually listen to the people who expressed it.

In the interest of disclosure: I am a pre-HRT MTF trans person

What a surprise, I had no idea you were trans. I totally didn't expect it from everything you said already.

This post is a “safe space” for objective discussion of opinions that some consider to be transphobic. I have and will continue to address responses that challenge these viewpoints, but this post has the potential to grow beyond my ability to manage it.

Don't ask a question on a social media platform if you aren't able to deal with the answers. Dude is so unprepared for the shitshow he's about to receive, LMAO

Tl:dr please respect my wishes and don’t argue. I don’t want this post to turn into a shitshow that doesn’t benefit anyone.

Fuck your wish, this is the internet. Welcome.

Did you not get the validation you hoped for? Shit, did people actually disagree with you? OH NO, THAT DOESN'T BENEFIT ANYONE ... err, I mean, that doesn't benefit you.

Edit, again: This post has turned into the shit show everyone expected. I’m surprised it took so long.

Thanks for finally admitting that you knew what you were doing, and trying to manipulate all the users. It was expected because you're the same as all the other NPCs.

I won’t be responding to anymore replies and will no longer attempt to moderate discussion.

So surprising, what a shock.

Also, we're glad you stopped, go away and stop clogging up the sub with things we don't care about.

Mods, feel free to lock this post. Consider this a request

LOL. You came to the wrong sub if you think the mods will stop other users from responding to you.

“To cut out the T is to kill” - the tranocide is real by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Started out so strong, recognizing the horrific experiences of the past and what we've all overcome (or are still working on).

Then segues into "more letters is good, it includes everyone" and puts LGB Alliance on blast. Because HOW DARE THEY focus on the LGB people that he literally just spoke of. HOW DARE ANY OF US not set our still-ongoing needs aside, and neglect focusing/including all the other letters of the alphabet.

What an asshole. I'm also ashamed-by-proxy at how others stood up to cheer him. Complete denial.

NHS “gaslighting” patients over trans women in female only wards by DiveBarDiva in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Sorry friend, rule 2. We are not "GenderCritical LGB". We are LGB.

Some users may be GC, some may not. Women-only issues are not our focus, as it detracts from LGB voices and concerns.

Homophobia always finds a way by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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genital preference
you're socialized to like a certain pair of genitals, unlearn it

Can they please go after hardcore religious straight trads with these claims?

For real, I'd rather discuss and fight against "sinful" homophobia than this make-believe gobbledygook.

2 + 2 = 5 by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[M] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Please remove the term "mutilated" from your comment.

We do not allow that term to be used, per rule 4.

You can view transitioning however you want. But this sub represents LGB as a whole, and that perception does not represent LGB needs and concerns, only your personal feelings.

Send a message to all mods via ModMail if you edit your comment, so one of us can reinstate it: https://saidit.net/message/compose?to=LGBDropTheT

Hey /r/AGB, what advice do you have for a gal and her ladytunnel looking for a piece of gay meat? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[M] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We get what you're saying, but we don't allow TIM/TIF, nor it's origins of Timothy/Tiffany.

Dating world & Making irl friends? Ending up alone? by Bipassxx in FEBfems

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but I don't have any answers for dating since I'm in an LTR.

But for friendships, I've found that I connect best with people in real life, in neutral non-LGB and non-hobby places. I know, that's the exact opposite of what everyone says to do, they say to find like-minded people through like-minded engagements, and especially utilize the resources of the internet. I have very very rarely found that to work out though. I've been doing this since before the WWW was even a thing, and of all the online peeps I've met since the early 90s, less than a handful are still in my life.

Online, we can pretend to be whoever or whatever we want to be. We can pretend our own glaring red flags don't exist or minimize them, and just hyper-focus on the other person. We can make excuses for the other person too, by over-thinking individual words and analyzing them to the death, instead of seeing the bigger picture they present about who they are.

But in real life, we don't have the luxury of delays and a screen/shield. We can't delete the words that come out of our mouths, and we have immediate consequences for what we say and how we act. So as people, we have to be more thoughtful and precise ... or at the very least, more transparent about our thoughts and feelings and beliefs.

I'm an introverted person, and I take the "watch and wait" approach through work. I fucking hate small talk with a passion, but it's a necessary evil. I let other people talk, and make minor chit-chat to show them I'm a willing participant ... that encourages them to open up and express themselves more when we're alone or in small groups. And because of that, I find people I can connect with on issues that aren't LGB/TRA/gender at all. You can get a feel for how someone will approach the more sensitive/no-no topics by hearing how they parent their kids, or their frustrations with friends or family over the weekend, things like that. I don't have children so I can't relate to parents as parents, but I can relate to them with how I grew up, or things I appreciated as a kid, or what I wished my parents recognized about me to make things better. We find commonality in shared life values, and that helps us accept each other in other areas we may not have considered previously.

If you won't submit to our conversion efforts, we will have to redouble them r/AGB by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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The brain-sex thing is them conflating anatomy and neurology, and calling that proof of gender because outliers exist.

Like, male brains are typically larger than females, and female brains typically have a larger hippocampus than males. Male brains typically have more gray matter, and female brains typically have more white matter. Men are typically better at visualization and spacial skills, and women are typically better at fine motor skills and details. Men and women experience emotions from the same part of the brain, but one of us typically experience it from things firing off on the left side and the other of us typically experience it from things firing off on the right side.

Key word here being "typically".

So then along come some scientists wanting to examine the brains of trans people. They find some anatomical commonalities between the brain of say, the trans women studied and real women. This now proves to TRAs that trans women are women biologically.

Nevermind that anatomy/biology is not cookie-cutter, brains aren't molded identically on an assembly line, and there are things that can literally change/influence your brain structure over time ... do not look any farther than the statement they desperately want to believe is true.

It's the same thing they do with intersex, and two-spirit, etc. They say, "see, these outliers exist that don't fit YOUR mold, so that means MY theory of fitting your mold is actually correct."

It's deliberate misinterpretation, and ignoring actual facts in favor of a narrative.

This speaks for itself - stellar response by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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LOL I love you guys. I was joking and you're all on-board with it, so fuck yeah, we can!

Lemme run it past the other mods for color scheme/implementation.

2 + 2 = 5 by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 10 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Glad you got that off your chest, now we can go back to discussing what matters.

2 + 2 = 5 by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

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That's nice, dear.

Did you have anything relevant to share with the group, or did you just need to release some vile?

2 + 2 = 5 by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[M] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The points you're making might have their place, but not in this thread, and only very gently in this sub. The user you're replying to already tried to split the community with race, lets not further it and derail the OP post. We're here for "Drop The T" and supporting LGB as a whole, not division and in-fighting.

This speaks for itself - stellar response by Rag3 in LGBDropTheT

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I saw the original smug TikTok earlier, and really appreciate anyone speaking out against it!

There's no appropriate flair in this sub for "FUCK YEAH!!!" in support of the other user response. So for the time being, I'm going with "homophobia" since that's what the original TT was.

Reply, or even report my comment and add a text comment with a different suggestion, and I or another mod will update.

2 + 2 = 5 by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 11 insightful - 5 fun11 insightful - 4 fun12 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

What are you on about? Her comment wasn't deleted, it was left up in all its racist glory.

And what are you on about with "non-homosexuals"? Did you forget this is a mixed space?

? You’re gonna just delete her comments you dislike like you always do or ban her?

I'm sorry, did you have something to say to me personally? Please, let everyone know your thoughts. Go ahead, we're waiting.

DC's new Superman comes out as bisexual - has pink-haired xefriend by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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So is it like different races or species on the outside, but ultimately just "better" humans?

Or is it human-esque for familiarity, but with different races or species as the baseline?

What memories stand out for you with noticing you were both opposite-sex and same-sex attracted? by TumbleweedFireflies in Bisexuals

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Trolls and baiting, that's what happened :(

2 + 2 = 5 by julesburm1891 in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[M] 19 insightful - 6 fun19 insightful - 5 fun20 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

Kat. This isn't Reddit, so being black doesn't give you a free pass here. The anonymous internet isn't white by default, that's your prejudice showing.

You had decent points at first and a discussion could have come ... until you used racism to justify it.

This is an LGB forum, and I will remind you to keep on-topic and be supportive of our purpose. We are LGB dropping the T.

You're the one bringing race into our concerns about sexuality. Knock it off. This is your warning.

DC's new Superman comes out as bisexual - has pink-haired xefriend by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Today, more people can see themselves in the most powerful superhero in comics

Isn't the whole point of these kinds of things (fantasy, comics, etc) to be able to imagine ourselves and life are something we're NOT?

I dunno, I've never been into graphic novels or the culture, it's not my genre of entertainment and I totally admit that I could be getting it wrong. I've always looked at media like this as "pretend", and the last thing I want in my pretend moments is a reflection of myself. I want to be inspired and imagine worlds completely different than anything I'm going through.

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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Cosplayers are always wacky, that's their thing, their culture and social circle is unusual.

What are you unhappy and disappointed about? What's so "nuts" that you can't even deal? You've described multiple different scenarios ... what's the actual problem here?

Why Do You Want To "Drop The T"? by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We do have some resource information in our Wiki, which another user was awesome enough to write up for us originally (my apologies to that user, it was quite some time ago, so I don't recall who supplied it).

https://www.saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/wiki/lgborgs

I would love it if we could have three stickies. One for rules/announcements, one for "why drop the T" stories, and one for resources. But we're only allowed two, that's hard-coded into the site. So we defer deeper dives into research/information to the Wiki.

Do you think it would it be helpful to add a bullet point for resources in the quick links section of our Rules sticky?

https://saidit.net/s/LGBDropTheT/comments/7xce/rules_and_announcements

Censorship Thursday - share your sub bans here! by NutterButterFlutter in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm sorry you lost the community, I know there's a pang of hurt there :(

I stepped back from my favorite game sub because there was a group of elitists who were constantly dictating how other users should play "better", and it changed the way everyone interacted in the sub. I was a regular there along with many others, but the sub stopped being a helpful resource and friendly, and started becoming "guidelines" that the elite group influenced while chastising others for not following.

I was bummed too, it was sad to walk away and know those assholes were changing everything and I couldn't help anyone else who came after me. But I'm glad I did. At the end of that day, I need to be true to myself, and I can't help anyone else until I am.

Game lesson, and life lesson.

Censorship Thursday - share your sub bans here! by NutterButterFlutter in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Does it matter? Are you engaging her personally, or are you opening a discussion about the subject(s)?

What do you want to make known, about either scenario? Don't beat around the bush and ask another user for permission to express yourself. Just say what you want to say.

I am a woman. I am a lesbian. I have a penis… by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Thank you, straight man, for telling us simple and silly women what our labels mean and how we should express ourselves sexually.

Never would have figured out how to act or think about myself without you!

I'm so confused by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

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Sexuality isn't a choice. But some people don't know or acknowledge who they are until life forces them to. Human existence is stifled unless people allow themselves to grow and evolve, and life circumstances don't always present the right opportunities.

Also, cross-sex hormones are powerful and will change the human body. The brain and body work together.

Lesbians who transition and become gay or bi men: Testosterone is a hell of a drug. Testosterone is the first hormone that is checked by doctors when women experience low libido or low sexual desire. T is responsible for those urges. High T-levels in women are a medical disorder and/or permanent. So lesbians who take it and suddenly like men were either bi deep down all the time and didn't know, or the hormone influenced them to be different.

Straight men who transition: Estrogen changes physical attributes, but it is NOT strong enough to override T, the hormone responsible for libido and desire. So either these men were bi or gay deep down and didn't know, or they are imagining themselves AS WOMEN and using other men to affirm that. So they are HSTS (homosexual transsexuals) or fetishists. Fetishes exist outside of sexual orientation.

That awful new flag is even scarier than you thought by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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I absolutely love how British people can take the piss and it's accepted in normal everyday life, even among media and national headlines. We call it "sarcasm" or "satire" on this side, and it's looked down upon and judged in the US. You all have kept it real, while we fight as individuals.

This is the rainbow flag ... until they decided that wasn't garish anough.
I don't remember any gay man, lesbian, bisexual, or trans person demanding representation through the medium of pedestrian crossings or car parking spaces.
I suppose when the battle has been won, some people just like to keep on fighting, don't they. It seems just petty.

LMFAO!

Literally 90% of the people in the comments are praising the transwoman and apparently want someone like that for doing this behavior. by ItsBondageTime in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Are the people praising the TW calling themselves or the TW "LGB"? Is anyone in the comments supporting or arguing about sexuality?

Not clear how this relates to our sub. Please explain.

Censorship Thursday - share your sub bans here! by NutterButterFlutter in LGBDropTheT

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I'm really tempted to get myself banned from AHS after reading this load of horseshit: https://old.reddit.com/r/AgainstHateSubreddits/comments/py0qho/rcringetopia_goes_maskoff_with_transphobia/heroakl

(archive: https://archive.ph/Jpjtl)

I'm resisting because I know comments there are pre-screened, and no one would see anything I have to say anyway. Yelling into the cloud of "removed" isn't really my thing, LOL

There are SO MANY things I could rant about, from his bloviating self-assuredness to his outright lies about s/WatchPeopleDie. I'll open things up with his description of "hate groups":

violent white extremists
incels
men's rights advocates
casual racists

Men's rights advocates, really? I guess since all the feminists were banned, they're the new sex-based oppressors destroying the utopia of Reddit?

Not just UK leftist are tired of it, everyone is, cry more by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

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I don't have time tonight to make a silly image, but OMG, I really want to.

Can someone else make this happen?

The wishful thinking of TRAs by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Salty AKA Reptilian was temporarily banned many, many months ago. He has not interacted on that profile since the temp-banning.

I am stating this publicly because many users are responding to your mention of him to start a witch-hunt. That is not their place, but I want you to know what's happening. You decided to ping a user who isn't involved in this thread, and now several others are all speculating about him, and derailing the post and focusing on that.

You are not responsible for how everyone else is acting, but do keep in mind - when you mention a specific user who isn't here, it opens up conversation about that user. Conversations about a specific user, more often than not, end violating rule 1 of this sub.

If you want to shout-out to someone who isn't around, maybe PM them instead of letting the masses of the internet focus on it.

Emily G and Trip Richards being delusional, both are trans by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yep, the narrative has moved past "sex and gender are different, but connected". It has now become "gender is the only truth, and sex is a social construct".

Mental health issues are being promoted as reality.

Emily G and Trip Richards being delusional, both are trans by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

As a transgender woman, I am biologically female.

As a real woman, I am biologically a mermaid.

See, I can make things up and proclaim with confidence too! Doesn't mean I'm right though.

Not just UK leftist are tired of it, everyone is, cry more by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

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U.K. Cited for Anti-Trans Human Rights abuses- is U.S. Next?

We're making complete fools of ourselves on this side of the pond. All the political propaganda, astroturfing from tech, and wishy-washy media sources, are dumbing us down and making us complacent in our own demise.

I'm leaning towards let the tyranny begin, so real people will actually start rising up and doing something about it. Instead of theorizing on social media and gaining likes for things they don't even take part in, let it affect them. Let it impact them. And then watch the blinders fall off as they finally see the truth. Some lessons need to be learned the hard way.

I'm all for just living your own good life, learn to grill and have a nice weekend with your neighbors ... but seriously, this shit has to reach a breaking or tipping point in real life. The US is inching closer to it, but we're not there yet.

Don't dare to cut your nails! by Elvira95 in LGBDropTheT

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Transbians wants lesbians to love and acknowledge and fondle penis/scrotum, so transbians can feel affirmed as how womanly they think they are.

Since penis/scrotum are the genitalia being focused on, there's no insertion into vagina or risk of scratching/harming vulva. Which means lesbians shouldn't worry about their nails.

It's "transphobic" because lesbians don't do dick and don't care how the dick feels, they're doing something for real actual women. And god forbid transbians are reminded they aren't women.

Don't dare to cut your nails! by Elvira95 in LGBDropTheT

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Green person has been my favorite ever since I first saw the screenshot. It's an oldy but goody, and never fails to delight me.

Tired of bisexuals being expected to be open to dating trans people by default because we like both biological males and females by UnapologeticMisandry in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[M] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No one cares why you hate women and bisexuals, and blame them for everything wrong in the LGB spectrum of sexuality.

You can upvote your comments with alts all you want, it doesn't mean anyone is actually paying attention to your drivel.

Penis News and the toxic cervix discourse by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Hey Chunkee ...

I know it's Penis News, and they've been totally colonized. However, unlike LGB Alliance, this sub does not take the stance that womens rights issues need to be centered as part of our fight.

It's not that we disagree about the importance or impact. It's that we made this sub to be about LGB and sexual orientation specifically.

LGB includes men, but women's rights are overwhelmingly impacted by TQ+. It can and will totally take over and overshadow the rest of our voices if we allow it. It pushes LGB and sexual orientation to the sidelines, and then what's the point of our sub?

I hate to remove this, but I have to. It's better suited for s/GenderCritical or s/ThereAreTwoGenders.

I'll leave the post unlocked though, in case anyone who has the direct link wants to continue to talk among themselves.

Only the worst transphobes could think there was something wrong with doing this by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Assume everyone is communicating on their phone and not proof-reading as they go. Assume auto-correct is getting the better of them. Once you read comments that way, you can usually understand what they're trying to say, and why verbs are missing.

It doesn't EXCUSE it, I'm just trying to offer an explanation.

Many young people in today's tech-age don't actually use computers or physical visual aids, they use touch-screens of some sort and are taught standardized lessons so they can pass tests. They've missed the automatic spelling and grammar reminders of squiggly lines, and exploring education on their own terms. Since no one is correcting them or holding them accountable in their growth as a person, they don't know or care what they're missing.

Adulthood and the professional workforce is going to be a rude fucking awakening. As a 40+ year old, I constantly have to teach new employees to slow the fuck down and actually stop to think about what they're doing before they submit/save things.

The trend I despise is making up a slang word and using it as a verb. "Yeet" comes to mind, although I know there are others that get under my skin, LOL

Tired of bisexuals being expected to be open to dating trans people by default because we like both biological males and females by UnapologeticMisandry in LGBDropTheT

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Fetishes are obsessive compulsions placed on something/someone else - real or fantasy - that provide sexual desire and/or release. They have nothing to do with actual sexual orientation, they're psychological.

I've known, weirdly enough, several foot fetishists in my life.

  • Question: what sexual orientation are they?
  • Answer: it doesn't fucking matter because it's a fetish.

Tired of bisexuals being expected to be open to dating trans people by default because we like both biological males and females by UnapologeticMisandry in LGBDropTheT

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HEY! SEALIONS!

Go away.

This isn't about forcing bisexuals to define themselves to your whims and understanding, nor do any of us particularly care what you think about OP's personal views elsewhere.

This post is for bisexuals - who are also a part of this sub and supporting your sexuality, remember? - asserting themselves and their frustration with what's happening to them too.

If you aren't willing to offer support and just want to play Oppression Olympics, take it somewhere else.

Tired of bisexuals being expected to be open to dating trans people by default because we like both biological males and females by UnapologeticMisandry in LGBDropTheT

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Salma Hayek, anyone? Me and literally every single one of my friends, LGB or straight, have been crushing on Salma since the first time we saw her.

Gender creative parenting - would you like to know more? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Vaginas and penises are a social construct.

All body parts are, they're just fleshy bits of anatomy, nothing more. Descriptive language and science is being used by supremacists to corrupt and isolate our culture.

"Our culture" being whatever the reader of this comment believes in, and hopefully without nuance or introspection. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Gender creative parenting - would you like to know more? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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"Our child Zoomer"

Are you fucking kidding me? Did these people completely miss what it means to be bullied by other children? Did they skip adolescence and living between the ages of 9 and 15 completely? WHY WOULD THEY NAME THEIR CHILD 'Zoomer'?!?!?

We wanted to hold space for the possibility that Zoomer could be intersex, transgender, or non-binary"

None of these things are like the others. Also, did you forget about LGB? Isn't that supposed to be a part of this great awakening and acceptance too? Why didn't you teach "Zoomer" about how there are same-sex couples and they're valid too?

We were committed to protecting them from experiencing sexism in early childhood.

Guess what honey, you don't get to control sexism through your child. Your intention was great and all, but you over-protected "Zoomer" from learning about the real world and appropriate reactions to adult interference. Other people don't subscribe to or believe in your cult, they live life in the real world, and they're going to subject "Zoomer" to gender identification regardless of what you think about it.

You completely eradicated your child's ability to function in a healthy way among everyone else outside of your family. GOOD JOB MOM! (Oops, I mean, gender-non-binary vagina-owning humanistic life form)

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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You're welcome, and thank you for appreciating {hugs}

Only the worst transphobes could think there was something wrong with doing this by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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WHOOPS.

No, no it's not. Thank you! Link/archive corrected in my comment.

It should have been: https://archive.ph/7EklQ

Public Health England ditches biological sex from official surveys on HIV and other sexually transmitted infections by millicentfawcett in LGBDropTheT

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Two questionnaires administered by Public Health England previously sought to determine how patterns of STDs differ between men and women and between heterosexual and homosexual groups. But following consultation with transgender groups, respondents are no longer asked about the sex they were born but instead whether they ‘identify’ as male or female.

Has anyone asked them to clarify what they're proposing by changing demographics? Anyone put them on the spot, and asked how self-identification matters when the facts being examined are male/female and/or sexuality-based?

it ‘will skew the data as well as putting people at risk’ and predicted ‘a rise in the numbers of those registered as women with HIV, when in fact they are male-bodied’.

Yup.

Drop the the t by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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when my transphobic mother gets cancer and gets top surgery before me

OK, this is absolutely disgusting, and why the entire world is likely to yeet the T.

However, it doesn't demonstrate why LGB would. On its own, this is just a trans person being terrible. Which isn't enough to be relevant for our sub.

Removed for rules 2 and 3. Try sharing in s/GenderCritical or s/ThereAreTwoGenders.

Wtf so many labels by Gayguy123 in LGBDropTheT

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I am a poly-amorous pansexual lesbian non-binary trans woman.

I'm also a furry.

While talking more than necessary, and taking up way too much of everyone's time ...

Tell us you're a straight male fetishist without using the words.

Only the worst transphobes could think there was something wrong with doing this by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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3 weeks ago the same user was boasting about how straight men love a crossdresser: https://archive.ph/EklQ

Wrong archive link, this is correct: https://archive.ph/7EklQ

But suddenly now they're complaining about it?

its not because i did bad since my head game on point and i can take dick. I even always tell the guys to hmu whenever when were done and they say ok

This has gotta just be bait for AGB. If it's not ... oh god, honey.

Not even TRAs can have idols lol by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Funny stuff, and not unexpected ... Contra/Nick has been subject to cancelling from the mob in the past.

That said, we're not gonna use our sub as free advertising for Mr "mouthfeel".

Lighthearted Thread: How To Increase Bisexual Vibes by Ladiablapequena in Bisexuals

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Are you trying to signal you're bi to men, or to women? I don't think there's a universal way for both unless you wear the flag or directly announce your sexuality when you meet them, LOL

What memories stand out for you with noticing you were both opposite-sex and same-sex attracted? by TumbleweedFireflies in Bisexuals

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What?

Whatever. If you aren't going to add anything of value, I don't care and you're not worth my time.

Goodnight.

What memories stand out for you with noticing you were both opposite-sex and same-sex attracted? by TumbleweedFireflies in Bisexuals

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Are you going to contribute to the post discussion topic? Or are you going to argue and defend a troll?

What memories stand out for you with noticing you were both opposite-sex and same-sex attracted? by TumbleweedFireflies in Bisexuals

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Oh sorry, I'll try to be kinder and more accommodating of trolls next time.

r/butchlesbians has fallen. by Tovasshi in LGBDropTheT

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What happened? Please share screenshots, archives, or some sort of evidence of what's going on. Just saying the sub has fallen is not good enough. Back up what you're talking about.

This post is removed until you do. It's not our job to search for proof of your announcement.

Please make a new post with details included.

What memories stand out for you with noticing you were both opposite-sex and same-sex attracted? by TumbleweedFireflies in Bisexuals

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Care to explain and actually converse?

Puffing air out your nose is not an argument, and neither are emojis.

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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It was really weird and random!

Like you said, honeybees and bumblebees aren't typically aggressive (unless they're aggravated and on the defense), and this came out of nowhere. I was just walking down the street and all of a sudden it happened.

I know it wasn't a yellow jacket, I'm very familiar with them. I don't think it was a wasp or hornet - I don't exactly research their different types, I only know what I've seen and they're usually slim and smooth, and this wasn't it.

Whatever that bright yellow fuzzy fucker was, I didn't recognize it, or what was left of it.

Honestly, it reminded me of Joltik. But maybe that's because I had Pokemon on the brain at the time.

I feel pretty glad that I never got stung before. Hope it never happens.

It's actually not the worst thing ever, as long as you don't have a bad reaction. I was fine as a kid when I was stung and/or bit. It was surprising and hurt, of course, but it was like a quick stabby poke and then it was over. Apparently my adult grown-up body is not so accommodating.

What memories stand out for you with noticing you were both opposite-sex and same-sex attracted? by TumbleweedFireflies in Bisexuals

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No one cares if you don't want to contribute.

Go back to Reddit if you need attention while you cry in the naughty corner about other people existing.

What’s a bit of experimenting on kids between gay doctors? by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Hello everyone, all you followers and new viewers! For those of you new here, don't forget to like and subscribe!

A ton of female children want to take drugs to forget who they are and what their life is, and pretend they are something else. I'm trying to prove their decisions are totally OK and aren't harmful.

All of you street drug users who microdose for real ... maybe now that weed is legal in much of the USA, can you help me out with other drug interactions? I don't know what "microdose" means, but will you be on my side please?

LOVING: A Photographic History I've always been a fan of old photos like these. They may not all be couples but it's nice to wonder. by xandit in LGBDropTheT

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I hate recommending Reddit now, but if you're a fan of old-timey photos (regardless of LGB), spend some time checking out: https://old.reddit.com/r/TheWayWeWere

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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I got stung (or bit?) by a bee the other day. First time in about a decade.

I was just walking along listening to my audiobook and playing PoGo, and felt a really painful stab in my shoulder all of a sudden. And then a little pain again, but less, more like a radiating sting.

I started screaming like a little kid and ripped my hoodie off and flung it in the street, as I batted my hands all over my upper body. I saw the little fucker, or a part of it anyway. Bright yellow and tiny, but squirming in my hoodie. Took a good 2-3 minutes of hyperventilating before I could pick up my hoodie again. I just kept shaking it, and scouring the air and land around me for anything flying for the next 20 minutes before I could wear it again.

I was so swollen that the stinger wouldn't come out for 2 days. At least I now know that I didn't inherit my parents' severe/deadly allergies now that I'm older, but damn, man. The swelling and shooting pain and itchiness drove me nuts, and I still can see the mark and residual redness, even 5 days later. I'm also still extremely paranoid of any flying creature that gets near me now.

Ed Davey: No Free Speech on Trans Rights. They believe in free speech so much the party banned one of its members for saying a woman is an adult female. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Removed for rule 2.

This is an LGB sub. We are separatists from TQ+ in order to stand on our own as sexualities.

Commentary about trans rights and/or gender identity outside of LGB is not appropriate here.

Please share trans-only content in s/GenderCritical or one of their adjacent subs, or s/ThereAreTwoGenders. Our sub requires LGB focus first and primarily, not adjacently.

Why do LGB Alliance and LGN keep giving a platform to Julie Bindel, when she repeatedly makes homophobic and biphobic claims? by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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If the two of you want to gossip and talk shit about a user, take it to private messages. This sub is not your personal space to demonize and witch-hunt other participants.

Discuss the ideas and premises presented, don't target individuals. Abide by rule 1 and the Pyramid.

Why do LGB Alliance and LGN keep giving a platform to Julie Bindel, when she repeatedly makes homophobic and biphobic claims? by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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I will remind you, this is not a RadFem or GenderCritical sub. STOP promoting the idea that men are the worst thing for women.

This is an LGB sub, and you need to be civil and express yourself in a way that is conducive to a mixed-sex space.

Why do LGB Alliance and LGN keep giving a platform to Julie Bindel, when she repeatedly makes homophobic and biphobic claims? by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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If the two of you want to gossip and talk shit about a user, take it to private messages. This sub is not your personal space to demonize and witch-hunt other participants.

Discuss the ideas and premises presented, don't target individuals. Abide by rule 1 and the Pyramid.

How can we convince more bisexuals to care about homophobia? by usehername in Bisexuals

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I agree that ONE of our obstacles is homophobia, but I don't think it's THE obstacle or necessarily the biggest. I acknowledge that we have other issues to focus on as well. A couple examples:

  • Xenophobia within the lesbian and gay communities which acts as bisexual erasure - some members consider bisexuals "on the fence" or not "choosing a side"
  • Judgement of our personal character due to being bisexual - inability to be satisfied or always open to non-monogamy are common views
  • Rapists of the same sex, who normally partner with the opposite, are viewed as bi - it's the old "suck one dick and you're gay" joke repackaged against bisexuals. It ignores the power and structural aspects of sexual assault and places the blame on sexuality

But you think we should just take the infrastructure they built and colonize it for ourselves?

Not at all, I never said anything of the sort. I think we should appreciate and support G&Ls hard work, and also learn from their foundation and guidance. We can build a collaborating sister/brother infrastructure which is distinct for ourselves, without erasing them or us.

It's impossible to start from scratch and "get our own house".

That's very defeatist.

LGBT and autism project postponed after ad included 10-year-olds by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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The project documentation said it was aimed at promoting awareness within family support services of the issues faced by young people aged 10-24 who were autistic or neurodivergent and gay or trans.

I thought there was no correlation OR causation. I mean, Lisa Littman got cancelled and raked over the coals for daring to provide any evidence.

The board said: “The age range advertised was incorrect, and mistakenly taken from the age range of the national youth strategy, rather than from the national youth LGBTI+ strategy.”

ORLY. "Blasted this out on social media for the world to weigh in on, oh wait, not like that". Oopsies, just a mistaken advertisement and typo, nothing to see here.

Any other links to sources, since the Times conveniently left those out?

The New Gay Liberation Front 🌈 by HelloMomo in LGBDropTheT

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Based on everyone's conversations here, I'll update the flair to News instead of Victory.

I noticed Kurtis Tripp is on the board, looks like he's branching out!

How can we convince more bisexuals to care about homophobia? by usehername in Bisexuals

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I disagree, I think it's bisexual erasure to encourage us to focus on other sexualities, especially in this sub which for us and our needs. We should get our own house in order before we support or help anyone else.

How can we convince more bisexuals to care about homophobia? by usehername in Bisexuals

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Bisexuals should care about homophobia because it affects us, we're often judged as halfway straight or gay.

But I also think we should focus on building our own community, and championing that bisexuality is different than homosexuality and still just as OK. Demonstrating that there are different sexualities can help bi people come out of the closet because they aren't forced to choose between hetero and homo. We all need to understand there's nothing wrong with being hetero or homo, while also accepting that we are not either of them, which is OK also.

Even 3-d digital content has gone queer by xandit in LGBDropTheT

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Can you please explain a little bit about why this is something you feel we should focus on? How is this relevant to LGB and/or dropping the T?

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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Start out with seeing what your local crows like - peanuts and sunflower seeds (in the shell) are usually good to begin with. Leave a couple handfuls scattered for them around the same time every day so they learn your pattern. Once you know what they like, look up "bird seed balls", and instead of seed, use whatever your crow bros enjoy.

If you can't beat them... uh... beat them physically...? by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

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Uneducated American here. What is Section 28 and what's happening?

Googling it keeps giving me sub-sections of various US state laws, or vague articles that are protesting about a number of various LGBT+ or women's rights issues in the UK. Some make it sound like an older law is still in place, and others make it sound like it's been overturned and people are fighting against that now. So I'm confused.

The Burden of Autogynephilia | with Lisa Shupe. Our liberated culture itself refuses to acknowledge that aspects of sexuality can be harmful. Shupe is telling us how hard it is to live with a fetish because fetishes destroy relationships by Chipit in LGBDropTheT

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I love BB, and will try to watch the whole thing ... but anyone willing to give a synopsis or bullet points to help all of us out who don't have time to watch an entire full length movie on Jamie/Lisa Shupe?

I know he was the first person to become "non-binary", and has flip-flopped around in identities since then. And maybe now he realizes he is AGP?

Teacher asked to remove Pride Flag from his classroom and resigns instead. Story posted by a GC account. Comments praise it. Keep noticing subtle homophobia from some of these accounts. by Criticallacitirc in LGBDropTheT

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That brow ridge, tho. And hairline in the last photo. And the very straight body lines (shoulders, chest-to-waist, etc) and how the fat has settled. I've known some very chubby butches, and none of them ever looked like him, they were always clearly women despite having softer and/or more androgynous features because of weight.

r/RoastMe is meant to be denigrating and hurt people. If a dude is perceived as self-conscious, as any overweight person is automatically assumed to be, the easiest way to get under his skin is to attack his masculinity by calling him a woman. It's misogyny in action towards a man.

Teacher asked to remove Pride Flag from his classroom and resigns instead. Story posted by a GC account. Comments praise it. Keep noticing subtle homophobia from some of these accounts. by Criticallacitirc in LGBDropTheT

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To what you bring up in points 2 and 3, I would say the only time it would *maybe* be appropriate is if he were teaching a health and sexuality class - or possibly a history class, but it would have to be a very specific type of curriculum. As an educator, his own personal sexuality and relationships shouldn't matter unless he had a relevant issue to teach (such as being an activist, or learning acceptable intimate boundaries), but even that's a stretch. Work life and personal life need to be separate, or it risks becoming a legal nightmare.

Article: https://archive.ph/mU7vt

He's a DRAMA teacher. He's completely out of bounds here.

I do sorta feel for him though, I don't get the impression he meant anything bad by displaying the flag, I think he probably had good intentions on the surface. But he's young and indoctrinated, and doesn't know how to be a professional. As evidenced by:

"It appears that there is a different set of rules if you are an LGBTQ+ educator," Wallis wrote on Twitter. "Neosho has no mention of gender identity or sexual orientation in their non-discrimination policy, and that is disconcerting enough. Couple that with a policy banning anything that expresses part of me in the classroom, and it makes for a hostile work environment."

He's grasping at concepts he doesn't even understand yet, and is digging himself into a negative employment hole he may not ever be able to climb out of.

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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so we hung some in a tree and let birds eat them

Oooh, I just thought of something. Make yourself the wicked witch of the block, and make "crow-balls" to hang in the trees. Nothing sweet or salty since that's bad for them, but something with plain peanuts or seeds of some sort.

You have a little over a month to make crow friends subtly by leaving bits here and there around your tree. And then on Halloween morning, decorate the tree like it's crow-Christmas.

You may not get the kids to come by, but you'll definitely stand out when the crows come to roost, LOL

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

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Happy medium I guess.

Here they go to strip malls or shopping centers, or other group media-approved safe places. It's "unsafe" to go door-to-door or have block parties/meetups in neighborhoods, apparently. I was super disappointed my first 2 years after I moved here, bought a ton of candy and was excited to hand it out, and not a single kid on the block ever came to the door :(

One of my many adult goals was to hand out pennies to trick-or-treaters

Noice noice noice!

Haha fuck you, kids 😈 You couldn't buy anything with 3¢ in the 90s either.

LMAO... I guess I was one of the lucky ones in that area at least. In my small town back then, even pennies and nickels went a distance. I was a frequent shopper at our mercantile shop.

4? I can barely take one.

Oh believe me, I hate myself on day 4. But I enjoy it until then!

Apparently all you need is Viagra and/or a very vivid imagination by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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That poor guy. Definitely is being manipulated by his "friend", and is blaming himself for it. He's young , and hasn't learned how to stand up for or believe in himself yet.

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[S] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I miss autumn.

The nights getting cool again, and early evening/morning fog. The leaves changing color, and a different kind of brightness in the world. The smell of woodstoves and fireplaces burning. The air being crisp and clean. Snuggling up in blankets and being cozy everywhere inside the house. Looking forward to everyone decorating their homes for Halloween, and vicariously feeling the excitement of kids trick-or-treating (not that it happens where I'm at anymore, but I still feel it!). Maybe even getting a pumpkin and baking up the seeds, and making some homemade apple cider.

And then after that, looking forward to Thanksgiving and trying out all sorts of recipes and stuffing my face with food and booze for 4 days straight.

One freedom removed. Piece by piece. Until one day: Of course you kneel to the government. We always have. by AnarchySpeach in WatchRedditDie

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It’s insane. When my daughter was born I was forced by the government to get a “birth passport” and it has everything on it, date of birth, place of birth, name, parents’s names, mother’s maiden name. They get them from birth. It’s tyranny of the highest order. /S

I hate Redditors so much.

r/WatchRedditDie on lockdown by forgottenpasswordguy in WatchRedditDie

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 5 insightful - 3 fun5 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

RIP: https://archive.ph/rX9ax

I appreciate you and your efforts u/SpezForgotSwartz. Hope you got screenshots and archives along the way that can be shared outside of the influence of Reddit.

Blow it up and watch it burn.

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[S] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'm dreading going to work tomorrow, because the owner of our company (who is completely out of touch with how day-to-day operations work) insists on launching new software that isn't ready to be live.

There are way too many bugs and inefficiencies that me and the rest of the team have brought up. We're the ones who have to use it all day everyday, but no problem, we can just write everything down on paper and re-enter the data once the software does finally work properly.

WE MUST DO THIS IMMEDIATELY! The fate of the company hinges on this, apparently. Or at least it does in his mind.

My reaction

Sunday Social - open chat! by TumbleweedFireflies in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There was a point in life where I believed someone was my soul mate, we were perfect together, and then everything came crashing down. I felt like I was taking crazy pills too. I'm so sorry you're going through this, I know and understand just how deeply this hurts and how confusing it is. Just let it out, let it out on us, we're here.

I’m also just so hurt and mad and resisting the urge to give her a piece of my mind about what she put me through and what a hypocrite she is, but I know that’s fruitless and childish.

I just wanna say ... sometimes the best medicine is to stop taking the high road, and to just give the other person a piece of your mind. It can act as closure. Don't go out of your way to do it, but if she contacts you and tries to smooth things out, then you have every right to stand up and say what you need to say. You aren't obligated to be the bigger person. You're the one who has been hurt, remember?

I previously also wanted to remain friends with her but I don’t know anymore. I at least want things to be civil again.

Why? What does remaining friends do FOR YOU? What does everyone being civil do FOR YOU?

You're allowed to be self-centered sometimes. You're experiencing a loss, and you don't need to make sure it's all rainbows and sunshine for everyone else.

When your mom calls you a vagina owner by Elvira95 in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Sorry, gotta remove this under rule 2. This would be better for s/GenderCritical or s/ThereAreTwoGenders.

Any Word On Magnora7? by Entropick in SaidIt

[–]TumbleweedFireflies 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

We've all been in a place where we've needed a break, I get it, and am glad to see you're back! I hope things are going OK for you and you're hangin' in there.

LAPD filing charges against Wi Spa trans woman, who is a registered sex offender by jim_steak in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Hey, this would be better for s/GenderCritical ... this whole situation is about women's rights and trans stamping all over them, rather than LGB.

A whole thread of men not understanding why women don't want to see their dicks by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

[–]TumbleweedFireflies[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children)

Hey, this would be better for s/GenderCritical ... this whole situation is about women's rights and trans stamping all over them, rather than LGB.

Appreciate you standing up to them all in there though :)