Wanted to share this wholesome post in case any of you haven't seen it.

TalerTest · 2021-03-09T16:25:07+00:00

I don't understand. You agree that the rule they claimed r/BL broke was a false accusation. What rule do you think it broke then?

TalerTest · 2021-03-09T04:50:46+00:00

I would be surprised if they ban these subs

I wouldn't. They banned r/BiologicalLesbians and that sub were actually saying Transwomen ARE women. Our existence is transphobic.

TalerTest · 2021-03-02T16:27:29+00:00

NOPE

TalerTest · 2021-02-25T10:05:56+00:00

An unnatural hair colour by itself isn't enough to leave a strong impression on me. I need to see the whole look. The hairstyle, the outfit, the accessories, etc. Then I might be able to infer things about her personality.

If we're talking about dating, it's a slight turn off for me. I'm not into the alternative looks at all.

TalerTest · 2021-02-25T09:56:41+00:00

~~well...that covers 85% of people I've seen with unnatural hair colors~~

TalerTest · 2021-02-23T23:26:01+00:00

Yes, I looked at the mod log after that drama and saw you were banned for 3 days, don't know why that's funny. In the pic it's only showing one comment. You said a lot more than just that, let's be real. Like I said in my previous comment, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt because the comments are now deleted.

My point was: You create conflict. Therefore, it's hypocritical for you to complain about people creating conflict. I'm not trying to fight with you, I'm just making an observation.

TalerTest · 2021-02-23T22:48:04+00:00

I know you stopped coming here months after your 3 day ban, but I just assumed it was because you were butthurt about it. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt about the comments you made because they've been removed now and there's no way to check.

TalerTest · 2021-02-23T22:20:11+00:00

I thought you stopped coming here because you were temporarily banned for calling butches men. Are we re-writing history? 🤣

Just teasing, but I can't take your comment seriously because YOU were one of the people who was responsible for creating conflict when you used to comment here.

TalerTest · 2021-02-23T17:49:07+00:00

haha that was awful. I also took the IQ test beneath that. Scored 96. Not even 100. I need to do some self-reflecting...

TalerTest · 2021-02-22T23:03:51+00:00

Yeah I'm always looking sideways at the "straight" to "lesbian" stories I read online, but I know several lesbians IRL who came out after decades of playing it straight. Obviously, a lot more people feel safe to come out since it's not such a big deal nowadays (where I live anyway).

TalerTest · 2021-02-22T15:41:54+00:00

I actually see more of the opposite. r/LBL has taught me to be dubious though.

TalerTest · 2021-02-21T17:39:21+00:00

Nope lol

TalerTest · 2021-02-20T22:05:31+00:00

ah that's something I never even considered. Makes sense

TalerTest · 2021-02-20T21:16:50+00:00

haha I guess that's a possibility. I don't understand being shy on an anonymous forum, but there are definitely people like that.

TalerTest · 2021-02-20T21:08:08+00:00

But these people have accounts and have subbed which is why I don't get it. Why do they even bother with that if they're only here to read.

TalerTest · 2021-01-26T05:31:17+00:00

I think the mods removed it because it was a troll post. Instead of trying to bring a troll post back why not just start a new discussion?

u/homosomes It wasn't just your comment deleted on that thread, it was the white supremacy comment + all the ones that followed. Probably because it was off-topic and in violation of rule #9.

TalerTest · 2021-01-26T04:21:51+00:00

political discussion? I'd hardly call it that

TalerTest · 2021-01-25T02:33:03+00:00

umm no lol

TalerTest · 2021-01-06T12:19:16+00:00

There are so many ways to flirt. I don't even know how to answer. Mostly depends on the situation.

TalerTest · 2021-01-06T12:17:59+00:00

Gross. That's why I don't use dating apps. Pretty much just a waste of time.

TalerTest · 2020-12-27T09:54:03+00:00

I was going to respond, but someone else who you also accused of "trying to silence gold stars" already left a perfect response right here.

And what is gold star rhetoric? Isn't that just lesbian rhetoric? "You don't need to have sex with men to know that you're a lesbian" Every lesbian says that.

TalerTest · 2020-12-26T05:26:26+00:00

no one said anything about hatred of men. I don't think you even understood the comment.

Also, EVERYONE here is all for telling lesbians that they don't have to sleep with men just to be sure that they are lesbians.

TalerTest · 2020-12-24T07:49:03+00:00

Lavalanche17 did make a pretty good point. If you think about it, the goldstar stuff is all about men. Categorizing lesbians by past relations to men. I've always found it off-putting to give men that kind of significance in our sexuality. Don't get me wrong, I'm definitely all for showing young lesbians that there's nothing wrong with having sexual boundaries, but I'm not sure that this is the way to go about it. It would be simultaneously teaching those young lesbians that men have the power/authority to take something (their "goldstar") away from them and their identity and I hate the idea of giving that kind of importance to men at all, personally. I think we are on different sides of the coin. I don't care at all if a lesbian has been with a man in the past or not. My only hope is that the ones in heterosexual situations can come out and live their truth.

TalerTest · 2020-12-23T17:51:51+00:00

Exactly. It's not worth caring about. These people never change. Just save your energy for yourself and your life.

TalerTest · 2020-12-20T21:31:08+00:00

Those comments were somewhat disappointing. Looks like quite a few subscribers of r/BL believe in the trans nonsense.

TalerTest · 2020-12-12T15:05:35+00:00

yes that's exactly what I was going to say. Tomboy has always meant girl.

TalerTest · 2020-12-12T09:55:56+00:00

how?

TalerTest · 2020-11-27T02:59:03+00:00

TalerTest · 2020-11-27T02:40:29+00:00

I'll never understand why it's so important to be a lesbian to so many non-lesbian people. It's just a word to classify women who are exclusively same-sex attracted. There is no "gatekeeping". You either are exclusively attracted to women or you aren't. This "you can identify as anything you want, reality be damned" shit is getting so old. I miss the days when words had meanings.

TalerTest · 2020-11-23T14:04:26+00:00

I'm really struggling to understand what her definition of lesbian is. At one point she even says, "Also, whilst the label of lesbian can be used by any woman technically, politically and culturally, that does not mean that you can identify with the idea of being attracted (sexually, romantically or otherwise) to women. You are either attracted to other women, or you are not"

Is she saying that anyone can call themselves a lesbian as long as they specify whether it's a political label to them or a sexual one?? Well if that's the case then why does she care if bisexual women want to call themselves lesbians? Doesn't that completely cancel out her entire point?

TalerTest · 2020-11-23T11:11:29+00:00

I guess so, but it annoys me that she thinks lesbians are trying to convert bisexual women. She doesn't understand that it's her fellow bisexual women who are going around telling every other non-lesbian woman that she's a lesbian. Someone needs to tell this woman that the most bi-phobic biphobes are bisexuals and "bi-erasure" is an internal problem that they only have themselves to blame for.

TalerTest · 2020-11-23T10:29:59+00:00

Yeah she's very clueless in many areas.

TalerTest · 2020-11-23T10:23:07+00:00

EDIT: oops I didn't mean to respond to you but I'll leave it lol

"My main issues with the document are:

That it is full of misinformation and unresearched theory, including but not exclusive radical feminism and politcal lesbianism.
A lot of that misinformation is bigoted, specifically misogynistic, ableist, biphobic and transphobic
I believe it to be the most malicious in its bi-erasure and, if I'm being perfectly honest, its weird kind of conversion rhetoric."

So she's thinks the CompHet master doc is biphobic and bi-erasure and guilty of preaching conversion rhetoric. I'm a little confused about the conversion therapy part. Does she think that we lesbians want to convince every woman that she's a lesbian or something? Uhh we've been trying to get fetishistic straight women to fuck off for the longest time. We're definitely not out to convert anyone here. And as for "bi-erasure", that's got nothing to do with us. Bisexual women have been erasing themselves forever. When you tell them matter-of-factly that they're bisexual and not lesbians they will gut you.

She doesn't realize that the Master Doc is homophobic.

TalerTest · 2020-11-23T08:59:05+00:00

Umm no. Read the comments. There's no "incel hate" here.

TalerTest · 2020-11-20T22:44:46+00:00

Yeah I'm pretty sure it's supposed to be the same two people throughout the video. I also thought they looked pretty different. Especially going from teens to adults. The change was... yeah.

TalerTest · 2020-11-20T22:38:24+00:00

Bring bread? I've never heard of that before. Wine/dessert sounds like a nice idea.

TalerTest · 2020-11-20T22:35:56+00:00

Agreed. Just once I'd like to see a lesbian plot-line that doesn't involve some man drama. So lame and unimaginative. Can't they come up with anything else??

TalerTest · 2020-11-19T02:11:53+00:00

I don't know what to say but this is hilarious and I hope the mods let it stay.

TalerTest · 2020-11-16T04:30:59+00:00

go and find out for yourself, love is love, stay safe (and don't go talking to adults on the internet about sex!!)

I don't think teenagers would respond to that. It would sound too patronizing because most teens think of themselves as adults.

TalerTest · 2020-11-15T23:47:30+00:00

I get the feeling that the mods are teenagers. I mean... wtf. Well r/BiologicalLesbians is still infinitely superior to r/Actuallesbians. Not that that's saying much.

TalerTest · 2020-11-15T23:23:58+00:00

That mod Damp-Wallaby is like:

Just have fun, be safe, and explore your sexuality. Sexuality is a spectrum and don’t feel the need to label yourself, you are who you are. In the end it’s what you want and nothing else

Sigh. Why is she even enabling this stupidity. And why is this straight/bi girl so desperate to call herself a lesbian when she knows that she isn't? I just don't get it. What is the point in calling yourself a lesbian when all your actions contradict that??? It's like they are in love with the word "lesbian" or something wtf

TalerTest · 2020-11-15T03:55:53+00:00

I guess so, but I can't picture that being an obstacle unless the woman is really overweight perhaps.

TalerTest · 2020-11-15T03:03:02+00:00

Hey you're alive! You never answered my question. I'm still waiting to know what you meant.

TalerTest · 2020-11-12T14:27:56+00:00

She sounds really cringey and pathetic tbh. I've got no advice and I'm not sure you can "fix" someone like that

TalerTest · 2020-11-12T14:09:12+00:00

you are taking happy_face_caller way too seriously. You aren't going to change her, she's just that way. Trust me

TalerTest · 2020-11-11T04:39:56+00:00

that interview... are these women sharing one brain cell between them or something

also: "lesbians work towards loving women in their day-to-day lives" huh???

TalerTest · 2020-11-10T20:24:59+00:00

what do you mean "it's just buried down there." Buried down where? It's just between the legs, am I missing something haha

TalerTest · 2020-11-08T20:51:40+00:00

I wouldn't call it a sense of entitlement. The word assumption is probably more accurate, and it's not exactly wrong or entitled to assume that certain people will vote for democrats, there's also assumptions about who would have/should have voted for Trump. I also don't think Lavalanche17 is deliberately trying to shame or guilt people by stating that she feels disappointed by how others voted. It's just how she feels

TalerTest · 2020-11-08T18:13:54+00:00

I don't understand. Are you saying that people reject the democrats because they want to be "not like other gays?"

(I know you're not, but that's how I interpreted your comment)

TalerTest · 2020-11-05T14:40:03+00:00

why?

TalerTest · 2020-11-04T03:09:07+00:00

I don't use dating apps. I find 90% of dating profiles cringey and I have no idea why

TalerTest · 2020-11-02T12:51:26+00:00

Sorry I live in the UK so I can't really help much there. But if I can find other women in a city with a population of 1 million, then I'm sure you would be able to find someone in a place like Toronto.

TalerTest · 2020-11-01T12:32:05+00:00

There's no gay bar where I live. But there's some lesbian meetup groups I know of (sports groups, book clubs, etc). Maybe you can search online for meetups in your local area when life goes back to normal.

TalerTest · 2020-10-31T22:45:13+00:00

Guys the dating pool isn't that small. If seek out women who want women, you will find them. No need to be afraid about being forever alone. If you move to Canada, I'm sure you'll find someone.

TalerTest · 2020-10-31T14:13:14+00:00

wtf?? so he's just some guy role-playing as his own "lesbian" OC. I thought he sounded convincing cause I've seen a lot of crazy women who type like that.

TalerTest · 2020-10-18T11:28:49+00:00

("Lana fans, watch those vids at your own discretion") came across as "you wouldn't like her if you knew what I knew." But no, we hear this all the time.

Sorry, that's not the impression I was trying to give. I don't care if anyone likes her or not, I'm definitely not out to convert people either. I just posted those videos because they're entertaining.

TalerTest · 2020-10-18T10:27:13+00:00

I might enjoy this song if it was sung by someone else. Lana Del Rey's voice is very polarizing. You either love it or you hate it, and I fall into the latter.

Never been able to get into her and I find all her live performances extremely forgettable unless they are exceptionally bad like this one or this one. Lana fans, watch those vids at your own discretion

TalerTest · 2020-10-17T18:49:25+00:00

I find #8(Hasbian) and #9(LUG) to be a waste of space that could be used to fit other real lesbian types for fun.

Yeah. I don't know why the author even included those. Straight women need to just stay in their lane sometimes. Don't need them acting like lesbian experts

TalerTest · 2020-10-17T00:46:22+00:00

What even is transphobia? Talking about your period is enough to get you kicked off Reddit these days.

TalerTest · 2020-10-17T00:40:10+00:00

Oh my God. The fucking audacity.

TalerTest · 2020-10-16T19:08:29+00:00

Why do you feel a need to take any side? I find that it's much simpler to live without being attached to any political group or movement. That way, you can just express your views individually instead of being automatically associated with ideals that you don't support. Plus, its easy to feel indifferent to all the hate being thrown around when you're just a spectator.

TalerTest · 2020-10-11T11:33:07+00:00

Probably because they are more interested in trans stuff than lesbians. Personally, I don't see the point in going on about it. It's not like discussing those issues will change anything. But maybe they enjoy venting or something

TalerTest · 2020-10-11T07:31:43+00:00

I know someone who met her girlfriend on a discord server. I might be tempted to join one for that reason. Other than that, nah.

TalerTest · 2020-10-11T06:15:32+00:00

same

TalerTest · 2020-09-30T15:56:23+00:00

What is Internalized lesbophobia? It's a concept I've never quite understood. I thought that Internalized lesbophobia would make a lesbian hate lesbians/being a lesbian, I didn't think that it makes lesbians love dick...

Sounds more like she's bisexual to me. If she thinks dick is so good, I don't know what she's doing with women. You're right about her needing to grow up, she sounds ridiculous. I can't imagine a lesbian who thinks that never being with a man is a red flag.

TalerTest · 2020-09-29T06:11:30+00:00

Well I'll go off your first comment

If I'm a lesbian, it was when I started taking "Am I lesbian" quizzes and having fantasies about being with women. And getting turned on by women lately.

You say you are getting turned on by women lately and you're not a teenager. If you've only just discovered that you are attracted to women and previously your attraction has been to men, I'd say you are bisexual.

edit: spelling oops

TalerTest · 2020-09-28T02:41:23+00:00

But I have met true bisexuals and I don’t relate to them. I lose interest when the topic goes to men.

Girl, you literally just wrote a monologue that was 80% men. I think you will fit in just fine with bisexual women.

TalerTest · 2020-09-28T02:24:12+00:00

I agree but...

Sexualizing ethnic stereotypes and talking about dating foreigners like you're collecting pokemon is not that conversation though, and at least a few people ITT don't seem to understand that difference.

...I don't think Ricky_Ticky did that in her question. How would you have liked her to title this post?

and yes I'm European

TalerTest · 2020-09-27T21:50:16+00:00

and my eyes

TalerTest · 2020-09-27T18:45:07+00:00

I really don't see what's offensive about it at all. And Ricky_Ticky is also a foreigner where she currently lives (Germany), if I remember correctly so I'm sure she didn't mean it in any kind of offensive way either.

TalerTest · 2020-09-27T17:45:05+00:00

Technically, all types of sex are unhygienic. That's what showers are for

TalerTest · 2020-09-22T20:51:25+00:00

I live in the UK and it's like that here too. There's something about English-speaking countries...

TalerTest · 2020-09-19T17:48:09+00:00

Well I'm not uncomfortable with you being here. I feel sorry for you, but that's irrelevant.

TalerTest · 2020-09-19T15:52:21+00:00

I don't know. I'm indifferent to drag. I've never given it deep thought

TalerTest · 2020-09-19T08:52:52+00:00

Left out of what?

TalerTest · 2020-09-18T02:33:42+00:00

OP said she's openly and proudly bisexual so I'm guessing that she's out to her friends and family. That makes her hiding even more suspicious imo

TalerTest · 2020-09-18T00:19:33+00:00

I don't think anyone here would care if you called them a TERF because we've all accepted that in 2020 being homosexual makes you transphobic by default. I don't know a neutral term for lesbians who believe in biology, but you're not going to be banned for using TERF in a non-derogatory way so don't worry

TalerTest · 2020-09-18T00:03:17+00:00

I'm aware that I just did what you were talking about, it was meant to be ironic, sorry.

I can see a lesbian saying that she believes that transwomen can be lesbians just so others don't call her a bigot, but a woman who will willingly date a transwomen is not a lesbian by definition. Trans woman + biological woman = heterosexual relationship. In this case it's not about beliefs, it's about facts.

TalerTest · 2020-09-17T23:49:27+00:00

i needed a neutral word for a lesbian that did not consider trans women lesbians. (what would you suggest?)

I suggest lesbian 😂

no one here believes that transwomen can be lesbians. That's why we were kicked off Reddit

TalerTest · 2020-09-17T23:38:40+00:00

I'm not a rad-fem, I'm not that into politics. Believing in biological realities doesn't make someone a radical feminist or a radical anything. I don't mean to be rude, but I get the inkling that you need some deprogramming. That tumblr science will melt your brain.

I have a question too. Would you think that women who date men who call themselves lesbians are lesbians?

TalerTest · 2020-09-17T23:19:35+00:00

Is this really something common? Personally, I haven't seen it.

lesbians who consider trans women lesbians will say "TERFS aren't lesbians!!" and lesbians who do not consider trans women lesbians will say "non-radfem lesbians aren't lesbians!!".

What do you mean by this? The people who believe that trans women can be lesbians are usually not lesbians so I can understand saying "you're not a real lesbian" to someone in that case. Like you said, a lesbian is a female homosexual so if a supposed lesbian was trying to tell me that heterosexual men can be lesbians I would be doubtful of her sexuality. Or just think she's high on the kool-aid.

TalerTest · 2020-09-17T22:46:01+00:00

Looks like imitation is not the sincerest form of flattery after all.

That is one of the things that sucks about being a minority. We are obviously outnumbered by heterosexuals so it's not like we can do much about it when they try to force themselves into our spaces and force us out. Maybe we just have to wait for them to realize that pretending to be non-straight is sad and pathetic. I wonder if in the future when everyone is non-straight, straight will become the new cool thing.

TalerTest · 2020-09-17T21:58:52+00:00

Who are the others that shes worried about offending? That's a weird excuse. Is she worried about offending randoms who can't bear the sight of two women in a relationship? Or is she also seeing other people and worried about offending them?

TalerTest · 2020-09-16T04:31:47+00:00

I thought that was a fair comment. She gave OP some sound advice but it was met with hostility. On top of that, OP edited her original comment to add all of that 'woe is me' stuff to make herself look like even more of a victim. I don't know about you but I call that a victim mentality. I also don't like way OP assumes she's the only one who comes from a homophobic background and kept trying to use that as some kind of sympathy card.

TalerTest · 2020-09-16T03:23:57+00:00

About a month ago someone made a very similar post which was later removed. I think people like this want a sympathy hug-box rather than advice. Speaking from my own experience, it's best to ignore them if you have nothing gooey and sensitive to say.

TalerTest · 2020-09-15T14:48:38+00:00

Anti-GS group? Do people really get together and steam over the fact that there's lesbians who have never had sex with men? That's honestly funny. What's even the goal?

TalerTest · 2020-09-13T21:01:25+00:00

when it comes to rep on-screen though I think strap on sex is not a problem, as long as it is not the only thing shown - not to give the idea that this is all lesbians do

Personally, I don't want to see strap-ons in lesbian movies at all. I don't care what people want to do in their bedrooms, but the rest of the world already thinks that's all we do since the majority of "lesbian" representation comes from porn.

If someone was complaining about the negativity surrounding strap-ons in the lesbian community I'd probably just laugh at them. That's a non-issue. To me, the real issue would be everyone thinking that lesbians are obsessed with phalluses.

TalerTest · 2020-09-06T22:41:09+00:00

when I read your comments I can't make up my mind on whether you are a sociopath or a really sweet girl. hmm maybe both

TalerTest · 2020-09-06T13:36:58+00:00

having an undercut and putting her hands in her pockets are supposed to be the ways she's letting you know that she's into women? HAHAHA Guess I'm doing it wrong then.

TalerTest · 2020-09-05T19:17:24+00:00

I don't mean to mock, but assuming a strong connection with someone I've never even spoken to sounds a little stalker-ish. I've been intensely drawn to women before but that's all on me. If she keeps looking at me she's probably just thinking why does that woman keep staring at me? so it would be pretty bold to take stolen glances as a sign of romantic interest.

TalerTest · 2020-09-04T21:48:45+00:00

She said she's into you and says yes when you ask her out but then turns around and says she's not ready for a relationship? Yeah it's time to buy some ice cream...

She sounds like someone who just wants attention and loves the feeling of someone pining after her. Don't waste anymore time on her since she clearly isn't serious. If she was, she would be with you.

TalerTest · 2020-09-03T22:18:55+00:00

I agree with you tbh. The lesbians that told OP she doesn't look gay enough were clearly just not interested in femmes. They could have worded it better because we all know there isn't a way to 'look gay', but I think that's essentially what they are saying. "Not interested"

Seems to me it's less about lesbian beauty standards being pushed on everyone and more about personal preferences... and OP taking rejection from other femmes a little too much to heart

TalerTest · 2020-09-01T14:48:23+00:00

nah.

This question is really tired. I'd be much more interested in seeing what bi women would say when asked "Would you date a bisexual woman" tbh

TalerTest · 2020-08-27T10:14:12+00:00

the lesbian app I'm using isn't supremely flooded with men at this point in time, which is really my chief concern. Due to cultural reasons, the threesome stuff isn't that popular.

I need to move to wherever you live.

TalerTest · 2020-08-27T03:40:02+00:00

jeez ok. At least that made me laugh

TalerTest · 2020-08-27T03:24:37+00:00

I think you mean 'entitled' not 'privileged'. The source you gave me was equivalent to saying "Google it". That book is about multiple things. I only want the part about Sappho and her "young male lovers". I did use the search option inside the book and to try to look for the part, but too many unrelated results came up.

TalerTest · 2020-08-27T02:21:21+00:00

Slavery still goes on but ok fair enough. Don't make claims if you are not willing to divulge the sources. I don't want to waste my time when I'm only interested in the part about Sappho supposedly 'engaging in consentful sex with young male lovers'. I've never heard of that before and I'd like to know where Leila J. Rupp got that info

TalerTest · 2020-08-27T01:42:03+00:00

Sorry, Im going to be annoying and ask you for the excerpt because I don't want to read the full book. Found it on the online library Here

TalerTest · 2020-08-27T00:47:35+00:00

a woman who engages in consentful sex with young male lovers

Where did you read this?

TalerTest · 2020-08-25T00:16:49+00:00

I wanted to comment something about how disgusting that is, but there's really no words.

TalerTest