Some trans sanity. I for one, am happy to see. by milknciggies in LGBDropTheT

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Always nice to see trans people calling out the insanity of other trans people or TRAs. Sucks that they are also often talked over and silenced by their own community.

Democrat Introduces Bill To Protect LGB Youth from Medical Assault by BEB in LGBDropTheT

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Honestly nice to see a Democrat pushing for this.

"It literally makes me insane" by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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You know what drives me insane? Seeing homophobia pushed and applauded in gay spaces, it boggles the mind

"I am a woman and don't plan to modify my body in any way, shape or form - do you think gay men won't be interested in me?" by ThrowMeAway2879 in LGBDropTheT

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At least looking through the comments most people are telling her gay guys won't be interested or she should look for bi/pan guys. The only comment I saw that said gay guys can be transphobic had a downvote.

Sage advice from one bro to another bro nervous about joining an LGBT+ hiking group by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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You got to get them sweet sweet woke points. Preparing sentences to show how 'progressive' you are is so cringy. Even if the beliefs themselves were something to celebrate it would still be cringe. The topics just make it worse

Played The Fool - Confessions of a former head of a college LGBT center by justagaydude123 in LGBDropTheT

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Pretty sure we already have, although I suppose we could go more underground

Lauren Black: “I am a butch lesbian. I live with gender dysphoria. I do not believe my deep discomfort with my female body means that I should take steps to change it.” by barnarnas in LGBDropTheT

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This is beautiful, I agree with everything she's said here. This story resonates with me so much. It makes me so happy to read stories about butch lesbians accepting and being happy with who they are.

r/AMA - I was exclusively a lesbian before i met my current boyfriend (This is old but had to share... The comments make me lose faith) by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

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She was exclusively with women before, she wasn't exclusively a lesbian. The issue I have is with this isn't so much that she misidentified that she was a lesbian, people figuring themselves out can make mistakes. Although the bit about her making out with dudes is frustrating. But the part that irritates me more is she doesn't say she used to identify as a lesbian, and now realizes she was bisexual, she says she was a lesbian.

Emily G and Trip Richards being delusional, both are trans by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

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They already say this. Or at least some of them do. That they were always women, and thus always female

Well, that was weird by WildwoodFlower in Lesbians

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Based on a thread by one of the admins apparently it was a billing issue, lol. They were indisposed due to personal reasons for a short while so everyone started panicking and thinking it was taken down do to a death threat or hate speech. Seeing all the wild theories from everyone was kind of entertaining. But I was worried we would lose this space if it had been something more serious.

Choosing genitals over personality or hobbies?! You crazy bastards! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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This is so stupid like they don't understand what the difference between a friend and a partner is. If I'm having sex with the person what's between their legs is pretty fucking important. Also as if that's the only thing that matters. News flash I can care about more than one thing.

GC Twitters criticism of Pete & Chasten Buttigiegs Adoption is getting homophobic by Criticallacitirc in LGBDropTheT

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I didnt see a lot of comments about surrogacy. Most of them were about 'why is the picture in a hospital bed?'. Not sure if those people were GC or not, seems like a dumb question, it's a cute photo they aren't pretendong they gave birth. And as for all the covid stuff this is likely in the maternity ward, I highly doubt they are housing sick patients there.

Anyway for people saying kids should have a mother, I would say ideally all kids would have good male and female roll models in their lives. But having a mother doesn't mean having a good parent. Lots of mothers are terrible and I would bet most gay parents are better than a lot of straight parents. For the specific reason that any gay couple having kids, whether surrogacy or adoption they have planned and prepared to have kids. Lots of straight couples have accidental pregnancies or have kids cause it's the thing to do. It's real easy to have a kid of you are straight, you don't need money, you don't have to pass any reviews to be approved to have children.

There is something to say about kids having trouble growing up without their biological parents. Lots of Adopted kids struggle with that. I imagine kids of surrogacy(assuming the bio mom isn't someone close to the couple) have similar issues and struggles with not knowing one of their bio parents. Don't know if that's true though.

The point of women being able to sell their bodies and the potential damage and exploitation there is a conversation worth having I think, but as someone else pointed out. The vast majority of surrogacy is for straight couples, not gay ones.

Did AyL just go private? by Srime in Lesbians

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As I understand they recieved hate from both sides, but a lot more from former truelesbian users who wanted it to become the new TL. Part of it I'm sure is due to the other side not having their space abolished so they had somewhere else to go to discuss/complain about other issues.

Why is "gay" usually used as an adjective, while "lesbian" is usually used as a noun? by 7874 in LGBDropTheT

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I think because gay doesn't mean homosexual male. It just means homosexual, which is also an adjective. Although it can be used as a noun, as can gay but it sounds wierd. Being a lesbian is specifically being a homosexual female.

Maybe I'm wrong and it does actually mean homosexual male, and it's just been used otherwise. But to my understanding it is mostly used to refer to men, but does not have to be.

What online communities are people a part of by SickOfThisShit in Lesbians

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My assumption would be because saidit has gone down a few times in the last couple months. Some people may not have come back or sought out other spaces since the future of saidit is unknown.

r/Actuallylesbians: "What's the biggest issue the lesbian community faces?" Top comment, gilded: "Censorship." Top comment was then REMOVED by moderators. by reluctant_commenter in LGBDropTheT

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I don't agree with the removal of that comment but I think it's unfair to not realize the mods are in a tough spot. The sub was created to get away from the more polarizing topics, especially after the bans to avoid being banned themselves. They get so much shit from both sides for not being inclusive or exclusive enough.

Who's the man in a gay relationship? Hm? Hm?!?! by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Because there is the homophobic and sexist idea that the bottom is the 'women' not saying that's what this goth chick was saying, but it could be read as such.

What do you all think about r/ActuallyLesbians? by UneedREM in Lesbians

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Mixed feelings, it has a fair amount of actual lesbians on it, but there are times where everyone has to tread carefully not to say the wrong thing. Probably the best you can get on reddit, but it feels like there are times the mods prioritize the feelings of transwomen over being able to talk about being homosexual.

I'm just so angry and I feel so alone. by SickOfThisShit in Lesbians

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Part of me is also happy, relieved that it's going to get more attention. But a part of me is afraid it won't be enough. I also have mixed feelings about support from groups I wouldn't otherwise have associated with, or that I disagree with on most other issues. I get the idea that the enemy of my enemy is my friend but it still doesn't feel great.

Censorship Thursday - share your sub bans here! by NutterButterFlutter in LGBDropTheT

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Was this directed towards a specific bi woman or just that you believe all bi women will leave women they are with for men?

The New Gay Liberation Front 🌈 by HelloMomo in LGBDropTheT

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Where did it say that? Did they call themselves that?

Article on political lesbians by LesbianInExile in Lesbians

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I agree that its likely a combination of things that lead to homosexuality, but I also think it doesn't matter. Whether people are 'born that way' or not it's not a choice. The idea that one can choose to be a lesbian implies that you can choose not to be a lesbian. It makes being a lesbian some political standpoint or belief.

The way she writes this makes it sound like she is bisexual, I don't know if that is true, I don't know much about her. She may be a lesbian and really does view it as a choice, in the sense that you can choose whether to live as a lesbian or stay in the closet and live as if you were heterosexual. I'm speculating on what she means a bit because I'm honestly a little confused by how she is defining choice.

Either way I don't agree with her viewpoint and I think saying you can choose to be a lesbian is damaging to lesbians.

Thank you for your most enlightening transplanation by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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This might be the wildest take I've seen

Weekly Social Chat by artemisiagrey in Lesbians

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It's still very new so it's not that active yet, but it's got a posting section called treehouse, kind of like here or reddit, you can upvote or downvote and comment on posts. There is a section where you can post pictures, kind of like Instagram. You can comment on or like the pictures. There will be a dating section though it's not up yet. While there isn't a ton of content yet I like the set up and the aesthetic. The woman who made the app is also taking feedback. She is very nice and open to criticism but she also has made it clear it's a place for homosexual woman and she isn't budging on that.

There is a six months free trial period after that there will be a monthly subscription, apparently to have it be a private exclusive club there has to be a membership fee. I think in order to have a truly exclusive space especially for dating it's worth the price, but you can try it out before you have to pay.

Weekly Social Chat by artemisiagrey in Lesbians

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I joined the new lesbian app, club monocle. So I'm excited about that. It's still new so it's not very active but I'm happy to see an exclusive lesbian space and hope it takes off

Straight bloke in frock who hearts Iran can’t believe LGB people would say this by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

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Sorry are you agreeing with the lgb alliance here? We absolutely asked for laws and languages to be changed, anti discrimination laws, to protect gay and lesbians from losing there jobs or homes, from being harassed for being gay. Gay marriage wasn't always legal and even if you don't care about that lots of gay people did, and pushed for it. Gay people weren't always allowed in the army, that had to be changed. I'm sure there are more that I can't think of off the top of my head.

Reddit bans anyone for mentioning their new admin Ashton "Aimee" Challenor's name • /s/WatchRedditDie by Happy_Blueberry3910 in LGBDropTheT

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This just reads as if they checked all the boxes to avoid true accountability, and to cover their asses. Everyone will celebrate that the bad pedophile is gone, then they will move on. I'm glad they got fired, but the fact they ever got hired in the first place is representative of a bigger problem that I doubt will be addressed.

I'm just so angry and I feel so alone. by SickOfThisShit in Lesbians

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This is a good idea, although I worry she would probably be polite and wouldn't bring up any controversial opinions herself if brought up casually. I think if she felt the way I do she'd be just as hesitant to bring it up. But it couldn't hurt to try

What do you all think about r/ActuallyLesbians? by UneedREM in Lesbians

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Neither of the mods are trans, you might be thinking of lesbianactually

I'm just so angry and I feel so alone. by SickOfThisShit in Lesbians

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I was when the initial ban stuff happened but I hadn't been active on it for awhile because it takes a lot of mental energy for me to keep up with a discord so I go removed, I assume for inactivity. I might ask to rejoin

Do you believe in compulsory heterosexuality? by QueenOfTheNorth in Lesbians

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I had a few 'crushes' on guys when I was in elementary and high school. I mean they weren't really crushes looking back on them they were me picking guys I thought I could like because in my friend groups the question of 'which boys did you like' would come up all the time or we'd do quizzes on what your dream guy is like and I'd have to come up with answers. At the time though I didn't realize I was gay and the crushes I did have on some of my friends just didn't register as crushes. The idea I could have feelings for another girl just wasn't something on my radar. I wasn't surrounded by homophobia or anything, its just all the media I saw and all the relationships I witnessed were women being with men. The idea I could be anything other than straight just didn't occur to me until much later.

What happened to LGBdroptheT? by [deleted] in Lesbians

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Not sure it's been like that for several hours I messaged the moderator, hopefully it's just a temporary thing to clean some stuff up or something.

I'm so confused by Hannibalboy93 in LGBDropTheT

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It's possible they were always bisexual, it's also possible that changing hormones could change people's sexuality. We don't even really know what causes people to be homosexual, its entirely possible that introducing other hormones could cause it to change. This would not make it a choice. They didn't choose to change their sexuality it was a result of the chang in hormones effecting their body.

Or like other people said they could be lying, but given the significant lack of research in this area I'm not going to pretend to know whether it is or isn't possible.

It's almost like there are two different kinds of nonbinary people by winterwillow in LGBDropTheT

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I think there are three, those two then the bisexual/pansexual hearts not parts crowd. After all If you don't think people should be attracted based on sex than someone knowing yours is irrelevant.

I'm just so angry and I feel so alone. by SickOfThisShit in Lesbians

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Thank you, on a rational level I know this. But I just feel so wound up and anxious.

LGB alliance is getting out of hand and is turning into a TRA-esque nightmare. by OPPRESSED_REPTILIAN in LGBDropTheT

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I've been on the fence about the LGB Alliance since I liked the idea of a group that wasn't TRA's advocating for gay people. But jesus christ, fuck the LGB Alliance if this is what they stand for, or at least fuck this chapter since I'm not sure how connected the different groups are other than the name. Also if you are advocating for gay people why the fuck are you even weighing in on Intersex people's rights. Everyday I lose a little bit more faith in humanity, I'm surprised I have any left.

Also, does anyone know any good intersex organizations or charities? Be nice to know if there are any good places to donate to or support that actually advocates for intersex rights.

Trans attempts to ban and censor anyone voicing support for SuperStraight are enabling the Streisand Effect, and it is GLORIOUS. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

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Those are all in TumblrInAction, they've been talking about this stuff and held those views for awhile. I'll be excited when I see it talked about on other subs.

Did anyone else believe you were asexual for a considerable amount of time? by [deleted] in Lesbians

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I thought I was asexual for about a year before realizing I was a lesbian. Looking back I definitely had a couple crushes on girls in school, but I didn't realize it at the time, I just thought I wanted to be friends with them or something. In general I'm pretty introverted and don't feel the need to be in a relationship, plus I have a low libido so that all contributed to first assuming I was asexual before realizing I was gay.

Found a new Lesbian APP by NeroAD_ in Lesbians

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I joined the app and it looks good from what I can see. Looking at the comments from the owner/maker of the app I certainly dont think it's someone trying to trick lesbians. It looks legit from everything I can see so far, I get that everyone is nervous but I hope everyone doesn't just write this off. It's hard to make exclusive lesbian spaces and I think it would be really sad to see this fail because everyone was too scared to try it.

What online communities are people a part of by SickOfThisShit in Lesbians

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Could you recommend any discords? I've heard of Lchat before perhaps I will go check it out, is it just one chat room?

Did anyone else believe you were asexual for a considerable amount of time? by [deleted] in Lesbians

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Haha, thankyou I was pretty angry when I made it