Not an attraction to men, but to masculinity! by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I tend to suspect most of them (especially those who haven't gone as far as to attempt to sleep with a trans person) are attracted to the secondary sex characteristics recreated by testosterone as opposed to being bi. They just look at pictures like he posted and go thats hot without having to ever do more.

This post is a mess. by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I can only speak for myself here - but I am definitely a bi-cycler but as a strongly monogamous person the cycle only switches after a breakup with someone I was emotionally invested in. Sort of a bounce towards wanting someone different. But it does make it difficult because people assume the worst.

Can you help me respond to this homophobic question please? by UWUness in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I would just ask if someone who is wheelchair bound still has legs but thats me.

Pennywise Is Surprisingly Anti-Queer in ‘It Chapter Two' by PatsyStone in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 8 insightful - 6 fun8 insightful - 5 fun9 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

I think I just lost brain cells. How dare a human eating monster be "anti queer"! That's literal violence!

Why are there over 2,000 subscribers but posts get very little engagement? by 7874 in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm mostly just a lurker too. Rarely comment but read most posts.

Tired of bisexuals being expected to be open to dating trans people by default because we like both biological males and females by UnapologeticMisandry in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah also not convinced bisexuality by definition can't include trans. Honestly it is the most likely here. But what is missing is we are allowed to not be attracted to anyone at any time for ANY reason. Its called consent and the loss of that is what really has shut me down to the whole trans movement.

Personally I don't find plastic surgery on anyone attractive, because in many cases (especially trans) its indicative of poor mental health. Been there done that and will not date someone who isn't stable again.

Rejecting it won't make it go away by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

My guppies keep having babies, and I've yet to see a male guppy chasing a male guppy. They only ever chase female guppies. Do you think they have super powers too??

Rape by deception: straight women edition. by Neo_Shadow_Lurker in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Much of the US anyway has "at will" employment laws, so you can get fired for any reason.

Do you feel that your Kinsey Scale rating is an accurate measure of your sexuality? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]Nani 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It definitely isn't very helpful for me (f). I tend to be attracted to more masculine people, but if you put a butch woman against a masculine male I'd probably pick the woman.

Rape by deception: now targeted towards straight people. This is going to end well... by Neo_Shadow_Lurker in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 50 insightful - 2 fun50 insightful - 1 fun51 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

They talk about the murders of transwomen this is ACTUALLY how it happens not by lesbians saying they don't want to date them...

Who are you on a genital spectrum? I'm chaotic neutral minge by DickFreeBacon in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 37 insightful - 7 fun37 insightful - 6 fun38 insightful - 7 fun -  (0 children)

..... what kind of nonsense is this now?? I'm convinced none off these people have actually had sex

What can we do about the colossal proportion of closeted bis? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]Nani 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That would help. Both the committed and attacking homophobia. But honestly the we are a large and diverse group that its hard to break any stereotypes. Like sure we can campaign that we can be committed and monogamous but that doesn't change the fact that a significant percent of unicorn hunters/poly groups are largely bisexual. And I don't think all the gender stuff and our involvement with that helps either.

What can we do about the colossal proportion of closeted bis? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]Nani 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

For me at least its a leading cause of my internalized homophobia. So story time. I initially came out as a lesbian as a young teen and had a girlfriend all through high school. I had to overcome some homophobia but it was mostly exterior. In college I had my first crush on a man and honestly it threw me for a loop. Family that had accepted me as a lesbian became less accepting if I showed any further intrest in woman and honestly I struggle internally more with it. Almost like I'm a poser for "choosing" to still have homosexual inclinations. Kinda like a non binary identity.

Does any of that make sense?

What can we do about the colossal proportion of closeted bis? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]Nani 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Very blue but religious area of the US. Bis are seen as pomiscus and unable to decide.

What can we do about the colossal proportion of closeted bis? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]Nani 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I didn't say it was a good excuse just that I think that's a big reason so many are closeted. I will say in my community I think it is actually more acceptable to be gay than bi. A lot of people see bi as sort of choosing to be oppressed or attention seeking if you enter a homosexual relationship whereas for L or G they tend to see it as they deserve love too and can't find it any other way.

What can we do about the colossal proportion of closeted bis? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]Nani 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think at least some of it is the poor acceptance of bis in society. Bi women are fetishes to straight men and bi men aren't manly enough for straight women. To the LG we are often posers invading there spaces and treated like we will just leave for a straight passing relationship. There is a lot of pressure to just pick a side.

Repackaging serious mental illness as a sexual orientation and/or gender identity by Chunkeeguy in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I partially agree with you. I don't think it is fair for them to blame their family, friends, or even doctors for what happened because by that point they couldn't have been reasoned with, but they are victims of the TRAs. They are sold lies about how transitioning will make everything better, and about how there are trans people walking around them everyday and they don't even know. And the idea that if not now but soon everyone will accept them for it.

Are you "homogenderal"? by usehername in Bisexuals

[–]Nani 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Sexually I'm more passive, but definitely need to feel like I'm giving my partner some pleasure. Psychogically, I definitely look for partners with a mix of masculine and feminine traits (in both sexes) but prefer a slightly stronger personality, as I have a strong personality myself.

I won landmark same-sex marriage case. Here's why I'm optimistic about transgender rights. by xandit in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I think you hit the nail on the head of the problem. They want all these trans rights but won't even define who is and isn't trans. According to them a third string male high school soccer player should be able to walk into school the day after he sees his space, announce he's a girl and attend the women's varsity tryouts. And get ready in the women's locker room. And questioning that is gatekeeping.

Censorship Thursday - share your sub bans here! by NutterButterFlutter in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was recently banned from askfemists for answering "why there are so many terfs"

Not knowing if you can continue living in a world of Gender Woo as a Gender Critical person? by Kai_Decadence in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm assuming you're also in STEM and in my experience there are actually a lot of LB women, we are just largely somewhat closeted in the work environment as many professors don't even truely accept women in that environment.

Creating a bi space whitout the TQ+ invading it seems impossible (And I feel like sht about wanting one) by [deleted] in LGBDropTheT

[–]Nani 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Long time lurker - finally made an account to reply to this thread.

I relate to you so much. I'm also bisexual and want nothing to do with the trans ideology. Partially because I really just don't believe "gender" is the way we should be moving - let people of either sex do and be who they want, and partly because I've done the dating of people with severe mental illness before and have no interest going back down that road.

I also really really wish there was a place we could talk about the guilt and those types of feelings in regard to bisexuality. I feel like I should "choose" to be with men because why choose a woman and make my life harder (even though I definitely have greater attraction to them), almost as if like the T+ without true gender dysphoria I'm choosing to opt in to oppression.

If someone creates some sort of discord server to talk about this stuff I'd love to be part of it.