My twin brother has just come out as a "woman"

Marsupial · 2020-09-25T17:22:42+00:00

Yikes, estrogen being cheap doesn't mean that it's a good idea for a man to be on it. You think this is about finances?

OP, sorry, but if that was my brother I'd tell him he's not a fucking woman and you know because you've known him his entire life. Tell him to snap out of the bullshit. Tell him about the negative medical consequences from being on hormones, the unncessary surgery of transitioning, the many years he'll waste, the normal life he'll waste, ask him what he thinks his future will look like when he's past his 50s and he's a weird, creepy dude walking around in women's clothes. Does he want to live a normal life of does he want to become a social pariah and a life-time medical patient dependent on hormones and dilations? And even worse so, he'll be dependent on a healthcare system that's not adapted for people like him. Does he want all the social consequences that comes with being a man pretending to be a woman?

Marsupial · 2020-09-25T03:51:23+00:00

How fucking convenient. I guess trans women aren't women after all. And that it wasn't all that important for them to become one after all.

Marsupial · 2020-09-24T15:13:40+00:00

Yeah, I really liked some of those badges
The shirt was cute too

Marsupial · 2020-09-24T04:25:58+00:00

Lol, no wonder they get dysphoria when they look like that.

Marsupial · 2020-09-24T04:24:08+00:00

Gross. They're fetishizing women's traumas.

Marsupial · 2020-09-22T16:50:30+00:00

It would just be a dealbreaker. They're afraid of being who they are because they don't fit into the most shallow, stereotypic image of femininity there is. And it also suggests a really misogynic view of other women.

Marsupial · 2020-09-20T13:27:39+00:00

Of course he seems happier now, he's found a fantasy he's allowing himself to get fully engrossed in, denying all reality. He gets to walk around playing a character of extreme stereotypic femininity. That happiness won't last because reality can't be denied forever. The fantasy will get old, he'll get reminded he's a man, he'll get reminded that he can never be the woman he pretends to be, and that's when the dysphoria hits again.

Frankly, I don't think there's anything you can say that he'll be susceptible to. Don't include him in doing things that are "girly". Don't include him in duscussions about anything that has to do with women or feminine topics. Don't feed into his fetish. Enjoy your time alone with your sister. If he's being creepy tell him he's creepy and that what he's doing isn't what women do. And tell him that you won't spend time with him if he's going to make creepy comments slike that. Set boundaries- you don't have to listen to somebody who makes you uncomfortable, you don't have to be part of his fantasy. You don't have to listen to things that make you uncomfortable, you don't have to ignore your own feelings to make somebody else happy.
Imo the person you used to know is gone, or was never who you thought they were in the first place.

Marsupial · 2020-09-20T05:49:45+00:00

"What do I look like?"

Marsupial · 2020-09-19T05:44:10+00:00

Otherwise we're a fucking Banana Republic.

Kind of are at this point.

Marsupial · 2020-09-19T05:42:35+00:00

Women must have rights before the TRA crowd can take them away. GC is secondary to the fundamental right of women's autonomy.

Marsupial · 2020-09-19T05:37:37+00:00

Fuck. This is terrible. So long Roe vs Wade, so long women's rights.

Marsupial · 2020-09-17T21:31:45+00:00

Idk, it's still batshit insane.

Marsupial · 2020-09-17T21:29:33+00:00

The real-world effect is personal affirmation/validation for transwomen. If they can call themselves mothers and usurp motherhood, which is pretty much the essence of femininity, surely they are "actual women".

It's all about their narcissism. The best society can do is to not go along with the delusions because they won't stop. And by "not go along" I mean, don't give them an X for gender instead of M/F, don't tell them they're women, don't provide affirmation for their belief that they are women. Acknowledge them as the men they are and refuse to play along.

Marsupial · 2020-09-13T05:24:22+00:00

I mean, I bet this is a question that Kat Rosenfield made up herself. Nobody wrote to her asking this.

Marsupial · 2020-09-12T09:19:53+00:00

A low age of legal consent is often for teens the same age. There can be a low age of consent with it still being illegal for an adult man to have sex with a teenage girl.

Marsupial · 2020-09-12T08:49:10+00:00

"As a self-employed woman and publican of over 10 years, I can assure you that I take the opinions of random people on the internet very seriously indeed."

LOL
This letter is gold.

Marsupial · 2020-09-12T07:34:23+00:00

Neat narcissism.

Marsupial · 2020-09-12T07:27:00+00:00

I don't care. I don't go around making unprovoked attacks at people or calling people who are perfectly nice to me slurs but I'm also not buying into the mental illness that is transgenderism. I think "tranny" is fine if "TERF" is fine, I do not think the use of "tranny" incites violence although it is rude to use face to face with somebody. If not going along with what clearly are delusions make some people think I am transphobic then meh, so what? Transphobic is just a word people hurl at you when they're upset about something, it changes meaning a lot nowadays.

Marsupial · 2020-09-12T07:22:59+00:00

Let them. It won't work out well for them.

Marsupial · 2020-09-12T07:04:41+00:00

Tbh they usually don't pass very well so I'm not very concerned

Marsupial · 2020-09-12T06:53:38+00:00

If I want to date a woman I'll date a woman, not an autogynephilic or transsexual man. No amount of hormones or op will turn you into the other gender.

Marsupial · 2020-09-10T15:26:29+00:00

Also their "period pain" is trapped gas. They're men thinking their upset stomach means their non-existant uterus is shedding lining.

Marsupial · 2020-09-09T05:01:58+00:00

Sure they do but a dick isn't women's genitals.

Marsupial · 2020-09-07T05:29:31+00:00

Losing respect for anyone who supports the trans narrative tbh
Most of them haven't even thought it through, they just go with whatever they've heard on social media. Just today I saw somebody who supportss the trans narrative rant over gender stereotypes in the context of gender reveals...like dude, connect the dots.

Marsupial · 2020-09-06T08:26:16+00:00

Nobody's saying they're not people. Nobody's denying their humanity. They are, however, people of the sex they were born as. Not getting to call yourself a woman when you are a man does not take away your human rights.

Marsupial · 2020-09-06T07:27:05+00:00

I've RES tagged them. Most of the posters in that thread are trans.

Marsupial · 2020-09-06T07:22:45+00:00

It's even the definition. A man who loves a woman/girl is not a lesbian. Only a woman/girl who loves a woman/girl is a lesbian. And a woman/girl is a human female.

Marsupial · 2020-09-05T08:03:59+00:00

They're not in charge, though. This is a predominantly English-speaking western world problem. This is the US, Canada and the UK. Maybe Australia?- I'm not sure what the discourse is like there on the trans question. The rest of the world isn't as far gone in the "woke" cult. Many countries recognize that trans people deserve rights, but they're still far from abandoning biological sex as a concept. And in other parts of the world trans ideology is entirely out of the question.

Marsupial · 2020-09-05T07:15:04+00:00

It quickly felt like a witch-hunt occuring to anyone who ever did anything wrong.

Lol, calling people out on their harrassment is "a witch-hunt to anything who ever did anything wrong"? Don't want to get called out for rape or harrassment, don't rape or harrass. If you do rape or harrass, yes you may get called out on it. It's not difficult.

It seems like you're trying to conflate different things here. Perpetrators absolutely need to get called out. That's a whole different thing from "ree lesbians who don't sleep with men are transphobes" but you're trying to mix them up. Writing everything in bold does not mean you have a point.

Marsupial · 2020-09-05T06:38:32+00:00

Fucking atrocious. An 8 year old cannot consent to anything medical. An 8 year old does not possess the cognitive skills required to make a decision about their future and well-being. And any parent who would allow it is not concerned with the well-being of their child. Anybody giving hormones to a child for transition purposes should be in prison. Transition and hormone treatment for the purpose of transition should only be applied to adults who can consent.

Marsupial · 2020-09-05T06:29:34+00:00

There's no wrong way to be a woman but not everybody is a woman. There's no wrong way to be a Tyrannosaurus Rex but not everybody is a Tyrannosaurus Rex.

Marsupial · 2020-09-05T06:26:22+00:00

Ignore him. He's made several posts in the thread along the same theme. He's trying to paint this as a right/left matter where he's trying to paint the left (and feminism along with it) as anti-man, anti-white and anti-straight.

Marsupial · 2020-09-05T06:23:31+00:00

Exactly. The only way to answer that thread and not get banned is to go along with the affirmation. It's pretty much ban bait.

Marsupial · 2020-09-05T06:05:58+00:00

They're all from other men who also want to believe they pass as female lesbians. There are barely any women left in that sub.

Marsupial · 2020-09-05T05:59:54+00:00

They're just a bunch of men sitting around telling each other they're women and that their delusions are valid. And "cute" women at that, UwU yaaay hugs. Not many actual women left in that sub.

Marsupial · 2020-09-05T05:34:05+00:00

That's absolutely ridiculous. Looks like a man in every aspect, is a man in every aspect "Am I a LeSbIaN?" "SuRe YoU aRe". Dude is delusional and the women in that thread who are providing affirmation have no sense for setting boundaries or self-respect.

Marsupial · 2020-09-02T05:26:02+00:00

Or rather "Fuck off, creep"

Marsupial · 2020-09-02T05:07:10+00:00

I recognize him, I may have reported him for different tweets.
Seems he's got an alt account now where he's taking about "Phoebe", bombs and making assinuations at women being potential mass murderers. Totally sane, you guys.

Marsupial · 2020-09-02T04:55:16+00:00

I would really like to see the growth curve of that baby. This idea that his breast milk is equal to hers makes me very worried for the child's health.

Marsupial · 2020-09-02T04:52:50+00:00

Plus those selfies are usually with a ton of makeup, taken at specific angles and modded with filters. At best TiFs will be in that awkward "are they a man or a woman?" group. Most of the time they just look like men in drag though.

Marsupial · 2020-09-02T04:50:12+00:00

Ew. They're such nutjobs. That baby is being denied actual nutrition (mother's milk or formula) in order to comply with the father's autogynephilia fetish. It's child abuse.

Marsupial · 2020-08-29T18:12:40+00:00

It's insane. On a perfectly healthy woman's body, remove her breasts. Reshape her chest, maybe causing nerve damage in the process. Reshape her vagina to a penis. Stitch up her labia. Alter the urethra. Maybe even remove her uterus. On a perfectly healthy man's body, remove his penis to make a surgical hole that has to be dilated every day to not close up. Take skin from other body parts to make it, sometimes by cutting up the colon. Remove his testicles. Create breasts. Surgically alter his voice. Shave the cartilage in the throat to remove the Adam's apple. Modify facial bone structure until he looks like something he's not.

Give them hormones that aren't natural for their genetic setup. Assure them that this will make them happy. Start telling children and vulnerable teenagers that this is what they may want in the future and block their normal development.

It's barbaric.

Marsupial · 2020-08-29T18:01:39+00:00

I can't really blame anybody for not wanting to date somebody who's trans. There's just so much to upack. There's the social impact, there's the life-long treatments and medical implications, there's the dysphoria component, there's the fact that their bodies are not functioning as the gender they claim to be of and then there are the problems I see all over the trans community with the extreme need for validation and reassurance. I'd never volunteer to a relationship that from the start is full of trauma, dysfunction and mental illness.

Marsupial · 2020-08-29T16:42:09+00:00

There's also the question what you're selecting for when studying the transgender community. Are the suicide/suicide attempts the result of dysphoria in an otherwise healthy population? Or is the dysphoria just a symptom that manifests in people with a very high degree of mental illness? Their problem may not be the dysphoria, it's likely to be mental illness that's causing them to be dysphoric.

Also, I think becoming dysphoric after you've mutilated your body, ruined many of its innate functions through puberty blockers and HRT, and wasted years of your life setting all other things aside to become something of a social inbetween that doesn't fit into normal societal context anymore is a perfectly sane and normal response. It's reasonable to feel bad after having violated yourself, destroyed your body and ruined your life that way.

Marsupial · 2020-08-29T16:32:50+00:00

There is data to suggest that the trans population is the safest population there is, and that they have a lower murder rate and lower exposure to violence than most other groups, with the exception of the sub-group of trans people who are involved in prostitution. The most vulnerable population is women of color.

Marsupial · 2020-08-29T16:28:37+00:00

The problem with basing political categorization on the US system is that there are pretty much only two parties in the US system. And right now, the right wing is setting the tone. If something is not right-wing, it ends up being viewed as left-wing. So the definition of left-wing sort of becomes "whatever the right doesn't like", and it's simply not an accurate characterization. There are so many more nuances in politics.

Marsupial · 2020-08-29T16:24:21+00:00

Yeah, I'm entirely left but I hate being lumped up with movements that have nothing to do with the left. There's this weird idea that "left" means that you have to be inclusive of EVERYTHING that's not plain right-wing and it's simply not true. People have started to lump everything up with "the tolerant left", but the trans movement has nothing to do with "left" and just because somebody is left-wing in politics doesn't mean they have to be inclusive of every movement or every idea out there.

Marsupial · 2020-08-29T16:20:52+00:00

I'm reading her books for the first time now and they're actually pretty enjoyable even for adults. Sure there are some things that are likely to appeal more to a younger audience but the books are still pretty captivating. I didn't think I'd enjoy them as much as I have.

Marsupial · 2020-08-29T16:17:31+00:00

I love her, I love her so much.

Marsupial · 2020-08-29T16:15:35+00:00

Lol, "god status". Honor killings, female genital mutilation, trafficking, child marriages, child pregnancies, rape, sexual harrassment, sexual abuse, other abuse, getting murdered by their romantic partners, slavery, forced marriages, career discrimination, forced pregnancies, sexist stereotypes, sexist assumptions, social ostracisation due to being raped, getting murdered by strangers, social ostracisation due to being a single mother or due to pregnancy out of wedlock, death due to abortion, lack of bodily autonomy, being refused medical treatment because symptoms are not taken seriously, being refused medical treatment because men don't care about women's health... The fucking list goes on and on and on. What fucking "god status"? Men have no fucking idea what living as a woman is like. This idea that women get things for free and are just adored and worshipped is so fucking dissociated from reality.

Marsupial · 2020-08-29T16:07:27+00:00

Suicide is very socially contagious. It's extremely dangerous to push the narrative that 1) that the only choice is to transition or live a miserable life on the brink of suicide because you're not the gender you were "supposed" to be and 2) that suicide is an expected result when somebody critiques the trans movement.

Mermaids are being extremely irresponsible and are transducing a narrative that's extremely harmful to children, young people and other vulnerable populations.

Marsupial · 2020-08-29T15:44:43+00:00

Ah, emotional manipulation. "If I kill myself, it's YOUR FAULT"

Marsupial · 2020-08-26T15:24:08+00:00

To semi-quote JKR: " ‘Feminazi’, ‘TERF’, ‘b****’, ‘witch’. Times change. Woman-hate is eternal. "

Marsupial · 2020-08-25T18:04:31+00:00

I don't believe for a second that the trans movement is as widespread as these people try to make it seem. For most people transsexuality is extremely removed from their every day life and "trans rights" is at most an afterthought. Most people don't know what a TERF is and the absolute majority of people believe in men and women as the two genders and characterize people based on what they see. The vast, vast majority of people will never believe that TWAW if the TW they're facing looks like a man. And they know very well that men don't menstruate, get pregnant och have a vagina, and the women don't have dicks.
These ego stroking comments are just a small subset of peopole in a movement very few people care about, trying to make it seem like they're a majority.

Marsupial · 2020-08-24T17:37:16+00:00

How can you be transgender AND non-binary? Transgender is when you identify as the opposite sex. If he is non-binary he clearly does not identify as the opposite sex. What makes this middle-aged man not a man? He clearly looks like one. If this is his "butterfly phase" is a really fucking weak one. Looks like he bloomed from a dull middle-aged man to a dull middle-aged man in a pink shirt.

Marsupial · 2020-08-24T17:29:56+00:00

I feel like this is a pretty normal reaction to realizing that you have surgically changed your body to resemble something it should not be. So many unnecessary procedures and so much wasted time for something she didn't actually want. She could have done so much else instead if she had just been shown a way to accept herself for who she is.
Don't tell people they can transition away from their traumas. It's all so unethical. You cannot become somebody you are not. You cannot run away from yourself.

Marsupial · 2020-08-24T16:45:13+00:00

The problem is that you're very much wrong. There are people who do not identify as female who menstruate. So it's not a female-only act. I am a transgender man, meaning the doctors labeled me as female at birth because of the genitalia I presented with. I grew up, hit puberty, began menstruating, and then learned that I am a man.

Lady, I have some news for you...

My best friend is also a transgender man. He is also pregnant now.

LOL

Marsupial · 2020-08-23T08:59:56+00:00

Get back on reddit and spread some low-key terfing. Not enough to get banned, but just enough to start others on their progress to peaking. It's fun.

Marsupial · 2020-08-22T10:35:23+00:00

The people on r/feminism aren't feminist women, just like the people on r/actuallesbians aren't actual lesbians and TwoX hasn't been for women since they made it a default sub. All female subs on Reddit are heavily infiltrated by men.

Marsupial · 2020-08-17T17:19:57+00:00

I got the impression he's one of the period fetishizers. Bet he's one of those dudes who place tampons in his undies.

Marsupial · 2020-08-17T17:18:45+00:00

She's the expert on being a woman, he should listen

Marsupial · 2020-08-16T18:06:52+00:00

First comment: "This isn't even a parody, it's real life at this point."

I really wish I would laugh at this but it's too fucking real, even down to the male aggression.

Marsupial · 2020-08-16T17:56:50+00:00

The pan label is helpful because it tells me they're bisexual but also that they're a woke dumbass I don't need to waste time on.

Marsupial · 2020-08-16T17:49:40+00:00

This mentions FtM children, I wonder if it applies to MtF children as well. For the FtM children that are now detransitioning, I can imagine getting away from the everyday sexism, objectification harrassment and the male gaze that teenage girls face is a huge help in learning to accept to live as the girls they were born as.

Marsupial · 2020-08-14T22:04:45+00:00

No, there's absolutely no proof. Could just be a ridiculous attention stunt tbh.

Marsupial · 2020-08-14T22:02:06+00:00

There are also other posts where it's clear that he's overexagerrating the negative effects of the surgery and is imagining things (like the poop smell) that aren't even there. I doubt there was any actual problem with the medical procedure. This was a very mentally ill person who had unrealistic expectations of what the outcome would be and they shouldn't have been recommended transition surgery to begin with, they should have been prescribed heavy doses of anti-depressants, anti-anxiety medication, therapy and probably other treatments as well.

Marsupial · 2020-08-14T21:53:40+00:00

This person should have been treated with all the psychological/psychiatric help they could get, not surgery. They clearly had unrealistic expectations of the surgery and life afterwards and should not have been operated on. I don't think their surgery was "botched", from a medical standpoint it was most likely perfectly fine, but it's simply a fact that a neovagina does not replicate an actual vagina and people should not be given the idea that transition surgery will change their sex, nor should psychologically vulnerable people like this be recommended transition surgery.

Marsupial · 2020-08-14T16:05:15+00:00

It makes me sad that people think a man buying them things means they're empowered. Buy your own fucking car. Stand on your own two feet and build an independent life where you don't need men's approval to survive. Prostitution is not empowerment.

Marsupial · 2020-08-14T16:04:15+00:00

Turning yourself into an object to be abused for men's pleasure is empowering now.

Marsupial · 2020-08-14T16:02:10+00:00

A high schooler is not adapting to the agenda! Make him a public target!

Marsupial · 2020-08-10T04:17:47+00:00

Not surprised at all, tbh. The autism component seems to be very frequent.
I'm wondering if this is something that arises from being unable to handle the fact that there are nuances to human behavior, it's not black and white. They do not fit the stereotypes of their sex, don't understand that they're just stereotypes not absolutes, and try to change to conform to the black and white of either femininity or masculinity because of inability to accept the variance within each modality.

Marsupial · 2020-08-10T04:06:18+00:00

We're regressive but they're the ones thinking femininity is pink sparkles and men in spinny skirts. Lmfao.

Marsupial · 2020-08-10T04:04:05+00:00

Seriously, fuck this wishy washy choice feminism. "It is my choice to be completely financially dependent on a man to the extent that I'd be left homeless and on the street if he leaves me so it's fine!", "It is my choice to have the living crap beaten out of me and get choked nearly to death because it turns him on so it's fine!", "It's my choice to have strangers violate my intimate integrity and use me as masturbatory aid with no regard for my wellbeing on a daily basis so it's fine, it's EMPOWERING!".

Marsupial · 2020-08-10T03:59:07+00:00

Kind of ironic that a sub that claims to fight misogyny will happily support violence against women under the guise of "kink" and ignore the millions of women being abused and exploited in "sex work" ie prostitution. Any sub that supports sex work and violent anti-women kinks is not feminist, nor is it supportive of women. Oppression is no less oppression just because the oppressed think they deserve it.

Marsupial · 2020-08-10T03:54:34+00:00

How about we don't conflate the gender issue with something that's actually feasible, ie an American becoming French by becoming a French citizen? This is not an apt comparison and the rethoric tends to border right-wing arguments. This comparison sounds like an attempt to muddy the discourse. Changing citizenship or moving countries are not the same thing as attempting to change your sex.

Marsupial · 2020-08-06T20:49:29+00:00

I've never shopped there to begin with. I actually want my cosmetics and soaps to be tested and safe rather than homemade and poorly studied crap that can cause all kinds of allergies and other problems. "Natural" doesn't equal good for you. Also I don't think I've used a bathbomb for at least 20 years.

Marsupial · 2020-08-01T13:26:57+00:00

People being shocked and terrified at the mere mention of girls learning how their body functions. And children are not traumatized by accidentally hearing about how a tampon functions on tv, holy fuck. This outrage is just another example of how women's and girls' bodies are constantly sexualized to the extent that we can't even discuss something completely non-sexual like a period that is a completely natural thing about women's bodies that happens every month without people reaching for the smelling salts. It's ridiculous. All they did was to describe how to use it with their hands, it's not like they had a close-up demonstration with an actual vagina.

Young girls need to learn how to interact with their bodies. They need to know how to insert a tampon. The presence of a vagina does not mean it's sexual. This is not education on how to use a dildo, this is about using hygiene products.

Marsupial · 2020-08-01T12:45:10+00:00

Is this part of some kind of trans fantasy where they believe all dudes are open to advances from "women" at any time?

Marsupial · 2020-07-30T20:04:48+00:00

I'm worried about lack of growth when it's invite-only. The good thing about GC on Reddit was that it was easy to find for anybody who'd peaked and just googled something related. Invite only is more work, more waiting and at least I would be a bit hesitant about it if I was new to the scene.

Marsupial · 2020-07-27T04:29:27+00:00

"Terf" is the new "this woman is telling me something that makes me upset". Doesn't matter what you do or believe, if you're a woman you're a terf if you upset a man. A lot of similarities with "bitch" and "karen". New word, same misogyny.

Marsupial · 2020-07-27T04:24:37+00:00

Neat, combining blatant racism with misogyny.

Marsupial · 2020-07-26T15:50:27+00:00

Same. But I think that it's a misogynic and oppressive feature that's been mixed up with culture in a way that makes many women unable to recognize it for the oppression that it is, or accepting of it through internalized misogyny in the guise of tradition. I would not attack a woman who wore one. I do not approve of the practice. I think it's questionable to make laws to restrict the use in adult women. I believe the use of hijab for children and underage girls should be absolutely banned. I fully support the ban of the burqa and the niquab as these are about full erasure and dehumanization of the person wearing them.

Marsupial · 2020-07-26T15:37:47+00:00

Nobody's forcing you to give up your belief, but you will have to deal with the fact that people won't make excuses for misogynic behavior just because it's done under a religous or cultural banner. If the way you practice your religion means you're supportive of misogynic practices then it may just be that no, it's not the right place for you. If you do not support misogynic practices, it may be. I also don't believed in washed-out choice feminism, just because a woman claims she does something of free will does not mean she's not oppressed, does not mean she actually does it of free will and does not mean that she's not propagating sexist beliefs that are harmful to other women. As for you personally I obviously have no idea how you practice or what you stand for so whether you fit in? Nobody here will be able to tell you.

I can't speak for everybody but personally I am not inclusive of misogynic behavior and not every community will welcome everybody, that's just something adults have to deal with- you won't get met by applause and participation trophies just for turning up and posting.

Marsupial · 2020-07-26T15:06:37+00:00

How about I just don't give a fuck if something affects "trans women" negatively anymore? They're on their fucking own. if they're not allies to actual women I'm not being an ally to them.
Fuck, if somebody is trying to coerce women to undress in front of them they deserve that predator label.

Marsupial · 2020-07-25T18:04:47+00:00

Don't think I'm going to enter a sexual relationship with someobody who doesn't keep some kind of soap in their bathroom.

Marsupial · 2020-07-23T17:52:28+00:00

It's kind of ridiculous that it would be trashy though. It's just a bra. It being trashy is just more sexist nonsense and yes that sexism is pervasive in the US as well.

Marsupial · 2020-07-23T17:50:09+00:00

“It’s not OK to do nothing.”

It absolutely is. Medicine takes the wait-and-see approach all the time, at least where the intention of the care is to do what's best for the patient rather than to make as much money as possible.

Marsupial · 2020-07-23T10:53:00+00:00

Not oppressing women and girls is very central to radical feminism and has been from day one. Cultural relativism is not an excuse to oppress. There is nothing racist about protecting the rights of children. There is also a difference between burqa/niquab and the hijab. The hijab is more debatable since it's merely a hair covering, but the sole intention of the burqa/niqab is to make the girl/woman invisible and don't even show her face. It's an attempt to erase and dehumanize a person simply because of their sex. Nothing that the amish/catholic wear come close to the burqa/niqab. Burqa/niqabs are purely oppressional. There is absolutely no reason they should be accepted.

Marsupial · 2020-07-23T10:09:01+00:00

Holy fuck yes

Marsupial · 2020-07-23T09:49:05+00:00

Can't just support women, what about the men? /s

Marsupial · 2020-07-23T09:40:44+00:00

Isnt' a he/him lesbian a straight man if we're supposed to go with the whole TrAnS wOmEn ArE wOmEn thing? By definition it's not possible to be a lesbian as a man. If your pronouns are he/him you clearly identify as a man, those are male pronouns. People are batshit insane.

Marsupial · 2020-07-22T06:13:37+00:00

Wholesome? Lol fuck no

Marsupial · 2020-07-21T22:40:27+00:00

Ew.

You guys may enjoy the UD definition of Peak Trans though.

Marsupial · 2020-07-21T22:31:08+00:00

If you spend your life thinking you're something you're not, to the extent that it makes you suicidal, depressed, dysphoric or otherwise affects your everyday life to the extent that the only way out you can imagine is to perform an unnecessary surgical procedure and medicate with hormones, again for no medical benefit but only because something in you is telling you you need to, followed up by a constant need for validation that you pass otherwise your dysphoria gets triggered, then you have a mental illness. And that's even before I get into the autogynephiliacs.

Nobody can help having a mental illness. But telling a mentally ill person that the way to feel better is to undergo an unnecessary procedure, and to go along with the delusions of a mentally ill patient and even encourage them is so insanely unethical.

Marsupial · 2020-07-21T22:12:50+00:00

I don't think you could have been more wrong tbh. It's a fact that there are variances to how women are percieved in different cultures. I believe few women are as priviliged as white women. White women are still hurt by sexism but I believe it is inaccurate to portray it as white women having a more difficult time overall than WoC.
It's not a competition. Feminism includes all women. Different cultures have different problems. Different groups have different ways of oppressing women, it's the misogyny that's universal. White women are exposed to sexism but are NOT the most vulnerable group of women.

Marsupial · 2020-07-21T22:09:44+00:00

It's not oppression olympics. It's a fact that some countries and some cultures are further along when it comes to women's right than others.

Marsupial · 2020-07-21T22:08:10+00:00

Intersectionalism in terms of working for equality over races and culture is important and is definitely not the worst thing to feminism. If feminism is for all women it needs to be intersectional. Feminism needs to act for the freedom and safety of all women regardless of race and class.
Accepting oppression because it's part of a culture, like the burqa and similar, is a different thing.

Marsupial · 2020-07-21T21:57:16+00:00

Being calm and expressing an opinion is a different thing than what you're asking for. You're asking for meekly going along with their agenda because you're afraid of being viewed as "toxic". You're asking women to suppress their opinions, smile and be nice in order to get along, all because you didn't like the tone of one post. This is tone policing and more of the same old misogyny that women are not allowed to get angry or upset men or they deserve what's coming to them. This meekness you're suggesting is what lets TRAs take over subs on Reddit and move the boundaries in social media- people being afraid to speak up because "oh maybe it won't come across as nice!"

Marsupial · 2020-07-21T21:55:00+00:00

Yes ladies, just be quiet and smile and accept getting walked all over by men as they take away your rights and freedom, don't you dare get angry or be rude in response and don't forget to be grateful to them! How unfeminine to not be NICE and SWEET and UNDERSTANDING as you're getting stepped on.

Marsupial · 2020-07-21T21:53:34+00:00

Yeah, it's absolute nonsense.

Marsupial

It seems like you're trying to conflate different things here. Perpetrators absolutely need to get called out. That's a whole different thing from "ree lesbians who don't sleep with men are transphobes" but you're trying to mix them up. Writing everything in bold does not mean you have a point.