AgainstHateSubs basically admitting they had to get GC banned because it was peaking too many people.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-06-30T23:52:45+00:00

"If you can literally be erased by other people's wrongthink, do you even really exist in the first place???"

Most trans people have personality disorders like BPD/NPD, where they lack a basic sense of self and feel like they don't exist. So on some level, they probably don't believe they exist unless people acknowledge them. They lack a core self and identity that most people develop as very young children.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-06-30T23:53:58+00:00

You're right - I peaked through dating trans people and being quite involved in the TRA community. If you spend enough time with them they will peak you.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-11-11T17:49:53+00:00

I used to think I wouldn't like oral sex before fully coming to terms with being attracted to women, but I found if I dated someone I was genuinely attracted to, I really craved giving it. So I guess it's one of those things for me that seems weird in the abstract but in the right context, is very appealing.

That said, I would have no issue dating a woman who didn't want to give oral, as long as she was flexible and open minded to other ways of pleasuring one another. I'm not really attached to any particular sexual activity as an absolute must - it's more about whether the overall experience feels pleasurable and there's a great connection.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-07-12T20:45:54+00:00

I've met bisexual people who tried dating trans people, but most gave up on it because the mental health issues got too much and destroyed the relationship. TRAs think that people are just prejudiced about how people look but it's often because these people have Cluster B personality disorders and can't hold down a healthy relationship.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-09-29T16:41:58+00:00

Honestly it's okay to admit the reality to yourself - I have found the same thing, that most trans people have Cluster B personality disorders and are highly dissociative people. I mean you'd have to dissociate pretty damn hard to really believe that you're in the wrong body and your actual gender is different to the one you were born with. I do feel compassion for people who are so mentally ill, but it doesn't excuse toxic or abusive behaviour.

I was a TRA for a number of years and I still have a number of trans people and TRAs as friends, but I am cautious about getting too close to them as I find personality disordered people can burn you when you get too close. Some of them are fine as acquaintances or casual friends though. I tend not to be very open about my beliefs for various reasons, except with friends who I know are also GC.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-11-28T14:51:16+00:00

Yeah, this person is definitely mentally ill. It reminds me of a guy I knew who convinced himself he was gay even though he tried dating men and hated it, and always ended up with women.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-11-18T16:45:27+00:00

I've noticed a significant uptick in posts like this on r/latebloomerlesbians in the last month or two. I often notice comments saying "it's okay to be bisexual" and the OP will keep insisting she is lesbian despite no evidence to support it.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-03-30T06:33:42+00:00

This is so damn accurate!

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-03-26T15:57:12+00:00

This reminds me of the MGTOW movement. Supposedly they are going their own way, but actually they are obsessed with women. In the same vein, trans activists talk about how their experience is so different to LGBs (which is true), but still want to piggyback on the LGB rights movement and community support. Many are also obsessed and fetishise LGB people much like MGTOW does with women.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-09-11T15:37:11+00:00

I have met people who would be okay with mismatched parts sexually, but just choose not to date trans people due to the mental illness and dissociative issues.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-07-13T21:51:38+00:00

There's so many creepy threads by men fetishising lesbian relationships. They post their fantasies on there nearly every day and it's just disturbing. 95% of the time you can tell it's a man - you just check their post history and it becomes obvious.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-03-01T16:46:25+00:00

The main way it affects me on a personal level is that it has drastically reduced my dating pool - I am most attracted to butch/GNC women, and it's extremely rare to find ones who don't identify as NB or trans men these days. That's probably the most depressing part in terms of my personal life. It's also frustrating having to censor myself about my real views on TRA ideology in many circles.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-01-09T16:02:56+00:00

Ugh it makes me facepalm how so many straight men fetishise being a lesbian. Seriously, why would you want to have 1-2% of the female population as your dating pool instead of 98%? Not to mention all the privilege that comes with being heterosexual.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-08-01T16:08:10+00:00

Pretty much all of them have been fairly mentally unstable and have significant Cluster B traits/structural dissociation. Most are also autistic/ADHD in my experience.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-01-17T16:43:09+00:00

I'd recommend doing a free trial first to see if there's anyone in your area. I did a free trial and noticed there was no one local so I didn't bother paying. If you are in a well populated area (like a big city) you might be in luck, though.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-06-30T00:25:55+00:00

Yep I'm here from GC too!

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-09-11T15:42:41+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that - but honestly, it sounds like that woman is pretty unstable. My experience is that women who lead people on just for attention usually have fairly serious mental health issues, and aren't worth your time anyway. I've had lots of women flirt with me without any intention of dating me, so I've got to the point where I only take direct communication seriously (i.e. someone saying they are into women and declaring they want to date me specifically). I've found flirting means nothing to a lot of people. I'm glad you're checking into psychotherapy as it really helped me and sounds like you could do with some extra support. Sending hugs your way!

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-12-28T14:12:26+00:00

No, I just say boobs or breasts.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-08-01T14:52:27+00:00

Mostly friendships with trans people.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-05-07T12:05:06+00:00

It may be relevant and helpful for people who are asexual, but I think it becomes more problematic when applied to people who are not. I do agree that a lot of people who claim to be heteroromantic and homosexual are just gay and in denial... I'm not sure whether romantic love is just a construct though. I did read that neuroscientists have found particular parts of the brain light up when someone is in love, and the brainwave patterns are unique. The problem is we can't really look inside people's brains so it's hard to pin down exactly what romantic attraction actually means. It's not a physical activity like sex that's a bit more straightforward to define and categorise.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-12-10T16:05:59+00:00

I don't find "babyspeak" attractive but I do find a certain childlikeness or vulnerability can be appealing... I tend to like women who are outwardly strong and tough, but inwardly a bit more gentle and sweet. I like to feel like I can nurture their soft side. I also like when someone can be silly, playful and goofy, but I don't think that's quite the same as the "I'll be a good girl" kinky stuff that men seem to like. Perhaps the difference is childish versus childlike.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-12-06T13:41:07+00:00

I'm confused by number six. Do you want someone with disruptive mental health, or do you mean you don't want someone with disruptive mental health?

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-11-27T19:24:23+00:00

It seems a bit like asking is atheism a religion. It's not but it is a type of belief system or worldview.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-11-11T17:53:09+00:00

I generally look for people who give off vibes of being kind, warm and relatable. It's kind of hard to describe exactly with any specific details, but I guess I look for people who I think I'd get along with and feel comfortable around. People who are a bit goofy and not too "cool" or polished. I rarely feel attracted just from a photo or profile so I guess I look for people I'd (hopefully) get on with as a friend, and take it from there.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-07-10T19:22:14+00:00

I've never met a trans person without Cluster B traits, even the ones who aren't AGP and have bodily dysphoria. Conditions like anorexia, eating disorders, body dysmorphia and gender dysphoria are very common in Cluster B people.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-12-24T13:59:06+00:00

I mean she's not wrong - if you want to date someone with a severe dissociative disorder like gender dysphoria, you might be a bit fruity yourself. :P

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-08-02T18:20:36+00:00

I think half the time it's just MTF trans people saying they hate men, to make them feel more like "real women".

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-03-26T16:00:52+00:00

Perhaps they're aware that they're the ones with the real fetishes, so that's why they like to project it on to everyone else to make themselves feel better.

Well lots of them advertise having Cluster B disorders very publicly, so it doesn't surprise me that they engage in so much projection!!

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-01-20T15:54:35+00:00

One funny thing I've noticed is that a lot of MTFs are quite proud of having BPD and advertise it publicly. Some will even admit they are narcissistic. I suspect this is peaking people a lot more!

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-11-27T19:23:00+00:00

I don't know, I still don't want to kiss on the lips or make out with my platonic friends or family. A lot of asexual people like kissing, holding hands and cuddling their partner, and still get married and have kids together. They just don't particularly want to do activities that stimulate the genitals. I suppose you could say this is a platonic life partner, rather than a romantic non-sexual relationship. But if I had a truly platonic life partner I wouldn't want to kiss them at all because there would be no romantic attraction there whatsoever.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-11-19T14:54:15+00:00

It seems that lesbian has been redefined as a bisexual woman who prefers dating women, rather than someone exclusively attracted to women. I get the impression that people also think that using the label bisexual means "woman who is into both sexes but prefers dating men/only dates men".

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-11-08T19:10:09+00:00

I was actually thinking of doing that - it's a good idea. It might help them realise that by bringing it up, they are spreading her GC views as well haha.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-09-29T19:06:31+00:00

It seems like there's a lot of confusion in the trans community, as some believe that their gender identity is separate from their birth sex while others insist they are one and the same thing.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-09-10T17:10:43+00:00

I met a FTM who said he was asexual and aromantic, but if he ever dated someone it would only be an exact clone of himself. I thought that was interesting as a lot of FTM and MTF people seem to experience auto-eroticism (i.e. attraction to themselves). I wonder if this is why a lot of FTMs end up identifying as "gay men".

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-11-08T14:30:11+00:00

I admit that I wondered if the Reddit banwave was an attempt to unite the left wing, so they were more likely to vote Trump out. I have no idea if it's true but the thought did cross my mind.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-09-05T19:44:36+00:00

I think there is something to this, because I've never had a serious crush on someone who wasn't also interested in me. Of course I've swiped right on women on dating apps who didn't swipe right on me, but I've never had a serious crush who didn't return my feelings. That's not to say these women were always emotionally available, compatible, etc. But the feelings always seem to be mutual, so I think we both pick up on it. I've even had this happen through online groups where I barely interacted with the person, which is interesting.

[Edit] By the way, when I am saying women return my interest, I mean they actually take initiative to flirt, ask me out, tell me they like me, etc. I'm not reading into random glances across a room.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-11-25T15:56:04+00:00

I don't mind what people choose to do with their bodies, as long as they are over eighteen years old... my primary concerns are the erosion of women's sex based rights. I also don't think anyone should be coerced into using certain pronouns etc.

Based on my interactions with trans people, there's a whole range of reasons for people identifying as trans - and I'd say it's usually a combination of ASD/ADHD, structural dissociation/BPD, and cultural stereotypes about gender. There is definitely a subset who are highly influenced by porn and autogynephilia too, though I don't think this fully explains all cases.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-04-19T07:15:14+00:00

I totally agree. I am not supportive of Islam as a religion, but have a lot of compassion for refugees and asylum seekers. I do think it's a serious problem that the left overlooks the major problems of Islam and paints it as racism rather than criticism of a religious and political ideology.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-03-26T15:59:33+00:00

Yeah, being obsessed with giant hentai boobs might be fetishistic, but just like boobs in general is definitely not. They are trying to redefine all sexual attraction as a fetish basically.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-02-06T11:14:12+00:00

I've found it helps to talk to other Radfem/GC people, or at least people who are willing to question TRA dogma and consider other perspectives. Pretty much all my close friends are open to discussing it and tend to agree with a lot of what I say. Politically conservative people are often quite open minded to gendercritical ideas, though they are often coming from a more religious point of view. The only ones I don't really talk to much about it are those who identify as trans, or who have trans partners and have very strong feelings about it (most of those are not close friends, though).

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-01-23T13:29:43+00:00

No, personally I found most paid sites didn't have enough people to be worthwhile, so I didn't get better matches that way. I find the apps with higher volume tend to get better results for me, as there's a much wider variety of people on them.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-11-06T17:06:18+00:00

Probably the main thing is negative statements like "no drama" - I always wonder if they are the ones creating the drama, or they just don't want to do any emotional labour in a relationship. Another similar one is "good vibes only". I wouldn't immediately swipe left if the rest of the profile was really good, but I'd probably ask them what they mean as it sounds like someone who expects relationships to be easy and carefree 100% of the time. It also bothers me a bit when women specify on their profile that they are looking for someone with a good career. I understand why people would want that but it feels a bit gauche to say it like that, or things like "I want to be spoiled".

I would see being into HP as a positive though as it might be a hint that they are GC.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-10-02T12:03:55+00:00

Sounds like they probably wanted a hookup, so I don't blame you for not wanting that. It's also pretty unsafe unless you've met in person or at least video chatted first.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-09-27T18:53:40+00:00

Are you happy with your sex life? Do you really want oral for its own sake, or are you afraid that the lack of oral sex means something else? (It's also valid if both of these are true for you.) Maybe I'm unusual but I don't really mind if a partner wants to go down on me or not. I think I'd be frustrated if I couldn't go down on her, though.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-09-10T17:17:36+00:00

I definitely think body acceptance is better than transitioning. But I doubt that treating people with gender dysphoria is as simple as helping them accept their bodies. Most I've met have pretty major structural dissociation and Cluster B disorders (on top of diagnoses like autism and ADHD), which are notoriously challenging to treat on their own - whether they have gender dysphoria or not. My hypothesis is that gender dysphoria is generally a symptom of structural dissociation, so you have to treat that in order to resolve it properly. Obviously in many cases there are other factors going on like porn addiction and autogynephilia too.

[Edit] Janina Fisher has some great resources on treating structural dissociation if that's of interest.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-11-08T09:30:05+00:00

I suspect a lot of people migrated to Ovarit. There's also a subreddit called r/actuallylesbians which has kind of replaced r/truelesbians.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-07-14T19:26:08+00:00

I had a similar experience where I was totally TRA, until exposure to lots of trans identified people slowly changed my views. I never changed my views because of reading TERF material - I sought out TERF articles and forums after I started questioning due to my experiences with multiple trans people in my personal life and social networks. I found the vast majority were autistic/ADHD, mentally unstable and had Cluster B disorders (notably BPD and structural dissociation), so I started wondering why and looking deeper into it.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-03-26T16:57:24+00:00

Maybe I'm an outlier but I'm same sex attracted and really enjoy vaginal penetration and anal penetration with fingers and/or toys. I have masturbated on my own with anal sex from time to time, though it is more messy so I don't do it often.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-01-19T15:23:12+00:00

I have come across actual platonic (non-sexual and non-romantic) life partners but I do think the concept of queerplatonic is confusing and ambiguous. Some say it can include sex which pretty much erases any clear definition of it.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-01-11T14:15:46+00:00

Yes, and I guess the women who date trans identifying males are likely to be straight, heteroflexible or bisexual anyway, so perhaps this doesn't really affect them in the same way as actual natal lesbians.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-04-30T19:33:52+00:00

Hmm, when I meet "straight" women on dating apps, they are usually bicurious at the very least... and often repressed lesbians. This might be an unpopular opinion but I actually don't mind people seeking platonic friends on dating apps, as long as they make their intentions super clear and don't deceive anyone. I've made some great friends online so I'm open minded.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-01-17T16:50:24+00:00

I suspect a lot of "gay" men are actually bisexuals, but a lot of straight women won't date bi men so it's easier to just identify as gay. Society also tends to assume bi men are on the way to full homosexuality anyway, so it's easy for them to internalise that.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-09-22T14:21:02+00:00

I've talked to people who define themselves as aromantic and basically it means they never experiences crushes or feelings of infatuation. I think it would be more accurate to say they are "non-limerent" as they don't experience limerence. However people have romantic relationships without the experience of limerence/infatuation/crushing. Also most of them are asexual or on the ace spectrum but your mileage may vary.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-09-05T20:38:58+00:00

I've tried polyamory and it didn't work that well for me. I think a big part of the problem is that a large percentage of people who are involved in the scene are doing it as a way of coping with their attachment trauma and other issues. I'd prefer monogamy but wouldn't rule out polyamory under the right circumstances, with the right people (which seems unlikely to ever happen but hey, who knows).

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-08-13T19:24:42+00:00

I have met a lot of NB people who take hormones, though there are many who don't. I think the ones who take hormones are more likely to have dysphoria about their bodies.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-08-10T11:08:30+00:00

Yes, so much this!!

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-08-10T11:08:51+00:00

Fair enough, most are people I knew before I peaked.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-08-08T16:11:32+00:00

Pretty dramatically, in most cases. I do have one trans friend who seems okay but the vast majority have been extremely unstable, e.g. having dissociative episodes, and engaging in a lot of unhealthy behaviour. Lots of emotionally abusive behaviours in the majority of cases, though there are some exceptions. Some trans people are fine as casual friends but then start acting out if you become closer to them, as it seems to trigger their mental illness more.

[Edit] I would also add, none of the drama is a result of my GC views, as I have never told them.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-07-14T19:22:28+00:00

Yes, I actually know quite a few - several have been roommates, plus I know quite a few as friends/acquaintances in my social networks. I even dated one a few years ago, so I have a lot of first-hand experience with trans identified people, including FTMs, NBs and MTFs.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-06-05T17:53:27+00:00

Happy Pride everyone!

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-05-24T20:41:41+00:00

I don't mind the different flags but I really don't think they should all be crowded into one. It looks way to crowded and aesthetically unappealing.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-12-13T14:18:31+00:00

The vast majority of trans/NB identifying people I've met are autistic, and a fairly high number have mental health issues such as Complex PTSD, BPD and dissociative disorders, so I think any outreach would be best targeted towards those groups. I definitely think providing more support for adolescent/teen autistic girls is huge but not sure how one would implement that effectively.

In a more general sense, I think just being a GNC person without identifying trans is pretty radical in our current climate. Even if you can't speak out openly about your views, if you have a position where you are visible to youth and young people, it can be great to be a positive example and role model. Healing trauma and teaching embodiment skills would probably reduce the number of transitioners as well.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-11-08T09:24:56+00:00

My understanding is that it's different from typical romantic/sexual relationships because they don't kiss, makeout, have sex etc. So it's basically another term for a platonic life partner. I suppose you could just call it a very committed friendship, but most people don't share finances and raise kids with their buddies.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-07-29T10:04:03+00:00

I'm pretty open with straight female friends about crushing on women or dating women, but I don't tend to go into detail about sexual things like being attracted to breasts etc. My friends and I don't tend to have graphic sexual conversations in general, except on rare occasions.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-05-07T12:21:32+00:00

Ugh why can't people just admit they are bisexual? I know there's a lot of biphobia in society but seriously...

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-04-30T19:39:43+00:00

Hmmm, most of the lesbians in my region seem to be into stuff like camping and hiking. Maybe it depends a bit on your location? I don't see a lot of people into astrology and stuff in my area but YMMV.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-04-26T05:01:19+00:00

I actually just didn't respond, as I didn't feel like dealing with drama at the time and wasn't that interested. I'm pretty sure they were pro TRA and anti JK Rowling, based on their FB profile, so I left it alone.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-01-17T16:48:07+00:00

I don't know. I think it's skewed by the fact that there are a lot of Kinsey 5 bi women who identify as lesbians, especially if they are married to women or primarily date women. But I do think the percentage is fairly small, so somewhere around 1-5% seems pretty accurate.

Lizzythelezzo · 2021-01-17T16:46:14+00:00

I'm emotionally available and love to snuggle, so I'm very sensual and affectionate. I also love stimulating conversations and D&Ms for hours. I take life at a mindful pace, and like to stop and smell the roses. I'm open minded, spiritual and creative. I've also overcome a lot of challenges in my life, so I have a great deal of resilience and empathy. I feel I have a lot to offer the right person, though the positive traits I have aren't always the most flashy or exciting - so they don't always translate well on dating apps.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-12-22T15:20:20+00:00

Yes, I stayed too long and it dragged out the bitter end. She started self harming and eventually admitted she probably has BPD. It was hard to come to terms with, but I now realise she wasn't capable of having healthy relationships. I think sometimes it's better to end it sooner than to leave on a sour note, but I have compassion for myself as it was a really difficult time in my life.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-11-08T19:29:12+00:00

Yep, that's what I thought. Just wanted to double check as I've never dealt with this before.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-10-21T12:43:35+00:00

That's understandable! I guess I'd have to be careful of that. I would probably only want to see a FWB once or twice a month to avoid getting too invested, and not text a whole lot in between.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-09-29T19:01:38+00:00

I would recommend just being a good listener, showing emotional support, and don't give any unsolicited advice. Keep reaching out via text and phone calls (if she likes voice chatting). If you're not sure how to give emotional support, look it up and learn! Ask her what she wants and needs at the moment from you. If she's not sure, maybe you can offer things such as helping a bit with her shopping/cleaning or someone to accompany her to doctors appointments. If she likes gifts, perhaps a care package could be nice.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-08-13T19:26:06+00:00

Andrea Gibson. I think she identifies as NB now but has some good poetry.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-08-02T18:39:36+00:00

I find men are inwardly sensitive, but outwardly insensitive. Basically they dish it out but can't take it. Women tend to be outwardly sensitive (i.e. more kind towards others) but less inwardly sensitive (less easily offended).

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-07-13T21:46:16+00:00

Yeah, sadly I have never met a trans person who doesn't have significant Cluster B traits. I'm sure it's possible that some of them don't (especially the TIFs) but I just haven't encountered them yet.

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-07-10T19:55:16+00:00

I'm confused as I saw it get banned when I was on Reddit, but now it appears to be back again?!

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-06-09T19:12:19+00:00

OMG this is ridiculously accurate!

Lizzythelezzo · 2020-09-05T20:24:38+00:00

Usually I've waited for the other person to initiate first, or until circumstances brought us together unexpectedly. I'd like to start being a bit more confident and take more initiative in future, though.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-09-10T17:13:30+00:00

I knew a MTF who kept claiming to be a "straight woman" (i.e. only dates men) but always ended up dating women or FTMs. The one time this person tried to date men, she couldn't even bring herself to kiss them. It was oddly delusional as most MTFs just claim to be "transbians". This MTF also later told me she had BPD and narcissistic traits which fits the typical trans persona.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-07-16T08:08:58+00:00

Yes the person I dated identified as trans before we met, and I hadn't really had any exposure to trans people up to that point. I had been religious for many years so it was all new to me and I was open minded.

I guess I would say their transition was like a third person in the relationship, who was a higher priority than me. So it felt like I was in a polyamorous relationship where the gender identity/transition was the primary partner and I was just the secondary partner. Also the person I dated had frequent dissociative episodes and eventually admitted they have BPD and narcissistic traits. There was a lot of self hatred and self destructive behaviour because they disliked their body, including eating disorder issues.

I have noticed all of this is very common in the trans community as a whole. Overall it was quite a dysfunctional relationship but it definitely opened up my eyes and I learned a lot.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-07-15T13:32:24+00:00

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Lizzythelezzo · 2022-07-14T20:38:44+00:00

There is a o/LovingWomen section on Ovarit, which is inclusive of all same-sex attracted women. If you are looking for something that welcomes bisexual men, you could try r/bisexualadults on Reddit.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-06-09T19:10:37+00:00

Oh no, that sounds really frustrating and depressing! I extend solidarity, as I've experienced similar things on dating apps and in the local LGBT scene. Luckily I have met some legit lesbians and bi women on Lex, HER and Bumble, but you have to sift through a lot of chaff to get to the wheat, so to speak!

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-06-05T17:54:37+00:00

I don't think there are any left really. The closest thing to the old r/truelesbians are r/actuallylesbian and r/actuallybutch, as far as I know.

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-04-14T14:54:11+00:00

Ahhh this is awesome! Such a good idea. I'd be happy to add you as friends on PoGo if you like. :)

Lizzythelezzo · 2022-03-27T17:09:04+00:00

R/truelesbians moved to Saidit.net initially but is now only active on Ovarit as o/lesbians.

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