Lesbons

I posted my answer to Ovarit so I'll put it here too. There's a few things that peaked me, so I'll put the most impactful ones here.

1. Like most others, I wasn't bothered about transgenders, I even knew a TIM at university, and helped him get his name changed on the system before he started, so that no one would know his real name. I made a big effort to support this guy as he was clearly mentally unstable. Fast forward a few years when I'd graduated and moved to a new area, I was using dating apps to find potential partners and I was constantly getting 'superliked' by TiMs, and being a lesbian I was not interested, so I specified that in my bio, to save me from having to see TiMs popping up on my phone, and to save them from wasting their superlike on someone who's not interested. Immediately I was getting hateful messages from other women on the apps, calling me 'transphobic' for specifying female only. So I took to social media to ask my friends "is this transphobic? it seems homophobic to claim that it's transphobic", my friends on there at the time were on my side because I can't change my sexual orientation, it's not a choice. I'm homosexual. That TiM I mentioned from my university popped up in my private messages wanting to talk about 'the elephant in the room', and sent me the videos of the TiM youtuber called Riley, who was basically being woke-homophobic. Comparing not dating trans women to not dating disabled people or people of other races. I found this a disgusting claim to make, and I told him he was being homophobic, and in the end I had to block him because he wouldn't stop harassing me about it.

2. I wanted to make an online community for women in my line of work (I work in tech and it's dominated by men), and when I was creating there was a huge deal made about "oh what about gender minorities?", and I was pushed into accommodating them so as to not have my reputation ruined. So I allowed it, the server was aimed at women, but also open to the LGBTQ community. The vast majority of people who joined were women, so I was mostly happy. However I noticed some people talking about JK Rowling being transphobic, and so I decided to search for the offending tweets, and couldn't find any. I had to have someone point them out to me, and I was absolutely shocked because she had said nothing transphobic, and I agreed with everything she said. To this day I still don't understand why people got so upset with her.

3. Being an online gamer, I'd met many people in games that told me that they were also female and lesbians (over text chat), and they'd flirt with me and I might flirt back, and eventually I'd discover their lie, they'd come out to me as trans and try to play the victim after they'd been catfishing. I've lost count at how many have done this. I simply don't trust anyone online anymore without hearing their voice.

4. On international lesbian day I decided to make a facebook post about the fact that lesbian/bi spaces were being taken over by the trans community, how women's spaces in general were being shut down unless they included TiMs, and I shared my personal experiences on the woke homophobia I've been a victim to in the last few years. Very quickly I'd had responses calling me a transphobe/TERF and how one of them (an ex of mine too) had been so disappointed after my first post about the dating scene and how I was not attracted to TiMs, she was utterly disgusting to me. I took the post down and blocked one of them.

5. The Olympics and that large male weight lifter competing against females. I made another Facebook post this time about women's sport, and how biology makes this an unfair game if males are to compete with females. This post caused me to lose 200 contacts and countless friends who I'd known for years, some of them I was very close with. They dropped me in a second, and wrote disgusting things to me. I continued to receive hate messages months after from various people from my university. This changed me. It's not a nice experience to be hounded and vilified. They pushed me so far and created the biggest TERF in the process. I'm fucking proud to stand against idiots who would deny physical reality, biology, and those who seek to destroy women's sex based rights.

I'd better finish this post with something positive. I created a Discord server last year during the SuperStraight movement, I made a server for gender critical lesbians and bisexual women. This server has grown to 200+ members and I've spoken to so many interesting people when vetting for membership, and I've made some life long friends. The space has been a big deal for me, it's helped me get through a lot of the hardship, and I know it's done a lot for the others who are in it. We need more spaces and it's up to us to create them and protect them. (P.S. if anyone was interested in my server DM me for details :))