My GF seems sexist? by Sharmen23 in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 32 insightful - 3 fun32 insightful - 2 fun33 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Umm why are you with her? Genuinely curious

For the women who aren't interested in anything oral, like nothing about it, how do you deal with that in a relationship? by Freetochoose in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 27 insightful - 1 fun27 insightful - 0 fun28 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The only way to deal with it is find someone else who feels the same.

"My boyfriend was nasty to me so I became a lesbian and now I've found a wonderful new boyfriend!" Straight women share their experiences of being lesbians (at 45 minutes in for that particular gem) by LesbianInExile in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 24 insightful - 3 fun24 insightful - 2 fun25 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

for them it's a job... 😅 real lesbians don't view our attraction to women as something that we need to work towards.

I came across an account on twitter asking lesbians to post their comp-het crushes and women are posting pics of men they drool over. How do you all feel about this? by Wot in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Straight girls have always been known to go crazy over girly-looking men/boys for whatever reason. To be honest I think most of those teens are neither lesbian or bi, just straight. Like others have mentioned, it's a huge trend to be not straight these days.

Is anyone else seeing a crazy amount of long time lesbians dating men all of a sudden? What the F is going on? by berlin13 in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 18 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Nope. Where do you live lol

I'm totally not trying to diffuse the catfight that's brewing, but here's a sexuality quiz (that was clearly made for straight people) to distract you all 🥴 by ShotsFired in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

lol basically. I hope whoever made this quiz is just young & dumb

The “Gold Star” Problem by WordsHaveMeanings in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I never thought of it like this, but now that you bring it up, I agree. Great point

Anti-Master Doc document circulating on social media, comphet-supporting "lesbians" are losing their minds by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This lady is an absolute dumbass. All she does is whine about biphobia and bi-erasure. She thinks the Master Doc was created by evil lesbians to convert every bisexual woman into a lesbian. She's so far off the mark.

She can't see how homophobic and harmful this "everyone is a lesbain" stuff is to real lesbians. She thinks we actually WANT everyone to be a lesbian. wtf

What do you miss most about r/TrueLesbians? by piylot in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 14 insightful - 4 fun14 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

This might be an unpopular viewpoint, but I actually like the arguments/discussions.

So I forgot about Saidit and haven't been on in awhile. Have I missed out on anything here in s/Lesbians? Or just same old? by Jaded in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Truth. I can't wait for all the trans children science experiments to grow up and turn their backs on the TRAs who manipulated them into permanently damaging their bodies on the false promise that they can change their sex. This recent push of trans ideology and science denial has an expiry date. Biological realities are not going anywhere.

Real Housewives of Orange County's Braunwyn Windham-Burke Comes Out: "I'm a Lesbian" by censorshipment in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

bored, attention-hungry housewife having a mid-life crisis. Why are they like this? 🙄

My GF seems sexist? by Sharmen23 in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 13 insightful - 3 fun13 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah I thought the same thing. It's written weirdly

“Abandoning the lesbian label and create something else” by windrunner in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I remember you said that and I reminded you that it was not lesbians who stole the word, it was male 19th century sexologists who did. They chose the word, and popularized it in the English language as a word to characterize same-sex relations between women. My original response was deleted but it's still in my post history:

If you know that lesbians didn't steal the word why did you say all that stuff about lesbians being similar to white supremacist and religious fundamentalists and having a superiority complex? That's a false comparison. Most people (both lesbians and non lesbians) have no knowledge of the origin of the word so they are not "stealing" it maliciously or knowingly. It was popularized in the English language as a label for same-sex relations between women, so of course English-speaking people are going to use it accordingly. If you want to protest about lesbians using a stolen word, make sure you also include the rest of the English-speaking world. We don't have much choice over these things. Even if every single lesbian stopped using the stolen word which was forced upon us by some men years ago, it won't stop the majority of people from calling us that. Personally, I think trying that trying to find another label or trying to fight for the lesbian label are both futile pursuits. Whatever the majority wants is what wins and we are a minority.

Anyway, I'm only responding again because you always seem to have a massive chip on your shoulder about everything to do with race.

At what age does your attraction to women "peak" at? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Is this the study you are referring to?

It's a bit creepy that men in their fifties are still lusting after 20 year olds...

For the women who aren't interested in anything oral, like nothing about it, how do you deal with that in a relationship? by Freetochoose in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There's no need to have a meltdown when you discover that other lesbians enjoy different sexual acts from you. Be an adult. It's disappointing because I liked your comments here and on r/TL. Now you just look like a another unhinged flake on the internet.

Dating profile details that immediately make you swipe left by lovelyspearmint in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think this question has been asked at least 3 times already. Does no one make use of the search feature... 😅

I second everything PasLagardere listed, but I'd add 'self-deprecation' to the list. I think that's as unattractive as arrogance.

Did AyL just go private? by Srime in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 10 insightful - 4 fun10 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

lol even the people who play along with transbians delusions are getting banished now

“Abandoning the lesbian label and create something else” by windrunner in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't think you understood my point. I was trying to show you that minorities (such as people from Lesbos and homosexual women) don't have much influence in these matters, it's has nothing to do with being weak. If you want to rally the woke crowd and get them to help give Lesbian back to the people from Lesbos, go for it. That's more productive than whining.

“Abandoning the lesbian label and create something else” by windrunner in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ok. So how come the Lesbians/Lesbosians haven't been able to claim Lesbian back if it's so easy to just choose what people are called? They must be weak. Oh well. That's their fault for being weak and not fighting hard enough then, right?

Also, thanks to straight people (the majority), homosexual women and men are called queer by the public now whether we like it or not (and research shows that most of us don't). We (the minority) don't have as much say in these matters as you think.

What do you miss most about r/TrueLesbians? by piylot in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 9 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

How can there be a balance? It's not like there's a way to control everything people say (unless mods intervene, and I think excessive modding is even more determinantal to a forum than some arguments). Personally, I think people who let online name calling ruin their day are simply too fragile for the internet and I have to agree with that comment about how they should just use the block option.

“I’m a slut and love to fuck men, but I identify as a lesbian” by peaked2020 in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Am I the only one who thinks it's weird to assume that she has trauma or severe mental illness just cause she has a high sex drive? I've never seen anyone say that about men with high libidos

“I’m a slut and love to fuck men, but I identify as a lesbian” by peaked2020 in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

because she's a woman? Or does that apply to men too?

In 2021, what are your honest thoughts and feelings when you see a woman with hair dyed an unnatural color? by AndiOop in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah theres a specific look to watch for lol

Anyone else like this? (NSFW) by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I suppose...there's a reason why the rape fantasy among women regardless of orientation is so popular...

Is that true? Or are you just making it up? I've always thought rape fantasies are popular among men. Women, not so much.

What do you miss most about r/TrueLesbians? by piylot in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

ohhh I thought you were suggesting an idea

What do you miss most about r/TrueLesbians? by piylot in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

nah I'm a Virgo

“I’m a slut and love to fuck men, but I identify as a lesbian” by peaked2020 in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Lesbianese said that hypersexuality is usually a sign of trauma or severe mental illness. I asked if that only applies to women, because I've never seen anyone say that about hypersexual men. I was speaking in general terms and not just referring the person in this post, so her mania is irrelevant.

Is "sexual preference" offensive (to you) by filbs111 in LGBDropTheT

[–]Jillyjanejan 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

honestly, I think you're the one being a little over-dramatic. The definition of offensive is simply "causing someone to feel resentful, upset, or annoyed." I think we can all agree that it's annoying when people insist that our sexual orientation is just a preference or a lifestyle choice, so "offensive" is a fitting word.

Sexual Attraction by Athelhilda2 in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Pretty much.

Lesbian women talk about meeting ‘transbians’ on women-only dating sites by WildwoodFlower in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah. The article is talks about dating apps, but it's actually about more than just that.

How do y’all like to relax/what relaxes you? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Might seem strange but vigorous exercise relaxes me. Long cardio sessions on the treadmill. I just listen to my playlist and tune out reality.

Moderators . Why did you delete a political discussion? Are lesbians not allowed to have different opinions and ideas? by Anniesworld in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm guessing it was you because I remember you made a very emotional thread about being a Trump supporter and SailorMoon2020 told you to grow a spine or something. The OP of the deleted thread that Anniesworld is referring to here mentioned Sailormoon2020 in her post and said Sailormoon2020 don't come for me or something like that, can't really remember now.

Just trying to have a little fun playing detective 😆

Another commercial to make you smile by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I understand that many lesbians come out after being married to men, but that story is done to death in lesbian media. Late-blooming lesbians are definitely not lacking in representation so it would be really nice to see different stories for a change. It's getting tedious.

For the women who aren't interested in anything oral, like nothing about it, how do you deal with that in a relationship? by Freetochoose in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

🙄 I thought you were smarter than this. My bad.

“I’m a slut and love to fuck men, but I identify as a lesbian” by peaked2020 in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you, that's all I asked. Third time's the charm I guess

RADFEM DISCORD by akulagepard in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

it doesn't sound attractive tbh 😅

“Abandoning the lesbian label and create something else” by windrunner in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

It is mostly heterosexual men who are deciding how everyone is called in LGBT+

we can't give them all the credit. Heterosexual women also love to call lesbians and gays "queer". They love calling themselves queer too. So many straight women calling themselves queer that I just translate it automatically to "straight" in my mind now.

Moderators . Why did you delete a political discussion? Are lesbians not allowed to have different opinions and ideas? by Anniesworld in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

LOL! we all know it's you who created that troll post. The mention of SailorMoon2020 was a dead give-away. Also, when have political discussion ever NOT been divisive? If everyone always agreed then there wouldn't even be a need for politics.

Does anyone use the lounge? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I forgot it existed because I immediately disabled chat when I signed up

I think we should abandon the lesbian label and create something else by Wot in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It was not lesbians who chose/ stole the term "lesbian" for female homosexuality. It was 19th century sexologists like Krafft-Ebing and Havelock Ellis who did. I thought people from Lesbos are called Lesbosians in modern days

Moderators . Why did you delete a political discussion? Are lesbians not allowed to have different opinions and ideas? by Anniesworld in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I tend to be a little shy to post here so I'm not familiar with well known trolls.

I have no idea what that means but the fact that you didnt deny anything makes me think my guess was correct lol

maybe I was just naive

Most likely. Politics has never been fluffy

Moderators . Why did you delete a political discussion? Are lesbians not allowed to have different opinions and ideas? by Anniesworld in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I didn't say YOU created the post lol I said the person who created the post mentioned you. Didn't you see it?

Moderators . Why did you delete a political discussion? Are lesbians not allowed to have different opinions and ideas? by Anniesworld in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Alright I believe you now

I think we should abandon the lesbian label and create something else by Wot in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

okay

I think we should abandon the lesbian label and create something else by Wot in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't know if people of Lesbos are called Lesbosians, that's just what I thought.

If you know that lesbians didn't steal the word why did you say all that stuff about lesbians being similar to white supremacist and religious fundamentalists and having a superiority complex? That's a false comparison. Most people (both lesbians and non lesbians) have no knowledge of the origin of the word so they are not "stealing" it maliciously or knowingly. It was popularized in the English language as a label for same-sex relations between women, so of course English-speaking people are going to use it accordingly. If you want to protest about lesbians using a stolen word, make sure you also include the rest of the English-speaking world. We don't have much choice over these things. Even if every single lesbian stopped using the stolen word which was forced upon us by some men years ago, it won't stop the majority of people from calling us that. Personally, I think trying that trying to find another label or trying to fight for the lesbian label are both futile pursuits. Whatever the majority wants is what wins and we are a minority.

I don't care so much about the words/labels. What gets me angry is how people are trying to say that female homosexuality doesn't exist and women's sexuality is fluid/changeable and lesbians are open to sex with men.

Lesbian poetry by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Still no suggestions. Damn

Americans: who did you vote for? by chokeonartichoke in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sorry, instead of saying Obama deserves the credit for economic growth what I should have said is Trump doesn't deserve that much credit. That would have been clearer. He just inherited a post-recession economy that was already picking up momentum. It was actually not stunted like you claimed. I'm not trying to change the way you see anything- not everyone who leaves a contrasting opinion wants to enter into a tedious debate. I'm not the debating type so let's just agree to disagree. And I think you should re-examine the after effects of the TCJA.

Americans: who did you vote for? by chokeonartichoke in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Aren't you're speaking of the TCJA in terms of it's projected pay-offs rather than the reality? It failed to deliver on the estimations and, after an initial spike, growth started heading south even before the pandemic

Americans: who did you vote for? by chokeonartichoke in Lesbians

[–]Jillyjanejan 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When you say that Trump has helped the economy what are you specifically referring to? The credit for that success should be given to Obama.