This feels very dehumanizing by Mermer in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun - 6 months ago (0 children)
I was born a girl, not an ✨object✨. I must be NB
What's the general consensus on sexuality being a choice? by SexualityCritical in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Understood by "some". You've literally just picked an incorrect definition you like. Words have meaning. "Fetish" means what it meant. Your definition makes less sense than the one established by dictionaries. You can't have a fetish for sex/sex organs.
Ovarit is a mirage, right? by HOA_At_The_Moonstone in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Flaps is a mod who has given out codes in the past. I have codes as well, but I don't usually give them out to users without an established post history. The invite system is to limit bad actors.
[–]Irascible-harpy 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
By definition, you can't have a fetish for sex. The claim "all sexual feelings are derived from having fetishes" is blatantly false.
"Something, such as a material object or nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification."
[–]Irascible-harpy 19 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 2 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Ovarit is real and imo better than Saidit. More active. Fewer blatant trolls. They've got an invite system, whereas we're forced to exist surrounded by alt-right and MRA types too edgy for Reddit. Probably a bad bias for a mod to have, but having spent time on both sites, I'd rec Ovarit before Saidit.
How will the young TQ+ cope with bodily aging? by JulienMayfair in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
I'm 27 and I already feel like these beauty standards are completely beyond my reach. I didn't grow up with the level of pressure that these kids are growing up with. More than that, as isolated as we were, and as much time as we spent alone in our rooms with the internet, it's so much worse now. I can only imagine how painful the wake up call is going to be when aging starts to show.
[–]Irascible-harpy 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
I was thinking something similar yesterday. I remember myself and my peers being vain in our teens, but I was in the grocery store and I saw these girls dressed up and dolled up like they were getting ready for some e-girl photoshoots. I'm reaching my later twenties, still so young, and yet, I'm starting to feel outside the visible spectrum when it comes to modern beauty standards. How much are these kids gonna struggle when they're even more isolated from peers, even more inundated with falsity and vanity..? This fixation with self image has become completely out of control, and I imagine that kids growing up with TikTok and Instagram are going to struggle far more than we did.
Some AGP cringe for y'all by milknciggies in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Adult Human Female is just too restrictive. It only includes (or will include) over half of the human population. Ridiculous. Like, how strict can you get? fucking TERFs
Abigail Shrier (author of IRREVERSIBLE DAMAGE about girls being sucked into the trans fad) short video for PragerU -"Why Girls Become Boys" - great to show people, especially parents, starting to question the rise of gender ideology by BEB in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Prager fucking U. Yikes. It's such a shame. The source hurts her arguments so much.
Bisexual TERFs? by Rage-Xion in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
I'm bi and wouldn't date a trans person. I had a woke friend get huffy about this once, but I've been in a relationship forever and live in a pretty right wing area so it doesn't come up much except for online. I do see the odd post from lesbians saying to transwomen "just date a bisexual", and that makes me roll my eyes. No thanks!
Australian TiM who wants access to women's baths , "There is an importance and a need for women's only spaces that are inclusive of trans women, whether or not they've had surgery, because it's what's between our ears, not what's between our legs." Maybe explain to this guy how babies are made? by BEB in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Autogynephilia is a fetish and public participation is part of the pattern of arousal. It's a man having the pleasure of A. Publicly dominating women and B. Involving unwilling participants in his exhibitionist fetish.
No comment (literally) by fuckupaddams in GenderCritical
This is the kind of shit we would attribute to Chinese state censorship and shake our vastly superior Western heads over.
Request to reinstate r/GenderCritical on Reddit by yipopov in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 16 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 2 fun17 insightful - 3 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Neeeever gonna happen.
I got banned from 18 subreddits yesterday by CastleHoward in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
I left reddit when they bombed GC, but I used to collect bans from all the lefty and feminist subreddits over prostitution, porn, and gender criticism. 18 in a day beats my record by far!
Vegan cafe that charged 18% ‘man tax’ shuts its doors by special3 in whatever
[–]Irascible-harpy 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
I've been vegan for three years and every time I've ever found another vegan it's been an instant chatterfest. You feel however you like about vegans, this shit is your projection. I've never met a vegan who wasn't happy to meet another.
Blaire White supports Superstraights & calls Superphobes "creepy" (thanks Blaire, but why are you famous again?) by BEB in GenderCritical
Removed both instances of a slur.
Try not to repeat the slur in calling it out.
I agree with using someone's actual name, but we don't allow slurs. He's transgender or trans. You could argue he's transsexual. There's nothing added to the conversation by using an offensive abbreviation.
... and all your nightmares will come true... by Chunkeeguy in GenderCritical
Saw on Twitter: “My brother pulled my three-year-old nephew from *daycare* after my nephew told me he could choose to be a boy or a girl. After further questioning him, I found out he learned this from his daycare teacher. She also taught him that a doctor could change him into a girl” by Rationalmind in GenderCritical
Being yourself takes purchasing power and a social media presence
Not a lot of folks in refugee camps with gender identities. Makes you wonder.
President Biden Moves to End Female-Only Sports and Services On His First Day In Office — Women's Liberation Front by [deleted] in GenderCritical
It's the classic, "The CIA did all of these crazy things, we have proof. But if you think the CIA is doing anything crazy now, you're a conspiracy theorist." line
...neo-stalinist? There wasn't any evidence. There were four years of investigation and nothing of substance came of it. There's plenty of very real shit to raise hell about. Why go fishing?
[–]Irascible-harpy 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
This is the problem with lesser evilism in the first place. Both parties are mechanisms through which the people's discontent is directed away from confrontational methods such as a strikes and protests. This is not a coincidence. It is by design. It frames the conversation between two pro-war, pro-corporation, pro-money, indifferent to systematic oppression view points. If you're willing to get so absolutely low that you're voting for the devil instead of the devil 2, but this time with a mustache, what do you even stand for?
We knew the Dems would see their votes being counted largely absentee. These votes take longer to count, especially in states that can't start as they are received. This was discussed a month ahead of time as a predictable situation. The votes were also expected to take significantly longer to count due to COVID. If you want to tinfoil hat about something, may I recommend the repeated fuckery of the DNC?
I really despise how obviously male Reddit is by [deleted] in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
I got banned from nearly every "left wing" space on Reddit for pointing out that communism is incompatible with porn and prostitution.
Insane beauty standards by anxietyaccount8 in GenderCritical
There's a book called The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf which explains beauty as a means of reclaiming control over women which has been lost as women started to escape the role of domestic servant. Since women are no longer "domestic goddesses" and the spiritual center of the family, beauty and male centered hypersexuality (particularly porn) have become the means by which women's energies are diverted and women are parted from their personhood.
It's a very solid read. Unusually stream of conscious for a non-fiction book, but densely populated with important concepts. I highly recommend it for all women, particularly those struggling with beauty.
Sex-negative feminism killed my sex life! by MisandryFTW in GenderCritical
Your therapist "WASN'T COMFORTABLE TALKING ABOUT SEX???" That's fucked. Seriously. How did they indicate this to you? That is insanely unprofessional, holy shit.
"Anti TERF Flag": TumblrInAction by EmptyCode in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Man, any of that comment session would get you banned on all the subs I used to frequent. Must be because they are presumed to be male commenters.
Honestly any male that has the gall to claim that liking spinny dresses and dolls as a kid made him a woman, he's a sexist jackass. Dysphoria is one thing, deifying gender rolls is another.
Honestly any male that has the gall to claim that liking spinny dresses and dolls as a kid made him a woman, he's a sexist jackass. Dysphoria is one thing, deifying gender rolls is another.
Fam, I really need advice on the fIL situation here.EE by WrongToy in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Are you set on cohabitating?
The way I see it, you're in a relationship with your partner and your partner only. You have no obligation to a relationship with his family. If you WANTED to spend time with them, that would be one thing. It sounds like he is spending a lot of time dealing with his parents needs. That's fine, so long as the impact on you only comes in the form of him being busier. If your partner can't respect that and expects you to care for his aging parents, he's taking advantage of you. Either he sets boundaries with his family such that they don't negatively impact you, or he's not worth it. If he respects and prioritizes you, he will understand that you are not and should not be beholden to his mother and father.
Key thing? You need boundaries. You need firm boundaries like, yesterday. If she needs help, it sounds like she's got plenty of money to get help. If they can't care for their pets, they shouldn't have pets. If you SO decides he wants to step up and take care of them, that's his business, not yours.
Adding money into this seems like a disaster in the making.
What I learned about male desire in a sex doll factory by anxietyaccount8 in GenderCritical
To be LOVED BY??? Things don't love you. They want to a fuck toy. That's why they bought a doll. They want an object. They want something attractive to stick their penis into. The only downsides are that their toy isn't intricate enough to suck their dick and cook their dinner and wash their socks.
TiM catfishes redditor and pretends to be a beautiful woman, redditor is not interested to go on a second date, TiM throws a tantrum and calls them a bigot by MinisterOfTerfery in GenderCritical
lol imagine if this post was from a lesbian turning down a transwoman
imagine the threats they would receive from this 'woman' and how Reddit would view her rejection
YUCK -TiM stalks specific woman's work bathroom to steal her used sanitary products and wear them. BLURGH. by BEB in GenderCritical
They exist. https://twitter.com/guessimafab/status/1123291153519001600?lang=en
There's a user whose content we used to see pretty often linked to on r/gc. I can't find them at the moment, but they posted regularly about stealing and wearing women's used menstrual products.
Misogyny and Sexism in media by TalkToTheVoid in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
It's unending. I have a difficult time consuming any form of media because of the unrelenting sexism and misogyny. Books, movies, tv shows, video games, music, and hell, even cartoons... I think that's why so many people balk at second wave feminism. It's not fun. It's not empowering. It's definitely not sexy. It's a constant barrage of reminders that you aren't a whole person in this world.
[–]Irascible-harpy 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
It definitely happens. You can find forums discussing stealing used pads and tampons (how, where, practices, tips) as well as simulating menstruation. I've seen fetish artists who specialize in fetish art for transforming into menstrual products.
Never underestimate the depths of depravity fetishes will reach.
The transition is real and biological by vintologi28 in GenderCritical
I've got the time.
Women getting banned from saidit too by Maeven in GenderCritical
Entitlement, mostly. Arguably some genetic predisposition.
[–]Irascible-harpy 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
I hear you, and I don't think you're wrong. Ovarit is much more liberal than the previous Gender Critical subreddit, but I believe that's somewhat to be expected. New forums need time to grow and mature. I think the lack of downvoting poses a potential problem as well. Both Ovarit and Spinster have gender critical feminists, and I'd say both have content that... misses the mark. Rather than picking based on their current state, I'd focus on which you'd like to see succeed and work to shape the tone and content. The benefit of starting over is that each user plays a bigger role in what the site becomes.
I anticipate GC being pushed from this site eventually. I highly recommend moving to Ovarit, or even Spinster if you prefer the Twitter format. Ovarit is gaining steam.
[–]Irascible-harpy 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
That's something the mods have to include to be able to remove comments and ban users who are posting anti-feminist, anti-gc ideas. When we first started we were overwhelmed by incels and MRA types telling us "IT'S FREE SPEECH, THIS ISN'T REDDIT, (pick your favorite slur for women here)"
If we don't keep GC spaces strictly GC, they quickly become dominated by men and male allies.
Why do we have men working in women's prisons? by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical
Man, reading that makes me want to commit certain crimes.
Just want to say THANK YOU to the Mods! by BEB in GenderCritical
Love doing it <3
Are male and female sexuality that stereotypically different? by Mencantbewomen in GenderCritical
Most women are not interested in video games -- Source? Women are major consumers of video games, they just tend to be drawn toward different genres.
If this is "sex positivity," I weep. by our_team_is_winning in GenderCritical
Our behavior doesn't exist in a vacuum. There's nothing wrong with have multiple partners or engaging in different sexual acts, but aggression is part of her sexual fantasy and that needs to be viewed with some class analysis. Why would a woman seek to "push her boundaries" in a sexual situation? Why would she use porn terminology like "gangbang" when referring to having sex with multiple male partners instead of a foursome? Does it benefit her as a woman as part of a class of women to pretend like her sexuality is not influenced by her experiences and the world around her? Can we gain any insight into the way she may view herself and her relationship with her sex when her fantasies include being "shoved to the ground"?
Liberalism sells us the idea of choice feminism. That our choices are inherently empowering because they are choices. This ignores the larger context. Recognizing social influences, norms, expectations, and class-based power structures (especially relating to male dominance and the patriarchy) is essential in radical feminism. Perhaps you are in the wrong forum or should do further research into radical feminist ideas.
[–]Irascible-harpy 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Hypersexuality is a well documented response to abuse, especially molestation.
Do your own legwork next time instead of assuming that others are wrong when they disagree with your worldview. Strikes me as really hypocritical.
Detransitioners, society and gender non-conformity by aqrylix in GenderCritical
Women attempt suicide 1.2 times as often as men. The larger number of male deaths by suicide is likely attributable to methodology. Men and women tend to use different methods. I'd argue women tend to put more thought into their corpse and the impact of their death on the people they leave behind. Men also are more likely to own guns, which are a major driver in the success of a suicide attempt.
Wait I am confused at how this is supposed to be a cute pro trans man comic by GrendelsScaryMom in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 27 insightful - 1 fun27 insightful - 0 fun28 insightful - 0 fun28 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
I used to wear two of the smallest sports bras I could squeeze into layered on top of each other. My best girlfriend wore thick baggy hoodies every single day, year round.
It's heartbreaking how young women feel about their bodies and I'm sick to death of gender ideologies taking advantage of this painful stage in a young woman's development.
Why are you here, and how has pornography negatively affected your life? by [deleted] in antipornography
Pornography was a heavy contributer in my sexual grooming and dehumanization from pre pubescence. My rapist showed me pornography as a means of introducing me to having sex with him when I was 13. He was 17-18 over the course of our relationship.
Porn reinforced the message from society that as a woman I was worthless. My rapist called me his loli. I was admired by him and his friends for my sexual maturity as he progressively coerced and later forced me into more and more extreme sexual acts. When I started to fight him during sex, he claimed that he was unaware that it was not part of our ongoing sex. I used to self harm heavily and sex became another method of hurting myself. When I finally left him after he forcefully penetrated me after I repeatedly told him no, he threatened me, stalked me, and made my life a living hell. He believed I belonged to (with) him. I believe his constant porn habit played a significant part in his predatory socialization as well.
Upset with the anarchist subreddit: the shitty title said "Bye T*rfs" by [deleted] in itsafetish
I got banned from damn near every anarchist, communist, feminist, and leftist sub way before the banwave ever started.
If we are banned, r/EntitledBitch, r/FuckYouKaren, r/pussypassdenied and all porn subs should be banned. by RIP_r_GenderCritical in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 28 insightful - 2 fun28 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 1 fun29 insightful - 2 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
The only thing liberals and conservatives can agree on these days is "fuck white women".
[–]Irascible-harpy 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
I love that the all these anti-mask entitled people complaints and content are women. And yet, overwhelmingly when I go out it isn't white women without masks but men. Reminds me of the anti-vaxx movement being attributed to women when men are just as susceptible.
I had a man raid /s/antipornography yesterday and again this morning, trying to spam and destroy a small community. This is what they do to women when they're scared, huh? by [deleted] in GenderCritical
I'll help mod if you need someone still. Good luck! We've been dealing with a significant influx of unwelcome material here as well. Saidit itself is being DDOS'd
I believe there's a divide between radfems and gender critics who aren't necessarily radfem by [deleted] in GenderCritical
I understand your perspective and any frustration you might have from fuzzyfuzz's tone. I understand where women's separatists are coming from, but I don't personally adhere to it.
To all of you trans ladies out there by AdmiralPangolin in GenderCritical
I understand what you're saying. I don't particularly care about them being referred to as transwomen but I reject using female pronouns. I reject the idea of catering to someone's mental illness, particularly one so steeped in sexist ideas. The idea that your rejection of your body and your gender somehow makes you the opposite sex or agender or non-binary... as though gender is real and immutable is absurd.
Fuzzyfuzz considers women's separatism to be an essential part of radical feminism. You do not. This is not an uncommon debate within branches of radical feminism.
The vibe of this sub seems a lot different than the original r/gendercritical by [deleted] in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
This is unfortunate, but somewhat inevitable given the much smaller community, the opportunists seeing a chance to interact with the community while it regains traction, and the overall tone of the platform of saidit.
We're doing what we can to moderate this community to the same standard as our Reddit community. If you prefer, Spinster is another option for you. Give it a shot. Only you can determine if it's a site for you. A team of the original GC mods are also currently working on creating a GC specific site.
[–]Irascible-harpy 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
No, they absolutely do not "go through everyday life as women". They weren't socialized as women. They don't have female reproductive organs. They experience life as trans identifying men, not women, and that's the whole freaking point!
Who are some trans people you get along with/admire? by quickbeam in GenderCritical
We are not an open and welcoming group to all people. If we were we wouldnt be a feminist space. The fastest way to kill a women's group is to open it to men and antifeminists.
Trans ideology is diametrically opposed to women's fight for liberation. There's no such thing as being trans (or non binary) and a gender critical feminist. I don't hate trans people, but what they believe in is regressive and harmful to women. Gender is nothing but a prison. So no, I don't. Just like I don't admire any conservatives because what they believe is directly harmful to my sex class.
Detrans female— Venting, what the f just happened to me? by [deleted] in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
You're still beautiful and valid and one of us. You've made some extremely difficult decisions and you've been so fucking brave. You will always have a place with your sisters. I'm so sorry for all the struggles you've been through and I hope you find peace and comfort in your body.
TRA wants to murder me by [deleted] in GenderCritical
We had a post recently where someone linked to a shared google doc which, if you were logged in to your gmail account, as most people are, would keep a history of the accounts which accessed the doc.
Trans activists are nice people by Lingenfelter in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
God. I love it when my vagina violently gatekeeps 🤗
r/GenderCynical doing what it can to get rid of gay people on Reddit by Cacator in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy 47 insightful - 4 fun47 insightful - 3 fun48 insightful - 3 fun48 insightful - 4 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
And men. Men can't be violently transphobic, only women.
Let's start a women's group, we say. Meanwhile, men...
1 year ago by Irascible-harpy to /s/GenderCritical from imgur.com
The jobless TRA at AHS are now targeting r/Radical_Feminists by [deleted] in GenderCritical
Bringing up things you've said in the past is relevant to the current discussion. It's not doxxing as it isn't personally identifying information. You posted publicly and anonymously on a sister site. This is not a debate subreddit.
[–]Irascible-harpy 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun - 1 year ago* (0 children)
"How dare you use the things I said against me?"
Trans homicide epidemic is a false narrative. by koonay in GenderCritical
You made a claim. I'm asking for some evidence. You think there is a physical difference in brain structure for sexual orientation, is there any proof of your assertion?
You got a source for homosexuals having brains like those of the opposite sex? Because scientists can't determine a brain's sex consistently.
It's so funny to me that Reddit is claiming TERFs were brigading different women's subs (like r/PCOS and r/pregnancy) like there weren't radfems in those subs to begin with by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Because only women are diagnosed with PCOS. It's transwomen who object to being left out of the space and identify as women with hormonal imbalances. You've got to adapt the backwards think of gender ideology. A. Women can't have anything unless transwomen have it too (regardless of how useless or awful it is), and B. If transwomen are biologically female but have excessive body hair, low estrogen, etcetc, then it's due to hormonal imbalance and not intrinsic to sex.
[–]Irascible-harpy[S] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
If I had PCOS, I would feel inclined to bop someone for saying I wasn't a woman because of my condition. Hell, I feel inclined to bop them when they imply I'm less of a woman because I wear comfortable clothing and don't waste my time and energy with the toxic cesspool that is beauty and diet culture.
Detrans female— Is there space for me here? by [deleted] in GenderCritical
There have been some great resources posted below. I just wanted to say that we will always be here to support women. Our only limitation is that this is an explicitly gender critical space. If you're looking for a broad range of viewpoints including those beyond gender critical feminism, you might want to check out the gender critical debate saidits. I believe Gender Critical QT is being rehomed here as well. There used to be a subreddit specifically for detrans individuals started by a detrans FTM. I used to recommend the subreddit wholeheartedly, but I do so with some caution at this point. The subreddit has been caught up in the purge. Reddit has been working hard to remove any and all viewpoints which may be considered critical of gender (particularly coming from women). The subreddit still exists at this time (thought it was temporarily banned). The top post still seems very relevant. Here's the URL for the sub https://www.reddit.com/r/detrans/
Take it with a grain of salt in the current environment. If you'd be interested, it could be beneficial to start a Saidit detrans community as well. You are absolutely not alone in the slightest. I hope you find peace and acceptance, both within yourself and within women's communities. Many of us have experienced some degree of gender dysphoria in the past and while we may be critical of gender, we will always have solidarity with you as a fellow woman.
They want their spaces protected and everyone else's. There's no such thing as a safe space for anyone but transwomen. "If it isn't for or about me, I will use my massive privilege to destroy it."
It's so funny to me that Reddit is claiming TERFs were brigading different women's subs (like r/PCOS and r/pregnancy) like there weren't radfems in those subs to begin with
1 year ago by Irascible-harpy to /s/GenderCritical from self.GenderCritical
Is “gender” innate? I’m confused by Confuzzled in GenderCritical
Source that bby
"how do I report these women talking amongst themselves on a different site" by gparmesan in GenderCritical
I recommend that you take some time to educate yourself then. This is a gender critical community and not a debate forum. At a minimum, learn the core ideology and basic terminology to avoid confusion in the future.
(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical
Anecdotal evidence. It's the same as saying, "I don't believe men are raping women because all the men I've met are super nice and would never do that." There are people who identify as trans who are caught and arrested for male pattern violence. It's illogical and arrogant for you to determine whether some is or isn't trans based on your feelings from the few interactions you've had with some trans people.
"Women are only less violent because they are physically weak" by DifferentAirGC in GenderCritical
Because it's common, or is the name based on a scene from an old movie and now it refers to any woman who gets emotional or unstable at the end of a relationship? Do you have examples of women killing men's pets as they leave relationships? I'm sure it happens, but I cannot think of a single example, whereas I know of several situations where the sexes were reversed.
You aren't listening to what she's saying. You're expecting her to directly quote you instead of paraphrasing. Do you or do you not believe in Self-ID? Because that's essential to your core argument. She is extrapolating information based on what you say, while you're intentionally challenging her extrapolation without refuting her points.
You aren't just relaying your experience though. You're making a statement. You said "I honestly don't believe that these people are trans people".
Are you being intentionally obtuse?
[–]Irascible-harpy[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Claiming to be the opposite sex based on gender feelings seems inherently boundary pushing to me.
Help! Any advice for talking to my little sister about gender ideology? by warriorwombyn in GenderCritical
I would stick with gentle guiding questions, but only so long as she brings the topic up with you. Otherwise, I say leave it be for now. Does she share her blog with you? I'm surprised you found it.
If it does come up, I'd play the part of an outsider. "Why do you identify as non-binary and trans?" "What does it mean to be non-binary?" "Does that make me non-binary? I don't think I identify with femininity." "Are tomboys non-binary? Are butch lesbians? How do they know?"
Let her walk you through her ideology and gently probe the weak points with further questions. Don't approach it as changing her mind, just seek to understand. Get into the mindset of challenging your own ideology and let logic guide the conversation.
[–]Irascible-harpy 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
My dad died of the same type of cancer a couple years before Magdalen. My mother and I cared for him up until three days before his death. I think about his decline. The first time he couldn't recognize one of us. Sitting and eating with him because he feared he was being poisoned and only trusted me to protect him. Watching his body waste away to nothing. The first fall. The day he no longer understood how to use a spoon. His first accident.
My dad was a proud, fiercely independent man and I loved him with every fiber of my being. When Magdalen was diagnosed, my heart broke for her and her loved ones. Fuck cancer. Fuck brain cancer in particular. May those who loved her find peace.
Who is out with their hairy legs this summer? by materialrealityplz in GenderCritical
I've done some digging on this. I heard the same thing from my husband when I stopped shaving. Fortunately he said it jokingly and encouraged me to do whatever is most comfortable, but I was curious. I've seen studies that indicate this, but the degree of the increase seems to be negligible in most cases. I haven't found a study I would consider totally conclusive and meaningful. On the other hand, telling your girl that she she should shave to deal with body odor seems like a good way to give her a complex toward her body hair. It's like, even if it does make a small difference, the overwhelming majority of body odor is just going to be regular bathing, deodorant, and personal hygiene.
The problem I have with transwomen is that they keep trying to speak FOR women by uglyelephant121 in GenderCritical
Is there a reason you use female pronouns for Blair White?
As much as I disliked the far right subs, I have to say boo-hoo to this by [deleted] in GenderCritical
I'm assuming this is an /s post based on post history. Unfortunately given the current social climate, I do not know. :/
Random thought re: "vulnerable populations" by [deleted] in GenderCritical
Women coming from less "woke" regions of the world generally don't buy into this trans bullshit narrative to begin with. They are much more aware of the sex differences between men and women and the oppression of women based on their sex.
The things our mothers said... Can you imagine telling your insecure preteen daughter that she needs to shave to deal with body odor?
I stopped shaving almost entirely when I got a puppy ten months ago. I was getting up constantly and dealing with 3am and 8am baths because of constant diarrhea (parasites). No more accidents, but I've found I just can't be bothered anymore. Occasionally I'll shave just to "start over", but it's every two months if that.
[–]Irascible-harpy 14 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 2 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Mod here. No, do not do that. We will remove your comments. This is not a debate subreddit and we can remove posts based on Rule 4 of Saidit's terms. XD
[–]Irascible-harpy 31 insightful - 1 fun31 insightful - 0 fun32 insightful - 0 fun32 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
A political rival, haha. You mean a woman with very little real power who used a cheap camera and spoke out about what she believed? It's not like Magdalen was an authority. She was a woman with a webcam and he's celebrating her tragically premature death over a year later.
[–]Irascible-harpy 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
Not banned, private.
[–]Irascible-harpy 36 insightful - 4 fun36 insightful - 3 fun37 insightful - 3 fun37 insightful - 4 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
"They're so hateful!" they say, while still making jokes about a young woman who died from brain cancer over a year ago
Radical Feminism is failing because it’s too racist (part 2) by [deleted] in GenderCritical
Uh oh. You seem to be getting a little tired. Better misquote an excerpt of her original post and use it as a call out.
So you got "too tired" to respond to ANY of the countless requests for details and context for your post and now you want to pick specific rewritten quotes out of context and pretend you're replying to the barrage of feedback you got? Are you kidding me?
[–]Irascible-harpy 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago* (0 children)
Jumping on to back up WrongToy here. Multiple mods have tried to get information from you separately as well as examples. We are in no way prioritizing the feelings of white supremacists or racists, we remove racist content as quickly as it comes to light every time it comes to light.
Supporting & Enabling TIFs/TIMs is misogynistic and it NEEDS to be addressed. by [deleted] in GenderCritical
Good luck with that. If you gain any traction whatsoever it'll be deleted. I hardly see the point.
A Breakdown of Systematic Racism
1 year ago by Irascible-harpy to /s/GenderCritical from youtu.be
You cannot tell from a brain with any certainty whether a person is male or female. There are brain characteristics which may be more predominantly male or female, but you CANNOT tell whether a person is male or female based on their brain alone.
God I'm so Sick of Talking About Trans - Remember Women's Issues?? by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical
[–]Irascible-harpy[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
OH SHIT. I COMPLETELY LEFT OUT HEALTHCARE AND ABORTION ACCESS. THAT TOO
[–]Irascible-harpy[S] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
I think there's a time and place for the finger pointing and the mockery women have for men who pantomime womanhood. Derision is a powerful social tool and the costumery that womanhood has become is an insult in itself. We need to talk about how bullshit and laughable a lot of trans ideology and behavior is, but trans is just so goddamn loud and endless. There are things which have a much greater impact on our lives that we struggle to talk about because we're losing so much energy on the unending parade of absolute fucking nonsense that the liberal left have embraced to the detriment of women.
[–]Irascible-harpy[S] 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun - 1 year ago (0 children)
God, is there anything less productive to meaningful change than postmodernism? Ugh. It's important to talk about what it means to be a woman, but as soon as men joined the conversation, as it always goes, the conversation became a black hole of women's time and energy for the coddling of men.