Wanted to share this wholesome post in case any of you haven't seen it. by reluctant_commenter in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah even the commenters that appear to be lesbians aren't once you take a peek at their history. It's nice to see others on our side but I don't go to lesbian spaces to chitchat with straight/bi people. And the Super subs are like LGBdroptheT.2 because all they wanna talk about is trans people. A large chunk of them seem to be teens that just peaked.

Did AyL just go private? by Srime in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 8 insightful - 3 fun8 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

It's a little funny tbh

Do you believe in compulsory heterosexuality? by QueenOfTheNorth in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Of course, but not in correlation with that stupid master doc

Do you believe in compulsory heterosexuality? by QueenOfTheNorth in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 6 insightful - 5 fun6 insightful - 4 fun7 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

nah. At the end of the day it doesn't matter

Is anyone else seeing a crazy amount of long time lesbians dating men all of a sudden? What the F is going on? by berlin13 in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I didn't wanna say anything but I thought that too...

Are you people for real? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I remember that... 😬

Are you people for real? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 11 insightful - 4 fun11 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Yeah it is very messed up and I completely agree with what you're saying, but s/lesbians is not a "safe space", thank god. In my mind, safe space = groupthinking, teenagers, Tumblr, coddling, hourly "you are valid" posts, etc.

There's been quite a few comments and opinions that I think are offensive or kooky but I just shrug it off or reply with a counter opinion. The way of the internet

Are you people for real? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's totally me. I skim-read EVERYTHING.

Are you people for real? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh. In that case, s/lesbians is a "safe space" :)

Found this amazing article on women's and lesbians' rights and history by LesChameleon in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

wait isn't Sheila Jeffreys that straight woman who "became a lesbian" because she hates men? Correct me if I'm wrong.

I came across an account on twitter asking lesbians to post their comp-het crushes and women are posting pics of men they drool over. How do you all feel about this? by Wot in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 30 insightful - 1 fun30 insightful - 0 fun31 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Looks like average age of those people is 17. Young, dumb genderists who think homosexuality is a fashion trend.

Is it possible to go to the media about the discrimination against lesbians by reddit? by mangosplums in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

but r/BL had nothing to do with r/TL. And as far as I could tell, the mods of r/BL were very young and very "Transwomen are women"

Is it possible to go to the media about the discrimination against lesbians by reddit? by mangosplums in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Also r/biologicallesbians could have remained if they were private. So one could argue Reddit isn't discriminating against lesbian subs, just lesbians subs that publicly go against the terms of agreement.

wait I'm lost. How did r/BL go against the terms of agreement?

Long Distance Relationships by UneedREM in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It's not something I'd be able to keep up for years.

The “Gold Star” Problem by WordsHaveMeanings in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm shocked. Did you even read what I typed? Seriously??

Where did I say "the existence of gold stars is some burdensome, illogical division"?

Where did I say that I want gold stars "gone"?

First of all, you read and replied to my first comment which happens to begin with "As a gold star..." so you know already that it's dumb of you to say that I want gold stars gone. I said I want the gold star STUFF to be gone. I think it's a stupid concept that creates unnecessary division. Nobody -not a single person- is against you telling your story. You need to quit acting like some ostracized victim.

The “Gold Star” Problem by WordsHaveMeanings in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 18 insightful - 1 fun18 insightful - 0 fun19 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't even know what you're talking about anymore. Why are you bringing up political lesbians? All I said is that I wish we could be like gay men and stop giving a shit about whether other lesbians were with the opposite sex in their past or not. And somehow it turned into this...

But ok, you aren't against people telling their story and think it's valuable lol

When I agreed that the gold star subject is exhausting and over-talked about and said that I'm glad I don't know lesbians who want to sit and chat about that stuff in real life, I was not talking about gold stars telling their stories and experiences. I was referring to that disgusting holier than thou attitude that we've all seen before. What I should have said to be more clear is, "I'm glad I haven't met any lesbians in real life who want to sit around and pat each other's asses for being gold star."

We are on the same side, we both don't want lesbians to feel like they have to have sex with men. I really don't know what your problem is anymore.

The “Gold Star” Problem by WordsHaveMeanings in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 22 insightful - 2 fun22 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I think you're confused. I'm not trying to silence gold stars from telling their story. Why would I want to do that? Telling lesbians that they don't need to fuck men just to be sure is great. Telling lesbians that not being "gold star" makes them permanently tainted by men and less of a lesbian is the shit I don't like. And don't kid yourself by saying that doesn't happen.

The way I see it all lesbians, gold star or not, can help young lesbians avoid traumatic experiences by telling their stories. The gold stars say "I never slept with a man before and I've got zero regrets or FOMO. There's nothing wrong with never being with a man" and the non gold stars say "I did sleep with a man before and you know what? I still don't want them. It was an empty, traumatic experience for me. So if you're not attracted to men, having sex with them definitely won't "fix" that"

I personally think we should do away with the "gold star" stuff altogether. Like I said, all lesbians stories are valuable in helping younger lesbians understand that it's okay to set sexual boundaries and be themselves in this heterosexual world. No need to create some stupid division. We're all just lesbians.

The “Gold Star” Problem by WordsHaveMeanings in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's true actually.

The “Gold Star” Problem by WordsHaveMeanings in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I define myself by my exclusive attraction to women. Men are not part of the picture.

And she didn't make a valid point because bringing up bisexual women calling themselves lesbians is a false equivalence.

The “Gold Star” Problem by WordsHaveMeanings in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

As a gold star, I agree that this subject is exhausting and over-talked about (and pointless). Honestly, there are some things I envy about the gay male community and this is one of them. They don't give a damn about this stupid gold star shit. Fortunately, this is almost entirely just an online thing. I'm glad I haven't met any lesbians in real life who want to sit around and chat about being gold star.

The “Gold Star” Problem by WordsHaveMeanings in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Recognizing that we have only had sexual experience with women, and the impact that might have had on our lives, doesn't mean we automatically define ourselves in relation to men either.

I agree. But you do realize that if men didn't exist then the gold star concept wouldn't exist? You can care and talk about this stuff if you want, but when other lesbians don't share your passion, don't assume that it's because they are offended, jealous, bitter or whatever. Most of the time it's because they simply don't care that much about men and don't feel the need to give them significance within our sexuality.

The “Gold Star” Problem by WordsHaveMeanings in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't see it as disrespectful. I agree that others can talk about it if they want, it's not like I could stop them anyway. I know I'm not "all women", I was simply giving my opinion. Hopefully that clears up all your false assumptions.

As of 60 minutes ago, r/BiologicalLesbians has been banned by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There was a lot of brainwashed young lesbians on that sub. Hopefully they will wake up now.

Bisexual woman on why bisexual women shouldn't identify as lesbians by LesbianInExile in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Centring women is what they try to sell it as, but if they are going around telling other straight & bi women that being attracted to men is "anti-feminist" then idk.

Bisexual woman on why bisexual women shouldn't identify as lesbians by LesbianInExile in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've always thought that most political lesbians are straight women because they always talk about unlearning attraction to men and learning attraction to women. Bisexual women wouldn't have to force attraction to women, especially not febfems who prefer women. But yeah, political lesbians do see lesbianism as some kind of revenge against men. It's all about men men men for them.

Bisexual woman on why bisexual women shouldn't identify as lesbians by LesbianInExile in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 22 insightful - 1 fun22 insightful - 0 fun23 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Pre-apology for my negativity, but most of this was eye-roll inducing. She said the prime reason she doesn't call herself a lesbian is because she didn't face homophobia growing up and had different experiences from most lesbians. How about, "I don't call myself a lesbian because I'm not one." That's all I wanted to see.

Bisexual people are regularly smeared as disease-ridden, promiscuous and anti-feminist.

People say that bisexual people are "anti-feminist"? Is that an actual thing that people actually say? Highly doubt that

Bisexual woman on why bisexual women shouldn't identify as lesbians by LesbianInExile in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 15 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

What was your take from the article? Honestly, I mostly come to s/Lesbians to let off steam. I'm sure there's others who do the same. Is it that serious?

Another commercial to make you smile by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The first half is pretty sweet and it's a shame they had to go ruin it. I suppose it's still progress.

So many women being confused by master doc... by peaked2020 in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Oh my god I just want to shake her. Lesbians are only attracted to women. The end.

Dinner Date Next Week,Any Tips? by devonSwan in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Is it the same woman you posted about before? Does that mean that 2nd date worked out?

Latebloomerlesbians once again... by peaked2020 in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 35 insightful - 24 fun35 insightful - 23 fun36 insightful - 24 fun -  (0 children)

What recently made you conclude you are a lesbian/queer?: I've never been with a woman. I am physically attracted to men. I love being held by a man, feeling his arms, chest and the nape of his neck. My crushes on men are intense and passionate. I enjoy sex with men and I'm terrified of losing my attraction to them.

Yep. Undoubtedly a lesbian.

Yes, biological lesbians want your graphic descriptions of loving how men moan. 'I’ve started to become aroused by men. Can I still be considered a lesbian? : BiologicalLesbians' by lovelyspearmint in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You're too nice. I think she's just asking for attention. Like 95% of the people who ask questions about themselves on Reddit.

Amazon just recommended a book called "The Noble Art of Seducing Women: My Foolproof Guide to Pulling Any Woman You Want"... by xv_xx in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 5 insightful - 5 fun5 insightful - 4 fun6 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

from what I've seen, I don't think the author is throwing women under the bus. But her tips are definitely nothing worth paying for, if we go by what she's put out on her Youtube Channel.

For example

Amazon just recommended a book called "The Noble Art of Seducing Women: My Foolproof Guide to Pulling Any Woman You Want"... by xv_xx in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 6 insightful - 3 fun6 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

oh God. PUA tactics 🤡

Yes, biological lesbians want your graphic descriptions of loving how men moan. 'I’ve started to become aroused by men. Can I still be considered a lesbian? : BiologicalLesbians' by lovelyspearmint in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

when you say lesbians started using top and bottom are you referring to real life or the internet? I've never encountered lesbians who use those terms IRL. I'm convinced it's just a stupid thing that teens/clueless virgins do online, many of whom are not even lesbians.

My GF seems sexist? by Sharmen23 in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 24 insightful - 13 fun24 insightful - 12 fun25 insightful - 13 fun -  (0 children)

I almost feel like this is a troll question honestly. Who is this much of a doormat

My GF seems sexist? by Sharmen23 in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 18 insightful - 9 fun18 insightful - 8 fun19 insightful - 9 fun -  (0 children)

"need some advice from my favorite lesbians." - I just can't picture an actual lesbian saying that.

"My (24) GF (29) is very masculine while I am very feminine." - unnecessary details, but they serve an obvious purpose in setting the narrative here...

" Is this normal ?" You're 24 years old and you honestly have to ask if this is a normal relationship?

Please.

"My boyfriend was nasty to me so I became a lesbian and now I've found a wonderful new boyfriend!" Straight women share their experiences of being lesbians (at 45 minutes in for that particular gem) by LesbianInExile in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 28 insightful - 4 fun28 insightful - 3 fun29 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

And they even talk about how when a woman says she's a lesbian other people will think she just hasn't met the right guy. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm I wonder why. These women are so fucking dense. And I am so over straight women speaking for us. Go away.

Weaksauce (Just me throwing a hissy fit...) by Hydiee in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee[S] 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Then they should add Rule #10: Anything that upsets the mods will be removed

Sorry but that's a pathetic reason to delete something. We need mods to remove those occasional porn posts we get from trolls, but there's no need to delete civilized political discussions. And there was not "a ton" of Trump supporters in those comments. They were the minority, not that it matters

Americans: who did you vote for? by chokeonartichoke in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

you actually considered Trump just because of trans laws...?

Why aren't we going back? by PasLagardere in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 25 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 0 fun26 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The war on lesbians only seems to have died down because they banned all the lesbians. But you can join r/BiologicalLesbians, which was mentioned here. There's no point in making a private sub. It will have even less activity than s/Lesbians.

How to cope with fear of (potentially) being forever alone? by RedVelvetCake in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Co-dependency is very popular in the lesbian community as well as low self esteem. This is probably why the lesbian community is so easy to manipulate and infiltrate compared to other communities.

I agree with the co-dependency and low self esteem thing, but I don't think that's why the lesbian community is easy to infiltrate. No amount of high self esteem is going to stop men and straight/bi women from taking over our shit. They just outnumber us

“I’m a slut and love to fuck men, but I identify as a lesbian” by peaked2020 in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 28 insightful - 5 fun28 insightful - 4 fun29 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Why do these bisexual women love to overcomplicate things. Get a hobby

I hate the top/bottom dichotomy by blackrainbow in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 26 insightful - 1 fun26 insightful - 0 fun27 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I think it's mostly just teens/virgins pushing that. Also, I bet a large chunk of those lesbian teens aren't actually even lesbians and see it more as a fashion trend than a sexual orientation.

“I’m a slut and love to fuck men, but I identify as a lesbian” by peaked2020 in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

But let's be real. No one is going to tell a man that he must have trauma because he's compulsive about sex lol

Why I don't like reddit lesbian subs by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

🤮🤮🤮

Disgusting. I saw some people calling it out in the comments at least.

11 Types Of Lesbians You're Most Likely To Meet IRL by WildwoodFlower in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 12 insightful - 4 fun12 insightful - 3 fun13 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

God that article is horrifically written, 1/10 quality. Journalism is thoroughly deceased

Well, 1. chapstick lesbian, and 2. can't decide. I find a lot of different women attractive. numbers 1,5,8 and 9 are a no go though.

Someone started new subreddit for female lesbians on Reddit [r/BiologicalLesbians] by FineIWillDoItMyself in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 16 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Nah, that's a bit of an extreme accusation. I don't think they are bootlickers. I doubt they think that TW can be lesbians or that TW are even women. They have to say that because there's no other way to exist on Reddit. I think it's good if there can be a sub for real lesbians and transbians can't discus themselves. They will be pissed off but there's nothing they can do about it and they can't screech TERF! lol

So I forgot about Saidit and haven't been on in awhile. Have I missed out on anything here in s/Lesbians? Or just same old? by Jaded in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 17 insightful - 4 fun17 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

The funny thing is we don't have to do anything about it. TRAs are turning people against them everyday. We just get to sit back and laugh while their campaign implodes.

So I forgot about Saidit and haven't been on in awhile. Have I missed out on anything here in s/Lesbians? Or just same old? by Jaded in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 13 insightful - 3 fun13 insightful - 2 fun14 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

How are you going to compare the activity of Saidit subs to Reddit subs? Obviously Saidit subs are dead. No one knows about Saidit. There's nothing to get over because we know that all this deranged new age woke homophobia ain't gonna last. Don't get too comfy

Does anyone use the lounge? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

The L Chat is mostly just weirdos who obsess over celebrities. I also don't like how it allows complete anonymity. This is technically an anonymous forum, but at least an account is required to post. That makes it easier to ban trolls.

Does anyone use the lounge? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't think there's anything wrong with this sub. The thing is no one really knows about Saidit or s/Lesbians so there's rarely any new people joining or commenting. It's not like reddit which everyone knows about. Also, there's many things about Saidit that will turn people off and they just won't return. It's not phone-friendly for one

Sexual Attraction by Athelhilda2 in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 11 insightful - 5 fun11 insightful - 4 fun12 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

Well if you wanna have sex with someone then you're experiencing sexual attraction to them. It feels like wanting to have sex with someone lol

Other places for lesbians? by Lesbianese in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You could join a Discord sever if you're into that

Does anyone use the lounge? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I didn't even know that exists

Am I a lesbian? by LightOcean8 in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

This kind of post breaks rule #6 but I'll answer anyway. Maybe you're bisexual

The definition of lesbian: the googoogaga factor by Skipdip in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 9 insightful - 4 fun9 insightful - 3 fun10 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Sounds more like compulsive HOMOsexuality to me. Trying to force herself to like vaginas, calls them "more disgusting" than penises and semen. I mean...?

The definition of lesbian: the googoogaga factor by Skipdip in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I know the post you are referring to, and everyone was against that person and could see how ridiculous they were being. There's definitely a few nuts like that.

This is very different, however. Given everything she's written, I don't think it's nuts to assume that she's not a lesbian. At this point, it's nuts to assume that she is. Like I said, there's absolutely nothing wrong with being bisexual.

The definition of lesbian: the googoogaga factor by Skipdip in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

Could I have sex with a man? Yes, I’ve done it before. I don’t see why I couldn’t do it and maybe even make myself come from it. Do I want to do it? On some level kind of. I have a lot of curiousity about it at this point since it’s been built up so much in my mind.

I don't think it was in the context of puberty, but either way, she said she still wants to have sex with a man (on some level) >today< so that's irrelevant. In my first comment I said that I think things will be easier for her if she just accepts that she's bisexual and I still stand by that.

Also, what good point did she make about how some lesbians are treated? I'm not being sarcastic, I'm really wondering.

The definition of lesbian: the googoogaga factor by Skipdip in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being bisexual. Just accept that you're bisexual and it will make things easier for you. Lesbians don't have sex with men for "shits and gigs" So can we not perpetuate the myth that lesbians will want to sleep with men if we are "bored in quarantine" (anyone remember that?) or drunk.

What do these young lesbians think womanhood even is? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ok I'm going to take a guess. Do they think womanhood = being attracted to men?

That's the only explanation I can come up with

Does my bisexual girlfriend want to commit to me? by Fox_Whispers2 in Lesbians

[–]Hydiee 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It would be too offensive, she said. Yeah, I don't get it either.