Being friends with an ex by Innisfree in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Most of my exes were good friends of mine before being my girlfriends. Just because I no longer want to date them doesn't mean I want them out of my life.

What music y'all like? by chupacabrawitch in Lesbians

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I love music of all genres, but if I had to pick my absolute favorite, then maybe soft rock?

Looking for new good lesbian shows, movies or books by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I know this is kind of an obvious answer, but i really loved But I'm a Cheerleader. I liked Carol as well, and I've heard great things about Blue is the Warmest Color.

Any masculine women feel a loss when tomboys come out as transgender/nonbinary by inneedofspace in GenderCritical

[–]Fraeulein 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was a big tomboy growing up. If TRAs were as rampant then as they are now, I know for a fact I would have thought I was trans or nonbinary, especially since internalized misogyny and sexual trauma contributed a lot to avoidance of stereotypical feminine things. I cannot express how grateful I am that wasn't something so prominent back then and that I never had to go through permanently wrecking my body as a kid, because now that I'm older, I realize just how much I love being a woman. It really makes me sad that tomboys aren't allowed to be just tomboys anymore. Impressionable young girls now are having it drilled into their heads that if they don't adhere to each and every gender based stereotype expected of them, then they can't possibly be a girl.

What are the most lesbian friendly cities? by [deleted] in Lesbians

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BBC officially drops Mermaids by Terfenclaw in GenderCritical

[–]Fraeulein 19 insightful - 5 fun19 insightful - 4 fun20 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

At the risk of sounding like an uncultured swine, what is Mermaids?

Historical use of the word "lesbian" by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Bi women seem to get really up in arms with things that are meant to be exclusively for homosexual women. Who cares what "lesbian" referred to eons ago? When I say "lesbian" now, you know exactly what I am referring to. Meanings often change over time anyway.

Do you collect things? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I collect Care Bears. I really love decorating my room with them!

Were you the weird kid? by RedditHatesLesbians in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sorta?? But I wouldn't say I was an outcast or anything, that didn't happen until high school. I was considered weird, but in more of a class clown sort of way, and people generally did like me. I definitely feel more out of place as an adult now than I ever did as a child.

What was your first serious crush? by VioletRemi in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

When I was around 9 or 10, I was super into my best friend at the time. We had many of the same interests, and she's a very pretty girl. I think she was aware of my feelings towards her, but was uninterested in dating. Which makes sense, since we were both kids lol.

Really sick of porn/sex work apologizers by PurpleAmathea in GenderCritical

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I think some of them are under the impression that we hate the sex workers themselves rather than the actual sex work, when the entire point of this is that we want to protect them. For the most part, though, I think they just care more about getting off than human rights.

Does anyone here have Lesbian freinds irl? by sunzzy in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The only non-straight irl friends I have are all heavily straight-leaning bi girls. I live in the Bible-belt South, so the openly-lesbian population here isn't exactly booming. It's rad as hell, though, that your choir's pianist is a lesbian. If you feel safe enough doing so, you should come out to her!

Apparently not stripping in front of TIMs is "transphobic". I never thought that they'd come up with something more rapey than the "cotton ceiling", but here we are. by justradfemthings in GenderCritical

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So, is being uncomfortable with undressing in front of strangers in general means I'm demonizing everyone? Or is it just TW who need to see my tits?

Can muslim women be GC feminist too? by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]Fraeulein 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Atheist radfem here to say that I certainly believe you have every right to be here. I'm from an area that is overwhelmingly Baptist. I worked for a family of Muslims for awhile, and honestly, they are far more open-minded than most others around here. Everyone practices religion differently. It's wonderful to see women from different backgrounds being interested in feminism.

I would feel more forgiving towards TIMs if they actually fought for women’s’ issues – free and safe abortion for all, equal pay for equal work, guaranteed paid maternal leave, justice for victims of assault/rape, as a few examples – but since their gender identity is an “expression of who they are” by veruscka8 in GenderCritical

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They like to forget that women are a marginalized group. I remember some TRAs saying something along the lines of "TERFs aren't oppressed but they should be." What world are they living in where women are not oppressed?

What's your petty dealbreaker for relationships? by Jaded in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 9 insightful - 10 fun9 insightful - 9 fun10 insightful - 10 fun -  (0 children)

Girls who are shorter than me. I'm already short, and someone in the house has got to be able to reach the top shelf!

What did you cook over the weekend? How did it go? by BraveAndStunningTERF in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I made a rice dish using some spices I had bought when I was on vacation a few weeks ago. It smelled incredible, but it tasted just eh. Not bad, just underwhelming.

"Can I be attracted to nb folks as a lesbian?" "Well, lesbian attraction is complex..." by winterwillow in Lesbians

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The way I see it, if a woman is too "nOt LiKe ThE oThEr GiRlS" to call herself a woman, then she shouldn't use woman-exclusive labels like lesbian.

who is your favorite famous lesbian? by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Sally Ride and Tabatha Coffey!

Not surprised tbh, a "Literal" circlejerk for the Transbian by FineIWillDoItMyself in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The way they expect lesbians to put transwomen on a pedestal is sickening. It feels more like a sex cult that a community for lesbians. Besides, I don't see how a males with dysphoria can feel so comfortable talking about their dick over the internet so much.

Lesbian flags? by reluctant_commenter in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It had purple, gold, green and pink bars with shades so vibrant and clashing that it could make a blind person's eyes bleed. The post in which it debuted was titled "A Lesbian Flag For EVERYONE," and the bars were meant to represent things like "strength, healing, and fragility." Y'know, some word vomit that has nothing to do with the concept of being a woman who digs only other women. It was meant to be bi-inclusive too, and apparently the colors were derived from poems by Sappho since lesbianism is a cult and totally not a sexuality.

Lesbian flags? by reluctant_commenter in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No problem! I watched this weird flag discourse unfold from the start and it was a huge shitshow. Atleast it helped me to weed out any lesbophobes I had been following. I have seen a few people make posts claiming they are the original designers of the orange/pink lesbian flag and assigning meaning to each of the bars including "nonbinary lesbians." It's bullshit. The flags have existed before any of these posts were made. The only meaning they have is orange for butch and pink for femme. The white bar has no real meaning. It's just there because the preexisting butch and femme flags had it. Believe me, if it supported "nonbinary lesbians" or "he/him lesbians" in any way, I would absolutely never use it. I completely agree! Pink is my favorite color, and I think the pink flag is very beautiful! But, I do believe it is better off being a symbol for femme lesbians specifically. We're definitely not alone on this! I see a lot of people complain about having flags for different subsects of LGBT identities, but I love it, and I know plenty of people who do as well. It's fun to have the symbols that really represent you. I plan on ordering the labrys, femme, and orange/pink lesbian flags to hang up in my room.

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

[–]Fraeulein 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh my god, that is absolutely horrifying! Thank goodness you're okay now. My ex was actually pretty effeminate, and, if not for his deep voice, could actually pass as a girl when he kept up with his appearance (which, after awhile, he stopped doing). Thankfully, our relationship had stayed long-distance all four years we were together since I was just in high school the entire time and we lived 8 hours away from each other. We had come very, very close to meeting up several times and I now shudder just thinking about what could have happened if we did. It's absolutely abhorrent how far straight men with a lesbian fetish can get away with harassing actual lesbians as long as they claim they are a transwoman.

(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical

[–]Fraeulein 28 insightful - 1 fun28 insightful - 0 fun29 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

In the summer between my middle school and high school year, a long-time long-distance friend of mine introduced me to one of her friends. This friend of hers identified as a transgirl, though, when we first met, I was not actually aware that she wasn't biologically female. We didn't talk too much at first, and all she really knew about me was that I was three years younger than her, a lesbian, and a huge Sonic fan. In the group chat with me, her, our mutual friend, and their other friends, she wrote her coming out story, which I believe was the first time I found out she was trans. I sent a very short and generic response, probably something along the lines of, "Rad! You're valid!" Didn't think much of it after that until a bit later, she sent me a direct message about how sweet I was. From there, we started DM'ing each other, mostly talking about our favorite video games and nerding out over Sonic and the Elder Scrolls. I also showed her some of my art, and she was very supportive of it, which made me feel really happy. Just a couple weeks later, though, out of the damn blue, she asked me out. At this point, I didn't have any feelings for her that were not purely platonic, but I was worried about saying no for several reasons. I didn't want to lose my new friend who shared so many of my interests, and I was worried about creating a divide among our mutual friends and being seen as transphobic among them. This was around the time where "if a lesbian rejects a trans lady just for being trans then she is a dirty transphobe and should be burned at the stake" started becoming a big thing among the inclusive LGBT spaces. So, I accepted, and figured we would probably drift away in just a month or so. Unfortunately, that was not at all the case. After a bit into dating her, I started seeing all new sides of her. She was very manipulative, and I quickly became very emotionally attached to her. The longer our relationship lasted, the less she started caring as being perceived as a woman, and about a couple years into it, "she" completely dropped the trans shtick and was identifying as a man again. I did ask him about it, and he basically admitted that he mostly decided to identify as a trans lesbian to make our mutual friend, who is a lesbian, like him more. I hadn't put two-and-two together at the time, but I now realize that this was just a sick man with a weird lesbian fetish (supported by all the lesbian porn he would always randomly send me unprovoked). It completely changed my belief that the idea of a person pretending to be trans for predatory purposes was unrealistic. And even though I was a victim in this, I am still very reluctant to talk about it in most LGBT spaces because I know they will consider me a TERF sent from the bowels of bigot hell. There's no room for a nuanced discussion when it comes to this sorta thing among most LGBT spaces now. Hell, I don't even consider myself gender critical, but this is one of the few places I know of that doesn't just hate LGBT people in general where I could safely discuss this.

"he/him lesbians" are driving me mad. by anonymoussapphic in GenderCritical

[–]Fraeulein 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I have seen so many lesbians and transman say that the very concept of a he/him lesbian is harmful to both communities, yet the majority of he/him lesbian supporters I've seen aren't even lesbians or trans people. Just another example of how these people don't give a shit about supporting actual marginalized people. It's the Woke AF Olympics.

Lesbian flags? by reluctant_commenter in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

The lipstick lesbian flag was made by a lady back in 2010 who wanted a flag specifically for lipstick lesbians. A version without the lipstick mark caught on some time later because before then, the only other lesbian flags were the labrys flag and the rainbow flag with double-venus symbol on it, neither of which really fit in with other LGBT flags. Some lesbians didn't like the pink flag because they felt it excluded butch lesbians, so a butch version of the pink flag was made, where instead of pink and red, the bars were yellow and orange. From that, a new version of the lesbian flag started making its rounds that was a combination of the pink and orange flags, meant to represent both butch and femme lesbians. A couple years back, people started becoming uncomfortable with the pink flag being used as the lesbian flag because 1. as I said earlier, they felt it excluded butch lesbians and 2. the original designer said some things on her blog that really rubbed people the wrong way (which imo is a ridiculous reason, considering the flag is meant for the lesbian community, not the designer herself). Some other flags were proposed as "the new lesbian flag", such as the godawful catastrophe known as the "sappho flag." Luckily, these didn't catch on too much, and a lot of people switched over to the orange/pink flag since it was easily recognizable. The pink flag is still used, but more as just a femme lesbian flag. Atleast, that's from what I recall as a lesbian Tumblr veteran. I've seen a lot of other people here disagree with this, but I really like the orange/pink lesbian flag. I think the colors are very pretty, they remind me of a sunset. I think there is a misconception that some of the bar colors are meant to represent "nonbinary lesbians" and trans lesbians, which definitely was not the case, though some people have tried to pass it off as that after it was made. I still use the pink lesbian flag too, as a femme lesbian. Though, I still believe the labrys flag is the best lesbian flag. It makes me feel powerful.

Trans glorifying on tumblr is worrying by Deaurkk in GenderCritical

[–]Fraeulein 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was very tomboyish as a kid, so around the time I was 13, thanks to these certain types of people, I was convinced I was either nonbinary or a transman. I was very confused for about a year, but then I started to realize just how much I absolutely love being a girl. If there was any sort of silver lining to that situation, it made me prouder to be a woman than I ever was before.

Fellow lesbians, describe your religious backgrounds and beliefs by lmaonope333 in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm an atheist from a family of Baptists. For the most part, my mom's side isn't super religious, but my dad's side is batshit with their religion.

Let's Reintroduce Ourselves by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hey, thanks! I'm primarily PC, but I have a few games on Switch, and I'm still playing Xbox 360. I love cats! My baby is a gorgeous, spoiled calico-tabby. <3

Peak 2020: a man telling lesbians what flag we should use. by DifferentAirGC in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

The only people who I've seen contribute to the lesbian flag discourse are non-lesbians. I do think the orange/pink one is very pretty, but there's no way in hell I'll roll over for anyone who tries to force us to use it. Anyways, the labrys flag will always be my number one.

Let's Reintroduce Ourselves by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I was leledae back on Reddit. I mostly lurked, but I would comment from time to time. I'm a 19-year-old femme lesbian. No gf, but my heart is still taken by a wonderful woman. I like to draw and play video games, and I own a cat. I only have one lesbian friend, so I really need more. :')

TL is No More by [deleted] in Lesbians

[–]Fraeulein 23 insightful - 2 fun23 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

The only other lesbian sub that rivaled TL (as far as I'm aware, atleast), is r/actuallesbians, which, in the about section, literally says it's for, "bisexual girls, bi-curious folks, 'girls who kiss girls', 'birls', 'bois', aces, LGBT allies, and 'anyone else interested'." Lesbians really can't have anything for themselves, huh?