Have any of you ever given up hope on finding love?

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-14T02:08:22+00:00

Yes! One older woman messaged me (and I am the cougartown, lol) and I asked her about some things and she said, and I quote "I do not want to die alone, will you date me?"

Tempting, but no.

byyyeeeeeeeeeee

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-14T01:49:57+00:00

Yes.

I am the cougar you are all talking about. The thing is, I have life experiences younger people do not. Hear me out: I have been beaten against the rocks. The people who loved me and raised me=dead. I have gone through a few dozen serious life crises. I know how to react properly and maintain control when you lose your job, your car breaks down, and you are told your mom has cancer in the same week. Did I cry> Yes. But I did not allow life to take me under the current.

I have worked many careers. I am not ready for the rocking chair at all--I am quite active. I am chased constantly by the young ones because of how young I do look for my age, and my hobbies. This makes me feel like a fetish, because that is no different than men chasing me for similar reasons. It feels like those of you who chase me do not see ME, as a complex loving being. Double goes for TW chasing me.

I used to believe in work hard play hard. Not any more. Most lesbians I see believe we won't match unless astrology says so. I have some education, multiple degrees actually.

I believe in science. I love puppies. I have many hobbies. I have switched careers again and am getting yet another degree, because, what else is there to do?

I have been the provider in my relationships, and I am sick of it. I am always the one to coko, and put all of the emotional labor in as well. The younger ones that I have talked to, do not know what it is like to be in a lesbian relationship, and they want me to be the "femme daddy". Just no. We are equals.

ON dating apps, I am chased by TW , couples, CDs, and poly. The end.

I have no wrinkles. I work out a lot. I play instruments. I am an artist, but also, that's not my education. I have done serious things and if you saw a treatment in the last year, or what you see going forward--if that hits the news for genetic disease--I may have been a part of that.Most likely.

Now I do things one on one to help people, animals, the elderly, women, and children.

Most people I talk to , or try to talk to, are so surface level.

Now, I do not want to talk about science all day, but dating apps are just ugh, "hey how are you> So what are you looking for on this site/ me too, blah blah blah blah blah"

I have not met one inspiring person--on dating apps or real life lesbians.

I meet lots of awesome people in life who are so cool, even now with covid, in passing.

I am an extrovert. I am tomboy femme intelligent caring and giving,

I am self sustaining.

Another part is I do not drink, smoke, or use drugs. You do not get to be my age, in the shape I am without wrinkles (no work done, only soap) without caring for yourself. People assume I am late twenties and mega shocked.

Here is the thing: I do not care about your money. I know we all have high points and low points. I do not care if you have the education I have. But I cannot find anyone who does not come off as superficial. Again, non-lesbians, yes. Otherwise, all I am finding is judgy, curt, and snappy lesbians.

I am like a marshmallow with a big heart.

But I have given up.

(Edit--PS--I was married before, and I have been in a handful of serious relationships, with people who cannot hold emotional space, do not show up with full presence, and have no idea how to REALLY communicate)

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-30T21:51:27+00:00

That doesn't mean I'm dating a man in a dress

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-30T21:48:54+00:00

LOL... So for a lesbian being with a Tim is the same, just with extra steps?

Is there a word we can call lesbians now since trans took it? They did stomp their boot on the faces of lesbians.

I live in Oceania

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-29T18:49:53+00:00

Yup--I used to hang with these people back in the day when I was allowing myself to be woke boarded. Even going to the bathroom is an issue. The constant obsession of looking at themselves, checking themselves, not being able to fly without going through great lengths, always paying attention to every fucking minute detail of every conversation, everything they wear, buying a shit ton of makeup more than a drag queen, and acting overly dramatic and emotional.

PS has anyone seen R Dennis new videos? I try not to watch, but he either had his vocal chords done or is paying for voice lessons.

They all sounds like drag queen female impersonator clown cartoons when they talk.

As far as all of my anger and hate, my personal experiences are so fucking much these people can all live on an island somewhere together--all of them.

Edit: PS--how can you date someone you cannot even touch who hates themselves, who wants to love you and hate you at the same time, when they are triggered by your own body.

For fuck's sake.

I cannot even believe I wasted my time talking to , helping, or associating with any of them.

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-29T18:44:15+00:00

Here is what is going to happen (every post op TiM in my former area I just moved out of is single for MANY reasons--regardless if they want to be with men or women)--every man will use him as a cum dumpster. He will get that neo vag, and IF all goes well and he does not have a nightmare time, after he painfully dialates that wound for however many times a day they do that, after six months, this time will be worse. Men will want to stay just to fuck him, use him, and leave. He thinks he is depressed now?

As for you straight ladies reading this, YOU KNOW majority of men, like Hanna said, just want to stick their dick flower in a flesh vase (dammit she went pro trans, I do not believe it! She did that to pander and save her ass. Her entire skit was man hating, come on!)

Welcome, TiMs, to being used by men. Nothing new to see here. Move along.

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-30T22:23:38+00:00

This is because doctors and the internet, sigh, tell trans identified males, that if they go on spiro and estradiol, they are the equivalent of chemically castrated. LIE. There is full proof that the sperm is still mobile, and while not grade A, a chance exists. Docs will tell TiMs to bank their sperm anyways, but it's a fucking lie being told they can't get anyone pregnant.

I comment here and come and go and this is just continuing to anger me to new levels.

Of course, since every female must fuck a Tim or she is ostracized, they are banging away like rabbits.

Tifs are told similar things.

And if the fucking out of hand therapists ( and fuck you) who see these fuckers ( I'm a psychologist saying this), keep telling the trans they can't make babies, you are to blame equally as the half wits on the internet.

Did one of you say you believed in finger size?

omfg

Where are the educated people?

I could talk in high academese but I am so fucking angry. this is nuts. I'm so out. I can't even handle being in the internet anymore or being a psychologist or on a dating app anymore. fucking hell

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-30T22:13:53+00:00

Would be nice if people put their money where their mouths are, and to make sure laws which protect female spaces aren't stripped to back a kink of AGP. Bathrooms were segregated because males can't stop attacking females. I believe in part that was done at the time because females were seen as property in the US ( still are), and husbands got angry. I'm aware of other countries like Mexico separating men from women in transportation, and handing out a million rape whistles, because men rape women in Mexico at the rate they pee.

I want laws.

I want our protections back.

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-30T22:05:17+00:00

I can't believe I spoke at the Capitol during the start of #metoo. I know many of you don't know me, never will. I could vomit. Just vomit. I'm physically sick over all of this to the point I'm unsure I can handle watching news or reading anything. I'm not apathetic, I'm next level disgusted. Existing technology cannot measure my levels of disdain. I remember getting asked to use my credentials and speak on more than one talk show about the symbolic violence against women, how they sometimes recreate their own subjugation and suffering within society today, and the shaming and silencing of women. That meant so much to me to be invited to do that. Not for points, or arrogance, but to share my own horror story and speak out against everything females are subjected to at the hands of males.

And now, a male is directing this.

Fuck

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-30T21:59:49+00:00

Lies. https://ndsmcobserver.com/2010/04/what-can-body-odor-tells-us-about-sexual-attraction-and-sexual-orientation/

Lesbians and gay men have differences in the major histocompatibility molecules tied to the immune system, brain, and olfactory. First off, that's in place to be attached to someone's bo and pheromones. Lesbians and gay people have mhc that operates differently than straight people, and that's a fact. We weren't created. There is no God or sky daddy. What do you call a man who never has sex even though he has a penis? incel.

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-30T21:43:46+00:00

Bull fucking shit to the commenter in that thread who stated physical attraction is 100 percent society and sensory cues, and that genetics is not involved. Fucking lies. Females especially have more than one system in progress when we smell other people. Our biology knows from HLA ( mhc in animals) if someone is genetically close to our genetic makeup ( the species mates for diversity, so someone who is close to you might be weird and icky if you kiss), pheromones are driven by genetics. Just because some male shoots up estradiol doesn't mean he's a lesbian and that REAL lesbians can't know the difference. That's where genetics IS involved. The many trans widows I spoke to commented, every one, that when they had close contact with the husband after he started shooting up, he didn't smell like a man anymore, or a woman. Some joked alien. Studies have shown statically significant evidence of a few things: Females ( hetero) when blindfolded and handed a few dozen shirts to smell, know which one is their husband's. Also, those same women reported getting disgusted by smelling some of the other shirts and found them a turn off-- and those are the ones which have the genetic similarities. With regards to the olfactory system and genetics, it's proven lesbians have a biologically different system going on. More than that, and upsetting, is researchers believe that after some women are harassed and attacked by men, their hla will change to not want men anymore. What that means is they are without home and try to date women because they are biologically now repulsed by xy. There are some women-- born that way, and some are made. Therapy will never work fully because that system just changed. Your fucking biology can change from getting assaulted.

The whole thread of comments is disgusting.

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-29T18:37:16+00:00

I said this in the "How I became labeled a TERF" medium article I wrote in part three. It was not because they are trans or anything else. It is that every single one is acting the exact same way--it was fucking mindlblowing!!!!!!! And every time, they got super stalkery--some digitally and some in person. Every single fucking time. Every single fucking one has a story in their heads. I was talking to Duncan for those who are aware on Twitter directly via DM--he explained some gay male sexuality thing to me. He said that gay men, the subby ones, will say the words, "make me your boy" and the TIMs were saying that to me in messages, "make me your woman". Every single one has this fantasy all planned out in their heads of their entire lives--they have it all mapped out, and you are shit on if you do not fucking conform to the character role.

Fucking insanity

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-23T16:44:13+00:00

I was sexually assaulted and worse--I never attacked anyone. I never told anyone to get over their assault. One out of three women in the US are assaulted at least, only 5% come forward (rainn).

I want you to think about something for a moment here, and take my words VERY seriously.

I do not remember the exact specifics, but there was a case of a man who either raped or murdered a young girl. He went to prison, but his lawyers had a functional MRI done on his brain, and they were able to say that because he suffered damage to his brain as a child, he was not knowing what he had done at the time.

I do not even know if I posted this elsewhere, because quite frankly, I am tired of debating logically fallacious arguments. But you and others, need to think. THINK

Now, this man was given special release, and then he went and did it again.

Here's the thing--do all people with brain injuries rape and murder children? NO.

But here is the dystopia we are not that far off from--if you are deemed to have an area of your brain damaged, could you be locked up or not given jobs by employers, and struggle in other areas in life, because you are now deemed to probably be a child murderer even though you have done nothing? YES

People are already asked on some job applications about physical and mental fitness.

I am in the US

I know lots of people who were abused and went through pure hell.

We never bullied anyone.

NO excuse

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-14T02:09:18+00:00

You should like you may be leading quite an awesome life for yourself! Would you have done those things if you were in a relationship?

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-14T02:07:11+00:00

I had this once.I started dating a woman who thought (she made soooo much more than me, and that, well that's a lot) and she just wanted me to go on vacation with her for a month, and she just could not wrap her brain around why not.

But that's the difference--wrapping your brain around someone having responsibility and still being there. I have neighbors, one wakes at 3 AM to go to work, the other goes to work at 3 PM. They always seem so happy holding hands outside, they have been together like 20 years. In the end, love is an ability, and an action, and a desire to make things happen.A choice.

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-14T02:04:45+00:00

Less common. That is usually with males--narcissistic chite lies on the XY chromosome.

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-14T02:04:12+00:00

Right. some women are narcs too.

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-14T02:02:05+00:00

I posted about this, although I am not 50 :) I am younger but still considered cougar. I am not hitting on you, but you would never be bored around me. My hobbies are numerous, like my education. And silliness goes a long way! If someone wouldn't just totally mess with me in a good way on a dating app, that would just be awesome if I had some funny, off the wall banter going on.I'll keep dreaming.

FluffyPotato · 2020-08-14T01:59:44+00:00

This is good! Sorry I am new posting here. I used to back on Reddit. Sigh. I have journals I write in, and one is my field manual of sorts, and my non negotiables. I focus on things I will accept, and things that are just a nope.

There are too many mediocre things in life. Love should not be one of them.

FluffyPotato