Private, invite only, women's health subreddit gets banned after 3 days for secretly talking about periods. by Pixie_Waifu in GenderCritical
[–]Elysian 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun - 23 hours ago (0 children)
Embroidery, beading, cross stitch, and baking. Gardening and aquariums. Cats.
/s/GenderCritical needs more cat pictures
As much as I disliked the far right subs, I have to say boo-hoo to this by Habesnicht in GenderCritical
[–]Elysian 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun - 2 days ago (0 children)
It assuaged their deep need for control and their right to a hugbox.
Seriously, that admin who shut all the female-focused subreddits down is probably wanking over it right now.
(Saidit) PEAK TRANS I: Please continue to share your stories!! by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical
[–]Elysian 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun - 3 days ago (0 children)
I'm just a little bit older than most people here. I've never thought that men could be women. I've seen and interacted with a few trans individuals and they were all the TIM type, and definitely not passing. I'll never forget the one behind the bar at the pub near the train station in Manchester. Full makeup, beard, dress... he was amazing.
I never thought they wanted to pass. I just assumed that they liked wearing women's clothing. No big deal. They can wear what they like. I knew a few teenage boys who would wear skirts as a statement that they were making, not sure what kind of statement, but if they wanted to wear skirts, that is no problem at all. Skirts for everyone.
But then they started taking hormones and getting gender reassignment surgery and I was uneasy with that. Of course they could mutilate their bodies if they really, really want to, but who were the people doing this to them? Being okay with cutting off healthy body parts? Why was this starting to become more acceptable?
I was told in an internet forum some time ago that some people were born with the wrong brain. I may be knowledgeable in my field, but I definitely do not know enough about biology to prove them wrong. I thought, hell it may be possible, certain brain deformities do exist - but I didn't like the idea that it meant I, as a woman, had a different brain than a man. Structurally. Because that would bolster clear sexist beliefs. Wouldn't it?
Eventually I researched this and found that it was a lie. About the same time, a friend of a friend decided he was trans. That man was in his 30s, tall, ugly, and weird. But he wants us to call him Lucy now, and pretend he's a woman. Noooooo. No thank you. I'm not going to participate in your delusions. You need psychological assistance. Not pandering.
I think I knew it was autogynaephilia even before that was reported widely. It was clear he didn't really believe he was a woman. He wanted to have sex with women but they wouldn't go near him, so this was the next best thing.
It was sad. And I'm here now, and the more I read the more horrified I get.
One of my favorite Gail Dines Lectures on Pornography by Irascible-harpy in GenderCritical
[–]Elysian 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun - 3 days ago (0 children)
This is wonderful, thanks for sharing.
r/PCOS removes for not being gender neutral. Another example of misogyny within reddit. by hylia in GenderCritical
I know right? Pink shirts, of all things. Lots of cultures are worse though, and I think it is getting better over time.
[–]Elysian 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun - 3 days ago (0 children)
That does sound pretty terrible. I wouldn't want to be named after my father's first name, at least our last names are pretty neutral because our aunts and sisters and grandmother on our dad's side share the same name, until they get married of course. I was able to keep my dad's last name when I got married, and I know of families that are sharing the mother's last name, which I think is nice. It is nice to be able to choose. It makes you feel like you have some autonomy.
[–]Elysian 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun - 4 days ago (0 children)
It's funny you should bring up the word "doctor" because "doctor" in French is always un médecin, masculine, whether it's a woman or a man. So are babies, they're always masculine.
Languages are fascinating. As you point out, female/woman includes male/man, but for other things we do have gendered terms. Cow/bull, dog/bitch, hen/cockerel - although bulls are also cows and bitches are also dogs and no matter the gendered word for chicken, they're all chickens. I take your point on English being confusing.
It is still really strange for me to gender nouns, because what makes a noun sound feminine? In French if a noun ends in "ie" or "ee" it's more likely to be feminine, but why? Why does it have to have a sex, why can't it just be a word? And how did that word form in such a way that made it sound feminine?
English used to capitalise nouns like somewhat like German still does, I think "I" being capitalised is an artefact.
[–]Elysian 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun - 4 days ago (0 children)
No, it's even stranger than that. Women can have girlfriends that they are not in relations with. I have lots of girlfriends. I can only have one boyfriend however. Men can have one girlfriend and no boyfriends at all unless they are gay. The logic is hard to follow and honestly it doesn't make much sense.
I'm brushing up on my French at the moment and I'm having difficulty with all the gendered nouns because they feel inherently sexist to me. Why is a table feminine, who made this decision? Is there something inherently womanly about tables? Why is milk masculine, doesn't make sense.
Anti-porn hub campaigner has pet killed in campaign of harassment by jet199 in GenderCritical
[–]Elysian 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun - 4 days ago (0 children)
I really am not not exaggerating when I say I feel terribly bad for the young women now. Social media, pornsick boys, the push to surgically change your body, and now the transgender people. So glad I grew up where the worst problems were date rape and sexual harassment/abuse.
I thought society would improve with time, guess I was wrong.
[–]Elysian 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun - 6 days ago (0 children)
I remember when only pervs looked at porn, and it was mostly pictures in magazines. There were videos of course but there's a huge difference between literally millions of videos and one blurry VHS you borrowed from your friend. Boys now start looking at porn at the age of nine and watch it for hours a day. This is a tremendous sea change in our sexuality as a species which can't be studied easily due to the lack of a control group.
So it's come to this. by gparmesan in GenderCritical
[–]Elysian 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun - 11 days ago (0 children)
Older and British, checking in ;)
[–]Elysian 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun - 11 days ago (0 children)
I actually posted a few times saying that I don't hate transgender people and I thought we should be clear that we don't hate them - many people agreed with me. I think for the most part we feel pity towards transgender people, they are obviously very confused and going through a lot. But... they aren't women.
Fuck the patriarchy forcing women away from being honest about their opinions
11 days ago by Elysian to /s/Introductions from self.Introductions