NB : not feminine by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is similar to my experience. Most of them either sport a shaved head or short brightly colored hair. 2/3 have been very forth coming about their mental illness both were borderline. They also seem to have to bring it up in discussions whenever they can. I diffinetly get the not-like-the-other girls vibes. I had one try to explain how hard it was to find plus size non binary fashion and I was like how? you could shop in both mens and womens departments how could it possibly be that hard. I only ever saw her in like 3 outfits and I saw the same shirt day after day... they seem like an odd bunch to say the least

What a surprise! TiF arrested during Seattle protest wants to be a woman when it comes to jail... by BEB in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Junior year isn't necessarily based on age though. They could have junior class standing and be younger. They also could have been enrolled full time through summers and graduated early. The point is moot either way. Like previous comments have said I don't see someone academically motivated or gifted working at a grocery store after graduating with a nursing degree. Its also possible they went through CNA training which is significantly shorter but again it doesn't make sense for them to be working at a grocery store when CNAs make more money. You bring up a valid point they very well could be someone with first aid/ cpr training pretending they have greater knowledge than they actually do. A lot of trans people seem to have an ego so it wouldn't surprise me.

Edit: typos

What a surprise! TiF arrested during Seattle protest wants to be a woman when it comes to jail... by BEB in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There is a program in their region that allows high school students to enter college if they have junior standing and a high enough GPA. They likely finished their AA around 17 and then completed a 4 year degree at 19.

[Vent] Vent about myself by iloveyou in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I don't shave my legs or armpits either. I've never received a comment from an adult but my niece once asked me why I had man legs. I told her I was a woman and thus I had woman legs. She asked why they had hair I told her it's because I didn't shave it off. She seemed fine with that. No adult has ever made a comment. I've gotten the occasional odd stare but I just stare back. I don't expect to be attractive to everyone. If someone thinks I'm ugly, oh well. Do you know what's even more attractive than shaved legs? Confidence.

I used to struggle with fitting in. It was exhausting. I used to constantly try to figure out what interests other girls had so I could share them. I used to freak out about not clicking into friends groups. I eventually realized it was making me miserable and other people could tell I didn't share their interests. I started shamelessly liking what I like. When I started pursuing my interests I started finding women with those interests who I clicked well with.

You're a human being. You're allowed to be complex. You're not supposed to fit into a neat little box with a pretty label. You can like pink and football. You can cook and work on cars. You can like fashion and dungeons and dragons. Like whatever makes you happy. If someone wants to judge you for it that's on them. Don't live your life to make other people happy or you'll be miserable.

New study confirms: Gender Diverse show much higher rates of autism by BEB in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I agree vehemently. Telling someone that transitioning will cure their gender dysphoria which will then cure their depression and anxiety and give them self confidence sets up extremely unrealistic and unhealthy expectations. There are also unrealistic expectations with how transition will turn out. They have expectations they'll become handsome men or beautiful women and they very very rarely do. I feel bad for these people.

So I need advice about my college class... I am taking Sociology of sex and gender. We have discussion posts and this post is about the social construction of gender. I am pretty sure in trying to be neutral that I messed up. How the flying fudge do i fox this?! Any advice is appreciated! by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Ask questions to stimulate conversation. "What happens when we redefine woman? Who does this help? Who does this hurt? Why do we need to redefine woman to step outside gender roles or norms? Do we have to redefine woman to step escape gender roles? What stereotypes are we enforcing? What effect does that have?" Etc.... try to make them think critically.

So I need advice about my college class... I am taking Sociology of sex and gender. We have discussion posts and this post is about the social construction of gender. I am pretty sure in trying to be neutral that I messed up. How the flying fudge do i fox this?! Any advice is appreciated! by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I took psychology of sex and gender not that long ago and my strategy was to let them "educate" me for wrong speak if need be. I don't know the political climate of your university but mine is a very liberal school in one of the most liberal states. I would feign ignorance if I sensed they felt threatened and let them explain things to me. Some topics were easier for me to write more openly and honestly about because other students expressed either opinions closer to mine or were fence sitting (trans women in sports, children transition etc.) I was honestly surprised at how many agreed with me.

Personally I think you came across pretty neutral. So I wouldn't worry too much.

New study confirms: Gender Diverse show much higher rates of autism by BEB in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm guessing this comes from the researchers misinterpretation. I have ASD and no one has ever told me they could cure it. I've always been told I can be taught how to manage symptoms and build social skills. It would make sense for a clinician to try to address other mental health concerns before approving transition. I'd argue its good practice even, but I can't imagine any clinical psychologist suggesting they could cure autism or to be frank any mental health issue. They typically look for ways to treat and manage symptoms. Using the term 'cure' could set up an unrealistic expectation for treatment even with things like anxiety, depression or PTSD.

Internet Movie Database (IMDB) has a BEWARE the TERF list - Rowling, Gervais, Rogan all make it on! by BEB in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thank you for the info!!! I think calling her a TERF is a bit of a stretch if she's just supporting detransitioners but it's TRAs so...

Internet Movie Database (IMDB) has a BEWARE the TERF list - Rowling, Gervais, Rogan all make it on! by BEB in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 10 insightful - 2 fun10 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Nina Hagen is GC?

The neuroscientist shattering the myth of the gendered brain by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Libfem is short hand for Liberal Feminist. My understanding is that Gender critical is a radfem (radical feminist) movement. So most are radfem or share radfem veiws.

"I'm Not Like Everybody Else" - Anthem for Non-binary, "Queer" & Gender Speshuls Released by Major Record Label by MarkTwainiac in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Have you seen "I Am Not OK With This"? It's based on another work of the author of It's the End of the F-ing World. Also on Netflix. I enjoyed it immensely.

Before peaking, how much of an ally were you? by Dravidian in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I would say that I started out more neutral than a supporter. It wasn't something I thought about or heard much about. Like others have stated I assumed it was kind of like being gay. When my friends little sister socially transitioned at 13. I was mostly confused but respected name and pronoun changes because I didn't want to be seen as cruel. She had previous mental health issues and was bullied so I felt like she was delicate and I didn't want to say the wrong thing. Then she started hormones and the family was in talks about her getting a double mastectomy. She was so young I couldn't believe her family would support her making such a life altering decision. After she had her mastectomy (at 16) it was just so strange to me. Like this kid didn't know what she wanted to do for a career or if she wanted to go to school and they told her there was no rush to decide. Like what????? She doesn't have to rush making a decision on changeable life choices like school or work but by all means she can make a choice about something that has completely changed her life permanently. After that I got more skeptical of the movement and then on social media I started seeing the crap like "not being attracted to trans people is transphobic" or "misgendering is literally violence". I was done. I started watching Magdalen Berns' videos and started gaining radfem and GC views. From there I made it to the old GC reddit and haunted faithfully until it was taken down. I think being isolated in the pandemic and seeing JK Rowling tweet finally emboldened me to post.

The neuroscientist shattering the myth of the gendered brain by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Hi so the reason that studies that find differences are more likely to be published is because those results are often considered more interesting. Thus publishers will likely sell more articles and make more money. This is a big problem in the social science community often referred to as the file drawer effect. It can lead to researchers manipulating their data by dropping outliers or participants to manipulate results. This is called p-hacking and has caused some publishers to change how articles are submitted. All researchers have bias. And often this affects methodology and interpretations of results as well.

There are size differences between male and female brains but this has always been found to correlate with body size (smaller woman = smaller hands, feet, heart, brains...larger man = larger hands, feet, heart, brains). There are also size differences in structures but again when controlling for overall size of the brain or person they disappear. It would be like me saying I measured pinky toes and found men's pinky toes were significantly bigger. Like duh men are bigger and have bigger feet.

It's not so much they are "identical brains" as much as it is being argued that neuroplasticy causes brains to develop/change based on use and environment. Brains are kind of like muscles in a sense because the more you use a part of the brain the more neuropathways develop in that area. In a sense what you're saying is true, men and women typically have different interest and hobbies but can be contributed to differences in social roles as well as other biological factors like muscle mass and hormones. But these differences in interest can affect where the brains develop.

The big problem with assuming they are inherently different is that historically brain science has been used as evidence to support sexist and racist ideas. Another problem with many of these studies is sampling. Most research is conducted on what we refer to as W.E.I.R.D. or White/western, educated, industrialized, rich, democratic societies. Cross cultural research has been finding that a lot of research conducted in western societies often only apply to those who were studied aka the W.E.I.R.D. people.

Again you are correct there are many biological differences that explain the difference in behavior and abilities between men and women. However, the brain structure seems to be more subject to individual and environmental differences than sex differences. Most behavioral differences can largely be attributed to hormones.

Your final statement about getting rid of the notion that there is no difference strikes me as odd. Most libfems would argue that men and women are mostly the same and there's no difference. Radfems usually argue that men and women are greatly different thus why they don't believe men can know what its like to be women. I think most radfems don't support the idea of sexed brains because it's often used to enforce stereotypes, gender roles and discrimination against women. We're not big on sexist stereotypes and gender roles here. And I'm sure you can imagine how we feel about discrimination.

But Minors aren't being given hormones or surgery... by Sunflowerdevyl in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I peaked after I found out a friend's sister had been put on hormones and was having a double mastectomy. She was 16 at the time. I have friends who can't get their tubes tied in their 20s because "they might change their minds and want kids" but the medical community is fine with chemically sterilizing and removing healthy breasts from a teenager.

Non binary asks if they are welcome. Disregards only answer that says no and calls them transphobic. Why bother asking? by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I guess it would depend on who is defining lesbian too then. Most would say a woman who is attracted to other women is a lesbian regardless of how she identifies. I'm guessing the TRA definition for lesbian is anyone who is attracted to women but does not identify as a man. It seems like faulty logic to me. They seem to think sexual attraction is based on gender so someone who identifies as nonbinary would not be a woman to them so wouldn't they be excluded from lesbiandating circles? Maybe I'm overthinking it.

Non binary asks if they are welcome. Disregards only answer that says no and calls them transphobic. Why bother asking? by [deleted] in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 42 insightful - 2 fun42 insightful - 1 fun43 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Wtf that makes no sense. How can one be nonbinary and a lesbian? Are they trying to make words referring to sexual orientation meaningless? Do they expect lesbians to be attracted to real women, transwomen and nonbinary people who could be female or male? Isn't that just pansexual without actual men? You can't assume other peoples gender but go ahead and decide their sexual orientation and preferences for them. I feel bad for real lesbians. What a nightmare.

I peaked after dating a trans girl and need advice on how to leave by lunemoonjune in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'm glad to be of help to you. I wish you the best and hope that you are able to find someone that can meet your needs and bring you joy.

Do you guys think men and women have different brains? by eddyelric in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes our brains change based on our environment and events but this would contribute to individual differences and not average differences between sexes.

I peaked after dating a trans girl and need advice on how to leave by lunemoonjune in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 35 insightful - 1 fun35 insightful - 0 fun36 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It doesn't sound like her penis is your only problem with her. It sounds like you're also frustrated with her self esteem and lack of long term goals. While these issues appear interconnected, most people want to be with a partner that has long term goals and cares enough about themselves to take care of their basic needs. If you are concerned that if you make her penis your reason for breaking up, I would suggest changing focus. You need someone who loves themselves, you need someone who takes care of themselves and you need someone that wants to work towards a future. While it seems you do care for her she can't give you what you need right now. You know more about the situation than I do so leave it up to your own discretion as to whether or not you want to leave things open for discussion IF she were to change. I think if your concerned making the breakup about her transness would be triggering then don't make it about her transness there are very clearly other issues in your relationship that are grounds for breaking up. Would you date a natal woman who has to be reminded to take care of herself, has no goals or ambitions, and no self-esteem? I wouldn't.

Do you guys think men and women have different brains? by eddyelric in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Very interesting. Based on your comment, I was able to find a study that found that women had more regional GM than men when controlled for brain size. However, most of the articles I've found thus far have suggested women have more WM and men have more GM overall. I also couldn't find anything suggest that the pineal gland was larger in women when controlled for brain size. I'm limited to EBSCO host and Google scholar at the moment and haven't done much digging yet but I'll keep looking.

If sexism and misogyny remained socially acceptable despite the legal equality it's possible these studies could have been influenced by researcher bias.

Do you guys think men and women have different brains? by eddyelric in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You brought up a lot of excellent points. I'm not familiar with the cloacal entropy cases but I remember the case of David Reimer was similar. He suffered a botched circumcision as an infant and the doctors involved decided to preform SRS on him and have his parents raise him as a girl. He ended up being the focus of an experiment on nature vs nuture and to see if gender was inate. Reimer reported being unhappy as a girl and began suspecting he was a boy around 10 and at 15 he was told the truth and detransitioned. Unfortunately, the damage was irrevocable and he suffered from mental health issues before taking his own life in his 30s.

I also agree that a lot of this gets overstated. There's an issue in psychology (maybe in other fields as well) where if research results fail to have significant findings they don't get published. This is called the file drawer problem. So while a few studies have found differences we have no idea how many have found similarities. It also contributes to an issue called P-Hacking in which researchers manipulate their data to make it look like they found something they didn't so they will get published.

I think it's something that still needs to be studied and explored. But that won't happen in the current political climate in academia.

Do you guys think men and women have different brains? by eddyelric in GenderCritical

[–]BewitchedSam 34 insightful - 1 fun34 insightful - 0 fun35 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm a neuropsych major. From what I've learned there is some controversy in the field about this. Some studies have shown that men typically have more grey matter and women have more white matter. However, more recent studies have shown that the distributions overlap and it's not always in predictable ways. There are size differences between male and female brains but research has shown that this corresponds with body sizes. Something to keep in mind is historically brain differences have been used to as a justification for sexism and racism. So I approach such studies with skepticism and try to look for signs of bias on the researchers part.