WHAT ABOUT INTERNATIONAL MENS DAY

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[–]magnora7 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

I do want a women sub, but what I want more are mods who follow the saidit rules so this whole website doesn't implode like reddit did. That's more important to me.

[–]NeedMoreCoffee 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

If you want a woman sub you are going to need to let it be moderated to be woman friendly. It requires stricter guidelines because every place for women gets constantly bombarded and attacked and women just don't want to deal with that anymore. that is just how it is.

They rather go to ovarit or spinster or mumsnet and stay in the bubble and not set foot in another place that allows men just mocking them without consequences.

[–]magnora7 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah, exactly. People who want the bubbles already have their bubbles. So the real interesting part is to have both sides allowed all the time. That's why saidit has value.

You can still remove things that aren't in good faith... that's part of the saidit mod rules too.

But you can't delete the dead links, especially if they're not dead! lol

[–]NeedMoreCoffee 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You are missing the point. Women will never flock to saidit if you don't give them a space away from the constant harassment of men they face IRL and online on a daily basis. Saidit at the moment has no value if you are a woman. I'm sorry to say, but im only on here because of LGBDroptheT. If that is gone i'm out because nowhere else is of any value to me as a woman.

And i thought the link was dead damnit! 😭

[–]AXXA 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

give them a space away from the constant harassment of men they face IRL and online on a daily basis

Giving women their own space for their own discussions is an admirable goal. LGBDroptheT is an example of a similar kind of sub for gays and lesbians to have their own space for their own discussions. Think about how if LGBDroptheT were on /all then it would be destroyed by essentially inviting a constant stream of homophobes harassing the participants. Being on /all is contrary to the goal of having a space of their own because it opens the sub up to everybody. It's true what you say about /all being full of misandrists. The sub needs to be publicized for it to grow but publicizing in on /all is not the crowd that you want to attract. Growing the sub as a space for women is a job for more than one person. My advice is to assemble a mod team of people that share your goal and will share the work of growing the sub. I'm sure if you reached out to the mods of LGBDroptheT they would have some really good advice and even help you publicize and grow this sub.

Today I actually watched all six episodes of the group of women surviving on the island with only basic tools. It was an incredibly powerful and moving story. They went through a transformation together in many ways. Early on they caught a pig in an improvised trap. But they didn't work together to secure the pig and it broke loose and ran away. But later they found a pig sleeping. This time they worked together as one to quickly and decisively capture and dispatch the pig. One of the problems they faced was everybody was just doing their own thing without any coordination. Important tasks were being overlooked causing acrimony and a breakdown of their survival. They didn't begin to thrive until they elected leaders to direct the work being done. They elected two co-leaders to work together to lead the group of ten women. And it was the group as a whole that decided by election who those leaders should be. I believe this sub is the same. It won't survive unless you bring together a group of women that work together towards the same goal. If you're feeling overwhelmed that is only natural because this is too much work for one person on their own. I believe jet199 would be a great asset to this sub if you reached out to her and included her in your vision for this sub. And I'm sure there are many participants on LGBDroptheT and GenderCritical that would be happy to help too once you ask them.