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[–]Zapped 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

He should not have used the word "baggage". At the very least, he should have told he that he's really busy and can't find the time or not interested in getting together right now. At the most, he should have told her that he's not ready or capable of taking on the responsibility of dating a woman with children. Using the word "baggage" sends a message to her that her child is holding her back and the child may suffer.

[–]Musky[S] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

It was not the most politick word choice. Although women generally realize what a child does to their dating potential, or they soon discover it. Not saying it doesn't change the situation of the child, who often is going to get a backseat to the parent's dating. I think people just want to be polite moreso than realistic.

[–]Zapped 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (1 child)

He may have matured since he knew her before. He should have set boundaries for their "friendship" then. She did. Maybe she has matured since then and changed what she looks for in a mate, although it sounds like her feelings were hurt and felt the need to complain to their friend group, so she hasn't totally matured.

I wonder if she has put on weight and he is using the child as an excuse to not date her so that he sounds like he took the high road. But, that is a big guess on my part.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

There's always a lot of context missing missing from posts like these. At the end of the day, it was a very rude way to reject someone.

You're always spot on, Zapped.