What do you guys think about asking for consent?

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[–]chottohen 3 insightful - 4 fun3 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Nowadays I have them sign a release before we do anything.🥹

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I let them sign a contract containing an NDA. The information that i already found my queen is clearly stated in it.

Germans "love" contracts but i'd rather call mine "pacts".

Considering the fact that most women i meet that want to have sex are playing some cheap con anyways.

Some other guys use roofies but that doesn't fit my style.

[–]CreditKnifeMan 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Germans "love" contracts but i'd rather call mine "pacts".

Sitting at the bar with a clipboard, legal pad, and a red fountain pen.

Wearing a cape.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

No cape !

And my most favourite fountain pen has purple ink in it.

But i recognize my fellas and the gals that get my gist.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

I feel like asking for consent in general has been really misunderstood /overblown. If people had the ability to read social cues it wouldn't be such a big problem, but autism has become very prevalent in the average person to the point that they can't tell when it's appropriate to sexually touch another person.

My husband didn't ask for consent last night, I guess I was raped.

I don't buy the whole "wah double standard for men 🥺" thing because it's the male version of whining feminists.

[–]Canbot[S] 4 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

I don't buy the whole "wah double standard for men 🥺" thing because it's the male version of whining feminists.

That's not really a logical thought because it being "whiny" does not make it true or false. Unless what you mean to say is you will deny that it exists because you have no sympathy. Which is most women's stance, but you should be honest about it.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I think feminists and men's rights activists are both missing the mark on a lot of issues and refusing to understand the opposing viewpoints. While I do think that both are whiny, that isn't my reasoning behind disagreeing with them.

I actually really disagree that "most women" have that stance - most women cater to men's feelings because they are attempting to be socially desirable. It might not seem that way if you're looking at a group of libs on a college campus, but that's not exactly a representative sample of the population..

[–]blackpoop321 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I mock it during sex and its grown on me, now I think it's kinda hot:

"I'm gonna force my way into your asshole now if thats okay?"

and before she can say anything you slap her ass and add: "just asking for consent" and before she can say anything, proceed with the anal penetration, consent is implied because she's already face down all lubed up anyway.

[–]jet199Instigatrix 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (18 children)

This is bullshit. There are plenty of convictions against women for sexual assault on men because they didn't consent to being touched.

Male consent is very much a thing, they are trying to blur the issue by only looking at cases where men were the active party and the women passive. If you are doing something to someone else then your consent is never going to be an issue.

[–]Canbot[S] 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (5 children)

I think they are just speaking from experience. Most people agree that there is a double standard. A handful of convictions against women does not disprove that. It is certainly not "plenty".

[–]jet199Instigatrix 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

If less men are complaining of sexual assault it's likely they are getting sexually assaulted less.

Or what do you think is happening?

[–]Canbot[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Most men would not complain about sexual assault because they know they will receive very little compassion or sympathy.

That does not mean that the sexual assault is equal. The proportionality doesn't change anything. There is still a double standard, even if it happens less to men.

[–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

No, women are 100% innocent and can do no wrong and everything bad is mens' fault. Even when a woman does something bad it's actually a man's responsibility somehow.

[–]Canbot[S] 1 insightful - 2 fun1 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

The patriarchy made them do it.

[–]Vulptex 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Or could it be that the men know they will be harassed if they accuse a woman of anything?

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (11 children)

Male consent is very much a thing,

I do not see the equivalence of me waking up to find my ex riding me to a woman experiencing that.

[–]jet199Instigatrix 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

It would be sexual assault if you didn't want it.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

Well, I didn't think my thing was that bad, so if they're equivalent then maybe everyone is just overreacting about sexual assault.

Or lets say that a guy gets really drunk and women line up to have sex with him. That sounds kinda awesome. Women like that sort of thing too, right?

[–]Canbot[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

What about an 18 year old guy getting pressured to drink too much, then when he is near passing out 20 gay men run a train on his ass? That would be pretty fucked up.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That's what I was trying to hint at here, penetrating someone is not the same as being penetrated.

[–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Because you base your self-worth off of your role in society and biology, and you know you are far less important and valuable than a woman according to them. Therefore you ignore your own needs and those of other men while trying to solve every inconvenience women have. And you greatly downplay mens' needs and misfortunes while exaggerating womens'.

This is also why men are always the ones who sacrifice themselves for women and never the other way around.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Everything you write is stupid and wrong. You are the epitome of a little bit of knowledge is dangerous thing. Smart to hate himself, too dumb to put into context. And you construct a fantasy world which is no more admirable than the other kin tumblerinas.

But goddamn, I like you anyways motherfucker. ✊🏿 You are always welcome in the Muskrat Kingdom.

[–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

You said it's all stupid and wrong, but did not explain why. Would you mind doing that for me?

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Your input is bad. Gigo. Garbage in, garbage out. Your basic perceptual filter is broke dude.

https://saidit.net/s/music/comments/9fsa/musical_youth_pass_the_dutchie_stranger_things/

[–]Vulptex 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm not sure I understand

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

There's no matrix, there's no simulation, your life wouldn't be better as a chick. Everything you think is wrong. You're building your thoughts on bad information, and so the conclusions aren't even worth consideration. Like the results from a broken calculator.

[–][deleted] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Hey Vulpie!

[–]hfxB0oyA 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Also, sexual harassment charges are rarely levelled at an attractive man who shows interest in a woman.

[–]Canbot[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's not harrasment if it is desired. The problem is women playing hard to get makes it impossible for guys to tell if thier rejection is a game or not. There are also some guys who won't take no for an answer. There is definitely a need to push back against the agressive men who won't accept no. But it has to be an nuanced policy that is honest about, and takes into consideration all the factors. The metric for determining if it is harrasment can't be "she said so".

[–]hfxB0oyA 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Agreed.

[–]Bridgeheadprod 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Fucking brilliant