Wife ignored me until I threatened to donate all of our money to charity

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[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I've spent years in NA and reddit alcoholic forums

most of what you have done has most likely been an entire waste of your time.

AA has it's own agenda and AA cares more about AA than it cares about you.

most people that try to play the sponsor role dont really know how to act as counselors.

i offered my time to you and i asked you for nothing except to ask if you wanted to change and you responded by telling me about all of your past failures.

a sizeable majority of the crowd in AA are not actually alcoholics, just fyi, but i cant speak about the crowd in NA.

since i have already determined that you are in fact a legitimate alcoholic, my next question to you would be to ask you what is it like for you when you are drinking.

your move.

https://youtu.be/5Qr3LN4IONw?t=1

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't mean to offend you, it is a very generous offer. I think we probably understand addiction about the same, and that's not a slight on you. I have spent a considerable amount of time studying the matter.

Imo, NA is a better version than AA cause they do cooler drugs than booze, but also booze. All those 12 step programs have two fatal flaws, it brings addicts together, and those addicts talk about booze & drugs and all the shitty things they've ever done to get high. It's a real fucking downer.

You really just have to want it enough to suffer through the discomfort of wanting a drink, and that feeling gets less shitty over time. Also realizing that no, this time won't be different. There's tricks n shit that help, I find tea very helpful, I think it's because of the theanine. Hobbies. Stay the fuck away from other addicts. .... After you fuck the cute girl in group.

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You have many classic behaviors of an alcoholic.

You will probably drink for the remainder of your life

I , on the other hand, do not suffer from alcoholism.

Best wishes