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[–]NodeThis is my flair. There are many like it, but this one is mine. 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Different people are fine with different levels of abuse and oppression, and I suppose they have that right. I'm not fine with bullies and oppressors, and I disagree with enabling them, whether by the victims or others.

More than a "finger of blame" should have been pointed at the evil fuckers running that place. If their replacements were also evil? Same deal. If someone were torturing my father, a massive amount of shit would hit the fan, and them.

I am not tolerant.

[–]coffee_addict[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

The "evil fuckers" are the government bureaucrats who created these nightmarish guidelines. I guess I should be pointing the finger of blame pointed at them.

Here is a copy/paste of what I wrote above: nursing homes and assisted living facilities relied heavily on family members to come in and help put. Those facilities are thinly staffed with grossly underpaid workers. Once the family members weren't allowed to help out anymore, the workers could't keep up with the work-load. That is why my dad was so severely neglected in the nursing home -- since he never actually got sick, it was easy to forget about him when there were so many very sick people there that needed urgent care.

The people at the facility that my dad lives in are nice people who are trying their best given the horrid regulations that have been straddled on them by the state. Not only has their workload gone up because of the families not being able to help out, the new guidelines create a lot more work for them. For example, now they have to deliver meals/pick them up from each room. Much more work than having everyone eat in the dining room. The staff are all working massive overtime and are exhausted. They are desperate to reduce their workload. They are desperate to have their residents be happy people who can go out and do things like get pain shots. They don't like dealing with crabby and depressed people. I can see why, when told they can't re-open without full vaccine compliance, they would push my dad.

In their defense, they had an epi-pen ready and waited with him for 1/2 hour to ensure that he didn't have an anphlaxic reaction right then. In their minds, they did everything they needed to do to ensure safe administration of the vaccine and I am sure it never crossed their minds that the reaction would take a different form at a later time.

One more thing I want to mention is that my dad did not choose to move into an assisted living facility. The state of NV told him he wasn't allowed to live alone anymore and basically forced him into a facility against his will. That was almost a year before the COVID crises hit, so almost 2 years ago.

[–]waterydunehair 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

You said the employees are underpaid and overworked. What do you expect? People to work harder for even less compensation? It's a shitty entry level job filled with dumb people who phone it in.

You're not going to get high quality work underpaying people to be 24/7 personal butler's literally wiping asses all day.

If you want people to take care of you when you're old. You have to pay for it. If you can't pay for it, you better hope you have a good relationship with family/friends who will take care of you.

[–]coffee_addict[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

That was my point. We need to value the people who care for our elderly more. We should have always been paying them more and not making them work crazy hours. There should have always been enough staff on duty for each shift to fully meet the residents' needs without relying on the families to come in and help. The system was totally broken before COVID, but thanks to COVID, we can no longer turn a blind-eye to the broken nature of it. As a society, we need to re-examine our values.

[–]waterydunehair 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Cool, I was a bit reactionary. But seems like we're on the same page.