I'm Asexual. I don't consider myself LGBT and really don't want to be involved with that community due the politics and highly-sexual nature of it.

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[–]jelliknight 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I can't understand what you mean can you please explain?

Hormonal birth control for example can cause lack of sexual desire and attraction. I would class sexual desire are the physical desire resulting in wanting to have sex or masturbate, while sexual attraction is a similar feeling specifically directed towards a particular person. I might feel sexual desire right now because I want that act right now, but I feel sexual attraction to that guy because he seems like I'd want to do that act with him as some point. A lack of desire and a lack of attraction are closely linked. If you disagree can you explain how?

Many hormonal issues can be chronic. It's possible to have them all your life, or to develop them over time, or suddenly. They can result in feeling a lack of sexual desire and therefore feeling no sexual attraction to anyone in particular.

It's possible that a person may simply have a naturally extremely low sex drive and be asexual (unable to experience sexual attraction). It's also possible that it's the result of a physiological condition which may be causing other physiological issues and needs to be investigated.

It seems to be really important to you that asexuality ISN'T fixable. Why?

[–]Wandering_Idiot 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Hormones can affect sexual desire but not sexual attraction(sexuality) a lesbian isn't going to become strait by being on birth control. And as you have mentioned masturbation, many asexual do masturbate (but not all). If hormones=sexuality then all the gay men who were chemically castrated back when homosexuality was a crime would have magically been strait. We now know that isn't the case. Sexuality is who you are attracted to now how much sex you want.

Edit to add: It's not that the asexual spectrum isn't flexible. I myself am a demisexual; someone who need a strong emotional bond to feel sexual attraction. Demisexual is on the asexual spectrum or "under the asexual umbrella".

[–]jelliknight 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

there have been studies showing that straight womens sexual attraction does change as a result of hormonal birth control. Women on it are attracted to different men than while they're off it so hormones do play some role in sexuality.

[–]Wandering_Idiot 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

attracted to different men

Exactly different men. Hormones doesn't affect your sexuality.