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[–]72ndGender 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (7 children)

Doesn't sound thorough to me. If you didn't get T, FT, E2, FSH, LH, SHBG, DHEA-S, prolactin, progesterone and every thyroid measurement, then you didn't get a full panel. Meanwhile, the doctors will tell you the results are normal even when they are in a low or high range for your age and health status.

But you tipped your hand with your response. It's all I need to know that you aren't feeling well. Hormones are the first step, nuerochemicals are the second. Don't forfeit. Guys go through this all the time and doctors could care less about them. Even when there is a simple fix.

[–]Wandering_Idiot 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

The asexual spectrum isn't a just a pet theory of new age sex studies. Asexuality has been represented in history as early as the 1860's when there were referred to as monosexual or anesthesia sexual. People on the Asexual spectrum don't need fixing they aren't broken.

[–]72ndGender 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

I couldn't care less about people's sexuality, or lack thereof, but many people experience non-existent libido based on underlying medical conditions. That needs fixing. Not their sexuality. Ignoring underlying health conditions on the basis of acceptable is one of the most fucking retarded concepts I've ever heard of. Encouraging people towards that direction makes us the villain, not the hero.

[–]Wandering_Idiot 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Except that just like you don't randomly turn gay, you also don't randomly turn asexual. People who suffer from hormone issue generally start off fine and end up with a low libido, once again low libido. Now low sexuality. Sexual desireakalibido is not the same as sexuality.

[–]jelliknight 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

I can't understand what you mean can you please explain?

Hormonal birth control for example can cause lack of sexual desire and attraction. I would class sexual desire are the physical desire resulting in wanting to have sex or masturbate, while sexual attraction is a similar feeling specifically directed towards a particular person. I might feel sexual desire right now because I want that act right now, but I feel sexual attraction to that guy because he seems like I'd want to do that act with him as some point. A lack of desire and a lack of attraction are closely linked. If you disagree can you explain how?

Many hormonal issues can be chronic. It's possible to have them all your life, or to develop them over time, or suddenly. They can result in feeling a lack of sexual desire and therefore feeling no sexual attraction to anyone in particular.

It's possible that a person may simply have a naturally extremely low sex drive and be asexual (unable to experience sexual attraction). It's also possible that it's the result of a physiological condition which may be causing other physiological issues and needs to be investigated.

It seems to be really important to you that asexuality ISN'T fixable. Why?

[–]Wandering_Idiot 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Hormones can affect sexual desire but not sexual attraction(sexuality) a lesbian isn't going to become strait by being on birth control. And as you have mentioned masturbation, many asexual do masturbate (but not all). If hormones=sexuality then all the gay men who were chemically castrated back when homosexuality was a crime would have magically been strait. We now know that isn't the case. Sexuality is who you are attracted to now how much sex you want.

Edit to add: It's not that the asexual spectrum isn't flexible. I myself am a demisexual; someone who need a strong emotional bond to feel sexual attraction. Demisexual is on the asexual spectrum or "under the asexual umbrella".

[–]jelliknight 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

there have been studies showing that straight womens sexual attraction does change as a result of hormonal birth control. Women on it are attracted to different men than while they're off it so hormones do play some role in sexuality.

[–]Wandering_Idiot 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

attracted to different men

Exactly different men. Hormones doesn't affect your sexuality.