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[–][deleted] 23 insightful - 2 fun23 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

i have a friend who i haven't necessarily lost, but i avoid talking about politics with him because our friendship would be fucked if we did. he heavily supports trans rights and wants to be a girl. he recently told me he was "non-bianary" which is some of the dumbest bullshit i've ever heard of. i didn't say that to his face as that would be rude, but it's still idiotic.

he unironically thinks that trans people should be allowed to participate in sports of the gender they claim to be. we got into a relatively heated argument about it and like most people who are for it, he couldn't think of any valid counter points. it was just "but they said that they're a boy/girl!!" which obviously doesn't mean shit when you still have the physical strength of your original gender. i just dropped the topic and decided that he's not someone worth debating over stuff like that. we're still on good terms as we have a lot of similar interests and play games together, it just kinda sucks that he's been brainwashed by twitter users with cartoon characters in front of pride flags for profile pictures.

[–]liberty_primer 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I wouldn’t drop the topic, but I would depoliticize it. What Id be more concerned about is: do his reasons for wanting to be a woman make any sense? Would he actually be better off that way? Are his expectations realistic?

Him having wacky political views is nothing compared to him doing potentially irreversible things to himself on a bad premise.

To be clear, transition is probably the right choice for some people, but it’s so trendy these days that I just don’t trust that everyone who claims that identity has good reasons for it.

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you make good points. i haven't spoke to him in around a week (not related to any arguments, we just haven't found the time to talk) but next time we talk i should probably ask him the questions you have. i don't think his expectations are realistic, nor would he be better off that way. i think he expects to look exactly like a biological female and sound like one as well. he struggles with low self-esteem, so i think even if he went through the transition there wouldn't be much of a difference in mental health, as he would eventually realize most people don't transition smoothly. i want the best for him, but i also don't want to hurt him either.