Update on My 87-Year Old Father With Covid-19

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I don't have much time to reply more, sorry. I feel I've mostly said my piece.

"Yes, you were advocating killing old people, please own up to it. " We are going to have to agree to disagree on this one. I think giving the old person an option to live their life the way they want, even if it risks their own health, is humane.

I didn't mean about assisted suicide. (I think people need to stop hyping death up so much, it just makes it so confusing. WE ALL DIE. It's fine, it's normal, it's a beautiful part of life like any other. We should feel free to choose a good death.)

I meant about the part I quoted from your first post:

The majority of people dying are over 80, and I am guessing that my dad and his girlfriend aren’t the only old people who are ready to go. Was saving them worth destroying our economy over?

"[in Nevada] once old people get to a certain point of deterioration, they MUST be in a facility."

They can't be helped at home by qualified people? I guess I didn't realize that, though I ought to have been able to extrapolate it from the other content in your post.

And again, still, "Why is the post so heavily tied to covid"? What's the point of connecting this post about sovreignty in old age to covid, unless you're trying to make a post about covid too?

[–]coffee_addict[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I know, this has gotten time consuming. My son keeps asking why I keep taking school work breaks to type on the computer!

So for clarification on this: "The majority of people dying are over 80, and I am guessing that my dad and his girlfriend aren’t the only old people who are ready to go. Was saving them worth destroying our economy over?" I don't want to make it seem like I was advocating deliberately letting people in facilities get sick with coronavirus. I wish the government had thought things through better before putting regulations in place. In my mind, they could have thought through more make-sense solutions in order to keep the economy going. For example, the virus spreads most indoors, especially on public transit. I think the government should have immediately set up hand washing stations outside of buildings/public transit stops and required that everyone wash their hands before entering a public building/transit and wear a mask while inside. I feel like all retail stores should have been allowed to fill orders called in/ordered online and people could pick them up, much like take-away food,rather than shutting them down altogether. The excuse for crashing the economy and throwing millions of people into permanent poverty was to "save lives," But the lives they are saving is mostly of those who were going to die soon anyway. I guess what I am saying is it wasn't worth destroying the entire economy to save the lives of the elderly; that more make-sense solutions should have been implemented.

As for the rules of living in home: If my sister or I had the "right" kind of home (one story, modified for a handicapped person with wide doors, walk in shower with no step, etc) and we could afford to pay for 24 hour live-in care (which runs about $10,000 per month), NV would have let him live in our home. But neither of us had the right home or budget to allow for that. I am pretty sure CA has similar rules, too, but I can't speak for any other state.

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I feel bad for taking time away from your helping your kids. There literally isn't anything more important in the whole world and you can tell them the internet person said so too.

Thanks for the followup, it doesn't surprise me, and I do think it's into the territory of saying it's an acceptable solution to just let the elderly just die whether they want to or not, which, ... is not ok. Your alternative solution ideas are interesting, and I've been wishing we'd done a lot more stuff too (I wanted to try to get local philanthropists to provide hand sanitizer at public transit stations, but I didn't manage to make it happen). I believe there is still LOTS of room for private actors to make needed solutions happen.

The spin you put on your story notwithstanding, it is an interesting case to know about, so I'm grateful that you chose to share it. (Though honestly I do still remain skeptical that it's real.) I'm sorry if these comments have taken up too much of your time and attention, and I hope going forward it's easy enough for you to share stuff without it taking more of your time than you'd like.

[–]coffee_addict[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I am real. :)

My goal was never to change anyone's mind, it was just to start a conversation to get us all thinking more strategically about the bigger picture. And you and I are probably both thinking more strategically as a result of our intellectually stimulating conversation. I confess that my view is myopic because I am in the middle of it. It's great that we can agree to disagree on points and still talk about how to make the world a better place re: the things we agree on.

We do have something in common! We were both pushing for practical solutions for virus control and we both failed. I was trying to get hand washing stations set up around my community, like at the bus stops. They are only $100 each, so I figured we could GoFundMe and set up as many stations as we raised money for. I ran into several roadblocks and no one was willing to join forced to help me get them set up. Since homeschool takes up most of my time, I didn't have the time/energy to keep pushing for them.