Your idea of how people live doesn't tally with reality.

We agree for the most part. I don't see how this makes any sense to say.
In all, sure, having an abundance of resources doesn't make you immune to displaying those traits, but being competent enough to garner all of those resources is rarely accompanied by displaying said traits, as you've pointed out.

The argument was that levels of chastity don't appear to correlate with how masculine or effeminate men appear. I used an example of a man with abundant resources to display this exception.